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    I've had plenty of FTM's over the past 2 years.

    Many being from jobs and past relationships but none of them seemed to last much longer than a few days or weeks at best.

    Then finally a FTE happened at 20 years old, a few months ago actually. While I was working as a valet driver ironically enough and our manager had just ran off with a week and a halfs worth of pay, about $350 for me. Then one of the workers who was supposedly a friend of mine took over and took all of the hours and started treating us like pieces of shit all while giving himself a pay raise. Nothing pissed me off so bad than to be literally taken advantage of by someone I was just on the same level as.

    So I did what anyone who was wired the same as us would do. I tried to start my own fucking Valet company with one of the workers who is a good buddy of mine, pitched my idea to the local barbershop and was able to get started made $70 bucks the first day but that ultimately failed relatively quickly. My buddy went back to work for the Valet spot but I said no way in hell I am going back there so I am currently on my 6th attempt on my Entrepreneur journey with 5 failures on my belt. The difference is that I don't have a choice, my FTE put me in a do or die situation, I've been working hard daily and just keep "turning the gumball machine" until my gold one comes out. Since my event I stopped dabbling, I stopped taking daily/weekly breaks from business, I've gone all in.
     
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    Thanks to everyone for sharing. Some of your FTE's are pretty intense.

    Mine happened 2/22/17. I had melted steel fall inside my ear. 3 surgeries and almost 3 months later and cleared to return back to work. Permanent hearing loss but the surgeon did his best to make me look normal again. (My left ear is a little bit skewed now)

    And the funny thing is just this morning my wife and I argued. She said that I have become obsessed with starting my own company and I should spend time with the family instead of reading while everyone is watching TV. (Her words made me realize that it truly was an event and not just a moment)

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    That's a pretty bad thing to experience but it sounds like your head is where it needs to be now. Sometimes a little obsession is what's needed.
     
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    F-ing Mercy. I live in St. Louis and could share some Mercy stories that would make your blood boil. Bunch of crooked assholes wrapped in a cloak of psuedo Christianity.
     
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    1) Working as a drug rep I celebrated my 30th birthday with a cancer diagnosis. I'm laying in my hospital bed the day after surgery and my district manager calls me and asks when I can "get back out in the field." Decided to quit that day, but waited six months to do it until my 401k vested.

    2) Worked for an obese, narcissistic boss whose chronic lateness to meetings collectively wasted weeks, of not months of our team's time; who took credit for other people's work and who blatantly reneged on a salary agreement we had (my fault for not getting in writing). I didn't quit right away, but instead used the job and the salary while starting my business. Boss used me for a few years, so I used the boss right back, quid pro quo. Gave 'em a dose of their own medicine. Maybe not the best way to do it, but fuck 'em.
     
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    I was already thinking about leaving, but I had my first review for my PhD, and my external reviewer was less than kind to me.

    For those who don't know, academics are very stuck in their ways. The bad review was because I was using a different method to the one that he was researching.

    I got the results of my review half way through a training day with the company that sponsored me. Both of my supervisors, after an entire year of saying that I was doing fine and to just carry on with what I'm doing, had thrown me under the bus in an attempt to save their reputations by destroying mine. I left the training day mid-exercise and honestly it's the best decision I've ever made :)

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    One of many: Working 60 hours a week for a small salary, no benefits, and I had to use my car = less then minimum wage. Was running ghetto multifamily buildings (actually taking over vacant REOs, then throwing everybody out dope dealers and all, then busting my ass to get them stabilized) . The gangs were all at war and it was the height of the depression so people were desperate.

    You would have thought I would have quit after:
    Being assigned a building because my friend quit after getting chased out of it by a masked man with a gun who started shooting at him, or after kicking the door in to a unit in a new building we took over to find a body in the bath tub, or the countless death threats received, or after witnessing a double homicide in front of the building I was at collecting rent, or when me and my construction crew got held up by some crack heads who ended up putting one of my guys in the hospital after beating him with the but end of a pistol, or the cockroaches bed bugs & rats the size of small dogs, or when I was assaulted and robbed in broad daylight, or when my car window got shot out while I was driving that the company said they would reimburse me for but never did, or...

    But I didn't.
    I kept showing up early and leaving late. I worked late nights doing collections and weekends for no pay. It got so bad down there my family offered to pay me just so I would quit.

    But I never quit.
    I got fired after being thrown under the bus by an incompetent manager, who was eventually demoted, to save his own ass.

    The rest is history. One of these days I'll get around to sending him a thank you card.
     
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    I was contracting working on the train tracks and id see people who were full blown c*nts basically get jobs over me when i contributed a lot more & always gave 100% to my job, well mannered and professional but then I realised there is no loyalty from my contracting company or managers who kept giving these idiots vans with fuel card and the easiest shifts while I was driving my own car with my own petrol to different cities every week. Basically favouritism but i couldn't understand why because they were shit at they did and brought the company more problems.

    As a labour contractor its no fun at all most the time, i was in the cold changing rail components, lifting heavy gear, being spoken to like shit, being used as a scape goat because you're are the contractor and the official bodies cant do anything wrong, all this shit while the official bodies would just watch and drink coffee, hardly lift a finger on track.

    I said fuck this shit and applied for literally 100 jobs with the UKs main railway company for a contracted and other benefits (im aware of the slowlane actions but its temporary I just had to get off contracting its awful). Been at my new job for 6 months now & before I opened the forum today I came into work to find my line managers not in when they should be, my other 10 colleagues are off, the sun is shining and im basically locked in this corporate building until 3pm officially. Im sitting here with next to nothing to do.

    This isn't living, this isn't what I was born to do. Everyday is while im in a 9-5 job is FTE. I do my job well and i am tipped for the next promotion but this slowlane life just isn't a life for me. I was born to live a winner life & so were you guys. I get home and i continue to grind for a better life, I wont stop until one of my business kick off and I think this year is going to be the best one yet!

    Loved reading all your FTE's and I hope everybody is on the way to a winner life or there already!
     
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    You win.
     
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    Off-topic, but I hope you are doing better.

    Holy crap, if that doesn't compel a "FTE" what will? This is pretty scary stuff.
     
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    Had a major FTE two summers ago, My old man was killed in a car accident at the age of 49, Sure he worked but he loved it.

    He was smart enough to have a lot of income coming in different ways but required a lot of maintenance and he also worked a lot. He had started working towards passive income though but it was too late.

    The point is that he left our family with basically nothing except a expensive property that cost thousands to upkeep every month and a ton of junk. This was not fair to my mother, who had essentially her other half taken away from her.

    I don't hold it against him and no one expects to pass away at that age, but there was no will, or no back up plan. That led me to realize if I have a family, or anyone that relies on me, to make sure that never happens to them.

    This led me to having options open and focus way more on school (I partied and had fun a lot but then really buckled down).

    While staying focused on school I realized more and more as I neared my graduation last december that a JOB was not the answer, plus there's a marginally low rate for people like me who ride the short bus to get hired ;) .

    My brother then nudged me once more to read TMF, and that was an absolute wake up call.

    I had a another FTE just a month ago. A woman I deemed to be lovely and had believed she had my back, and i thought we were going to go the distance, ended things with me for some bullshit reason then a couple days later went against that reason. This led me to really buckle down even more on my goals. During this whole time I just got a knee operation again and now I can also really focus on my health.

    They're Speed bumps.

    Looking forward to starting on my master's this fall which is not a expedition to get a job, but a means to an end, for me to build my entrepreneur skills and to continue the grind towards the fastlane.
     
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    Yes, thanks, MJ!
     
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    It didn't happen all in one for me. There are some crystal clear Fuck This Events. But my progress along the path, as marked by them, relapsed and remitted a few times. Until it crystallised for good. And now, finally, I know that my arrival at Unscription is inevitable. All I have to do now is keep walking the path.

    2014. I was at the pinnacle of my career. I'd doubled my salary and tripled my income in just over a year. I was going places, respected, and no longer had to watch my bank balance in the last week before payday. Yet, every success was met with a realisation: I might have earned a cool commission cheque, but now I'm back at square one all over again - back to the same exact grind as the day before, the month before, the year before. I worked for an unethical company. And I didn't own those client relationships - my employer did. Even though their only real contribution to my success or the development of those relationships was arbitrage - paying me money now (in the form of a salary) so they could keep most of it later (as revenues). Oh, and a computer, a phone, and some back office stuff you could outsource for pennies on the dollar anyway.

    So imagine my delight when my best client (awesome peeps who I'm still in touch with to this day) called me up with a proposal. They'd like to start a new company, and they'd like me to be the CEO. They'd double my salary yet again. They'd give me 40% equity. Support with marketing, operations, finance. And a six figure annual budget to fuel explosive growth.

    Fast forward a few months. I'm waiting on them to finalise the offer. I'm also waiting on a £15,000 commission cheque, payment of which will hopefully mark resignation day.

    Mere days before it comes due, my boss, who was once also my "friend", texts me to ask if we can have a "catch up" in the pub the next morning.

    Hmm.

    In the morning, he says come straight there, don't bother going to the office first.

    Hmm.

    I turn up and he's there with the CEO - who's based at HQ over 100 miles away. They ask me several accusatory questions as to whether I'm "betraying the company" and "considering starting a competitive business with one of OUR clients". Of course not!

    Then they produce a folder full of emails between me and my client/future investor, screenshotted straight out of my Gmail account. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. They even produced a full print out of the business plan, again stolen from my emails.

    Then they took my keys, fired me for "gross misconduct", tried to steal my personal phone for "evidence" (which they'd remote-wiped a couple days beforehand, but at the time I thought it was a bug).

    They refused to let me back into the office to get my stuff, and never returned half of it.

    Aaannd...I was going to use most of that commission cheque to pay off credit card bills I'd run up in anticipation of said commission cheque coming in. Bills I've only recently finished paying off.

    Fuck this!

    They filed a spurious lawsuit against both me and my would-be investor.

    My ex-boss - the same guy I once helped move into his new apartment - phoned round every firm in town, telling lies about me to try and ruin my reputation. (Ironically, a few offers of employment came out of that!). He called me from withheld numbers multiple times in the middle of the night just to piss me off. When I got a new job, he called up my new boss to suggest that he should fire me immediately.

    Noone else at the company ever spoke to me again. A person who I thought was a good friend pretended she couldn't hear anything when I called, and then hung up.

    Fuck you!

    Joke's on my ex-boss though - this is an ego-driven fool so obsessed with his own narcissism and grandiosity that he'll happily spearhead a multi-million pound expansion of someone else's company in exchange for a £50k salary and a small bonus - earning less money than I was as his underling. So long as he gets a cool job title, kudos, and a bunch of yes-men to boss around.

    I filed against them for my unpaid commission and notice pay. They put in an absurd counterclaim for nearly £350,000 in various invented "damages". Yes, they wanted to go after me for sharing "confidential information" (like, oooh, how my commission structure worked. Apparently the irony of including a confidential business plan stolen from confidential emails in their claim was lost in translation.)

    A year later, and after much stress, anger and losing the will to live on my part, I settled a week before court for a mere £2,500 (their original settlement offer was for me to pay THEM £3,000 - WTF?). I couldn't afford a lawyer, so I fought it all myself. If their lawyer is to be believed, they spent £40,000 on legal fees - seemingly out of spite and viciousness than any kind of business sense.

    Speaking of their lawyer, I sensed his incongruence and unease whenever we spoke on the phone. The sociopathic behaviour required of him in order to represent his sociopathic client clearly ate away at his soul. Another victim of the SCRIPT.

    I also had the police involved, regarding my emails and my phone. Sadly, although they could prove illegal access of my emails (from an office I'd never visited), they couldn't prove WHO did it. So they couldn't do anything. I thought that was going to nail them with that.

    To this day, I have no idea how they got into my Gmail. They must have been planning for weeks, and installed a keylogger on my PC.

    And my would-be investor? The board got scared and signed an agreement not to go into business with, or have any business-related contact with, me for 18 months. So that was that.

    (Blessing in disguise, really - this was in the oil industry, which crashed and burned mere months later.)

    After I got fired, I freelanced briefly. I'd read TMF by this point. I was over the concept of "jobs", but still, I was directionless. I freelanced for the briefest of moments. I enjoyed my newfound freedom of working from home, yet also lacked the self-discipline to do so effectively. I found it lonely. And I had no money and an expensive apartment to rent.

    Within the month, I'd walked back into the arms of the J.O.B. life. This time I had some semblance of awareness. I went through to final interviews with two companies. One of them was a fledgling recruitment agency with a mostly-absentee owner, outsourcing the construction of his would-be Fastlane empire to mugs like me. They wanted me to build a division for them from scratch. They'd give me a modest payrise, a better commission structure, and autonomy.

    But would they give me equity? No.

    So why should I build your business for you?

    The other was less money. But it lured me with promises of a higher, more esteemed end of the market. A true consulting firm. I'd be out on the road. I'd have a shiny new company car. I'd learn something new, that wasn't just the same old. The office was 2 minutes walk from my front door. So I glossed over the numerous red flags and went to work.

    Within days, the novelty had worn off. Behind all the promises, the expectations, and the selling of a dream, what I had was shit. What I'd joined was a glorified pyramid scheme.

    What they really hired me for was to be a glorified telemarketer doing one of the hardest and most soul-destroying sales jobs on the planet. Hundreds of calls a week, a few leads per month. And any assignments I did win? Why, my new boss would get to do all the fun stuff! Consulting, writing the brief, travelling around the country/world interviewing executives in hotel rooms, managing the client, closing the offer. And my new boss would also get two thirds of the total commission!

    If I managed to hit virtually impossible targets consistently over a period of consecutive months, why, I'd get the esteemed privilege of being able to do what I was already more than capable of anyway!

    All this while appointed Directors on six figure salaries basically sat around and did nothing all day, no questions asked. One of them even charged a client for a two week trip to Dubai to interview candidates who he only ever interviewed over the phone. He just wanted a free holiday. Nothing ever happened about that.

    At least after work I got to drown my sorrows and bitch about the company with the other inmates, who'd by now become very attached to their prison cells.

    Sigh. A month later I joined the forum.

    I sincerely tried to improve the company. I pointed out that, if your entire business would go under in just a few months if everyone stopped making cold calls, something is wrong.

    I ran data from the CRM that showed 90% of the assignments they'd won in the past year had come from repeat clients, the old boys' network, and referrals. Almost none of them from the incessant cold calls that were tedious beyond belief.

    I offered to create and execute an inbound marketing strategy for them - at my same salary and without the commission potential. Apparently, marketing is a waste of time and they would never pay me "so much money" to do that. But paying me to make pointless cold calls trying to find C-level buyers of a USP-less service from a brand-less company with no social proof at over-inflated prices with a 30-year old business model apparently is worth paying for. Got it.

    In a later meeting, I asked about marketing again. And in return I got yelled at and threatened with being fired on the spot if I ever mentioned it again.

    Fuck this! Fuck you!

    I literally wanted to tell her to go fuck herself and walk out the door then and there. But, I had no money and thus, no options.

    That was the event for me. The event that made me say - I've had enough of this bullshit.

    Still, all the components had not quite fallen into place. Soon after, I quit and went back to freelancing. Getting home after resigning was one of the happiest days of my life!

    This time, I knew I would never be lured by the promise of a "job" again. this time, I started to develop the self-discipline necessary to work from home.

    What I should have done was continue to do that whilst hustling to build a Fastlane venture on the side. Instead, I took the "easy" option and co-founded a business that didn't make sense or meet the commandments, in an industry I was sick of, where I didn't actually own anything of it. And, it definitely didn't have the potential for Productocracy. THAT, I can see clearly now. So...ultimately, it ended up looking a lot like a free range job.

    So now it's mid-2017. I'm back to freelancing. Only, this time I'm freelancing as a recruiter, a sales rep, a content manager & webinar host, and - randomly, now as a copywriter and creator of sales funnels. I just won a $1000 project off the back of an old Upwork profile I threw up way back when I was in the depths of despair and then never touched (thanks, @SinisterLex!).

    And despite having WAY too much on my plate, I still manage to find 25-30 hours a week to invest in incubating my future Productocracy. When I was freelancing on easy street as just a recruiter, I couldn't even make the time to put together any other income streams.

    Why?

    Meaning and purpose.

    Before, the fire had been stoked, but it still needed to be fed. Now? The fire is raging, and there's no going back. All the pieces of the puzzle have come together for me, and shown me what I DON'T want. What I WON'T accept. That there IS no other way.

    It's not about discipline. Or motivation. Or willpower. It's about having a WHY so strong, nothing can stop you. I see that now. I don't need willpower because all I can think about is business. I don't want to do anything else.

    Moral of the story? If you can't find the motivation, can't find the willpower, can't find the discipline, you just don't care enough yet. But maybe you will soon.

    It took me three years to go from interest to true, uncompromising commitment. Three whole years. It truly is a journey. And most of it's in your head.

    The second moral of the story?

    Fuck this.
     
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    My FTE happened last year after I, through some hard and ingenuity, landed a $300k a year account for the company I work for. I am a Senior Manager and have no responsibility for sales, but the company has long touted rewarding those who go above and beyond and find new business. Not only was I not rewarded for my achievement, I wasn't even given a thank you by the owner of the company. Eff this. Related to this event, I can no longer work for spoiled second generation owners who are more interested in everything else than running the business. In fact, I don't want to work for anyone else, period. A regular job doesn't carry meaning for me anymore. I want to make a difference and make people's lives better in some way, not help make other, unappreciative people richer in jobs that have no real upside or meaning. Lastly, on a closing note, I don't mean to sound arrogant, but I'm also way smarter than the owners of our company, and dog gonnit I deserve to be paid like it.
     
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    When you're gifted something with no anchor to the hardship or process required to make that gift happen, you're more likely to take the gift for granted. This is not surprising. Thanks for posting your story, infuriating to hear.
     
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    Ouch.

    I've never understood that mindset. I'm grateful for all the good services I receive, even when they cost me a lot of money. And should I ever find myself with a team of people working hard to make me tons of money, I'll be eternally grateful for them, too.

    Being a good customer (inclusive of being a good employer) is lost on so many people these days. Or maybe it always was. I can only speculate about that.
     
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    I've actually had 2 in my life.

    I always wanted to be a lawyer, the law was my passion, and I dreamt with having my own law firm. I started my career as a lawyer working for a big law firm to get experience and learn and I actually liked the law itself but the lifestyle.... 100 hour work weeks and all nighters were not unusual and it was almost impossible to have a life outside of work. I started with enthusiasm but day after day I started to feel more miserable.

    My first FTE happened few years ago when after two weeks working 16 hours per day, one Saturday I worked for 22hours straight to finish a big deal, it was the day before Christmas eve and I remember spending Christmas with my family like a zombie and that they reality hit me, I was a slave and I could not stand it anymore, my biggest passion turned into a prison. Also, I looked at my options in that path: either I enslaved my life because even if you own your firm you can't separate it from time or I went corporate and became a 9to5 for the rest of my life doing boring work.

    That day I decided to switch paths, but I didn't know anything about business (or so I thought at that time) and I took the determination to study an MBA in the Mecca of entrepreneurship: the US. Long story short I managed to go to one of the schools of my choice with scholarship and there I learned a lot and also started my first venture.

    While the majority of my classmates were partying, my business partners and I were working on our venture and, even with the long hours, I loved every minute of it, made plenty of mistakes and failures and learned from each way more than in the classes. I was working at a similar pace in it than in the firm but it felt different this time.
    Despite I was loving it, unfortunately the only option to stay in the US legally was to get a job in corporate America so I decided to stay in the US and I fooled myself with bullshit to rejoin the SCRIPTED.
    I was comfortable enough in my gold jail until my second FTE happenned. Everyday the job became more boring and I was buried in burocratical crap, the nail was there. But it was the day where they didn't allow me to take a vacation day to go to my best friend's wedding (who was marrying in my country). That day that my closest friends spend celebrating that life event while I was locked in my cubicle got me thinking again and made me realized that despite better hours and a higher paycheck I was still a slave.
    To thrive, I need to be passionate, I need the adrenaline of the unknown and also the challenge and the constant learning. the only place where I truly found those was in entrepreneurship.
    It is hard to explain but at least for me the sacrifice feels no longer like sacrifice, I actually enjoy the process no matter how hard it is.

    In conclusion, the script kept flirting with me but after a one night stand with it (or two in my case), I decided to say: ok that was fun (not really) but FUCK you, I am not marrying you!
     
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    My FTE just happened last night (6/20/17). I was terminated from my employer for accidentally taking the pit keys home with me. I'm a Pit boss at one of the local casinos here in Mississippi. I'm a day one employee with a great work record and ethics. The keys were "controlled" and opened everything on the casino floor.

    The alarm system that was supposed to go off, after passing a certain point, did not work. I blame myself for not doing what I was supposed to do every night. Termination was an excessive reaction.

    I will have to return to the workforce because bills keep coming and my wife love's "stability" (she's a slowlaner). I must pay for the choices I've made in the past.

    I won't have enough runway to learn and freelance/consult 100%, but as soon as I can, I will not have an employer. I will not be terminated again! I will not put the fate of my lifestyle in someone else's hands.

    I have yet to out process to get my final check and 401k. Until I get all this together, I'll continue to learn front end web development and build polestar.tv
     
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    Yikes. Do they need to change all the locks now? Sorry to hear they didn't make an exception.

    Now the big question is, will the wife be open to a new way of life that doesn't involve a paycheck?
     
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    I don't know if they need to re-key all the locks. It would cost the company $10k+.

    As for my wife, she loves the stability of a paycheck. I'm going to work my butt off to avoid doing that!
     
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    My FTE came in 2005. I was employed as a programmer in an automobile company. Worked there for only 18 months. Was 25 years old back then. I hated:
    • Spending 2 hours daily on traffic.
    • Not being able to work from home, even though I could since I was a programmer.
    • People giving me the stink-eye when I arrived 15 min. late.
    • Being victim of hearing all kind of mediocre-"the office" like gossip and bullshit.
    • Being treated like a 2nd class citizen from seniors and VP's (I worked at the HQ office).
    • Going to "work" half day on Saturdays while being hungover.
    But my event came AFTER my boss resigned (he left for a better job). Me and my team where gravitating the office BOSS LESS. Our productivity fell like 80%. Nobody said nothing. We all knew where not working. Just faking. Just enjoying payment for light tasks WHILE spending our time there. It was a joke. I couldn't take it any more. There came my Fuck This event. And my entrepreneurial life began.
     
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    Good luck and keep us posted. I am not quite in the same boat but just had a FTE today so I feel like I am on this journey with you. I wrote a post about it and my boss just reamed me out. If you ever need an accountability partner don't be afraid to PM me if you need someone to motivate you.
     
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    My FTE happened last September.

    The long story. tldr; at the bottom

    My wife and I moved to a house behind her parents about 4 years ago. I get along great with my mother and father-in-law. Most days were like the movies, they would be over here eating and happy or we would be over there doing the same. While I hated my slowlane job (inventory management at a steel mill), it payed the bills and we were comfortable. This cycle continued for a couple years until I had to have a major orthopedic operation that forced me from my job.

    While the operation was a smashing success, it started the "oh shit what am I going to do now" phase of my life. I have a degree in psychology with a minor in sociology. Employers weren't knocking at my door with my degree in underwater basket weaving. I knew that I wanted to pursue business, as I had previously owned and operated a couple service based businesses in the past. At this point though, it was about me and how much money I could make. The "I" was strong and I was hopelessly and utterly confused in life. I could not physically work like I had previously done and I couldn't use my degree without going further into debt for more education. My life was one giant question mark.

    This brings us to about two years ago.

    Then the perfect storm of fuckery happened. My wife's sister and her husband were going through the divorce of the century. She was an alcoholic and he was a complete douche-bag. Neither of them was capable of taking care of themselves, let alone the 4 kids they had. In steps my mother-in-law. She assumed complete responsibility of the kids (which was the right thing to do). But, it completely fucked up my family. My wife was constantly stressed with the burden of helping and our daughter was not getting the right amount of attention.

    In steps my wife's other sister and her husband to save us. While we were fine financially, we were fucked mentally. We were sick of the bullshit and I was still completely confused on which direction to go in life. If Dave Ramsey need a poster family, they would fit the bill. My brother-in-law touted retirement, a good job for 40 years, and penny pinching. They also happened to own a small motel in the middle of nowhere with their house attached. If your still reading, you can probably guess what happened.

    This brings us to March of last year. I talked myself into moving my family 6 hours away from our current location under the premise that I would work on a business venture while we recouped from the stress of the past year. I left a nice house, a neighborhood that I loved, and our family. They said that there weren't any conditions for living with them, just help out where we could.

    We moved into a motel room. Even writing this is emotional. This was easily one of the worst decisions of my life.

    This really started my FTE.

    The first couple weeks, everything was good. I worked on a business that I had started before we left and it was slowly growing. I was excited to be going down a different path and pursuing a business again.

    Things would only go downhill from there. I would talk with my brother-in-law about my plans to grow the business while we were there, but it fell on deaf ears. After the first month, he started asking me multiple times daily, if I was going to get a job. We would talk over and over about finding a career in something that I enjoyed. I was still mind fucked and couldn't think for myself at this point. After awhile I eventually gave in and was following the script. I applied for a sales job and got the position. It didn't matter that the job was 2 1/2 hours away from my family, I was happy to be part of the script or so I thought.

    Fast forward to last September and I was seriously contemplating suicide. I was working 70+ hours a week plus another 10-16 hours of commute time to reach my quotas. On top of that, my work was changing our payouts and quota for the worse. I would leave before my daughter woke up and come home after she was asleep. I never saw my wife and literally started to hate the family we were living with. It was bad! I mean really bad! I kept on drudging through though, this was the dream right!? Living in a motel room and away from my family 80-90 hours a week!

    I can't remember the day before, but I will always remember the morning that I took control of my life. Unlike others stories, it was a beautiful sun filled morning without a cloud in the sky. I woke up and cursed my alarm clock. I was literally physically sick about the thought of driving the hour and 10 minutes down a desolate strip of highway. I had to force myself to put on clothes and drive to the office. I remember waving to the guy we were living with as I drove to hell. He had a good slowlane job working for a state agency. He managed his schedule and usually didn't leave until 9 or 10 o'clock after breakfast with his kids. I hated him in that moment, but I kept driving.

    I fucking snapped shortly down the road. I was living in a motel room with my wife and daughter, I worked at a job that I absolutely hated, I disliked the people I was around, I wasn't moving any closer to my goals, and I lived in a place that had population closer to Antarctica than anywhere I had ever lived.

    I realized in that moment that I had put myself in that position. All of my past decisions led to this moment. It didn't matter what my past decisions were, I could now change my surroundings, job, or anything else I wanted in life. I had a choice and I could choose to change. I immediately called my wife and told her I was quitting and we were moving. I walked into my bosses office and quit that day. It took a couple weeks, but we moved.

    I haven't worked in a traditional job since. I will do whatever it takes to not go back to that dark place of hopelessness. Since then I have grown our business from 1k in sales to 4-6k in sales per month, moved someone across the country, and done countless menial side jobs to make extra income. We don't have a lot of extra money, at times we barely have enough, but I am in control of my destiny. I am finding ways of adding value to peoples lives, how value vouchers are obtained, and why CENTS are so important. I am working towards my dream life.

    tldr; Moved from our hometown to a motel room with my family, got a shitty job, thought about suicide, quit the shitty job and took control of my life.
     
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    I don't know if I've had an FTE really. My whole life at the moment is one big long FTE.

    In my early twenties and late thirties (1996-2007) I was 'following my passion' by trying to make it as a musician, playing drums for various bands.

    I had a series of shit jobs just to pay the rent, door-to-door sales, retail sales, data entry, telephone helpdesk operator, CAD technician, etc. I didn't care about them, I was just focussed on whatever band I was playing in at the time and I either got made redundant, or rage-quit them after taking too much shit. If only TMF had been available at that time, it would have saved me a lot of time and pain. I guess I was so hypnotised by societal conditioning that I didn't even know that there was an alterative to the 9-5, otherwise I'd have started earlier.

    As a musician, I was also a big weed-head, as everybody in the business seemed to be. People say it doesn't have any negative effects, but I tell you, it does. I reduces your self esteem, produces self-doubt and makes you massively paranoid. It got so bad for me that when I was 26, I had to go to a psychologist. I couldn't get to sleep at night because I'd convinced myself that I was going to die in my sleep. Instead of trying to fix my head, he basically told me there was nothing he could do about it and told me to read 'Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway' by Susan Jeffers. At first, I thought 'what fuck is this?' but anyway I read it and it started the ball rolling on my interest in self-improvement.

    I quit weed at 30 and quit bands at 32, then at 33 (in 2008) the recession hit big in the UK and I got made redundant from my job. I wasn't able to get another one, no matter how hard I tried, the country and the economy was THAT fucked. Thinking back on it now, that would have been an ideal time start up an internet business, but I had no idea that this was even a possibility! In the end, my girlfriend at the time told me I should go back to university to become a programmer, so I did. It was nine months between getting redundant and starting my course, which might have been ample time for me to start a business. D:

    About a month before my final exams in 2011, I started to get pain in my private parts and went to the doctor, who said she could feel lump when she examined me. So, I went to the hospital for ultrasound and the guy said that he couldn't see anything cancerous. But I didn't believe him, because it was still hurting. Between getting the initial examination from the doctor and going to the hospital was about two months, because the healthcare in this country is rubbish. Whenever I've got a problem, I try to read up about it as much as possible to try and find a solution. I'd read about all sorts of people who'd said they'd cured themselves of cancer by natural means, so I thought I'd try one of them. I settled on the Budwig diet, because the ingredients were simple, Cottage Cheese and Cold-Pressed Flax-Seed Oil mixed together. It's a hideously disgusting mixture, but I ate it every single day for five years. A couple of weeks after eating it, the pain reduced to a tingle and then went away. A year in, I experimented by stopping eating the mixture and the tingling came back, so I resumed.

    At the same time, because I was still into self development, I remembered reading in a book that to decide what you should spend your life doing, you should imagine that you only have six months left to live and ask yourself what you'd prefer to spend that time doing. Now I actually found myself in that situation, so I really thought hard about it and my answer was 'to fuck as many hot women as I could'. Previous to that I'd been a disaster with women, so I decided to learn how to get good at attracting and seducing women. Four years later I'd moved to London and was teaching guys to do it. Only a handful of famous guys in that industry make enough to be able to do it full-time, so I had to continue my 9-5 as a computer programmer.

    To be honest, I was just glad that I was able to survive cancer for that many years by using an alternative therapy. Then, in early 2015, I read TMF and joined this forum. I noticed that all of the big pickup-artists that I looked up to and respected were able to live their lifestyles 24-7 by writing and selling books and courses, so I decided to write my own book. That didn't do that well, but I still sell a few copies per month. I decided that if I could publish more books and scale it, I'd eventually be able to make enough money to live off the proceeds and continue to 'follow my dream'.

    Here's the kicker. At the beginning of 2016, I was having a conversation with my personal trainer and she was trying to find out if I had any allergies to types of food. She worked through a list and eventually told me that she thought I was allergic to dairy products and asked me to stop eating cheese to see if it would help. After I told her I couldn't stop eating cheese, she asked why and I had to tell her that I was living with cancer and it was keeping me alive. She was concerned, so she told me that I had to go my doctor and get a diagnosis. I'd already been through this, but I agreed anyway.

    I went to the doctor and he told me there was definitely something weird with my private parts after his examination, so he sent me to the hospital for another ultrasound scan. The results were negative. I asked for a second opinion. Negative. I asked for a third opinion. Negative again. I was overjoyed, but at the same time, mystified. Did I really cure myself of cancer using the Budwig Diet or did I never actually have cancer at all and I was just kidding myself?
     
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    This is incredible like many stories here.

    All of you guys have unbelievable stories.

    My Fuck this event is nothing compared to you so i won't tell it .

    it would seem ridiculous like a child complaining about stupid things.


    You guys are warriors.


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