How to respond to needy people? **Pics**

[Evil_Jester]

<div class="bbWrapper">They will start off with a compliment. I say thanks. Then they slowly drop the bomb. <br /> How do you save your time while not pissing off a fan? Do you ignore completely when they ask? Do you give cold love? Or do you appease? I don&#039;t have that many followers yet so I still respond to dm&#039;s<br /> <br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/upload_2018-3-11_18-57-42-webp.18537/" target="_blank"><img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/data/attachments/15/15167-c2b6578a91b95bc0a2e6d3e397613348.jpg?hash=oGEHlTdxR1" class="bbImage " style="" alt="upload_2018-3-11_18-57-42.webp" title="upload_2018-3-11_18-57-42.webp" width="236" height="200" loading="lazy" /></a><br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/upload_2018-3-11_18-57-55-webp.18538/" target="_blank"><img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/data/attachments/15/15168-81c3df754e7d53fbec278db85ec2c05b.jpg?hash=CbGAPcM-mm" class="bbImage " style="" alt="upload_2018-3-11_18-57-55.webp" title="upload_2018-3-11_18-57-55.webp" width="200" height="245" loading="lazy" /></a><br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/upload_2018-3-11_18-58-7-webp.18539/" target="_blank"><img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/data/attachments/15/15169-2adcb4c05bac99ec2b5eda72ddb03091.jpg?hash=1pxiHj6ckf" class="bbImage " style="" alt="upload_2018-3-11_18-58-7.webp" title="upload_2018-3-11_18-58-7.webp" width="200" height="205" loading="lazy" /></a><br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/upload_2018-3-11_18-58-21-webp.18540/" target="_blank"><img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/data/attachments/15/15170-5346a8da476e60a1136a516c99dcdbc8.jpg?hash=cTA_8IPHKW" class="bbImage " style="" alt="upload_2018-3-11_18-58-21.webp" title="upload_2018-3-11_18-58-21.webp" width="312" height="200" loading="lazy" /></a></div>

 

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[Marley T]

<div class="bbWrapper">Personally I would probably ignore the dude but I&#039;ve never actually been in that exact position. <br /> <br /> Maybe meet him half way and tell him if he can reach something like 2k followers by himself you can then give each other a shout out. <br /> <br /> If someone handed me 10,000 pounds I would feel guilty if I didn&#039;t help someone else with it too, but if I worked day in day out for 10,000 pounds and someone asked me for some just because I would probably feel slightly disrespected. <br /> <br /> Hope this helped.</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper">It’s interesting. I’ve PM’d nearly 2,000 people in this forum, and not once has anyone been needy. Everyone respects my time, and if they ask a question I point them to a helpful thread.<br /> <br /> Partly that must be down to the quality of folks who join TFLF.<br /> <br /> But maybe it’s partly down to how I communicate with folks?<br /> <br /> In your example, what would have happened if you directed that person to an article on how to grow to 10k subscribers?</div>

 

[Evil_Jester]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 54986" data-quote="Marley T" data-source="post: 680753" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680753" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680753">Marley T said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Maybe meet him half way and tell him if he can reach something like 2k followers by himself you can then give each other a shout out. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>I&#039;ve helped ppl out before and they feel like they own you after that. I learned my lesson the hard way haha.</div>

 

[Evil_Jester]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 23590" data-quote="Andy Black" data-source="post: 680755" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680755" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680755">Andy Black said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> In your example, what would have happened if you directed that person to an article on how to grow to 10k subscribers? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>I left out half the conversation where I told him what to do. I think he literally wants me to give up my life to help him.</div>

 

[Marley T]

<div class="bbWrapper">Yea I feel you. <br /> <br /> I think Andys comment was spot on, like he said maybe sharing a video that inspired you could help him just as well. <br /> <br /> Haven&#039;t quite figured out how to quote other people in my replays yet lol.</div>

 

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[jon.a]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 54986" data-quote="Marley T" data-source="post: 680762" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680762" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680762">Marley T said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Yea I feel you.<br /> <br /> I think Andys comment was spot on, like he said maybe sharing a video that inspired you could help him just as well.<br /> <br /> Haven&#039;t quite figured out how to quote other people in my replays yet lol. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Click on the reply button</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 31758" data-quote="Evil_Jester" data-source="post: 680759" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680759" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680759">Evil_Jester said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I left out half the conversation where I told him what to do. I think he literally wants me to give up my life to help him. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Gosh. I don’t know what I’d do tbh. <br /> <br /> The main reason folks in TFLF aren’t like that is that they probably have a bit more about them. They don’t have an entitlement mindset.<br /> <br /> If someone kept coming back after not taking the hint then I’d probably just stop replying.<br /> <br /> <br /> EDIT: I’m so glad I’m in B2B...</div>

 

[Marley T]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 12219" data-quote="jon.a" data-source="post: 680763" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680763" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680763">jon.a said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Click on the reply button </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Oh yea. <br /> <br /> Blonde moment.</div>

 

[MJ DeMarco]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 31758" data-quote="Evil_Jester" data-source="post: 680749" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680749" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680749">Evil_Jester said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> They will start off with a compliment. I say thanks. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 31758" data-quote="Evil_Jester" data-source="post: 680749" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680749" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680749">Evil_Jester said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Then they slowly drop the bomb. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Did you see mine in the meme thread?<br /> <br /> At least they gave you a compliment. Sometimes they don&#039;t even do that...<br /> <br /> <script class="js-extraPhrases" type="application/json"> { "lightbox_close": "Close", "lightbox_next": "Next", "lightbox_previous": "Previous", "lightbox_error": "The requested content cannot be loaded. Please try again later.", "lightbox_start_slideshow": "Start slideshow", "lightbox_stop_slideshow": "Stop slideshow", "lightbox_full_screen": "Full screen", "lightbox_thumbnails": "Thumbnails", "lightbox_download": "Download", "lightbox_share": "Share", "lightbox_zoom": "Zoom", "lightbox_new_window": "New window", "lightbox_toggle_sidebar": "Toggle sidebar" } </script> <div class="bbImageWrapper js-lbImage" title="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" data-src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-lb-sidebar-href="" data-lb-caption-extra-html="" data-single-image="1"> <img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-url="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" class="bbImage" data-zoom-target="1" style="" alt="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" title="" width="" height="" loading="lazy" /> </div></div>

 

[Strive]

<div class="bbWrapper">Tell him you can&#039;t help him for free, but that you&#039;re happy to consult if he pays you $$$.<br /> <br /> Easiest way to never hear from people like that again is to tell them you&#039;re not going to hold their hand and that they&#039;ll have to actually have some skin in the game to be successful.</div>

 

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[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 11551" data-quote="Strive" data-source="post: 680767" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680767" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680767">Strive said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Tell him you can&#039;t help him for free, but that you&#039;re happy to consult if he pays you $$$.<br /> <br /> Easiest way to never hear from people like that again is to tell them you&#039;re not going to hold their hand and that they&#039;ll have to actually have some skin in the game to be successful. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Oh yes. Great idea. Send them to a page where they can book a consultation with you.<br /> <br /> I have a course now, so I could send folks there I suppose...</div>

 

[Strive]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 1" data-quote="MJ DeMarco" data-source="post: 680766" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680766" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680766">MJ DeMarco said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> At least they gave you a compliment. Sometimes they don&#039;t even do that...<br /> <br /> Did you see mine in the meme thread?<br /> <br /> <div class="bbImageWrapper js-lbImage" title="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" data-src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-lb-sidebar-href="" data-lb-caption-extra-html="" data-single-image="1"> <img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-url="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" class="bbImage" data-zoom-target="1" style="" alt="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" title="" width="" height="" loading="lazy" /> </div> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Lol... I&#039;ve heard of &quot;lottery mindsets&quot; but this is so dumb it&#039;s mind blowing that it&#039;s a real message not intended as a joke. Truth is stranger than fiction I guess</div>

 

[Evil_Jester]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 1" data-quote="MJ DeMarco" data-source="post: 680766" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680766" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680766">MJ DeMarco said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Did you see mine in the meme thread?<br /> <br /> At least they gave you a compliment. Sometimes they don&#039;t even do that...<br /> <br /> <div class="bbImageWrapper js-lbImage" title="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" data-src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-lb-sidebar-href="" data-lb-caption-extra-html="" data-single-image="1"> <img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-url="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" class="bbImage" data-zoom-target="1" style="" alt="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" title="" width="" height="" loading="lazy" /> </div> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Yeah I saw that. That was even more comical, I couldn&#039;t tell if he was joking!</div>

 

[Evil_Jester]

<div class="bbWrapper">I&#039;ve noticed it&#039;s a cultural thing too. Most people who do this to me are from outside the US and they had to learn to be pushy</div>

 

[Argue]

<div class="bbWrapper">I would put a disclaimer and let people know that you can consult only for a price.<br /> <br /> Maybe give a 15 minute free consultation, <b>then charge by the hour</b>. Sometimes you gotta be blunt.<br /> <br /> Your time is valuable. Your time is an asset, and time is money. People who are serious will pay for your time. Facts. <br /> <br /> That guy is a stalker. I would block him ASAP. That’s just me tho.</div>

 

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[Supercar]

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[WJK]

<div class="bbWrapper">I think that all of us have had a similar experience -- being approached and targeted by a mooch. If it&#039;s a real need, that one thing. A mooch is a person who wants to basically use me and my assets. They&#039;re always taking without giving.<br /> <br /> I usually try to turn it around on them. I just use their request to make a request from them. I tell them that I&#039;m so glad that they&#039;ve showed up. I need their help with ________. I ask if they can stick around for a hour or two to help out. <br /> <br /> If they continue to ask for my help, I tell them that we have to finish my project first. If they&#039;re a mooch, they usually run away really fast.</div>

 

[Xeon]

<div class="bbWrapper">You: Go install Everliker bro</div>

 

[Fox]

<div class="bbWrapper">As others have mentioned I would make either have a paid or unpaid guide. I’m not sure what your platform is but maybe you could do a fab Q and A either. If this guy is thinking it then so are others. You can charge them x dollars, do it in return for an email address or share, or do it for completely for free. But use it to build your own platform while giving back at the same time. <br /> <br /> Call it in the “grow your following without sending needy DMs” guide</div>

 

[masterneme]

<div class="bbWrapper">I&#039;d make a 5-10 minutes video speaking about the topic and direct him and future people to it.<br /> <br /> He gets what he wants, you get what you want and probably some potential extra views from more people interested on the topic, it&#039;s win-win-win.<br /> <br /> And if after watching the video someone still insists you&#039;d be totally certain that that person is a time waster and you&#039;d be guilty free to ignore/block him.<br /> <br /> Well, if enough people insist you&#039;d have and opportunity appearing right there.<br /> <br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 1" data-quote="MJ DeMarco" data-source="post: 680766" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680766" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680766">MJ DeMarco said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Did you see mine in the meme thread?<br /> <br /> At least they gave you a compliment. Sometimes they don&#039;t even do that...<br /> <br /> <div class="bbImageWrapper js-lbImage" title="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" data-src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-lb-sidebar-href="" data-lb-caption-extra-html="" data-single-image="1"> <img src="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" data-url="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/attachments/screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449/" class="bbImage" data-zoom-target="1" style="" alt="screen-shot-2014-08-15-at-4-55-51-pm-2-png.18449" title="" width="" height="" loading="lazy" /> </div> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>WHAT. THE. F**K. Is this for real?</div>

 

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[Dave Daily]

<div class="bbWrapper"><a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/31758/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="31758" data-username="@Evil_Jester">@Evil_Jester</a> — It&#039;s pretty awesome that people want your help. And...it&#039;s sucky that they don&#039;t want to compensate your for it. I like <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/30811/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="30811" data-username="@masterneme">@masterneme</a>&#039;s suggestion. You&#039;ve got a problem, so create a product for others that (hopefully) solves your problem and gets you more loyal customers.</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 33771" data-quote="Fox" data-source="post: 680834" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680834" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680834">Fox said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Call it in the “grow your following without sending needy DMs” guide </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Lol. Genius.</div>

 

[Bhanu]

<div class="bbWrapper">Personally I would have made a complex questionnaire and made that person complete it .If that person genuinely needed help he would complete it if he is a time waster he would simply run away .<br /> Idea is to make him approaching you difficult, if the person is genuine and really need help he will overcome difficulty if he is not he won&#039;t.<br /> M J&#039;s Process and Event philosophy <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-smile2.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" data-shortname=":)" /></div>

 

[cottonbuds]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 11551" data-quote="Strive" data-source="post: 680770" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680770" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680770">Strive said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Lol... I&#039;ve heard of &quot;lottery mindsets&quot; but this is so dumb it&#039;s mind blowing that it&#039;s a real message not intended as a joke. Truth is stranger than fiction I guess </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Yeah that had me in tears lol</div>

 

[Ray Goslin]

<div class="bbWrapper">Make them qualify. It&#039;s been my experience <b>too</b> many times that if they get it for free, they don&#039;t value it. They are also the most demanding, high maintenance people to deal with. Like, &quot;yeah that&#039;s great, can you give me a bit more.&quot; There is no EXCHANGE of value.<br /> <br /> A guy on LinkedIn approached me, (calling himself an entrepreneur), saying he would love to have me coach him. I told him to email me with what his goals were, and what he was wanting to achieve going forward. The qualification for him was that I would work out a programme and consultations for him and what the <b>fee </b>would be.<br /> <br /> Never heard from him. Geeeez, I wonder why. They&#039;re parasites who are clueless as to why they don&#039;t get ahead.</div>

 

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[csalvato]

<div class="bbWrapper">Reminds me of Mark Cuban saying someone asked him for 275k like it was nothing <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":P" title="Stick Out Tongue :P" data-shortname=":P" /><br /> <br /> <div class="bbImageWrapper js-lbImage" title="Screen%20Shot%202018-03-18%20at%206.20.23%20PM.png" data-src="/community/proxy.php?image=https%3A%2F%2Fcl.ly%2F1k2i1t1Q0P1O%2FScreen%2520Shot%25202018-03-18%2520at%25206.20.23%2520PM.png&amp;hash=e296687c9163a3e19750eb8808e2a487" data-lb-sidebar-href="" data-lb-caption-extra-html="" data-single-image="1"> <img src="/community/proxy.php?image=https%3A%2F%2Fcl.ly%2F1k2i1t1Q0P1O%2FScreen%2520Shot%25202018-03-18%2520at%25206.20.23%2520PM.png&amp;hash=e296687c9163a3e19750eb8808e2a487" data-url="https://cl.ly/1k2i1t1Q0P1O/Screen%20Shot%202018-03-18%20at%206.20.23%20PM.png" class="bbImage" data-zoom-target="1" style="" alt="Screen%20Shot%202018-03-18%20at%206.20.23%20PM.png" title="" width="" height="" loading="lazy" /> </div> <br /> <br /> As someone who sells an info product, I also get this all the time. Eventually I just stopped responding to these folks, sadly <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-frown.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" data-shortname=":(" /></div>

 

[Arrived2015]

<div class="bbWrapper"><i> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 31758" data-quote="Evil_Jester" data-source="post: 680749" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680749" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680749">Evil_Jester said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> [...]<br /> How do you save your time while not pissing off a fan? [...] </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote></i><div style="margin-left: 20px">You seem to be mixing a &#039;fan&#039; with a &#039;leech&#039; (or thief if a better word)<br /> <br /> Two separate peeps!<br /> <br /> A real &#039;fan&#039; is just that; a fan who values the 1440mins you both get allocated each day!<br /> <br /> A leech (or time thief) doesnt!<br /> <br /> Remember, we all get 1440 mins a day to pack in all the essential and non-essential activities.<br /> <br /> That&#039;s right!<br /> <br /> Even the animal kingdom, leeches and time thieves get the same mins as you.<br /> <br /> So answering your question, I&#039;d suggest what Strive has said&#8203;</div><br /> <i> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 11551" data-quote="Strive" data-source="post: 680767" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680767" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680767">Strive said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Tell him you <b>can&#039;t help him for free,</b> but that you&#039;re happy to consult if he pays you $$$. Easiest way to never hear from people like that again [...] </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote></i><div style="margin-left: 20px"><br /> Make sure the $$$ equates to at least $$$$+ for one hour (or half hour or perhaps 15mins?)<br /> <br /> Dont forget the &quot;So when should I schedule you in?&quot; bit<br /> <br /> Reminds me of the saying: &quot;The quickest way to lose a &#039;friend&#039; is to lend them money&quot;<br /> <br /> Friend, leech, fan, (whatever) teach them you place a value on your time (even if they dont) and charge a time fee.<br /> <br /> Even when you show them a webpage, vid, course or podcast, 99% sure they&#039;ll be back with more questions. Next thing you know - they&#039;ve gotcha! (as you mentioned)<br /> <br /> So best dont start the handholding, if can see will end up handholding for weeks to come<br /> <br /> Will be FREE to them but a cost to you<img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-blank.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":blank:" title="Blank :blank:" data-shortname=":blank:" /> <br /> <br /> PS: No need to ignore (considered rude in my view) Let them leave you - not you them.<br /> <br /> How?<br /> <br /> Charge for having some of your allocated 1440mins.<br /> <br /> PPS: Yes. I typed such a response as a pet peeve of mine <br /> <br /> Grrrrr...&#8203;</div></div>

 

[biophase]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 51919" data-quote="Bhanu" data-source="post: 680901" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680901" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680901">Bhanu said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Personally I would have made a complex questionnaire and made that person complete it. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Lol<br /> <br /> Make a questionnaire that never ends. One that has one question per page and a next button only.<br /> <br /> Or make it 500 questions long and at the very last page just put, sorry you didn’t qualify.</div>

 

[GoGetter24]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 1" data-quote="MJ DeMarco" data-source="post: 680766" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=680766" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-680766">MJ DeMarco said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> At least they gave you a compliment. Sometimes they don&#039;t even do that... </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Even more comical is that they don&#039;t even bother to write the message properly. Like not only is their &#039;play&#039; sending messages to winners asking for free help, but they won&#039;t even invest the minuscule effort to write a properly formatted message. Human garbage.<br /> <br /> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/31758/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="31758" data-username="@Evil_Jester">@Evil_Jester</a> just choose one of &quot;No&quot;, an ultimatum (if you give X I&#039;ll give Y, no other deal), or hit the block button. If you start feeding parasites now, you&#039;re already done. If they give off <i>any</i> vibe of parasitism, hit the block button and delete them from existence. You can&#039;t and shouldn&#039;t reason with these people, any more than you should with a leech. That guy is a parasite, and you should&#039;ve hit block immediately.<br /> <br /> And the ideas about &quot;make him an offer&quot; are wrong. Does that sound like a guy with something to offer? What are the odds a working relationship with that guy will yield well for you?<br /> <br /> That person <u>doesn&#039;t exist</u>.</div>