Have been seeing a gal for a few months now. While we are pretty in to each other, similar sense of humor, musical tastes, food likes, and amazing sex, there has always been something beneath the surface that has bugged me, but I could not put my finger on it. I thought maybe it had something to do with our age difference (she's 10 years younger), but then I realized that her youth is not a bad thing at all.
Recently, probably due to the fact that I finally read my year-old copy of the MFL book, things she says and the things she wants me to do with her have solidified for me that she is a classic Sidewalker who has no concept of what I am working toward! She works in a small business that, while she has no ownership, is a potential goldmine (salary, bonus, unlimited commissions on sales leads that are so hot, the clients are practically begging to hand over their money, and that is not an exaggeration). Unfortunately, she sees it only as a tedious "job" that requires her to work late sometimes (her starting office time is much later in the morning than normal jobs), and some weekends, which she hates. She has proclaimed that she would be happy to commute in morning rush hour traffic with everyone else if she can just find a "job" with a daily list of tasks to complete, and that allows her to go home at 5:00, so she can relax on the couch and watch her favorite reality-TV shows and be able to discuss them with her girlfriends "like a normal person". She says that she "deserves" her weekends off since, after all, she's been working since she was 16! Her plan for finding this new, great job? She has sent her resumé to her girlfriends, all of whom are of the same mentality, always bitching about having no money, always bitching about their jobs, bosses, co-workers, traffic, but every one of them trying hard to impress each other with new cars, designer purses, boutique yoga outfits, jewelry, etc. Fortunately, though, she does want to work and be "independent", so she is not a gold digger eyeing my success.
As I mentioned, I am almost done finally reading the MFL, and I have found myself laughing out loud at her Sidewalker proclamations. I have realized that trying to have a conversation about Fastlane, etc. is not an option, since her opinion is that my "job" sucks, because it requires me to work so much. She has no concept of what I am building and working toward. While she is fun to hang with and is smoking hot, I have come to realize that my dreams are too important to me to try to compete with her insistence on cuddling on the couch watching reality-TV and trying to relate to her like-minded friends and their loser boyfriends.
Thanks, MJ, for helping me see through all this and for helping solidify my thoughts about what I am working toward.
dpj
Recently, probably due to the fact that I finally read my year-old copy of the MFL book, things she says and the things she wants me to do with her have solidified for me that she is a classic Sidewalker who has no concept of what I am working toward! She works in a small business that, while she has no ownership, is a potential goldmine (salary, bonus, unlimited commissions on sales leads that are so hot, the clients are practically begging to hand over their money, and that is not an exaggeration). Unfortunately, she sees it only as a tedious "job" that requires her to work late sometimes (her starting office time is much later in the morning than normal jobs), and some weekends, which she hates. She has proclaimed that she would be happy to commute in morning rush hour traffic with everyone else if she can just find a "job" with a daily list of tasks to complete, and that allows her to go home at 5:00, so she can relax on the couch and watch her favorite reality-TV shows and be able to discuss them with her girlfriends "like a normal person". She says that she "deserves" her weekends off since, after all, she's been working since she was 16! Her plan for finding this new, great job? She has sent her resumé to her girlfriends, all of whom are of the same mentality, always bitching about having no money, always bitching about their jobs, bosses, co-workers, traffic, but every one of them trying hard to impress each other with new cars, designer purses, boutique yoga outfits, jewelry, etc. Fortunately, though, she does want to work and be "independent", so she is not a gold digger eyeing my success.
As I mentioned, I am almost done finally reading the MFL, and I have found myself laughing out loud at her Sidewalker proclamations. I have realized that trying to have a conversation about Fastlane, etc. is not an option, since her opinion is that my "job" sucks, because it requires me to work so much. She has no concept of what I am building and working toward. While she is fun to hang with and is smoking hot, I have come to realize that my dreams are too important to me to try to compete with her insistence on cuddling on the couch watching reality-TV and trying to relate to her like-minded friends and their loser boyfriends.
Thanks, MJ, for helping me see through all this and for helping solidify my thoughts about what I am working toward.
dpj
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