Is anybody in the same boat? (Or was)

[Mafty]

Hello everyone who gets to read this. Hope you are doing well. Be as tough love as possible would enjoy some feedback. Thank you.

Overarching questions:
1. How did you balance family, school/college, and growing/starting your business when you were starting off?
I've read from a lot of late nights to working on stuff whenever they got the chance. However, this is something I want to pursue now and stop putting it off like I've been doing.
2. How do I make my family proud but also follow the journey I want at the same time?
I know that many hardcore entrepreneur "gurus" on YouTube make it out to something that they completely cut off from family to pursue their business endeavors but how did you guys do it in that sense?
3. Do you find it more productive to do the entrepreneurship journey alone or be a part of a community such as this one where you held yourself accountable?
It could have also been with friends. It's been since I've made any new ones and the ones I do have are more interested in college than starting a business.

My journey (kind of):
To give some background information I joined the Forum a couple of months ago now.

In the present, I am 18 years old and going on 19 soon, in my first year of college studying to be a mechanical engineer ( a dream that I'm starting to debate is mine or not ), and I live in a pretty chaotic household compared to most I would say. In the past, I was a video game, social media, and porn addict, like many teenagers nowadays. I am proud to say I am no longer a slave to those yet battle the temptations to go back into old habits every once and a while. Usually, when times get really stressful I find myself back into playing video games or mindlessly scrolling through social media. In the very near future, I want to start a social media marketing agency, start hobbies, start doing better in school, become more social, and gain discipline/self-reliance for myself. I don't want to be a burden for my parents, money-wise ( with college, food, and such ), and plan to get them out of white-collar labor and for them to enjoy their lives after all the sacrifices they have made for us.

I am not very excited to say I haven't made much progress over the months since I joined the forum. I've been on the "self-improvement grind" where I have to constantly make changes as I take on too much at the same time. Many times even been tricking myself into pursuing fake progress. Recently I started to read many other entrepreneurs' posts. It's given me inspiration as it has also opened my eyes to see that I am fed up with how my life is going. To be honest I've been doing so many wantrepreneur daydreaming that it's hard to believe I can do it sometimes. I get mad at myself for all the time I have wasted over years of just wanting instead of really working towards my dreams. My wish is that by getting more active and maybe even doing some monthly updates on my journey I will be able to actually make strides towards the dreams I am going to make a reality. But more to hold myself accountable. I've been on the " self-improvement grind" yet every time I look back I don't really feel like I've made much progress. I don't blame my family for my mess-ups but I feel like every time I'm in the household it's difficult to concentrate or complete tasks. ( These range from schoolwork to personal activities I want to complete ) Which also ties back to spreading myself too thin. I'm not sure how to set up boundaries properly. The next way I want to address this circumstance is by either staying up late or waking up extra early. However, for that, I need to work on my time management skills. mentally I'm never fully into something. I view myself as a very creative person which ends up with me spreading myself out too thin and focusing in all the wrong areas. It pairs great with the lack of time management skills. I never attack a problem head-on. I do this task and that task and never fully commit to one thing. Recently I "discovered" the Pomodoro method which I may keep posted on how that goes for me. Overall, it would be nice to see how people tackled these problems at the start of people's entrepreneurship journey. So far I haven't seen much on how to navigate the family circumstances. If anything needs to be elaborated on let me know.

 

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[pascal]

I think you should understand that entrepreneurship journey isn't easy so you have to be strong in order to continue your journey and then I think in time management all you need is to focus so that when you start activity make sure you stick on it untill it is finished.

 

[AlfaStream]

Personally I've started segmenting tasks based on
1. Urgency
2. Deadlines

For example I go to an online college on scholarship even though its considered bullshit, I could probably make plenty of money doing web design and making an agency out of it, but I WANT an MBA. Its self paced but I have 6 months to complete four classes which are honestly nothing more than reading a book, and taking a test.

I also took on the obligation of getting certified as a personal trainer and only had three months to do that.

Starting in September before starting college, I only had two weeks to incorporate some self-help books I wanted, so what I did was I prioritized what was most important to me based on timeline, to me I see mindset as the foundation on which to build a house. Without a solid mindset everything else would be in disarray, and the house would collapse.

Make a list of tasks that have to be completed, start with the smaller and quickest first, and snowball, or start with the inverse and just get the biggest out of the way, and the rest would seem like small fry. But ultimately dont make the same mistake I did, I DID fail, and I failed to incorporate some of what I wanted along the way, just focus on achieving your goal, and break tasks down into objectives, and assign them importance based in their impact, urgency, and importance.


The goal of entrepreneurship isn't easy, won't be easy. You'll fail, over, and over, and over again, just learn and keep going. Persistence, and calibration will get you what you want in the end.

 

[StrikingViper69]

1. There is no balance, there is only a schedule. Priotise based on your values.
2. You can't control what makes other people proud.
3. A community of some sort helps, because you can ask questions

 

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[Mafty]

I think you should understand that entrepreneurship journey isn't easy so you have to be strong in order to continue your journey and then I think in time management all you need is to focus so that when you start activity make sure you stick on it untill it is finished.

Thank you very much for your feedback. Your right. I am going to work on shifting my mindset into it being a lifelong marathon instead of a race. There are many times when I get comfortable in thinking what I've done is over with but it's a persistent battle. Thank you!

 

[Mafty]

1. There is no balance, there is only a schedule. Priotise based on your values.
2. You can't control what makes other people proud.
3. A community of some sort helps, because you can ask questions

I see where you coming from. I have to just get focused when it comes down to it. You're also right about the balance, life throws too many curveballs to be doing the same thing over and over again. And to make my family proud I guess I just need to sit down with them and have a talk. Let them know what I want to do.

 

[Mafty]

Personally I've started segmenting tasks based on
1. Urgency
2. Deadlines

For example I go to an online college on scholarship even though its considered bullshit, I could probably make plenty of money doing web design and making an agency out of it, but I WANT an MBA. Its self paced but I have 6 months to complete four classes which are honestly nothing more than reading a book, and taking a test.

I also took on the obligation of getting certified as a personal trainer and only had three months to do that.

Starting in September before starting college, I only had two weeks to incorporate some self-help books I wanted, so what I did was I prioritized what was most important to me based on timeline, to me I see mindset as the foundation on which to build a house. Without a solid mindset everything else would be in disarray, and the house would collapse.

Make a list of tasks that have to be completed, start with the smaller and quickest first, and snowball, or start with the inverse and just get the biggest out of the way, and the rest would seem like small fry. But ultimately dont make the same mistake I did, I DID fail, and I failed to incorporate some of what I wanted along the way, just focus on achieving your goal, and break tasks down into objectives, and assign them importance based in their impact, urgency, and importance.


The goal of entrepreneurship isn't easy, won't be easy. You'll fail, over, and over, and over again, just learn and keep going. Persistence, and calibration will get you what you want in the end.

Thank you for your feedback. It's nice to know people are on the same journey as me. I'm going to change my mindset on how I go about completing tasks. Instead of being hurdles. I should also take the time to smell the roses and work on enjoying and refining the strategies. I'll incorporate yours as well. Thank you once again.

 

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