"Pro" Poker Player Rejoining The Entrepreneur Hustle

[AgainstAllOdds]

I would call you an idiot, but I understand why you think the way you do, I am truly one in a billion.

My bad bro.

Didn't realize you're one in a billion.

Sorry for my previous post. Was just trying to help but it came off wrong.

Best of luck.

 

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[AgainstAllOdds]

You're living too much in your head right now. Take a step back and find a way to put things back into perspective.

This forum doesn't matter.
Instagram doesn't matter.
The internet doesn't matter.

What matters most is you. Your goals and whether or not you're achieving them. Your personal happiness.

You're in a relatively new country as an expat, and that can be hard. It can be lonely sometimes (or a lot of times), so what's said on the internet starts to matter more than it does. And day by day it starts to matter more bit by bit. That like on instagram, that message from some random person, that a**hole comment by @AgainstAllOdds.

It messes with your head... and I know it does because I've been there. I've traveled to weird places alone, didn't know many people, and interacted mostly through apps and the internet. It messes with your head and changes your perspective from what actually matters.

You're spending a lot of your time playing poker online. I'm guessing at home. Alone. That takes a lot of mental focus and fatigue.

Coupling that with caffeine abuse, consistent caloric deficits, an environment where you have not yet had time to set roots ... all of that together sets your priorities in the wrong place. You spend a lot of time by yourself on your own pursuits, and in the process lose your perspective of who you are amongst other people.

Reading your posts, seeing your instagram, seeing how you interact with people ... I don't think that your problem is anything mentioned before ... I just think you're lonely. And I don't mean that as an insult, don't take it that way. I just think that you're putting too much weight on everything that doesn't matter and losing focus on what does. The long-run.

If I was you, I'd take a break to get my mind right.

Find someone or a group that you can interact with on a consistent basis.

You like working out. Maybe you can join a sports league, or take group workout classes. Go to a rock climbing gym and find a partner. Go to an MMA gym and make friends there.

You need to create some sort of social consistency that you can turn to. Maybe even something that sounds dumb like playing online poker in a co-working space so that you can become part of a community. Or switch to casinos if it makes sense. You need more interaction with people in person for your own mental health.

The same way you're taking care of your body - take care of your brain. You're pumping it right now with little sleep, high caffeine, low calories, intense attention when playing poker ... You're F*cking it up.

Take a step back. Get your mind right.

Start with the social circle. But don't take your deathpace approach. I'll save you several years of experience... no one cares about the books you're reading beyond 4 sentences. No one cares how highly you think of yourself. They just care about themselves and what they're out there doing. Connect with them on their level and what they're interested in.

And if that doesn't work, then grow some balls and find a professional that you can talk to. You had problems with depression before. There's a good chance you will again. Find someone so that if it ever hits again, you don't have to go through it alone.

I'm pulling for you man. I hope you make it. But I'm also scared for you. You remind me of a few friends that fell off the rails.

You have incredible potential, but you need to start by getting your mind right. Your body, bank account, one in a billion goals, those will all fit perfectly together if your mind is in the right place.

 

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[AgainstAllOdds]

Hey @NVious.

Here's my advice, and I don't mean anything bad by it, just think it's something you need to hear.

I read your first post and thought you were really interesting. I liked your analytical approach, how you broke down the game, how you thought.

Then I read a few more of your posts. Looked at your instagram. Actually took some time to get a better understanding of what's going on.

You mentioned how you struggle to get people to follow up with you. They're receptive at the start and then it dies off.

Here's why I think that is:

You come off as crazy.

It's obvious that you're abusing some sort of substance or mix of substances. My guess is roid rage mixed with too much caffeine (someone that drinks too much caffeine often comes off the same as a cocaine addict, and is not someone that people want to deal with). And the reason I'm saying roids: you have a picture of Zyzz on your instagram who was known for using steroids to transform his life.

People avoid you because you're too much.

Chill out bro lmao

Even in this thread people have picked up on it.

MY IG STORY IS UNLIKE ANYTHING YOU'VE EVER SEEN, I'M ON A DEATHPACE (I'M HIGH ENERGY AF) AND EVERYDAY IS A GOOD DAY TO DIE.

Now, the problem you have is that you don't want to change. You have created this identity for yourself of this "deathpace" guy that doesn't give a F*ck and is super motivated all the time, nothing will stop him and he'll do anything it takes to win.

Unfortunately, that's not someone that people want to be around. That's not someone that people want to do deals with or buy stuff from.

Yeah, you're motivated, but your self-created identity is what's keeping you back.

So my advice to you: Figure out who you actually want to become. What do you want out of life? Think long and hard and actually figure it out. Once you figure it out, change your identity to becoming that guy, and not this high-energy deathpace character that you're playing.

 

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[AgainstAllOdds]

You don’t have to go away man.

Joining this forum means you are a work in progress (like we all are). We all start a different stages and with different challenges. My first threads were a mess ha!

You got great advice on here and you can ask for more if you need to. Just keep being open and be honest with yourself and others.

Don’t bounce and restart somewhere else - that’s going back again to square one. Now that you have made progress on this forum keep going and work on the next challenge.

We all love an underdog story so stick around - you got all the skills to make big things happen. 90% of this is a mental game.

This.

Don't go away. Take a moment and think why do you want this thread deleted and your account banned?

Your ego took a hit. You went in with certain expectations and were met with different ones. It caused discomfort, and now you want to back away from that discomfort. I wouldn't. The greatest personal growth happens when one is out of their comfort zone.

It took you only 1.5 forum pages to take feedback and adjust. You have great self-awareness, and as long as you keep stepping out of your comfort zone, you'll keep making strides to improve yourself and create the life you want. You know how many forum pages it takes the average person to come to the same conclusion that you did? Most people never do. https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...efined-man-authentic-attraction-closed.79804/. Like this idiot for example. 19 forum pages were spent on this guy before the thread was closed, and absolutely nothing positive happened for him from it. He's still writing shitty books scamming people, still living in some Peruvian dorm room, still can't afford to return to the U.S. -- all because he's too proud to admit that he was wrong and he's not as great as he's fooled himself into believing.

You're on track to becoming great as long as you keep seeking experiences, getting feedback, and adjusting accordingly until accomplishing your goal.

Plus, this forum is the easiest way for you to start doing that and "putting yourself out there".

Take another minute and ask yourself: What's the downside? Do you actually care what any of the people on this forum think about you?

As of now, these might as well all be fictional people. No one here knows your real name. No one has met you in person. No one is going to connect this thread to your actual identity as a person.

I've embarrassed myself on this forum a number of times. The last one was my most recent thread where half the people were confused why I made the thread. Some guy even called me an incel. Lol. I blocked him and moved on. F*ck it. What's he going to do? Find my mom and tell her that I made a stupid internet post?

With this forum, you have little to no downside. However, unlike other forums, you have tremendous upside.

You have a community of people that have made it and are willing to help you. You have a group of built in mentors. They see that you're at point 1 and are happy to help you get to point 2, point 3, ... point 50.

@Fox is one of the coolest people you'll ever get feedback from. He's traveling the world wherever he wants, making six figures online, living the life that most of us dreamed of when we decided to hop on this forum.

@MJ DeMarco doesn't need an intro. He's a multi-millionaire, incredibly successful author, with some of the best no-bullshit advice you'll ever get.

Then there's all the other people in this thread that want to help out and have already posted. Then there's the people that are liking posts but haven't posted yet. They're reading this and happy to help you push forward as long as you show initiative.

If you keep making posts, improving, and creating the life you want (without being an a**hole), then a lot of guys here are going to be happy for you. And if they see that change, a lot of them are gonna want to be friends with you.

I have friends from this forum that I've met up with in different cities, states, and countries. I have invites to a couple exotic locations because of this community. And these aren't regular guys that anyone can be friends with. These are successful entrepreneurs that are living life on their terms. You can't get a friend group like that from many other places.

If you leave this forum, then that's what you're missing out on.

On top of that, you're missing out on all the discomfort that can make you great.

Put yourself out there. Make a few different threads. Make a thread for all your poker knowledge if that what you want to share. Make a thread for all the book knowledge (which I'd bet no one will read since the value doesn't outweigh other summaries they can read, but who knows, I'm wrong all the time). And then keep this thread to track your own personal progress and to get help from the community where you need it.

Good luck man.

 

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[Vadim26]

I’ve skimmed through your thread

Point #1: You won’t get very far in life with that attitude. One of our members have tried to help you, but you took his critique as an insult

Point #2: no one here cares about your 6 pack and big biceps, this is a business forum FFS

If you are here to unload your self-help porn you binged for days and then mention you are “1 in a billion” when someone offers your help to - you won’t be welcome here.

It’s a community of humble entrepreneurs / wantrepreneurs with a common goal of building a business, but it seems like you might TOO good for us.

Book “Go giver” will be a great read for you, if you are still with us.

 

[Bertram]

Not taking that question at all in the wrong way, that is probably one of the nicest ways someone has tried to "critique" me in my life.

An opportunity to apply my business knowledge.

I went and counted how many pitches I've made on IG alone, 70+ in the past 1.5 months, all gone basically nowhere.

I hear the same shit, there are very very high level individuals who have explicitly said "we HAVE to meet, face to face" and then it fizzles out, I'll keep trying, but it is what it is. I had one guy who is very VERY important in his industry offer to fly me out to his country to help him with a variety of things, ofc I say yes as I am open as F*ck.

It goes from "yeah I'll pay for everything" to "you buy the ticket" to me saying "I'm having this issue, how do we proceed?" (with the full intention of proceeding) and he ignores me.

I'll give you another example of the shit that happens to me, I met this ex pat here who has been here for 20 years, he was into book summaries from 20 years ago (Soundview), I tell him about the 1.5k books I consumed throuh that format, we hit it off and he gives me his business card as he owns a few in the country. I message him and he ignores me, maybe he'll stop going to Starbucks cuz of me lmao, well that's kinda epic....ruining Starbucks for someone haha!

It is what it is, I personally have grown to love failure and people spitting on me, yeah people will tell me it's a "negative mindset" to think about the world like that (you're here to be spit on), but you do the work I do, deal with the abject failure I have, not just the failure but the euphoria from seemingly catching your break and then it completely fizzling out WEEKLY and at times DAILY (I remember this one day when I had 50 people NOT return my messages (yes I actually counted), felt like the loneliest day in the world tbh fam) and then tell me how you keep going.

Bottom line:
I have my poker and I am best in the world/20,000 or at worst top 3/20,000 so I will continue to crush that where I am basically guaranteed to have long term success, here is a finish that could've basically changed my life with a DASH better luck from last month
View attachment 25411
24/4800 so final .5% where there is basically no difference but a bit of luck between me and the best there.

People don't want one of the most motivated 135 IQ people who has accomplished a ton in his life, has a heart of gold and will help ANYONE, and overcome a lot already, in their lives cuz I'm eccentric and arrogant? Cool, they'll make great footnotes and lessons in my autobiography WHEN I do make it, not a problem.

This is my mindset now:
http://instagr.am/p/BymLqIyDEDB/ View: https://www.instagram.com/p/BymLqIyDEDB/

NO ONE CAN TAKE AWAY MY POKER and in the long run I am GUARANTEED riches (relative to the lifestyle I'm after AND where I live, Bulgaria) with it

http://instagr.am/p/BzGQLrwjKHo/ View: https://www.instagram.com/p/BzGQLrwjKHo/

http://instagr.am/p/BzI9_8oDH5M/ View: https://www.instagram.com/p/BzI9_8oDH5M/

I'll KEEP getting better everyday, I'll study more, I'll train harder, I'm not gonna give up

I ONLY need ONE break then I'm gonna seize that shit, whoever wants to give it to me, I'll 1000X return them on my F*cking life and everything I got, I am an extremely spiteful person and I will wait a lifetime to return people F*cking with me, BUT on the opposite extreme, if you help me I will NEVER forget it and if I can return it in ANY way I will KILL MYSELF (not literally lma0) trying to return the favor

Example of how I return favors, whenever I get good customer service, I always go back the next day and spend $10-15 at a local bakery with some small sweets to thank the people. Some lady gave me a measuring tape when I asked where I could buy one, so I spent $10 on sweets on her the next day, I've done this with a jewellery shop, clothing shop and gym I used to frequent as the people there always helped me.

You blaze with energy. High anxiety too, later in the long introduction.
I think you sense the problem, which could just be off the charts excess norepinephrine. This kind of neurotransmitter imbalance causes one to be overly sensitive, obsessed with details, and easy to displease or offend. Eat brown rice and maybe notice changes in 1-2 days. Stiffness in neck and back is sometimes caused by high iron levels and nothing else, the side effect of eating too much fresh greens. Again, rice and lentils contain lytic acid which will lower iron levels and dissolve the stiffness and pain.
My first read of you was enthusiasm and a body jammed full of pain-induced stress.
Moving on.
Your introduction pulled me in. It became clear that potential and knowledge are bigger focal areas for you than action is. That is the central mistake.
I see decision errors, such as playing chicken with a business prospect over a plane ticket, caused by this attitude.
Second, the scores you report are again focused on ability but not on action.
IQ score has zilch to do with developing the brain's neural network governing executive function. Executive function is the basis for making everyday decisions and having decision-making insight, as well as working out extensive decision trees.
Very successful, creative, powerful people score 112 IQ, but they can also dance circles around someone with 160 or 165 without the aptitude to make the right decision, or, sometimes, make any decision, because whatever their IQ is, the "no need for high IQ" minds not only know the codes to survival, they write them. It is a different kind of aptitude than what IQ measures. Those with the really soaring IQs sometimes fall short in the decision making department because high IQ individuals can be functional illiterates. Successful people without high IQ will blaze with an intelligence that is not viewed as valuable in the traditional educational system. It's still genius. I encourage you to study people you encounter so that you can develop this range of aptitude.
The prison population in the US is teeming with 135 IQs.
It would be more realistic to make the point that focus and diligence can make "anyone" a top champion at games of mental skill such as poker and chess, instead of insisting that you have 1 in a billion potential.

You are looking for like-kind here, and understandably so. You'll find this, once you have removed the coat hanger from the shirt you've got on and start poring through the topics here and learn the mindsets of m/billionaires and others who want to enjoy as many moments of their lives as they can. This will be a journey, not an event.
I would like to follow your progress from being someone surrounded by barriers to entry into any kind of work to a pretty relaxed, formerly fat cat millionaire.


Good luck as you go.

 

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[JamesQB8]

Chill out bro lmao

 

[csalvato]

I went and counted how many pitches I've made on IG alone, 70+ in the past 1.5 months, all gone basically nowhere.

I hear the same shit, there are very very high level individuals who have explicitly said "we HAVE to meet, face to face" and then it fizzles out, I'll keep trying, but it is what it is. I had one guy who is very VERY important in his industry offer to fly me out to his country to help him with a variety of things, ofc I say yes as I am open as F*ck.

It goes from "yeah I'll pay for everything" to "you buy the ticket" to me saying "I'm having this issue, how do we proceed?" (with the full intention of proceeding) and he ignores me.

Anyways, I was actually going to make a useful post before that moron started spouting off total nonsense like not working hard so I can impress moronic lemmings who I spent my entire life trying to impress AND THEY DID NOTHING FOR ME, high level individuals>>>>everything or I'll just use my core skill to grind my way up.

^^ You say you have trouble getting people to work with you...

Then to the people trying to help you, you say:

I would call you an idiot, but I understand why you think the way you do, I am truly one in a billion.

Ok let's have total war.

I've made decisions on partnerships, paying vendors, employees and contractors with the cumulative sum totaling well into the millions.

FWIW, I wouldn't work with you. I'd stay away from you with a 100 ft pole.

You seem like a narcissist that's erratic and all over the place who I couldn't possibly trust with my money, my reputation or my team. Maybe this is why other people wouldn't work with you either?

This is just raw feedback. Take it or leave it.

 

[Veloce Grey]

Just to clarify, as I've gotten a little lazy with my maths due to old age and the fact I am an actual crazy drug addict, but are you saying there's roughly 7.5 of you on this Earth?

 

[Fox]

You don’t have to go away man.

Joining this forum means you are a work in progress (like we all are). We all start a different stages and with different challenges. My first threads were a mess ha!

You got great advice on here and you can ask for more if you need to. Just keep being open and be honest with yourself and others.

Don’t bounce and restart somewhere else - that’s going back again to square one. Now that you have made progress on this forum keep going and work on the next challenge.

We all love an underdog story so stick around - you got all the skills to make big things happen. 90% of this is a mental game.

 

[Kak]

I must admit... I saw the avatar. I instantly hit the ignore button. Then I see where this thread has gone.

@NVious I am curious; what made you decide to use that as avatar? This is a business forum not a muscle forum.

Also, you clearly want sympathy now... Why?

Why not just be sincere, "put your cards on the table" and let folks actually help you?

You also joined this forum for a reason. You didn't do it just to post an intro thread and quit. You probably did it to learn and you learned a LOT in a few days about the bad taste you leave with everyone. That is invaluable and actionable. Maybe read "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

This forum has done wonders in immediately helping you uncover some things that need addressed. That is amazing to me. You won't find that anywhere else.

The time it takes to post isn't an excuse. Take it from me, someone who has posted thousands of times here over 10 years... The forum gives more than it takes and this thread is no exception.

 

[NVious]

Apologies

 

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[msufan]

As someone who is up $290,000+ (lifetime) through online gaming, I have seen that the window of opportunity for gaming is very brief. It is likely that your variant of poker will get more difficult in the future. I think you are wise to exploit your advantage in that department for as long as possible.

Regarding poker coaching, it sounds like you are currently coaching and then staking other players. You might also consider doing some straight up coaching at a per hour rate as well, but of course these players could become your own opposition, so you have to be careful with that.

You talk about "arrogance" and "rudeness" as two character traits of yours. I would encourage you to think of these as things that can be changed. I can tend toward a mindset like yours too ("Of course I think my opinion is right; otherwise I wouldn't hold that opinion, would I?" -- that sort of thing), and I think it goes hand-in-hand with what has made you excellent in making poker decisions and creating a winning formula for the variant you play.

Online poker is a selfish, lonely game, and so I would urge you to use a large percentage of your non-poker time thinking about and working with other people. This will help to beat back the arrogant or rude tendencies you may have, and it will help you to gain the relationships you are hoping for.

Building side projects and an entrepreneurial hustle to go with your poker profits is a great idea as well.

 

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[John Clancy]

Best of luck, OP.

If you need to talk to someone, I urge you to do as @AgainstAllOdds has recommended above and find a professional. Someone in-person preferably (as that could be exactly what you're missing).

However, if you need to, don't hesitate to reach out here on the forum.

As you've seen, other people have been in similar situations to you before and overcome them. Sometimes you need the perspective of someone who's "been there, done that" to get past whatever obstacle you're facing.

You seem like a smart guy. Lots of potential, some interesting perspectives, plenty of knowledge to share.... so stick around. Contribute to the forum, read the Gold Threads, talk about your challenges honestly & openly.

No one here will think any less of you if you're not "one in a billion".

By definition, pretty much no one is. And that's fine. You can still have a great life and achieve all that you want to without being the best in the world at all you do.

Self-improvement is great, but don't allow it to consume you and drive you to a place of perpetual unhappiness - the kind that manifests in flexing and stunting on Internet people.

I hope you find your path... and I look forward to seeing more from you here on the forum.

Best of luck!

 

[Andy Black]

I just need to work on myself and accept responsibility, the best way to ensure my odds of that happening is for a perm ban.

Or you could trawl the forums and find people who are struggling or who put effort into a helpful post and either Like the post or reply to encourage them.

Start replies with “Thanks for ...” and then expand on it. Explain how it’s helped you, and what you’ll do different going forward.

Lurking is being on team consumer. Business owners are on team producer.

Why not be the best version of yourself you can be while interacting anonymously in the forum? Like discussed here:

• It's just a forum

 

[msufan]

I would just say that no one usually changes their mind on the internet; everyone just entrenches further into their own opinion. The fact that you changed your mind and realized others' opinions had some merit is remarkable. For that reason, I hope you don't go down the permanent ban route.

 

[NVious]

Apologies

 

[jjipkr]

Will you launch a course?

 

[Fox]

You're living too much in your head right now. Take a step back and find a way to put things back into perspective.

This forum doesn't matter.
Instagram doesn't matter.
The internet doesn't matter.

What matters most is you. Your goals and whether or not you're achieving them. Your personal happiness.

You're in a relatively new country as an expat, and that can be hard. It can be lonely sometimes (or a lot of times), so what's said on the internet starts to matter more than it does. And day by day it starts to matter more bit by bit. That like on instagram, that message from some random person, that a**hole comment by @AgainstAllOdds.

It messes with your head... and I know it does because I've been there. I've traveled to weird places alone, didn't know many people, and interacted mostly through apps and the internet. It messes with your head and changes your perspective from what actually matters.

You're spending a lot of your time playing poker online. I'm guessing at home. Alone. That takes a lot of mental focus and fatigue.

Coupling that with caffeine abuse, consistent caloric deficits, an environment where you have not yet had time to set roots ... all of that together sets your priorities in the wrong place. You spend a lot of time by yourself on your own pursuits, and in the process lose your perspective of who you are amongst other people.

Reading your posts, seeing your instagram, seeing how you interact with people ... I don't think that your problem is anything mentioned before ... I just think you're lonely. And I don't mean that as an insult, don't take it that way. I just think that you're putting too much weight on everything that doesn't matter and losing focus on what does. The long-run.

If I was you, I'd take a break to get my mind right.

Find someone or a group that you can interact with on a consistent basis.

You like working out. Maybe you can join a sports league, or take group workout classes. Go to a rock climbing gym and find a partner. Go to an MMA gym and make friends there.

You need to create some sort of social consistency that you can turn to. Maybe even something that sounds dumb like playing online poker in a co-working space so that you can become part of a community. Or switch to casinos if it makes sense. You need more interaction with people in person for your own mental health.

The same way you're taking care of your body - take care of your brain. You're pumping it right now with little sleep, high caffeine, low calories, intense attention when playing poker ... You're F*cking it up.

Take a step back. Get your mind right.

Start with the social circle. But don't take your deathpace approach. I'll save you several years of experience... no one cares about the books you're reading beyond 4 sentences. No one cares how highly you think of yourself. They just care about themselves and what they're out there doing. Connect with them on their level and what they're interested in.

And if that doesn't work, then grow some balls and find a professional that you can talk to. You had problems with depression before. There's a good chance you will again. Find someone so that if it ever hits again, you don't have to go through it alone.

I'm pulling for you man. I hope you make it. But I'm also scared for you. You remind me of a few friends that fell off the rails.

You have incredible potential, but you need to start by getting your mind right. Your body, bank account, one in a billion goals, those will all fit perfectly together if your mind is in the right place.

Dude you got to be one of my favorite posters on here - always dropping gems like this in random threads.

Thanks - I get tons of value from what you post.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

morons like you can't take away my poker

With statements like these, your thread (and your account here) was going off the rails and in jeopardy. Great to see you take a breather and come to some sense.

Dude you got to be one of my favorite posters on here - always dropping gems like this in random threads.

Agreed, just followed @AgainstAllOdds -- I totally forgot about the "follow" function.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

@NVious -- someone recommended Eckard Tolle as an author to read, I'll suggest someone similar: The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245379/?tag=tff-amazonparser-20

While it seems to be a spiritual book it really deals with our internal narratives and dialogues the flood our mind and cause our egos to lash out, many times, negatively. When we understand our mind-ego-soul connection, we have a better way of managing the moments that seem to threaten our sense of self.

Even MJ who is a great guy admits my account was in jeoprardy, again I started this thread in order to help people, but now it's obvious that not only can I not do that, but I have A TON of work before I can even begin to make basic human connections again, so it's best for everyone if I go away.

No need to over-react. You posted some great resources from your library until the thread got off the rails.

While we usually don't allow content to be deleted, I allowed it to remain deleted. You have a fresh start here and earned some respect with your ability to do some self-reflection.

All of us our growing in our heads, even me.

 

[NVious]

Apologies

 

[Kid]

Let me give you this advice. (I'm not sure if you want it or not).

You tried to get others to partner with you or hire you and they didn't respond.
At same time you thought yourself play poker and you excel at it.

It might seem that your strength lies in doing things on your own.

So maybe, you could refocus a little to not to find someone with opportunity
but something you could alone.

 

[Rosebudd]

You don't want help, you want praise. Yes, you're exceptional in Poker. You do lack everything else. You can't deal with people. You will never have good partnerships in the future. You are better at poker, don't forget that. That does not make you the salt of the earth, it makes you a very competent poker player.

Until you learn to actually deal with people, forget about ever owning a business mate. Best of success, I would be a customer of your course, but i'd never want anything to do with you, and if you read all other comments left on the thread, the sentiment is rather unanimous across the board. Take the hint or go on and tell me more about how you're "one in a billion" in order to feel good about yourself.

 

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[Bertram]

Best of luck, OP.

If you need to talk to someone, I urge you to do as @AgainstAllOdds has recommended above and find a professional. Someone in-person preferably (as that could be exactly what you're missing).

However, if you need to, don't hesitate to reach out here on the forum.

As you've seen, other people have been in similar situations to you before and overcome them. Sometimes you need the perspective of someone who's "been there, done that" to get past whatever obstacle you're facing.

You seem like a smart guy. Lots of potential, some interesting perspectives, plenty of knowledge to share.... so stick around. Contribute to the forum, read the Gold Threads, talk about your challenges honestly & openly.

No one here will think any less of you if you're not "one in a billion".

By definition, pretty much no one is. And that's fine. You can still have a great life and achieve all that you want to without being the best in the world at all you do.

Self-improvement is great, but don't allow it to consume you and drive you to a place of perpetual unhappiness - the kind that manifests in flexing and stunting on Internet people.

I hope you find your path... and I look forward to seeing more from you here on the forum.

Best of luck!

All due respect, the common understanding among therapists and counselors is to try friendship first.

If that doesn't do the trick, then look into therapy.

How to decide on friendships:
1. Identify your friendship criteria. List all qualities yosu want in a real friend.
Everything: Empathy. Engagement. Go for 100 characteristics.
List all qualities you don't want an actual, real-life friend to have. Dishonesty? Tolerates deceit? Likes to play head games? Does not feed the mind, ever, ever?
2. Review current friends, almost friends, pseudo friends. Out go the losers.
3. You now have a search image for a good friend and you're primed to recognize them.

How to drop loneliness:
Human mammals stress out in isolation. Sometimes the stress feels good, but the brain ultimately needs social interactions. You don't need anything demanding, just a little transaction like buying a coffee is enough. You need moments where you look someone in the eye, listen for the underlying mood in their conversation, read a look on someone's face. Ask simply how their day is going. Expect little.

If that works well and your stress can subside, you'll go further than you would with a therapist.

Try the real thing first, the right friendships for you.



If that fails, only then, you should try therapy.
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[John Clancy]

You don’t have to go away man.

Joining this forum means you are a work in progress (like we all are). We all start a different stages and with different challenges. My first threads were a mess ha!

You got great advice on here and you can ask for more if you need to. Just keep being open and be honest with yourself and others.

Don’t bounce and restart somewhere else - that’s going back again to square one. Now that you have made progress on this forum keep going and work on the next challenge.

We all love an underdog story so stick around - you got all the skills to make big things happen. 90% of this is a mental game.

No one was harmed.
The dude who called you crazy and said he'd never work with you is a no-nonsense guy, is expert at working the room, and is ONLY ONE DUDE.
Let it go.
Over time details are forgotten.

Or you could trawl the forums and find people who are struggling or who put effort into a helpful post and either Like the post or reply to encourage them.

Start replies with “Thanks for ...” and then expand on it. Explain how it’s helped you, and what you’ll do different going forward.

Lurking is being on team consumer. Business owners are on team producer.

Why not be the best version of yourself you can be while interacting anonymously in the forum? Like discussed here:

• It's just a forum

Some great advice given here, so I won't tread over the same ground.

Let me just add this:

I believe that most of the stuff that happens to us lacks any inherent meaning. Few things in life are good or bad for their own sake. It's up to you to decide what it means for yourself.

Let's say you're on a six-year winning streak with your poker system. Depending on how you view it, that could mean one of two things:

1. You're a god among men, or
2. There's a six-year losing streak lurking just around the corner

(Not a perfect analogy, but bear with me)

Similarly, you can view your eye-opening experience here on the forum in one of two ways....

1. Something to beat yourself up over ("I can't believe I was like that! I'm such a POS! Ban me!")
2. A wake up call, and a catalyst to inspire you to behave better ("I can't believe I was like that! I'll do better moving forward and work on xyz to improve")

The moment has come and gone.

Your posts are gone.

In six months or a year, no one here will know what you posted here initially (and those that do likely won't care).

It's up to you to decide what it means.

If you want to leave the forum, then you're free to leave. If you feel it's taking up too much of your time and distracting you from your goals, then I'd applaud your decision to limit your use.

But don't go because you feel you've made an irreparable mistake. Plenty of people have chimed in here to tell you you're being too hard on yourself, and to give yourself a second chance at doing things right.

Take an objective standpoint and imagine this from our perspective - a guy comes in hot, is chastised for his bravado/arrogance, and retracts his statements. He then wants to leave the forum entirely and be perma banned because he doesn't feel he can make things right or fix his behaviour enough to matter.

If it was anyone else, would you think that sounds reasonable? Or would it be an overreaction?

This is about more than the decision to leave or stay here. I think it's one small manifestation of a bigger challenge you're facing... being able to face uncomfortable situations & truths without turning away.

Take some time to think about what has been said in this thread. Reflect on it. Don't make a split-second decision, and don't be so hard on yourself.

 

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[ilidek]

How come that you write you are the best and you give no sample? 40k hands is like month of work. Your stackes are also low. Best dude with average buy in 50? Top regs have hourly like 500 usd/h+.


"You don't want help, you want praise. Yes, you're exceptional in Poker. "
He IS not. He's winnings really don't tell anything about him. He could win two torunaments what means literally nothing.

 

[NVious]

While I'm saddened that you destroyed the content of this thread, I will assume that you may have had a change in perspective?

Yes sir, thank you for the feedback, I will now be implementing it.

Cheers.

 

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[Bertram]

Can't close out last few weeks, oh well I'll take the profit, it is what it is. My mindset isn't as tanked as it has been before during similar stretches, I know wins will come

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Really loving the horrendous opinion given above being liked, gives me so much motivation. Imagine going into someone's log who is 1/20,000 in a skill level that earns them a ton of money relative to their country and telling them they need to figure out what to do, they are crazy, they are on drugs and they are on steroids because they like to post about business, motivation and self improvement on a forum built for these. It's ok, I truly appreciate it:

1.For motivation
2.For how funny this is going to be when I make it

Funniest thing of all:

I'm not 1 in a billion? Ok

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Find me anyone who is 1/20,000 or around there in a field
Find me someone who posts as much business related subject matter that is actually interesting and quality
They must also workout and post as much as I do daily
AND they must have had a dormant instagram (I didn't even use IG until two months ago for 5 years)

Go ahead, you guys liked his post, go BTFO me. Waiting on it, oh wait people are even liking a post making wild claims about drug use with ZERO proof in MY thread where I impose myself on NO one and ask for ZERO advice.

Anyways, let's keep it quality and not allow lowest common denominators and democracy to ruin everything as they always do

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Art of Profitability, read it!

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Bro, I think it will be an amazing win when you discover the problem going on.

This forum contains a generous bunch of people, but how would you know that when you don't bother to start reading the insights and advice in the threads? Instead you deliberately misread and then overeact to comments.
You need soft skills. That means practicing those abi!ities, as they are obviously very, very weak. Instead you are hiding in that swampland of mostly - mostly - uninteresting flotsam which no one needs to read, not one iota.

Why is that?

You should read the threads before you post any more swampage so that you will see that most readers here are:

1. way ahead of you, lightyears more knowing than you are
2. newbies who can tell an expert from a wantrepreneur
3. people who value "efficacy."
Your posts offer little to no return for the time invested to clamber down twenty inches of ho-hum and chaos.

Againstallodds is a heart-centered wiseman. He absolutely said nothing to offend. You grabbed at the chance to be victimized. He did not make "wild accusations." And if his idea was correct, so what? Be grateful for the information.

Don't be scandalized by tips on mood disorders or addiction.

Bulgaria is a really harsh country for a self-isolating ex-pat. You are super vigilant at work and play (hence norepinephrine flood).

Can you go walk in a forest?

Also, I think you should protect your course outline at this stage of the game. You should edit that comment and cut it.

Those haphazard, swamplandian comments also make you come across as someone who does not know the first thing about teaching, let alone course development. This is another reason to start whittling, STAT.

 

[Kid]

So what do you lack?

Take this question as tough love kind of q.