- Sep 6, 2015
Amazing post!! Your advice is spot on.Would you like to have more friends and people in your life? Some people just don't like people that much, and they do well on their own, and don't have much desire for more friends.
On the other hand, if you're craving connection with people, but just can't seem to find it then maybe you should take a little break like you said. Because if you see patterns in your life, like putting more effort into relationships than the people you want to cultivate a relationship with, it could be something to do with you.
Looking back at this post:
I'm being genuine with you, and not trying to put you down, I speak from my own experience here. If you're one month away from being homeless and starving, you have bigger problems than making more friends. In my opinion, you should get some stability, think about what you want to do with your life, and start going after it. Again not trying to be mean here, but people aren't going to want to befriend you if you're about to be homeless and starve. You don't have much value to offer people, it seems like, right now. It's okay, you gotta start somewhere. But people want to be friends with people who they find some sort of value in.
Also, work on the pessimistic attitude. If you believe people will bring you down for being successful, you'll never be successful. People WANT to be around successful people, not around people who complain and don't have their life in order.
Seriously, the universe isn't against you, and neither are people. You just have to face the reality that people want to be around people they find value in. Men and women. If you're finding people aren't treating you well and reciprocating, it's time to build some value in your own life, and have your own thing going on. People will want to be apart of it if it's cool.
Nah man I don't feel like this. There's too much life to live. If you feel this way all the time, I would go to a doctor and maybe get on antidepressants. You don't have to take them forever, but maybe it'll get you out of this rut.
In the meantime, try going to the gym, eat well and sleep well. Ease off the drugs if you take any.
I really hope this advice helps you, we care about you here in this community. Keep us updated.
I have one question, what exactly do you mean by "offering value to people"? I know it has something to do with how you make the other person feel when they're around you. But I never really understood this whole idea of "having value in your life". Do you have some examples of this? How does having value show in real life interactions? Thank you!
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