Hey yo, hope everyone had a super awesome Christmas. Hope you have real snow and not the slushy, rainy shit we get in the west coast. Hope you stocked up on egg nogg so you don't have to wait so long until next season. But maybe you're not as much of a junkie for that stuff as I am. Which is a good thing. I should stop drinking it because it's making my skin break out which really sucks, but since I discovered that mixing it in coffee is like taste-bud-gasmic, I've been unable to restrain myself. Fml.
Anyways the reason I've gathered all your eyes is partially because I'm an attention whore, and partially because I have an important message. I want to inject some positivity in your veins. I'm going to make you positivity high and hopefully a positivity junkie.
This is not just positivity like that "just be positive and cut out negativity" bullshit they try to sell you at Chapters (not knocking Chapters, they're alright), but just to try to change your perspective on things.
I'm not really good at this mindset stuff like @AndrewNC , so bear with me if my writing on this seems sloppy, but maybe this might help just a little.
When you think about it, we as human beings tend to live with a sort of comfort zone. There's things we're comfortable with, and things we are not.
We have things we perceive are within our reach and things we perceive as being beyond us.
And it's important to make note of this because really everything in this universe is perception. We like to use thee terms "good and bad" when really they mean nothing on an objective level, yet they mean so much to us personally. "good days, bad days", "good food, bad food", "good neighbourhood, bad neighbourhood" etc. etc.
But these are all perceptions. If you look at a star, is it good or bad? You probably think it's good if it provides your planet with stellar energy, and you would probably think it's bad if it turns into a supernova explosion and smites your galaxy, but ultimately, it's the same star. Does an alien from Terra-72 care whether the neighbourhood is Compton or West Hamptons? Unlikely. It's probably going to enslave the population of both anyways, so it doesn't care. But for you, thinking about either probably triggers a feeling of preference within you. That's your perception speaking, buddy.
We tend to own our perceptions more than we realize. And most people go throughout their lives not realizing their perceptions were crafted without them having prior input.
I hear parents or oldies tell their kids or younger people, "you have to find something realistic to do with your life." You know what I mean? "Realisitc." The F*ck does that mean? I always kinda figured "well if it exists, doesn't that make it realistic?"
But to the people who say this, they feel realistic is synonymous with "it's attainable by what I've allowed myself to believe is my ability."
I remember my friend would always want to be a professional guitar player. He loved music, and he ended up being pretty good at it too. I would go to his house and we'd have jam sessions, and talk about how we're gonna be super awesome famous rock musicians.
When he'd tell this to his parents, they would tell him in the most condescending way possible, "what you wanna do is not realistic!" As if there's some scientific force that would hinder him at all costs if he wanted to achieve this.
Unfortunately, I don't think he ended up pursuing his passion and ended up settling for a sidewalker/slowlane life, at least that's how it sounded when I talked to him last.
This wasn't by choice either. If he would give up on his dream it's because he genuinely didn't think he was capable.
Or in school for example, they teach people to get a salaried job, budget, and save money for retirement. You're taught that you need to present yourself well to a hire authority, and that's how you get through life. I remember reading my friend's Planning class homework and it said, "choose a realistic job you may have in the future."
And it follows folks into their adult life. They see a Toyota Camry, and they think, "that's easy to get. I just need a finance plan, and I'll be driving one."
See a Mercedes Benz E-Class and they think, "that's too expensive, someone like me can't afford that." Completely overlooking the fact that both a Toyota and Mercedes are driven by mere mortals. (Again not a knock against Toyota Camrys, they're pretty dope cars actually).
Actually, my mom gave me some of the best insight I ever got.
We were talking about the world one day, like our over-opinionated selves do, and she said, "probably the reason why there's such a difference between the upper class and lower class is because the lower class are brought up their whole lives to obey authority and conform, while the upper class are brought up being told that they're the ones who will be telling others what to do, and dictating society."
I'm not encouraging a class elitism here, I'm just pointing out how differences in thinking create the realities of each.
It shows that we grow up with our perspectives conditioned for us when our minds are developing, and most people get the chance to try and alter it.
Now I've ranted a lot, if you're still with me, have a cookie and a glass of egg nogg.
*You eat cookie and glass of egg nogg. Om nom nom nom nom nom.
People set limits for themselves and we don't even know it. They assume that having a sports car and mansion is just for other people, and not them. They go through life robotically, playing it safe. They never challenge themselves, they never set out to do something that most people think they can't. They just live in their comfort zone and go through life like they're told they're supposed to.
If you're here though, you're probably not most people. Which is good. Most people are boring anyways.
But maybe you still look at a million dollars as if it were a big goal.
Maybe you want to get into better shape, and think it's going to be a lot a lot a lot a lot of work.
Maybe you need to mend relationships with certain people in your life, but you feel it isn't salvageable.
Here's my perception of you:
You're better than you think you are.
I bet you a million dollars and a gold-plated mummified cat that you're smarter than you've been giving yourself credit for.
I bet that you're just as, if not more capable than anyone at making a million dollars. Total imbeciles become millionaires, I'd bet you can too.
I'd bet that whatever you're trying to achieve, you're more than capable of doing it, even if you don't realize it.
And any indication other wise happened as a result of you not being aware of your capability.
I bet that if you put in the effort, and committed yourself to any goal that was meaningful to you, you would achieve it. I bet you can be a total boss at life if you allow yourself to.
I can't make you do anything though.
It's up to YOU to give yourself permission to be as amazing as you can be.
If something is important enough to you, you'll find a way to make it happen. I believe in you.
Anyways the reason I've gathered all your eyes is partially because I'm an attention whore, and partially because I have an important message. I want to inject some positivity in your veins. I'm going to make you positivity high and hopefully a positivity junkie.
This is not just positivity like that "just be positive and cut out negativity" bullshit they try to sell you at Chapters (not knocking Chapters, they're alright), but just to try to change your perspective on things.
I'm not really good at this mindset stuff like @AndrewNC , so bear with me if my writing on this seems sloppy, but maybe this might help just a little.
When you think about it, we as human beings tend to live with a sort of comfort zone. There's things we're comfortable with, and things we are not.
We have things we perceive are within our reach and things we perceive as being beyond us.
And it's important to make note of this because really everything in this universe is perception. We like to use thee terms "good and bad" when really they mean nothing on an objective level, yet they mean so much to us personally. "good days, bad days", "good food, bad food", "good neighbourhood, bad neighbourhood" etc. etc.
But these are all perceptions. If you look at a star, is it good or bad? You probably think it's good if it provides your planet with stellar energy, and you would probably think it's bad if it turns into a supernova explosion and smites your galaxy, but ultimately, it's the same star. Does an alien from Terra-72 care whether the neighbourhood is Compton or West Hamptons? Unlikely. It's probably going to enslave the population of both anyways, so it doesn't care. But for you, thinking about either probably triggers a feeling of preference within you. That's your perception speaking, buddy.
We tend to own our perceptions more than we realize. And most people go throughout their lives not realizing their perceptions were crafted without them having prior input.
I hear parents or oldies tell their kids or younger people, "you have to find something realistic to do with your life." You know what I mean? "Realisitc." The F*ck does that mean? I always kinda figured "well if it exists, doesn't that make it realistic?"
But to the people who say this, they feel realistic is synonymous with "it's attainable by what I've allowed myself to believe is my ability."
I remember my friend would always want to be a professional guitar player. He loved music, and he ended up being pretty good at it too. I would go to his house and we'd have jam sessions, and talk about how we're gonna be super awesome famous rock musicians.
When he'd tell this to his parents, they would tell him in the most condescending way possible, "what you wanna do is not realistic!" As if there's some scientific force that would hinder him at all costs if he wanted to achieve this.
Unfortunately, I don't think he ended up pursuing his passion and ended up settling for a sidewalker/slowlane life, at least that's how it sounded when I talked to him last.
This wasn't by choice either. If he would give up on his dream it's because he genuinely didn't think he was capable.
Or in school for example, they teach people to get a salaried job, budget, and save money for retirement. You're taught that you need to present yourself well to a hire authority, and that's how you get through life. I remember reading my friend's Planning class homework and it said, "choose a realistic job you may have in the future."
And it follows folks into their adult life. They see a Toyota Camry, and they think, "that's easy to get. I just need a finance plan, and I'll be driving one."
See a Mercedes Benz E-Class and they think, "that's too expensive, someone like me can't afford that." Completely overlooking the fact that both a Toyota and Mercedes are driven by mere mortals. (Again not a knock against Toyota Camrys, they're pretty dope cars actually).
Actually, my mom gave me some of the best insight I ever got.
We were talking about the world one day, like our over-opinionated selves do, and she said, "probably the reason why there's such a difference between the upper class and lower class is because the lower class are brought up their whole lives to obey authority and conform, while the upper class are brought up being told that they're the ones who will be telling others what to do, and dictating society."
I'm not encouraging a class elitism here, I'm just pointing out how differences in thinking create the realities of each.
It shows that we grow up with our perspectives conditioned for us when our minds are developing, and most people get the chance to try and alter it.
Now I've ranted a lot, if you're still with me, have a cookie and a glass of egg nogg.
*You eat cookie and glass of egg nogg. Om nom nom nom nom nom.
People set limits for themselves and we don't even know it. They assume that having a sports car and mansion is just for other people, and not them. They go through life robotically, playing it safe. They never challenge themselves, they never set out to do something that most people think they can't. They just live in their comfort zone and go through life like they're told they're supposed to.
If you're here though, you're probably not most people. Which is good. Most people are boring anyways.
But maybe you still look at a million dollars as if it were a big goal.
Maybe you want to get into better shape, and think it's going to be a lot a lot a lot a lot of work.
Maybe you need to mend relationships with certain people in your life, but you feel it isn't salvageable.
Here's my perception of you:
You're better than you think you are.
I bet you a million dollars and a gold-plated mummified cat that you're smarter than you've been giving yourself credit for.
I bet that you're just as, if not more capable than anyone at making a million dollars. Total imbeciles become millionaires, I'd bet you can too.
I'd bet that whatever you're trying to achieve, you're more than capable of doing it, even if you don't realize it.
And any indication other wise happened as a result of you not being aware of your capability.
I bet that if you put in the effort, and committed yourself to any goal that was meaningful to you, you would achieve it. I bet you can be a total boss at life if you allow yourself to.
I can't make you do anything though.
It's up to YOU to give yourself permission to be as amazing as you can be.
If something is important enough to you, you'll find a way to make it happen. I believe in you.
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