TeacherToOwner
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- Mar 1, 2021
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Hey everyone,
Almost a year ago, I received some incredible help from some amazing people on this forum. To recap, I took a job 1.5 hours away from where I was living which required me to relocate. I moved in with my mother which was absolutely horrible due to her negative and abusive ways. We fought all the time; she constantly insulted me, talked negatively about my wife (fiance back then), and never missed an opportunity to go on a drunk tirade.
After everyone's suggestions, I moved into my own studio apartment which was one of the best moves I've ever made. It has been great being in a quiet and peaceful environment away from the negativity. Over the course of this year, I got married, and my wife delivered our baby prematurely in February. After months in the NiCU, baby girl was finally released (in June).
Now my issue is that my wife and daughter live an hour and a half away from my apartment and job. I only see them when I visit on weekends. It's very difficult to not see them everyday, and I feel like I'm missing once-in-a-lifetime moments with my daughter. And, it's not like I wouldn't mind the commute to see them during the week, but the issue is that the traffic is horrendous, the bridge is expensive, and after working all day my energy just isn't there.
This dilemma leaves me with 3 options that I could think of:
1) My wife doesn't want to leave her family business (despite getting paid very little) and as someone like me who is on an entrepreneur forum and believes in working for yourself, I understand that. She could technically quit the family business and move in with me, but I'd feel guilty asking her to do that.
2) I can find an apartment closer which would be about half way to my job and where her and my daughter are living (in her parents house). My wife and daughter could spend the weekend here at the apartment and then I could visit there a few days during the week.
3) Buy a house over here, live in it with her and the baby, and try to get her to start her own business in the house. The problem with this is that the housing market here is crazy right now and all the homes are going way above asking price.
I guess this is a big reason why having a job and not your own business sucks :-(. I also feel frustrated because not only do I not get to see my daughter during the week, but sometimes I can't even video call her because someone is always at my wife's house visiting. I was just video calling her a few minutes ago only to be interrupted by her grandmother who wanted to spend time with the baby. The last two weekends she had family visit and they took the baby for most of the day on both Saturday's. I'm annoyed, and looking for suggestions.. Any advice would be helpful!
Almost a year ago, I received some incredible help from some amazing people on this forum. To recap, I took a job 1.5 hours away from where I was living which required me to relocate. I moved in with my mother which was absolutely horrible due to her negative and abusive ways. We fought all the time; she constantly insulted me, talked negatively about my wife (fiance back then), and never missed an opportunity to go on a drunk tirade.
After everyone's suggestions, I moved into my own studio apartment which was one of the best moves I've ever made. It has been great being in a quiet and peaceful environment away from the negativity. Over the course of this year, I got married, and my wife delivered our baby prematurely in February. After months in the NiCU, baby girl was finally released (in June).
Now my issue is that my wife and daughter live an hour and a half away from my apartment and job. I only see them when I visit on weekends. It's very difficult to not see them everyday, and I feel like I'm missing once-in-a-lifetime moments with my daughter. And, it's not like I wouldn't mind the commute to see them during the week, but the issue is that the traffic is horrendous, the bridge is expensive, and after working all day my energy just isn't there.
This dilemma leaves me with 3 options that I could think of:
1) My wife doesn't want to leave her family business (despite getting paid very little) and as someone like me who is on an entrepreneur forum and believes in working for yourself, I understand that. She could technically quit the family business and move in with me, but I'd feel guilty asking her to do that.
2) I can find an apartment closer which would be about half way to my job and where her and my daughter are living (in her parents house). My wife and daughter could spend the weekend here at the apartment and then I could visit there a few days during the week.
3) Buy a house over here, live in it with her and the baby, and try to get her to start her own business in the house. The problem with this is that the housing market here is crazy right now and all the homes are going way above asking price.
I guess this is a big reason why having a job and not your own business sucks :-(. I also feel frustrated because not only do I not get to see my daughter during the week, but sometimes I can't even video call her because someone is always at my wife's house visiting. I was just video calling her a few minutes ago only to be interrupted by her grandmother who wanted to spend time with the baby. The last two weekends she had family visit and they took the baby for most of the day on both Saturday's. I'm annoyed, and looking for suggestions.. Any advice would be helpful!
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