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Yes and no. Let's be real here. Most people are idiots and are sheep that will follow the crowd. Case in point. If a sports team loses a lot most fans will either stop following them or be depressed. If a business is ablut to fail watch all the employees quit and get a better job. People aren't as loyal as we want them to be. They go with the winner. Same with women. If you lose your job or become a general loser they will not stick around and go for something better. It's human nature and no ideological view will change that. I've tried to be mr positive but it's a fairy tale. People are mean and selfish and will kick you if your down if they have the power to (not everyone but most will)
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Fine. After four pages, fine. Like you said, "let's be real here".<br />
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Live with this worldview. Keep being negative or cynical.<br />
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The whole moral of this story you told is "stop being a loser and go out and be a winner".<br />
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A woman will stand by her man if he loses his job. She wants to support him and be there when things turn around. But if he loses his will? Just eats cheetos and watches netflix? Yeah, that strays into loser territory and she doesn't want that.<br />
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(This is actually a bad analogy because there's plenty of women that stick by loser men. Sheesh. But let's pretend you're right.)<br />
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Sports fans will stand by their team if they have a bad year. Or a bad few years. As long as they feel like the team is making progress towards winning. Sports fans abandon teams when they feel like there's just no hope of ever being good.<br />
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(This is actual a bad analogy because the Cleveland Browns, New York Knicks, Miami Marlins, Washington football team, etc all still have fans, even after over a decade of losing. But okay, let's keep pretending your right.)<br />
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So what's the difference between a winner and a good player? It's attitude. It's the mental game.<br />
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What's the difference between Allen Iverson and Kobe Bryant (drafted at the same time, both fierce competitors, both became legends)? Kobe wanted it more.<br />
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Don't believe me? Here, read this story from Allen himself and tell me I'm wrong.<br />
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Mamba mentality Roark.<br />
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Look at tennis. Physically speaking, there isn't much difference between the top ranked player and the 100th ranked player. They all hit the ball really hard, they all have quick reflexes, etc. The mental game is the difference. (Malcolm Gladwell writes about this in I forget what book)<br />
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What made Michael Jordan different from all of the other "he's the next Michael Jordan's"? The mental game.<br />
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All these winners have haters. All these winners have people that have given up on them. They have it even worse.<br />
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All these winners have people <u>trying to bring them down</u>. Constantly!<br />
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<i>Think about that.</i><br />
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You think you got problems? Try actually being at the top of something.<br />
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I can't help but feel like you sound a little scared to reach the top. Cuz it's lonely at the top? Or like people won't love the real you, just the winner part of you?<a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/how-my-attitude-towards-leadership-held-me-back-for-decades.93694/" class="link link--internal"> I mean, I know I felt that way years ago.</a>I hope you're not being disempowered by this like I was.<br />
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But the mental game isn't about impressing other people or even worrying about other people. Don't empower the haters.<br />
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The lion does not concern itself with the opinions of sheep. (Yes, I just quoted a Lannister.)<br />
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The mental game is about getting your mind right. So go get your mind right.<br />
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A lot of people have tried to give you advice here, and you ain't taking it.<br />
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So go figure out how to be a winner. I know you can do this.<br />
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You also might want to study up on how to be a leader. Being in business is hard. And your attitude is going to make it harder. Life is hard. And your attitude is going to make it harder.<br />
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Here's the bottom line -- who in the world do I need to impress at the point in my life? Frankly, in this moment I just don't give a damn.
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Read that again. Who do <u>you</u> need to impress Roark?<br />
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I'll tell you who. Yourself.<br />
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Dedicate yourself to that for a long while. Keep believing this non sense, keep being mr negative, and let it fuel you like MJ getting cut from high school bball. (Seriously, even after his first three-peat, he still used that as fuel. That's ludicrous. Tom Brady is still pissed he dropped to the sixth round in the draft after he got benched at Michigan. That was 20 years ago Tom! Apparently winners do not let things go easily...)<br />
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Go become the winner you obviously want to be. Adopt a winner's attitude. Adopt a winner's beliefs. Adopt a winner's work ethic.<br />
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And fire yourself up and go out and do things that really really REALLY impresses the crap out of you.<br />
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And then go do something cooler than that.<br />
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Like Kobe, find yourself working on your craft while other people are out at the club.<br />
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... I'm wiser now. I let myself be hurt because I was naieve to how the world works
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That's just going to keep happening buddy. You know this. Even the strongest people in this thread get hurt by other people from time to time. That's the bad news.<br />
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The good news is you're going to keep learning and adjusting and keep getting wiser.<br />
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I know you will. You know you will.<br />
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You started with this thought:<br />
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I'm honestly thinking of just getting a dog and working on myself and dying on my bed alone. Seriously.
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You're right. Do it! Work on yourself. Do it to the maximum.<br />
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If you do this to its fullest, I promise you years from now you'll realize the only thing you were wrong about is this: you are not going to die in your bed alone.<br />
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You will find true loyalty and true friendship. You'll find your Allen Iverson. Your Pau Gasol. You'll find your family.<br />
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<span style="font-size: 10px">Heck, my family started with a dog too, so there's that. Fun fact - Cynic meant dog like in ancient Greece. </span></div>
