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A person on the forum approached me recently and ask me "How can you change your value on this forum".
For reasons that are my own, I decide to leave this person anonymous and post my response as its own thread. I promised this person I would answer 3 questions, so here is the first.
If you are worried about changing your value on this forum you are focused on the WRONG things. You are seeking the approval of others.
Now in business, whether people admit it or not, we do seek the approval of others for our products, our services, even on some level ourselves.
So I am not the type to tell you "It doesn't matter what people think." The market speaks. You should learn to listen. The importance of reputation is discussed over here.
But gaining our, the forum's, approval isn't and should not be your goal. Forum approval is simply a signal that you might be on the right path.
I stress MIGHT.
There are people with forum approval who aren't building businesses yet. Really capable people too. There are people with forum approval who have failed at businesses. Really capable people.
Forum approval guarantees you literally nothing. This forum score next to my name doesn't actually mean anything. (At least until I pass @Antifragile and then it will become a super important metric. Haha.)
Jokes aside, stop worrying about forum approval and start worrying about yourself. Your goals. Start working towards your goals. Imagine the kind of man or woman you need to become in order fulfill those goals.
AND THEN BECOME THAT PERSON.
Ok, since that probably isn't the answer you wanted I'll acquiesce to the spirit of the question and highlight a concrete example of someone who has begun to change their value to the forum.
As recently as a few weeks ago @Kak labelled @Droopynips something like the worst poster in the history of the forum (not an exact quote, these are my words, but his sentiment.) This sentiment was earned given the behaviour in this thread.
But now in this thread forum members are jumping in to help him. People are follwing his YT channel. They are speading his video. People are starting a campaign to get him on the Kyle Keegan radio show
How did this happen?
I'll break it down.
1. When Droops was getting dragged, the forum actually came up with a new scoring system for posters. I mean, that is one way to have an impact, right? Don't be that guy.
2. But after a little bit of whining, Droops actually adjusted his approach on the forum. His first share of how he overcame alcoholism definitely got some people's attention, both because it was a powerful authentic share and because his entire writing style changed. He used punctuation and capitalization and intelligent word choice. People noticed.
3. On some threads he still cracks jokes and some of his posts miss the mark, but you can tell he is at least trying to provide value and thoughtful ideas. Or jokes. Whereas before everything he did felt like a troll, now it feels awkward at times but at least it is authentic. (Or maybe @Johnny boy is right and he is fooling us all/most).
4. And this I believe is where something changed.
He said he was going to do something hard and assuming that is him in the video, he did it. This video shows follow through, grit, and determination.
Droops displayed excellence.
So to the question asker I will ask this:
What are you excellent at? What do you want to be excellent at? What steps do you need to take to become excellent at those things? Even showing the process towards excellence can provide value to the people on the forum.
The sooner you start asking and answering questions like this for yourself, the sooner your life will begin to look the way you want it to look.
And then you can share the lessons of your life with the forum and the forum will take notice.
Hope that helps you.
For reasons that are my own, I decide to leave this person anonymous and post my response as its own thread. I promised this person I would answer 3 questions, so here is the first.
If you are worried about changing your value on this forum you are focused on the WRONG things. You are seeking the approval of others.
Now in business, whether people admit it or not, we do seek the approval of others for our products, our services, even on some level ourselves.
So I am not the type to tell you "It doesn't matter what people think." The market speaks. You should learn to listen. The importance of reputation is discussed over here.
But gaining our, the forum's, approval isn't and should not be your goal. Forum approval is simply a signal that you might be on the right path.
I stress MIGHT.
There are people with forum approval who aren't building businesses yet. Really capable people too. There are people with forum approval who have failed at businesses. Really capable people.
Forum approval guarantees you literally nothing. This forum score next to my name doesn't actually mean anything. (At least until I pass @Antifragile and then it will become a super important metric. Haha.)
Jokes aside, stop worrying about forum approval and start worrying about yourself. Your goals. Start working towards your goals. Imagine the kind of man or woman you need to become in order fulfill those goals.
AND THEN BECOME THAT PERSON.
Ok, since that probably isn't the answer you wanted I'll acquiesce to the spirit of the question and highlight a concrete example of someone who has begun to change their value to the forum.
As recently as a few weeks ago @Kak labelled @Droopynips something like the worst poster in the history of the forum (not an exact quote, these are my words, but his sentiment.) This sentiment was earned given the behaviour in this thread.
But now in this thread forum members are jumping in to help him. People are follwing his YT channel. They are speading his video. People are starting a campaign to get him on the Kyle Keegan radio show
How did this happen?
I'll break it down.
1. When Droops was getting dragged, the forum actually came up with a new scoring system for posters. I mean, that is one way to have an impact, right? Don't be that guy.
2. But after a little bit of whining, Droops actually adjusted his approach on the forum. His first share of how he overcame alcoholism definitely got some people's attention, both because it was a powerful authentic share and because his entire writing style changed. He used punctuation and capitalization and intelligent word choice. People noticed.
3. On some threads he still cracks jokes and some of his posts miss the mark, but you can tell he is at least trying to provide value and thoughtful ideas. Or jokes. Whereas before everything he did felt like a troll, now it feels awkward at times but at least it is authentic. (Or maybe @Johnny boy is right and he is fooling us all/most).
4. And this I believe is where something changed.
He said he was going to do something hard and assuming that is him in the video, he did it. This video shows follow through, grit, and determination.
Droops displayed excellence.
So to the question asker I will ask this:
What are you excellent at? What do you want to be excellent at? What steps do you need to take to become excellent at those things? Even showing the process towards excellence can provide value to the people on the forum.
The sooner you start asking and answering questions like this for yourself, the sooner your life will begin to look the way you want it to look.
And then you can share the lessons of your life with the forum and the forum will take notice.
Hope that helps you.
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