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Ok, so look at the bright side.<br />
- Your capability of recognizing good ideas has just been proved to be spot-on.<br />
- You are way ahead of most people who have never even tried to come up with a good idea.<br />
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Now you're blanking, though.<br />
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You used the words, "lurking," "paralyzing," "slipping," "getting scared."<br />
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There's something causing this blockage. See if you can put your finger on it. Because getting wrapped up and obsessing over "LEARN COPY NOT CODING" is not the point. Neither one is the answer. They're just tools. They're just means to an end. But the "copy vs coding" debate shouldn't have the power to get you scared.<br />
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Looking into why this got you stuck in the first place, there must be some kind of underlying belief or assumption that you're making that is holding you up. If you can pinpoint what that is, and then consider what the actual truth is, you might get yourself unstuck.<br />
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- Is it that you believe that there is ONE "right" answer that you must find? That'll make it feel like the stakes are too high. This same belief when applied to relationships (there's only ONE "right" person in the world for me) would also be paralyzing. Can you free yourself up to realize that there are many potential paths to the outcome you're after?<br />
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- Is it that you believe that you have to do everything perfectly? That would also be paralyzing, since nobody's perfect. Can you remind yourself that all of the successful people weren't perfect either, and you can do this even if it's not perfect?<br />
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- Is it that you believe that any mistakes would prove you're a failure, so you're afraid to start?<br />
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- Is it that you believe that all the good, viable ideas have already been taken, so there's no room left for you to execute and succeed?<br />
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- Is it that you believe that you will never measure up and your efforts will never be enough, so what's the point?<br />
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- Is it some other belief?<br />
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What's the actual truth that counters whatever belief currently has you stuck?
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</blockquote>This got mind-blowingly real, real F*ckin fast, but thank you for making it this way - we striving to be the best after all. Oh boy, when the question "What's really bothering you?" comes up - than it gets tough. I guess it might be a combination of:<br />
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- I believe that any mistakes would prove I'm a failure, so I'm afraid to start<br />
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- I believe that all the good, viable ideas have already been taken, so there's no room left for me to execute and succeed?<br />
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I understand that the fact that it takes me so long to come up with something must make me stupid somehow. I guess you can say I'm ahead of everybody, who hasn't even tried, but I think most of the people on this forum are. It just that it feels overwhelming, cause starting a business is this whole process and I can't even get over the first F*ckin' step. Then I get to thinkin': "alright, what if I actually find an idea that works, but I fail in another step of the way - I'll have to spend months and months again just to try and find an idea" - it F*ckin sucks.<br />
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Cause I read books n shit and they kinda make it sound like no big deal, like in the "7 day start-up" by Dan Norris is just "come up with an idea in a day, but the idea has to have all of these guidelines, this, that and that" and that's just nr.1"doesn't seem to be possible at all" nr.2 "EVEN LESS SO FOR ME".<br />
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Plus, reading "The Magic of Thinking BIG" by David Schwartz hasn't helped, cause I've been dreaming of building entire websites or at the very least some chrome extensions, but not only are all of the ideas taken, when I look at a tutorial of what needs be done for a website to run [with no major spending, that is] I shit myself and run off once again, back to a ball that doesn't do nothin' but feels sorry for it's own debatably apparent stupidity...<br />
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Can you at least for a lil while feel, what the brain of mine comin' up with during these trying times?</div>
