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Maybe you do not want to change badly enough?Sometimes I feel that once we start playing some kind of a role in our lives, we can't ever change it. In a way, we start behaving as programmed NPCs in some game who always say and do the same things, always to be found in the same places, never questioning their path.
Why is it so hard to change this? What's blocking us so much that we can't change ourselves even if we hate our situation or simply want to try something else?
For example, imagine that you're a shy, insecure, non-confrontational guy who's always ignored. You wish you were confident. You wish you could speak your mind and be respected. Yet, years go by and you're still that same guy. What's blocking that person?
Or let's imagine you're this responsible, dependable but ultimately boring guy who has no excitement in his life. You wish you could be more adventurous and spontaneous but your rational side can't let it happen. Why is it so hard to do something out of your character, even once?
Or let's imagine that you're stuck in your home town, living a satisfying (from the outside) life. Yet you feel dead inside. You wish you could change it and reinvent yourself. Why is it so difficult to leave the stuff that you hate anyway and do something new?
These are very subjective description like “getting confident” or “reinvent yourself”. It is not even clear to me that they are beneficial.
It is not like if you want an exact behavior change, waking up early or speak to five more strangers per day to train social and conversational skill.
Relationship without exception is the real or perceived lack of other option/alternative.Why do we get stuck with the same unsatisfying job/business, relationship, place where we live, character, etc.?
Why do we feel this need to keep repeating the same behaviors, even if we're fully aware that we hate our life and want something else?
You hate your boss but you need to pay the bill, for example.
Poor effort and poor planning. But easier said than done to be in a stage of having “plenty of good options” in life. If you have no cards to play you got to call it a pass.
Having the ability to take other people’s shit is also an essential skill, especially when you are nobody having no resources at the start. You just have to calculate which cards you need to accumulate and whose shits you have to eat for the time being.
I don’t think that is the case for you MTF, but for people 90 percent of the time if they are stuck in an unhappy relationship is due to a lack of options.
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