Your Step's Too Short - A Leadership Story

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper">Back when I was 19, I was on the first day of a course to become an Assistant Club Coach for Track and Field Athletics.<br /> <br /> We were welcomed and our first instructor was introduced - some old chap ... who just happened to be one of the top freaking coaches in England!<br /> <br /> Wow, one of the top coaches in the country turned up to teach us newbies? I was impressed, and dumb-struck.<br /> <br /> He commented on this too, asking whether we thought the best coaches should coach the Olympic athletes, or coach the kids who&#039;ve just turned up to their first training session.<br /> <br /> We figured the best coaches should coach the best athletes, but he just smiled and shook his head.<br /> <br /> He reasoned that the Olympic athletes can pretty much coach themselves. That they&#039;re so passionate about the sport they&#039;d overcome whatever problems they had... even if it meant asking for help.<br /> <br /> Whereas... the young child who&#039;s just started in athletics needs <b>the best</b> coach they can get. So they get started on the right foot. So they don&#039;t get injured. So they pick up the right skills in a way <b>they</b> understand. And most importantly, so they enjoy themselves and don&#039;t drop out of the sport, or even worse, drop out of sports altogether.<br /> <br /> We were going to become assistant club coaches in grass roots clubs. We were going to be the first coaches the youngest kids would interact with. This guy&#039;s mission, in the two hours he had us, was to make us good enough coaches to keep those kids coming back.<br /> <br /> <br /> To this day, I still remember that introduction, and I remember the story he then told us to make us better coaches.<br /> <br /> That story had a profound affect on me and is on my mind constantly.<br /> <br /> <br /> We were told to imagine a young lad in school who shows some talent at the triple jump.<br /> <br /> The P.E. teacher tries hard to convince the boy to go along to the local athletics club for a try out. She&#039;s sure the lad will do well and, with a bit of training, he might be able to make it to county level at least.<br /> <br /> The boy lacks confidence though.<br /> <br /> Eventually, after a lot of persuading, he heads down to the local athletics stadium with an introduction from the P.E. teacher.<br /> <br /> The athletics coach asks him to warm up and &quot;show us what you can do&quot;.<br /> <br /> After warming up and stretching, the lad measures out his steps on the runway, readies himself, then charges towards the sandpit.<br /> <br /> Hop. Step. Jump.<br /> <br /> He lands in the sandpit, scrambles out and shakes the sand off.<br /> <br /> The coach says: &quot;Your step&#039;s too short.&quot;<br /> <br /> The lad is crest-fallen.<br /> <br /> He packs up, goes home, and never returns.<br /> <br /> Four words uttered, and that talent is never fulfilled.<br /> <br /> <br /> Instead of saying: &quot;Your step&#039;s too short.&quot;, the coach could have said &quot;You&#039;ve a great hop, and you&#039;ve a great jump. If we could get your step as good as your hop and your jump, then you&#039;d get an extra metre into the pit.&quot;<br /> <br /> You&#039;ve said the same thing, but in a different way.<br /> <br /> It&#039;s only a small difference, but it can make the world of difference.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <span style="font-size: 12px">(Originally posted in <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605/" class="link link--internal">this thread</a>.)</span></div>

 

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[heavy_industry]

<div class="bbWrapper">&quot;Your step&#039;s too short&quot;<br /> <br /> We often see in others a reflection of ourselves.<br /> <br /> Just remember this the next time you&#039;re being told that &quot;business is too risky&quot;, &quot;you don&#039;t have this or that, so you can&#039;t succeed&quot;, or any similar words of wisdom.<br /> <br /> Sometimes this <i>advice </i>is being thrown around in bad faith, but usually it&#039;s just a shitty projection of the adviser&#039;s own insecurities and failure in life.<br /> <br /> But don&#039;t argue with the naysayers either.<br /> Just do what you know you want to do, and let the results do the talking.</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 107881" data-quote="heavy_industry" data-source="post: 1061092" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1061092" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1061092">heavy_industry said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> &quot;Your step&#039;s too short&quot;<br /> <br /> We often see in others a reflection of ourselves.<br /> <br /> Just remember this the next time you&#039;re being told that &quot;business is too risky&quot;, &quot;you don&#039;t have this or that, so you can&#039;t succeed&quot;, or any similar words of wisdom.<br /> <br /> Sometimes this <i>advice </i>is being thrown around in bad faith, but usually it&#039;s just a shitty projection of the adviser&#039;s own insecurities and failure in life.<br /> <br /> But don&#039;t argue with the naysayers either.<br /> Just do what you know you want to do, and let the results do the talking. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Yeah... be wary of &quot;glass half-empty&quot; people. Their speech patterns will give them away once you&#039;re listening for it.<br /> <br /> <br /> Check your own speech patterns too.<br /> <br /> &quot;Google Ads doesn&#039;t work!&quot;<br /> <br /> vs<br /> <br /> &quot;People love my product and people search for it online. If I can get Google Ads working then I&#039;ll increase sales by x.&quot;<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Check out the <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605" class="link link--internal">Yes, But thread</a>.<br /> <ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605/" class="link link--internal">Part 1</a></li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Part 2 is &quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605/#post-671951" class="link link--internal">Part 3</a></li> </ul></div>

 

[MitchC]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 47734" data-quote="Black_Dragon43" data-source="post: 1088300" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088300" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088300">Black_Dragon43 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I&#039;m surprised this thread didn&#039;t get more recognition. Very useful advice when it comes to managing and working with others.<br /> <br /> I&#039;ve been struggling to be more empowering with others when giving advice, and Andy&#039;s thread has helped a lot.<br /> <br /> The biggest challenge seems to be saying the truth, without emotionally hurting the other person. When you seek to help, you don&#039;t want the other person to feel down or depressed when reading your advice. You want them to feel excited about changing.<br /> <br /> Before reading this, my two mistakes on this were:<br /> 1) You lie to them, and tell them what they want to hear, so that you don&#039;t break their heart.<br /> <br /> Or<br /> <br /> 2) You tell them the &quot;partial&quot; truth, and hurt the relationship in the process.<br /> <br /> The reason why I called it &quot;partial&quot; truth above is that you logically communicate what has to be communicated, but emotionally you&#039;re communicating something you don&#039;t really want to communicate to them. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>There’s always the good old complement sandwich.<br /> <br /> Not sure if it’s a big thing in the rest of the world but I think it’s a big enough thing here in Australia that most people know what it is and would notice it being used on them, but it’s still effective<br /> <br /> 1. Complement<br /> 2. Feedback<br /> 3. Complement<br /> <br /> To use the example from the OP:<br /> <br /> 1. Hey man, your hop is great,<br /> 2. Your steps too short<br /> 3. But your jump is amazing<br /> <br /> 1. You’re doing this really well<br /> 2. You really need to work on this it’s terrible<br /> 3. But the good news is you are doing this amazingly</div>

 

[MitchC]

<div class="bbWrapper">Or my feedback to <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/23590/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="23590" data-username="@Andy Black">@Andy Black</a> on this thread<br /> <br /> Great thread, I really loved the story. The title could use some work as not many people are opening it, which is a shame because the advice in this thread is really helpful to those looking to manage employees.</div>

 

[Johnny boy]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 23590" data-quote="Andy Black" data-source="post: 1061091" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1061091" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1061091">Andy Black said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> The lad is crest-fallen.<br /> <br /> He packs up, goes home, and never returns.<br /> <br /> Four words uttered, and that talent is never fulfilled. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Good, more to go around for the ones with ice in their veins.</div>

 

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[Panos Daras]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 47954" data-quote="Johnny boy" data-source="post: 1088307" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088307" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088307">Johnny boy said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Good, more to go around for the ones with ice in their veins. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Totally agree. If you cannot handle your step is too short, try handling a whole stadium looking at you hoping you will fail, shouting kind words about your mother <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-rofl.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="ROFL :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /></div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 47954" data-quote="Johnny boy" data-source="post: 1088307" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088307" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088307">Johnny boy said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Good, more to go around for the ones with ice in their veins. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 114807" data-quote="Panos Daras" data-source="post: 1088309" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088309" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088309">Panos Daras said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Totally agree. If you cannot handle your step is too short, try handling a whole stadium looking at you hoping you will fail, shouting kind words about your mother <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-rofl.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="ROFL :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Horses for courses.<br /> <br /> Some kids (and people) just need a little nudge or support and they&#039;re off to the races.</div>

 

[oneac]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 23590" data-quote="Andy Black" data-source="post: 1061096" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1061096" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1061096">Andy Black said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Yeah... be wary of &quot;glass half-empty&quot; people. Their speech patterns will give them away once you&#039;re listening for it.<br /> <br /> <br /> Check your own speech patterns too.<br /> <br /> &quot;Google Ads doesn&#039;t work!&quot;<br /> <br /> vs<br /> <br /> &quot;People love my product and people search for it online. If I can get Google Ads working then I&#039;ll increase sales by x.&quot;<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Check out the <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605" class="link link--internal">Yes, But thread</a>.<br /> <ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605/" class="link link--internal">Part 1</a></li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Part 2 is &quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/yes-but-no-yes-and.59605/#post-671951" class="link link--internal">Part 3</a></li> </ul> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>YES, AND... you can&#039;t rise about the self image you set for yourself. <br /> <br /> Trying to ignore the influence of your environment (the people who speak to you, the city you&#039;re in, the pop culture you&#039;re exposed to) is like putting your hands over your ears while a train is blasting its horn right in front of you...<br /> <br /> Being mindful of the mind patterns of those around you is crucial. You&#039;re absolutely right.<br /> <br /> Thanks Andy.</div>

 

[oneac]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 114807" data-quote="Panos Daras" data-source="post: 1088309" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088309" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088309">Panos Daras said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Totally agree. If you cannot handle your step is too short, try handling a whole stadium looking at you hoping you will fail, shouting kind words about your mother <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-rofl.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="ROFL :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>lmao that&#039;s a good way to put it</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 22018" data-quote="MitchC" data-source="post: 1088306" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088306" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088306">MitchC said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Or my feedback to <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/23590/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="23590" data-username="@Andy Black">@Andy Black</a> on this thread<br /> <br /> Great thread, I really loved the story. The title could use some work as not many people are opening it, which is a shame because the advice in this thread is really helpful to those looking to manage employees. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>I could add a subheading to the title?<br /> <br /> Your Step&#039;s Too Short (Parenting &amp; Management Tip)<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> I usually create threads to point people to in the future, and to create a little &quot;micro-script&quot; that gets people to remember the thread. <br /> <br /> e.g. Some people now understand what I mean by &quot;diesel and coffee&quot; after reading:<br /> <div class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--unfurl js-unfurl fauxBlockLink" data-unfurl="true" data-result-id="25406" data-url="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/spend-your-money-on-diesel-and-coffee.70072/" data-host="www.thefastlaneforum.com" data-pending="false"> <div class="contentRow"> <div class="contentRow-figure contentRow-figure--fixedSmall js-unfurl-figure"> <img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/data/assets/logo/fastlane_discussion_og.png" loading="lazy" alt="www.thefastlaneforum.com" class="bbCodeBlockUnfurl-image" data-onerror="hide-parent"/> </div> <div class="contentRow-main"> <h3 class="contentRow-header js-unfurl-title"> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/spend-your-money-on-diesel-and-coffee.70072/" class="link link--internal fauxBlockLink-blockLink" target="" rel="" data-proxy-href=""> HOT! - Spend your money on diesel and coffee </a> </h3> <div class="contentRow-snippet js-unfurl-desc">&quot;Spend your money on diesel and coffee&quot; (Blaise Brosnan of The Management Resource Institute Wexford) Just getting started? Wondering what to spend your time and money on? Hustle. Build relationships. Make stuff happen. You&#039;ll be amazed what happens when you get out of the building...</div> <div class="contentRow-minor contentRow-minor--hideLinks"> <span class="js-unfurl-favicon"> <img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/data/assets/logo/Fastlane32.png" loading="lazy" alt="www.thefastlaneforum.com" class="bbCodeBlockUnfurl-icon" data-onerror="hide-parent"/> </span> www.thefastlaneforum.com </div> </div> </div> </div></div>

 

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[MitchC]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 47954" data-quote="Johnny boy" data-source="post: 1088307" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088307" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088307">Johnny boy said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Good, more to go around for the ones with ice in their veins. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 114807" data-quote="Panos Daras" data-source="post: 1088309" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088309" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088309">Panos Daras said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Totally agree. If you cannot handle your step is too short, try handling a whole stadium looking at you hoping you will fail, shouting kind words about your mother <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-rofl.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="ROFL :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> I think you’re half joking Johnny and that’s cool, usually I would agree or laugh along but I think some people may take it seriously and in this example we are talking about kids and people doing something for the first time<br /> <br /> Good management is about getting the best out of people<br /> <br /> There is a certain dynamic when you are the boss, or parent, or coach, where you can really influence how well someone does at something<br /> <br /> Not many people are going to respond better to a tough love approach and being shit on when they do something especially for the first time, rather than something more uplifting, encouraging and confidence building like this thread talks about<br /> <br /> That ice in your veins, or confidence has to come from somewhere<br /> <br /> Look at kanye west, a prime example of ice in your vein’s confidence, he says all the time that it came from his Mum and how she raised him</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper">Thread title changed <br /> <br /> From:<br /> &quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short&quot; <br /> To:<br /> &quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short - A Leadership Story&quot;<br /> <br /> It gives a clue anyway.<br /> <br /> <br /> Much better than ChatGPT suggestions:<br /> <ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Unleashing Potential with Positive Communication&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Fostering Growth with Encouraging Words in Life and Leadership&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: The Transformative Power of Constructive Feedback&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Building Confidence and Skill with Affirmative Language&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Navigating Life&#039;s Hurdles with Supportive Dialogue&quot;</li> </ol><br /> Certainly! Here are five title suggestions using simpler language:<br /> <ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: How Kind Words Can Help Others Do Great Things&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Helping Others Shine with Nice Talk&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Using Good Words to Make a Big Change&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: How to Help People Grow with Encouraging Words&quot;</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">&quot;Your Step&#039;s Too Short: Building Others Up with Positive Talk&quot;</li> </ol></div>

 

[Johnny boy]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 22018" data-quote="MitchC" data-source="post: 1088314" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1088314" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1088314">MitchC said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I think you’re half joking Johnny and that’s cool, usually I would agree or laugh along but I think some people may take it seriously and in this example we are talking about kids and people doing something for the first time<br /> <br /> Good management is about getting the best out of people<br /> <br /> There is a certain dynamic when you are the boss, or parent, or coach, where you can really influence how well someone does at something<br /> <br /> Not many people are going to respond better to a tough love approach and being shit on when they do something especially for the first time, rather than something more uplifting, encouraging and confidence building like this thread talks about<br /> <br /> That ice in your veins, or confidence has to come from somewhere<br /> <br /> Look at kanye west, a prime example of ice in your vein’s confidence, he says all the time that it came from his Mum and how she raised him </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>No not kidding <br /> I’m going to have a few sons in case any of them ends up a wuss.</div>