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I thought this was an interesting article from MJ. But there's a reason I quoted it.
theFastlaneToMillions.com » Blog Archive » Is Your Selfishness Sabotaging Your Opportunities?
I wanted to link the above since there are so many interesting things to take from it. I recently had an encounter with the selfish monster of selfishness disregarding selflessness.
I enjoy sharing my experiences for others. Granted this means I'm sharing part of who I am and personally sharing things, it also means that if there is someone out there who has had problems that perhaps somewhere out there I can help someone. Which is what this comes down you.
A long while back things were doing great. I was doing my own thing and was on my way. I fell into a rut somehow, and was having a hell of a time getting out.
I have this thing I do. I ask myself a question and keep answering my own questions as to "Why?" until I have a core root situation that has caused something. This helps me break down a reason something happened.
I did some research a while back about emotional responses. For those of us who are used to the business world at least to some degree the way we respond is often in a pleasing and professional manner. There are times, however, when we react in an emotional way, this can push buttons and result in a reaction that you didn't want, your customer didn't want, or you didn't want personally.
I found the issue was my ego getting in the way, selfishness, and among all else, bitterness towards others.
For those who know me personally, you'd know that a while back I was working on business ideas and working on launching to go self employed. I got a business opportunity in management that showed great potential and I took it. Ultimately because I'm a technical nerd, and a fresh newbie manager, I was stepped out of that role, forcing me back to where I was. During the time I was in management I found myself NOT having enough time to continue my operation of going self employed, it engulfed me and my time and my life. The way I was trained was teaching me things that were good, but also was feeding an evil ego within me that was causing me to be selfish and overwhelmingly inefficient. Both my business opportunities went down hill stride and the position did as well, everything was spiraling at the same time.
When I was finally brought out of that role it was a devastating blow to my ego and self esteem. I figured "What could I have POSSIBLY done wrong. ME?" when I took a step back I realized, that's an attitude all about myself. I thought nothing about what am I NOT doing, but rather, what am I doing WRONG? As if I could do none. It took me forever to pop my little ego balloon and reflect on myself.
But how was it affecting me as a person?
When I was surrounded by the environment that I had participated in and created a positive feel in away from my original job and worked at creating and getting myself on my way.... I was humble, happy, felt successful and that nothing could stop me from being happy and that I really had something on it's way to being figured out. I was surrounded by positive results, and the only person that governed that was me and my attitude and that I chose to be positive. I was humble with my being and worked with all my clients very positively and never once had a bad experience.
When I was surrounded by the environment of the corporate world and participated in it I felt cut-throat, bitter, remorseless, shameless, ready-to-throw-you-under-the-bus and ready to take on anything. But the problem was, when I failed there, I felt as if someone cut my nuts off and put them in a dumpster. That was not the mindset I was taught. That was not who I was. But I PUT myself there, and the result bit me in the a$$ and dropped me like Hulk Hogan vs a small computer nerd.
I started asking myself those questions. Why do I feel like that? What has this done to me? Where have I gone? Did I make progress? Why? How?
Things started to come into perspective. I remembered MJ's article about selfishness sabotaging my road to the fast lane. I was going on the wrong road!
The answer to my question was... how did I get here? I was doing websites, business, and helping out locals. When i did this, it felt astonishing as it was on my own terms and doing my own thing and I felt ACCOMPLISHED and APPRECIATED and as if I had done something that had a BENEFIT FOR OTHERS. I was providing something for others that no one else was providing those clients, I FELT GREAT!
The answer to that was why did I choose another path? It seemed like a shortcut, easy money and perhaps an opportunity for more opportunity. Things felt stale, boring, unchallenging. I figured this would challenge me and provide me with extra funds to get going. In the end, all I did was lose a place and get back to square one. It ate up my time, took me away from my family, hardly paid more, stressed me out to no end and I was absolutely disgusted, bitter and unsatisfied in life.
But I learned a very valuable lesson, I also got hindsight, and an experience that I got to speak about and learn from that taught me that where I was initially heading was the right direction.
It was easy to get reeled in. But the difference is that when I was doing things MY way I was happy, things went well, I was on a start and things started to make sense. I was fulfilling a PURPOSE. I was fulfilling something that made me feel good. When someone called me and said "Hey, I love your work, can you help me again? You do things the way I want them and need them done!" I felt valued, and felt like what I was doing made them feel valued and that I was doing the right thing.
When I took my position and went the opposite way I was fulfilling a ROLE, a description, a set rule and I was limited, held back, constrained. I was essentially taught to do things, crack the whip and not really be who I am. It turned me into a person I did not like.
I have had to take a step back and become my former self and step out of my former shell and revisit.
I started with revisiting these articles a while back and look at it from a top level perspective. Everything that happened was a product of my own actions. My own choices. When I realized this, I was mad at myself. Or more or less, I was disappointed in myself. But I was not taking no for an answer.
I started working on my own projects again, and while my customers are mostly away for now, on vacation, it gave me time to get back into the groove. My friend who got his business venture started moved back into town and we got working on things again. It was like old times. Things are slowly smoothing out and I am going to revisit a different business opportunity where I work now that is more technical and gives me more time and ventures down the path that will help me succeed in where I want to go with things since it gives me more path and stability, and less stress.
I also started working on myself, and my attitude. Starting with that was my attitude towards people. I never treated a client bad, but in general, away from things, out in the open I had become grumpy and negative and bitter. I started to reform and turn this by much how MJ's article passed on that good karma.... by making myself feel positive, and throwing positive spin into the surrounding. I started thinking "When is the last time I thanked someone?" or "WHen is the last time someone thanked me?" I started with simple little things, appreciation, offers of assistance, acts of selflessness, and before I knew it I was starting to see things from that perspective again - people aren't so bad, there's always someone and something positive out there, it's not worth BEING pessimistic because things are always outweighed by positive results instead of hoping and waiting for them. I wasn't a bad person, but I was becoming one, and the only way to turn that is to reflect on myself and make consciously GOOD choices.
More importantly... Last night made me want to write this because I had the most interesting reflection on my old self and my dark angry self that still musters from time to time.
This next part of my post and story has NOTHING TO DO with business. It has NOTHING TO DO with making money. But it has EVERYTHING TO DO with how we make choices.... this is why I wanted to share this. Because deeply involved with our day to day interactions is our ability to affect ourselves, how we feel, how we approach, and even how we can affect others and how they perceive us. And THAT can affect the choices we make personally, professionally and overall in life. And CHOICES govern much of what happens in life.
Therefore... I'm sharing.
You see... I have a neighbor who has this horrific habit of throwing parties and being loud. Most the time I say nothing, and we had never talked before. But my angry self would bite someone's head off in a disrespectful, angry, fluted manner that no one would really want to be around.
I get home last night very late, right off the bat is bass booming and I can hear it over my living room speakers. I was already in a negative mood and wanted to come home and do something positive. This wasn't helping. My bitter side was coming through, I was steaming with thoughts of cussing the guy out, making a scene and giving him a piece of my mind.
I calmed down for a few minutes and thought about it. "I'm trying to be positive. I NEED to be positive, I am working so hard to be positive, what can I do in this situation. What would my OLD self do. My humble self. My pleasant self, the one that people enjoyed?"
I rememered MJ's article. Then my questions kicked in within my mind...
Why am I so angry? I had a bad day.
Why am I having a bad day? Because of these personal things.
Why am I thinking of taking it out on him? Because I'm disappointed and frustrated and I want to take it out on something.
Is this going to benefit me if I do? Hell no.
Does HE know I'm having a bad day? Nope.
Could there be a way to still have him turn it down and somehow make this a good situation? Possibly.....
I got to thinking.
First. I did nothing. It was 9:30. I went and made a cup of coffee, and I reflected and thought about what I was going to say. He normally blasts his music till about 12am. I thought "What is the best way to approach this that I can develop a good feeling, not make negativity or confrontation and make this a positive experience for me and my neighbor that he will remember me by and respect me for...."
Can you think of one? What would you do? Would you tell him to turn it down? Would you tell him to shut up? Would you make a scene? Maybe you'd just call the cops anonymously. Who knows. Ask yourself what YOU would do first. Then continue to read.... Here's some positive foreshadow to think about while you think about that.
I have as of late practiced positive reinforcement with people. Just every day people I interact with. Why? Because people deserve to be recognized when shit gets done and when things go right and when they are respectful. It makes you feel good... Right?
An old highscool classmate recently helped me find a VERY hard to find part for one of my Porsches, he searched his a$$ off for me and found it. I came in person and said "I'm pissed off!" and he said "Why?" I said "You made my Porsche run like it should, something is wrong with it... IT RUNS RIGHT! THANK YOU!" and he laughed and I could tell he felt appreciated. His customers are usually angry and pissed off. I went home and on my way I got boxes of donuts, cinnamon rolls and goodies for them, came back to his place of business and told everyone thank you for everything they had done for me (they helped me with a lot more than JUST that one part in the past) and I decided I would try and make everyone's day just a little better. Even if they thought it was stupid, silly, or off the wall random I didn't care, I did something nice for them.
I thought about that and thought "How could you make someone feel good for turning this crap off?"
10:00pm rolls around. Music is blaring, I'm still thinking about it. Suddenly, it stops. The moment I'm waiting for.
I talk to my wife and say "I'm going over there."
So I do. After they take a small break between songs they went inside. I took the opportunity to walk right on over with a house full of people (all of which I didn't know, and were drinking.... I'm about 140lbs of negative muscle mass mind you...) and soon as I hit the doorbell I heard someone go "Uh oh!" - you knew that they understood they made noise. So rather than ranting I opened the conversation with this....
"Hey guys, I Live across the street. I just wanted to come by and say how much I really appreciate your level of respect enough to keep it down after 10, that means the world to me. I know you are having fun and partying, I'm no there to crash it, that's totally cool. But neighbor to neighbor I just wanted to say THANK YOU for respecting that common courtesy."
At first I just got stared at, I think they were sort of surprised. Someone piped up and said "Thanks for acknowledging that, that's nice of you!" and I got a lot of thank yous and someone even said "I wish my neighbor was cool enough to say that shit, everyone always just yells and gets pissed off at me!" and then got "HEY you're that biker dude across the street with all the motorcycles!" and they just talked to me for a few. I had never met them before in person and talked to them. They were all nice people, just talked to me and thanked me for stopping by and "acknowledging" that they turned it off after 10. What I had hoped is that in doing this and building this rapport with my neighbor that he would acknowledge that tiny bit of respect I tried to build and that it would remain quiet afterwards.
For the rest of the night they partied hardy. I remembered thinking "Well if beer takes over they may ignore me entirely and turn the bass back on." but for the rest of the night, music was on, they had fun, but there was no booming bass.
The next time I see him and his wife I will thank them again and probably invite them over for a BBQ, they aren't rude people at all... just a bunch of people having fun and throwing a party.
What is the likelihood that the next time they do it that they'll turn it off at 10? I have no idea. But I can assume that they'll remember our brief interaction and hopefully respect it since I respected them and acknowledged their common courtesy. I cannot say for certain, but the experience left me with a good taste in my mouth, and they seemed genuinely pleased that I was nice enough to say thank you and recognize theirs.
Now, what would the result be between my neighbor and I had I been a jerk, yelled, made a scene or tried to tell him what to do? I can bet it would have gone much differently.
Again, what's the morale of the story? We can CHOOSE to be bitter and take that path that disregards everyone else, but then it becomes about US. The results push others aside for our own results. But if we want positive results we need to take on a path that changes how we interact in a positive manner, even when it comes down to ourselves, the ones we love, our daily lives and people we don't even know or customers.
We cannot put our self worth relying on others, that would be a bad idea, but who we are and our respect for ourselves and others comes out in our actions and choices. That in itself reflects on us and others see it.
I chose to be selfish, I chose to be greedy, and it got the better of me. I recovered, I planned, I took a step back and realized it and then I started correcting my behaviors and my actions and started the path from square one after realizing the cause and effect it had on me. I'm not back on track and feel absolutely great. But it was because I chose to put my bitter side.... aside... and realize things ARE positive. If I choose to MAKE positive choices and continue down that path. Last night steaming words were all I could muster in my mind, but I CHOSE to take a different approach, one that the prior self would have taken and it yielded positive results. But only because I chose to put myself out there and try it.
Lately... choices like this one, in the work world, with friends, with family, and with people I am potentially doing business with have really changed the way I see and approach things. Mostly because I had that negative being to myself that plagued me for a long time, and now I know to avoid it LIKE the plague. I am taking those positive movements and running with them.
Am I saying that we should believe that the world is full of fluffy pink bunnies and rainbows and clouds made of cotton candy? F*** no. But I am saying that our attitude is a choice, much of it, and it can compromise who we are slowly but surely and before you know it overwhelm us into something we are not.
So has a selfish attitude sabotaged YOU in a manner? Have YOUR choices caused you to change who you are for a selfish outlook on things? How are you aligned and how are your goals aligned, how are you trying to achieve them, and most importantly...
Has it compromised who you are?
Anyway...:smxF: my thought of the day, take it or leave it. Don't care, just wanted to share.
I thought this was an interesting article from MJ. But there's a reason I quoted it.
theFastlaneToMillions.com » Blog Archive » Is Your Selfishness Sabotaging Your Opportunities?
I wanted to link the above since there are so many interesting things to take from it. I recently had an encounter with the selfish monster of selfishness disregarding selflessness.
I enjoy sharing my experiences for others. Granted this means I'm sharing part of who I am and personally sharing things, it also means that if there is someone out there who has had problems that perhaps somewhere out there I can help someone. Which is what this comes down you.
A long while back things were doing great. I was doing my own thing and was on my way. I fell into a rut somehow, and was having a hell of a time getting out.
I have this thing I do. I ask myself a question and keep answering my own questions as to "Why?" until I have a core root situation that has caused something. This helps me break down a reason something happened.
I did some research a while back about emotional responses. For those of us who are used to the business world at least to some degree the way we respond is often in a pleasing and professional manner. There are times, however, when we react in an emotional way, this can push buttons and result in a reaction that you didn't want, your customer didn't want, or you didn't want personally.
I found the issue was my ego getting in the way, selfishness, and among all else, bitterness towards others.
For those who know me personally, you'd know that a while back I was working on business ideas and working on launching to go self employed. I got a business opportunity in management that showed great potential and I took it. Ultimately because I'm a technical nerd, and a fresh newbie manager, I was stepped out of that role, forcing me back to where I was. During the time I was in management I found myself NOT having enough time to continue my operation of going self employed, it engulfed me and my time and my life. The way I was trained was teaching me things that were good, but also was feeding an evil ego within me that was causing me to be selfish and overwhelmingly inefficient. Both my business opportunities went down hill stride and the position did as well, everything was spiraling at the same time.
When I was finally brought out of that role it was a devastating blow to my ego and self esteem. I figured "What could I have POSSIBLY done wrong. ME?" when I took a step back I realized, that's an attitude all about myself. I thought nothing about what am I NOT doing, but rather, what am I doing WRONG? As if I could do none. It took me forever to pop my little ego balloon and reflect on myself.
But how was it affecting me as a person?
When I was surrounded by the environment that I had participated in and created a positive feel in away from my original job and worked at creating and getting myself on my way.... I was humble, happy, felt successful and that nothing could stop me from being happy and that I really had something on it's way to being figured out. I was surrounded by positive results, and the only person that governed that was me and my attitude and that I chose to be positive. I was humble with my being and worked with all my clients very positively and never once had a bad experience.
When I was surrounded by the environment of the corporate world and participated in it I felt cut-throat, bitter, remorseless, shameless, ready-to-throw-you-under-the-bus and ready to take on anything. But the problem was, when I failed there, I felt as if someone cut my nuts off and put them in a dumpster. That was not the mindset I was taught. That was not who I was. But I PUT myself there, and the result bit me in the a$$ and dropped me like Hulk Hogan vs a small computer nerd.
I started asking myself those questions. Why do I feel like that? What has this done to me? Where have I gone? Did I make progress? Why? How?
Things started to come into perspective. I remembered MJ's article about selfishness sabotaging my road to the fast lane. I was going on the wrong road!
The answer to my question was... how did I get here? I was doing websites, business, and helping out locals. When i did this, it felt astonishing as it was on my own terms and doing my own thing and I felt ACCOMPLISHED and APPRECIATED and as if I had done something that had a BENEFIT FOR OTHERS. I was providing something for others that no one else was providing those clients, I FELT GREAT!
The answer to that was why did I choose another path? It seemed like a shortcut, easy money and perhaps an opportunity for more opportunity. Things felt stale, boring, unchallenging. I figured this would challenge me and provide me with extra funds to get going. In the end, all I did was lose a place and get back to square one. It ate up my time, took me away from my family, hardly paid more, stressed me out to no end and I was absolutely disgusted, bitter and unsatisfied in life.
But I learned a very valuable lesson, I also got hindsight, and an experience that I got to speak about and learn from that taught me that where I was initially heading was the right direction.
It was easy to get reeled in. But the difference is that when I was doing things MY way I was happy, things went well, I was on a start and things started to make sense. I was fulfilling a PURPOSE. I was fulfilling something that made me feel good. When someone called me and said "Hey, I love your work, can you help me again? You do things the way I want them and need them done!" I felt valued, and felt like what I was doing made them feel valued and that I was doing the right thing.
When I took my position and went the opposite way I was fulfilling a ROLE, a description, a set rule and I was limited, held back, constrained. I was essentially taught to do things, crack the whip and not really be who I am. It turned me into a person I did not like.
I have had to take a step back and become my former self and step out of my former shell and revisit.
I started with revisiting these articles a while back and look at it from a top level perspective. Everything that happened was a product of my own actions. My own choices. When I realized this, I was mad at myself. Or more or less, I was disappointed in myself. But I was not taking no for an answer.
I started working on my own projects again, and while my customers are mostly away for now, on vacation, it gave me time to get back into the groove. My friend who got his business venture started moved back into town and we got working on things again. It was like old times. Things are slowly smoothing out and I am going to revisit a different business opportunity where I work now that is more technical and gives me more time and ventures down the path that will help me succeed in where I want to go with things since it gives me more path and stability, and less stress.
I also started working on myself, and my attitude. Starting with that was my attitude towards people. I never treated a client bad, but in general, away from things, out in the open I had become grumpy and negative and bitter. I started to reform and turn this by much how MJ's article passed on that good karma.... by making myself feel positive, and throwing positive spin into the surrounding. I started thinking "When is the last time I thanked someone?" or "WHen is the last time someone thanked me?" I started with simple little things, appreciation, offers of assistance, acts of selflessness, and before I knew it I was starting to see things from that perspective again - people aren't so bad, there's always someone and something positive out there, it's not worth BEING pessimistic because things are always outweighed by positive results instead of hoping and waiting for them. I wasn't a bad person, but I was becoming one, and the only way to turn that is to reflect on myself and make consciously GOOD choices.
More importantly... Last night made me want to write this because I had the most interesting reflection on my old self and my dark angry self that still musters from time to time.
This next part of my post and story has NOTHING TO DO with business. It has NOTHING TO DO with making money. But it has EVERYTHING TO DO with how we make choices.... this is why I wanted to share this. Because deeply involved with our day to day interactions is our ability to affect ourselves, how we feel, how we approach, and even how we can affect others and how they perceive us. And THAT can affect the choices we make personally, professionally and overall in life. And CHOICES govern much of what happens in life.
Therefore... I'm sharing.
You see... I have a neighbor who has this horrific habit of throwing parties and being loud. Most the time I say nothing, and we had never talked before. But my angry self would bite someone's head off in a disrespectful, angry, fluted manner that no one would really want to be around.
I get home last night very late, right off the bat is bass booming and I can hear it over my living room speakers. I was already in a negative mood and wanted to come home and do something positive. This wasn't helping. My bitter side was coming through, I was steaming with thoughts of cussing the guy out, making a scene and giving him a piece of my mind.
I calmed down for a few minutes and thought about it. "I'm trying to be positive. I NEED to be positive, I am working so hard to be positive, what can I do in this situation. What would my OLD self do. My humble self. My pleasant self, the one that people enjoyed?"
I rememered MJ's article. Then my questions kicked in within my mind...
Why am I so angry? I had a bad day.
Why am I having a bad day? Because of these personal things.
Why am I thinking of taking it out on him? Because I'm disappointed and frustrated and I want to take it out on something.
Is this going to benefit me if I do? Hell no.
Does HE know I'm having a bad day? Nope.
Could there be a way to still have him turn it down and somehow make this a good situation? Possibly.....
I got to thinking.
First. I did nothing. It was 9:30. I went and made a cup of coffee, and I reflected and thought about what I was going to say. He normally blasts his music till about 12am. I thought "What is the best way to approach this that I can develop a good feeling, not make negativity or confrontation and make this a positive experience for me and my neighbor that he will remember me by and respect me for...."
Can you think of one? What would you do? Would you tell him to turn it down? Would you tell him to shut up? Would you make a scene? Maybe you'd just call the cops anonymously. Who knows. Ask yourself what YOU would do first. Then continue to read.... Here's some positive foreshadow to think about while you think about that.
I have as of late practiced positive reinforcement with people. Just every day people I interact with. Why? Because people deserve to be recognized when shit gets done and when things go right and when they are respectful. It makes you feel good... Right?
An old highscool classmate recently helped me find a VERY hard to find part for one of my Porsches, he searched his a$$ off for me and found it. I came in person and said "I'm pissed off!" and he said "Why?" I said "You made my Porsche run like it should, something is wrong with it... IT RUNS RIGHT! THANK YOU!" and he laughed and I could tell he felt appreciated. His customers are usually angry and pissed off. I went home and on my way I got boxes of donuts, cinnamon rolls and goodies for them, came back to his place of business and told everyone thank you for everything they had done for me (they helped me with a lot more than JUST that one part in the past) and I decided I would try and make everyone's day just a little better. Even if they thought it was stupid, silly, or off the wall random I didn't care, I did something nice for them.
I thought about that and thought "How could you make someone feel good for turning this crap off?"
10:00pm rolls around. Music is blaring, I'm still thinking about it. Suddenly, it stops. The moment I'm waiting for.
I talk to my wife and say "I'm going over there."
So I do. After they take a small break between songs they went inside. I took the opportunity to walk right on over with a house full of people (all of which I didn't know, and were drinking.... I'm about 140lbs of negative muscle mass mind you...) and soon as I hit the doorbell I heard someone go "Uh oh!" - you knew that they understood they made noise. So rather than ranting I opened the conversation with this....
"Hey guys, I Live across the street. I just wanted to come by and say how much I really appreciate your level of respect enough to keep it down after 10, that means the world to me. I know you are having fun and partying, I'm no there to crash it, that's totally cool. But neighbor to neighbor I just wanted to say THANK YOU for respecting that common courtesy."
At first I just got stared at, I think they were sort of surprised. Someone piped up and said "Thanks for acknowledging that, that's nice of you!" and I got a lot of thank yous and someone even said "I wish my neighbor was cool enough to say that shit, everyone always just yells and gets pissed off at me!" and then got "HEY you're that biker dude across the street with all the motorcycles!" and they just talked to me for a few. I had never met them before in person and talked to them. They were all nice people, just talked to me and thanked me for stopping by and "acknowledging" that they turned it off after 10. What I had hoped is that in doing this and building this rapport with my neighbor that he would acknowledge that tiny bit of respect I tried to build and that it would remain quiet afterwards.
For the rest of the night they partied hardy. I remembered thinking "Well if beer takes over they may ignore me entirely and turn the bass back on." but for the rest of the night, music was on, they had fun, but there was no booming bass.
The next time I see him and his wife I will thank them again and probably invite them over for a BBQ, they aren't rude people at all... just a bunch of people having fun and throwing a party.
What is the likelihood that the next time they do it that they'll turn it off at 10? I have no idea. But I can assume that they'll remember our brief interaction and hopefully respect it since I respected them and acknowledged their common courtesy. I cannot say for certain, but the experience left me with a good taste in my mouth, and they seemed genuinely pleased that I was nice enough to say thank you and recognize theirs.
Now, what would the result be between my neighbor and I had I been a jerk, yelled, made a scene or tried to tell him what to do? I can bet it would have gone much differently.
Again, what's the morale of the story? We can CHOOSE to be bitter and take that path that disregards everyone else, but then it becomes about US. The results push others aside for our own results. But if we want positive results we need to take on a path that changes how we interact in a positive manner, even when it comes down to ourselves, the ones we love, our daily lives and people we don't even know or customers.
We cannot put our self worth relying on others, that would be a bad idea, but who we are and our respect for ourselves and others comes out in our actions and choices. That in itself reflects on us and others see it.
I chose to be selfish, I chose to be greedy, and it got the better of me. I recovered, I planned, I took a step back and realized it and then I started correcting my behaviors and my actions and started the path from square one after realizing the cause and effect it had on me. I'm not back on track and feel absolutely great. But it was because I chose to put my bitter side.... aside... and realize things ARE positive. If I choose to MAKE positive choices and continue down that path. Last night steaming words were all I could muster in my mind, but I CHOSE to take a different approach, one that the prior self would have taken and it yielded positive results. But only because I chose to put myself out there and try it.
Lately... choices like this one, in the work world, with friends, with family, and with people I am potentially doing business with have really changed the way I see and approach things. Mostly because I had that negative being to myself that plagued me for a long time, and now I know to avoid it LIKE the plague. I am taking those positive movements and running with them.
Am I saying that we should believe that the world is full of fluffy pink bunnies and rainbows and clouds made of cotton candy? F*** no. But I am saying that our attitude is a choice, much of it, and it can compromise who we are slowly but surely and before you know it overwhelm us into something we are not.
So has a selfish attitude sabotaged YOU in a manner? Have YOUR choices caused you to change who you are for a selfish outlook on things? How are you aligned and how are your goals aligned, how are you trying to achieve them, and most importantly...
Has it compromised who you are?
Anyway...:smxF: my thought of the day, take it or leave it. Don't care, just wanted to share.
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With more than 39,000 posts packed with insights, strategies, and advice, you’re not just a member—you’re stepping into MJ’s inner-circle, a place where you’ll never be left alone.
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- Active Community: Ever join a community only to find it DEAD? Not at Fastlane! As you can see from our home page, life-changing content is posted dozens of times daily.
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