Lost Guy...Want direction.

[Change]

<div class="bbWrapper">Hello everyone...<br /> <br /> You have all probably read my publishing thread &quot;Change made 500,000 sales&quot; or something like that...and people think its preposterous...I need to &quot;grow up?&quot;<br /> <br /> I will be 24 years old in May and will graduate with a bachelors degree in accounting...EVEN AS I will despise working for someone else.<br /> <br /> I know my life isn&#039;t where it should be, and I know where I want it to be, but I&#039;m lost. Publishing...sounds great to sell all those books but can I really do it? I think it takes longer than the normal business-transaction-length as well.<br /> <br /> I was wondering if it were possible to receive some guidance? I have read the millionaire fastlane, have interests in importing/exporting (but I don&#039;t want to import or export things that aren&#039;t going to lead to a few thousand dollars in profits per deal). I have interests in membership sites- but that is going to take a much longer time to start up again. <br /> <br /> I have tried ecommerce sites- I&#039;d develop the site, choose the product etc and it would just stall there. I&#039;d be stuck as to where to go next and a year later when its time to renew the domain I just let it die off (I&#039;ve done this on multiple occassions).<br /> <br /> I&#039;m not great at any 1 thing (I don&#039;t think), but I know a good deal about a lot (which isn&#039;t really helping me)...but I SURELY DO NOT KNOW what I need to know to <b>actually</b> succeed.<br /> <br /> I want to get something rolling, so when May 15 comes around and I&#039;m handed that Diploma, I don&#039;t have to get a job, I can just continue with my new business that I hope I start as a result of the help/information/direction you all here are giving.<br /> <br /> I&#039;m incredibly lost. I thought publishing would be my ticket, and at 8,000 words :/ I&#039;ve got a long way to go, I can&#039;t keep up with 2k words a day and I&#039;m ashamed of myself for it. I&#039;ll still write that book and do what I wanted with it but.... that isn&#039;t going to help my current situation.<br /> <br /> To get to the point<br /> I&#039;m lost.<br /> <br /> I want to do something where I would<br /> 1. Sell something through a eCommerce site.<br /> 2. Import/export goods.<br /> 3. Can&#039;t be publishing as the results of having some income coming in monthly by May isn&#039;t probable at the rate of my writing.<br /> <br /> My goal is to make $ 1,000 a week profit.<br /> I must make $ 4k a month profit, in order to not be &quot;forced&quot; to get a job by domineering family (father), who won&#039;t let me move out (let alone, I have $ 0.00 in my bank account and credit cards that need to get paid) so moving out is not even an option. I&#039;m single- I &quot;suck at life&quot; is what my sister would say- I kind of agree.<br /> <br /> I must be making 4k minimum a month by the time I get handed my accounting diploma on May 15th or I&#039;m a DEAD MAN...I mean, might as well just kill myself because I think I&#039;d be an incredible failure at everything.<br /> <br /> I&#039;m at a very bad financial position. I obviously can&#039;t think straight with goal setting as per my publishing thread.<br /> <br /> I need to be realistic.<br /> <br /> <b>I WILL NOT SLEEP<br /> I WILL NOT EAT<br /> I WILL NOT DRINK<br /> I WILL NOT PEE</b><br /> <br /> <b>IF I CANNOT FIND A WAY TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN- AND IF I AM TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN.</b><br /> <br /> <b>I sound so pathetic, but </b>dam. I need to change. <br /> <br /> Any help/comments/anything I AM ALL EARS. I will do ANYTHING, EVERYTHING as long as it does not involved getting a &quot;job,&quot; in order to meet my goals.<br /> <br /> I have exactly 53 days from today to make it happen.<br /> <br /> Hope I can get some help.</div>

 

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[Sisyphus]

<div class="bbWrapper">Man... reading all this and your last thread makes me so sad. <br /> <br /> I mean having ambition is good because it propels one to work and take action. However, there are qualitative differences among ambition too. The ambition you have just seem so frantic and out of control. <br /> <br /> A week ago, in the other thread you were so motivated, that it it made you seem delusional.<br /> A week later, this depressing shit pops up.<br /> <br /> Watch the mental hygiene man. This is not healthy<br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 30170" data-quote="Change" data-source="post: 448245" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=448245" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-448245">Change said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> <b>I WILL NOT SLEEP<br /> I WILL NOT EAT<br /> I WILL NOT DRINK<br /> I WILL NOT PEE</b><br /> <br /> <b>IF I CANNOT FIND A WAY TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN- AND IF I AM TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN.</b> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Let loose a little. Laugh at your self more.</div>

 

[Vigilante]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 30170" data-quote="Change" data-source="post: 448245" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=448245" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-448245">Change said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Hello everyone...<br /> <br /> You have all probably read my publishing thread &quot;Change made 500,000 sales&quot; or something like that...and people think its preposterous...I need to &quot;grow up?&quot;<br /> <br /> I will be 24 years old in May and will graduate with a bachelors degree in accounting...EVEN AS I will despise working for someone else.<br /> <br /> I know my life isn&#039;t where it should be, and I know where I want it to be, but I&#039;m lost. Publishing...sounds great to sell all those books but can I really do it? I think it takes longer than the normal business-transaction-length as well.<br /> <br /> I was wondering if it were possible to receive some guidance? I have read the millionaire fastlane, have interests in importing/exporting (but I don&#039;t want to import or export things that aren&#039;t going to lead to a few thousand dollars in profits per deal). I have interests in membership sites- but that is going to take a much longer time to start up again.<br /> <br /> I have tried ecommerce sites- I&#039;d develop the site, choose the product etc and it would just stall there. I&#039;d be stuck as to where to go next and a year later when its time to renew the domain I just let it die off (I&#039;ve done this on multiple occassions).<br /> <br /> I&#039;m not great at any 1 thing (I don&#039;t think), but I know a good deal about a lot (which isn&#039;t really helping me)...but I SURELY DO NOT KNOW what I need to know to <b>actually</b> succeed.<br /> <br /> I want to get something rolling, so when May 15 comes around and I&#039;m handed that Diploma, I don&#039;t have to get a job, I can just continue with my new business that I hope I start as a result of the help/information/direction you all here are giving.<br /> <br /> I&#039;m incredibly lost. I thought publishing would be my ticket, and at 8,000 words :/ I&#039;ve got a long way to go, I can&#039;t keep up with 2k words a day and I&#039;m ashamed of myself for it. I&#039;ll still write that book and do what I wanted with it but.... that isn&#039;t going to help my current situation.<br /> <br /> To get to the point<br /> I&#039;m lost.<br /> <br /> I want to do something where I would<br /> 1. Sell something through a eCommerce site.<br /> 2. Import/export goods.<br /> 3. Can&#039;t be publishing as the results of having some income coming in monthly by May isn&#039;t probable at the rate of my writing.<br /> <br /> My goal is to make $ 1,000 a week profit.<br /> I must make $ 4k a month profit, in order to not be &quot;forced&quot; to get a job by domineering family (father), who won&#039;t let me move out (let alone, I have $ 0.00 in my bank account and credit cards that need to get paid) so moving out is not even an option. I&#039;m single- I &quot;suck at life&quot; is what my sister would say- I kind of agree.<br /> <br /> I must be making 4k minimum a month by the time I get handed my accounting diploma on May 15th or I&#039;m a DEAD MAN...I mean, might as well just kill myself because I think I&#039;d be an incredible failure at everything.<br /> <br /> I&#039;m at a very bad financial position. I obviously can&#039;t think straight with goal setting as per my publishing thread.<br /> <br /> I need to be realistic.<br /> <br /> <b>I WILL NOT SLEEP<br /> I WILL NOT EAT<br /> I WILL NOT DRINK<br /> I WILL NOT PEE</b><br /> <br /> <b>IF I CANNOT FIND A WAY TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN- AND IF I AM TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN.</b><br /> <br /> <b>I sound so pathetic, but </b>dam. I need to change.<br /> <br /> Any help/comments/anything I AM ALL EARS. I will do ANYTHING, EVERYTHING as long as it does not involved getting a &quot;job,&quot; in order to meet my goals.<br /> <br /> I have exactly 53 days from today to make it happen.<br /> <br /> Hope I can get some help. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <br /> Get a job. Live life. Save some money. Grow up a bit. Move out. Start life. Then worry about all of the stuff later. You&#039;re not mentally stable enough to do what you want to do right now. You need to relax and live life for a while and come back at this later.</div>

 

[Even Steven]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 30170" data-quote="Change" data-source="post: 448245" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=448245" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-448245">Change said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Any help/comments/anything I AM ALL EARS. I will do ANYTHING, EVERYTHING as long as it does not involved getting a &quot;job,&quot; in order to meet my goals. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/30170/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="30170" data-username="@Change">@Change</a>, I think you need to stop worrying so much about whether you hit that goal or not. You&#039;re going to give yourself a stroke. <br /> <br /> I&#039;m not saying don&#039;t try...definitely try for all you&#039;re worth, but realize that getting a job for now isn&#039;t the end of the world. Most of us on here still have day jobs while we work on building a business.<br /> <br /> Having said that, if you want to start making SOMETHING right away, I&#039;d check out this thread. It&#039;s not going to make you rich over night, but it earned <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/989/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="989" data-username="@GrumpyCat">@GrumpyCat</a> his freedom after a while.<br /> <br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/a-hustlers-guide-to-buying-and-selling-anything-part-1.35889/" class="link link--internal">https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...-to-buying-and-selling-anything-part-1.35889/</a></div>

 

[Change]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 29305" data-quote="Sisyphus" data-source="post: 448249" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=448249" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-448249">Sisyphus said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Watch the mental hygiene man. This is not healthy </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote> Theres something wrong with me lol. One day I can be x the next its gone. Then I just watch it come back in eventuality :/ I have a hormonal imbalance.<br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 8202" data-quote="Vigilante" data-source="post: 448252" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=448252" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-448252">Vigilante said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> You&#039;re not mentally stable enough to do what you want to do right now. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>You are right as to my stability, I won&#039;t deny that.<br /> <br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/27324/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="27324" data-username="@Even Steven">@Even Steven</a> I&#039;ll take a read on that. Thanks for the link. Developing another &quot;plan&quot; something smaller to help reach my goals little by little.</div>

 

[timmy]

<div class="bbWrapper">OP ...sorry. ..I didn&#039;t read 90 % of your post as it was too longwinded. Here&#039;s my 2 cents worth. ..........Get up really early and take a quick 2 minute shower. Get dressed and Take a long 60 minute walk and/or jog in the morning air. Repeat every morning until you discover and define who you are and what you want to do in this wonderful world. Don&#039;t make demands on anyone or anything. Life owes you nothing. We as humans think, work, and rationalise best within the first two hours after waking up. Then when you&#039;re happy to move on I suggest you google &quot;miracle Morning&quot; and do exactly what it says on the tin. Wishing you well. timmy</div>

 

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[timmy]

<div class="bbWrapper">And.........Stay Cool man<br /> wishing you well .....timmy</div>

 

[Mattie]

<div class="bbWrapper">Worry, Anxiety, Stress......That needs to get under control. Which means you&#039;d have do something besides read the miracle morning. Yes that&#039;s part of it, but what are you doing to let go of the stress and mindset. None of this is going to be fast. And so let go of the expectations. Accept your circumstances in the present moment. Know they are temporary, and without taking some kind of action, it will delay your progress. <br /> <br /> So a normal job at the moment pays your bills and funds your project. The hardest part is understanding we do this to ourselves when we start focusing on the problems instead of looking at all the solutions. A regular job is a temporary solution. Find another one and another one and another one. It&#039;s kind of like building your life brick by brick. In the Netherlands I look at brick walls in the neighborhood. How many bricks are in a house. Even the person that put all those bricks there, didn&#039;t do it over night.<br /> <br /> From the writer aspect, I can tell you I wrote every day for three years on Hubpages day after day in my free time. And still write a lot. I do 6,000 words to 10,000 a day. This doesn&#039;t mean I&#039;m where I need to be. Fortunately writing is forever growing and developing like any other activity in life. Practice and practice and practice. And I didn&#039;t get that fast over night. I had to do it every day. Hours and hours just writing whatever I felt like writing about.<br /> <br /> If you want to publish, you will have to do the work of learning everything about writing and publishing. And like I read today, you can be the best writer in the world and have no marketing skills. And I guess some woman was really upset over the idea a competitor was more successful just for that reason. He had marketing skills and she didn&#039;t. <br /> <br /> Whatever you choose to do, you have to have the right mindset, discipline, motivation, determination, and drive to accomplish your goal. And not an easy road to be an entrepreneur if you don&#039;t take care of the mindset. <br /> <br /> And I can tell you I was freaking out about writing fiction the last two times I checked in with this workshop, and the instructor&#039;s impressed with my work, and sees something some other writers today in our time don&#039;t have. So, the thing is we can stress and be filled with anxiety, and don&#039;t need to be if we&#039;re taking action and applying ourselves.<br /> <br /> I&#039;m trying to change some of my habits and style as writer right now and breaking bad habits. So the thing is you just have to see it as moving through one level at a time. You start on the first level and keep moving up the ladder. <br /> <br /> Sure, there are some that think it will happen over night and try to hurry, but I don&#039;t believe they&#039;re J.K. Rowling after there first novel or short stories. There&#039;s so much involved in it, and to learn as you go. I suppose every writer will tell you that. <br /> <br /> They say time yourself, so get a timer and type for 15 minutes a day. For me I never paid attention until this year. I didn&#039;t care. I just wrote because I love writing and it just came natural. I don&#039;t focus on word count. I don&#039;t time myself. <br /> <br /> You can write a great story 150 words 500 words. And this is where they have me write now. lol And why would you have someone like me going back to small word counts. Every paragraph has a beginning, middle, and end. Every sentence counts, and what words you use. <br /> <br /> It challenges you to think differently then just writing on and on and on. You have to discipline yourself to say it the write way, with the write words, and getting to the point. <br /> <br /> I don&#039;t know what you&#039;re writing, but I wouldn&#039;t worry about the word count, but the quality, and what your message is. And that&#039;s a challenge in itself. <br /> <br /> The future will not come any faster because you&#039;re in a hurry. I know we&#039;d like it to happen fast, but I&#039;m thankful most of the time it hasn&#039;t happen fast. And why do I say that? I look back at where I&#039;ve been and I wasn&#039;t ready at the time for many things in any of my projects. I may have thought I was, but I wasn&#039;t. And we seem to have expectations and we get disappointed when it doesn&#039;t happen when we want it too. It happens when we&#039;re ready for it to happen and put in the time to know what we&#039;re exactly doing. <br /> <br /> Stressing yourself out is a waste of time. Anxiety is a waste of time. Learn to breathe and relax and stay in the now. The future will get here soon enough, and you do need to be prepared for it, and if you&#039;re not prepared you can only imagine you won&#039;t succeed as much you want too, because you won&#039;t have the prep work done.<br /> <br /> Like today I got a bad review on a book. I just laughed because the person just didn&#039;t want to hear the truth and play victim. So, I suppose if I hadn&#039;t already got my feet wet with reviews, I would have freaked out. Reviews are part of the process of publishing, so you can be smacked hard mentally, so if you don&#039;t have the right mindset, your business will be in trouble. Reviews on sites, products, etc. Customer service. <br /> <br /> Are you prepared? Instead of worrying about it all, do what they&#039;re telling you to do on here. They&#039;re not saying it for the fun of it. I thought I was ready for the publishing world in 2012. I wasn&#039;t by a long shot. I wanted to get published like last year, and it wasn&#039;t the right time either. And I see that. Sure, you can rush things, but I don&#039;t think rushing to the finish line will give you the victory and last for the long-term. <br /> <br /> I practice and throw it out there and experiment. My expectations right now are to learn the ropes and know how to market, what people like, what they hate, and I&#039;m learning. So, when it comes time for my Novel to be revised, I know what to throw out and what to keep. <br /> <br /> I suppose it only matters what your goals are, and why you&#039;re doing something. Just starting any project that comes to mind isn&#039;t a good way. There is a process and I&#039;ve learned to love the process. lol Even if I have to learn a foreign language, I can get frustrated for a second. I know it just is a process, I make mistakes, and keep practicing. So, I&#039;m sure one day I will speak Dutch. Just write now it seems hard because it&#039;s the beginning and I haven&#039;t hit the middle, and I have a long ways to go to reach the ending.</div>

 

[Daniel A]

<div class="bbWrapper"><b><span style="color: #00b3b3"><i>Weeewaaax brooo</i></span></b>. (Translation: Relax)<br /> <br /> Take some <b>DEEP</b> breaths. Seriously, <i>do it right now.<br /> <br /> Breath in, breath out...<br /> <br /> <i>Breath in, breath out...</i></i><br /> <br /> Keep breathing deep until you feel more at ease and have more mental clarity...<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> You need to access your situation with a better state of mind. In order to achieve your big goals you definitely need a better state of mind too. You&#039;ll get there, but in time.<br /> <br /> Focus on taking care of yourself right now.<br /> <br /> What Vigilante said is what seems best for you. It really does...<br /> <br /> <b>You&#039;ll get there bro</b>, <i>so don&#039;t worry about that now.</i><br /> <br /> Do you run? Try running outside often. Even walking outside would be great.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Post back here when you feel better because that&#039;s what you need to focus on right now. From there you can make more progress. <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-smile2.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" data-shortname=":)" /></div>

 

[Change]

<div class="bbWrapper">Mattie, impeccable long post there. Thank you for taking the time to write here to me about that. Its helpful, and you and DanielTArgueta may be right as the rest of the people here are right- I need to relax, even if I do see people my age way ahead of where I am and ahead of where I want to be.</div>

 

[jmusic]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 30170" data-quote="Change" data-source="post: 448282" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=448282" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-448282">Change said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Mattie, impeccable long post there. Thank you for taking the time to write here to me about that. Its helpful, and you and DanielTArgueta may be right as the rest of the people here are right- I need to relax, even if I do see people my age way ahead of where I am and ahead of where I want to be. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote> <br /> No matter where you are there&#039;s always someone &quot;ahead&quot; of you. Mark Zuckerberg is younger than I am, but worrying about that won&#039;t change my situation one iota. Word of advice: Get off of Facebook, as that&#039;s a constant stream of other people&#039;s highlight reels (most people don&#039;t post downer stuff there).</div>

 

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