evanthebarbarian
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Hey folks. Name's Evan. New here. Just had a fight with a friend the other day that I'm still trying to wrap my head around. Hope you can shed some light and reassure me and/or point me in the right direction.
Few weeks ago, a long-time friend posted a joke on Facebook, said it might make a good bumper sticker. Thought: "Wish I had come up with that." A couple days later, we're out hiking and he mentions it again. "That's pretty good," I said. "Mind if I put that on a t-shirt?" Sure, he says. Go for it.
So over the last week I'd been boning up on print-on-demand sites like Teespring and PrintAura, cramming on Facebook Ads and targeting niches. I tell him what I've been doing, and why. I setup the Facebook page, and show him. I get the design back from the guy on Fiverr, I tell him. A day or so later I launch it all, start the ad campaign rolling, and tag him on the post.
"Shitty," he says. "Are you really trying to make money off my idea? It's not funny anymore."
I text him and ask if he's serious, he gave me permission, I've been transparent the whole way, etc. Says he doesn't "have the time" to talk to me right then.
I try to brush it off at first, thinking we'll talk later, but as the hour passes I just get more upset. He was my best friend, I've known him for a decade, I loved him like a brother and he legit broke my heart. Who does he think I am? What does he think I am? Somebody out to screw him? If he had a problem with what I was doing why didn't he just f***ing say something? Did he think I would risk our friendship over a stupid t-shirt? I text him all this, get no reply. And later I think: Yes. Yes, he actually does think all those things about me. And maybe about everyone.
It's been a few days and I'm still in my head rehearsing the tongue-lashing I'd give him if I ever saw him again. And I'm still heartbroken that a guy that I respected, valued, and looked up to, saw as a mirror image of myself in some ways, didn't see me in the same light. And I'm angry. Almost as angry as I was ten years ago when I found out my ex-girlfriend had been cheating on me. It's that same quality of righteous and incredulous anger, y'know?
What I think? I think he never actually expected me to do anything with the idea. Because he never actually planned to do anything with the idea. So when he saw how easy it would've been to just execute and not dream on it, it pissed him off. But it doesn't help.
Anyway, total rant. Bad introduction to the forum I guess. Hope it can help someone, in some way. But mainly I just needed to get it off my chest.
Few weeks ago, a long-time friend posted a joke on Facebook, said it might make a good bumper sticker. Thought: "Wish I had come up with that." A couple days later, we're out hiking and he mentions it again. "That's pretty good," I said. "Mind if I put that on a t-shirt?" Sure, he says. Go for it.
So over the last week I'd been boning up on print-on-demand sites like Teespring and PrintAura, cramming on Facebook Ads and targeting niches. I tell him what I've been doing, and why. I setup the Facebook page, and show him. I get the design back from the guy on Fiverr, I tell him. A day or so later I launch it all, start the ad campaign rolling, and tag him on the post.
"Shitty," he says. "Are you really trying to make money off my idea? It's not funny anymore."
I text him and ask if he's serious, he gave me permission, I've been transparent the whole way, etc. Says he doesn't "have the time" to talk to me right then.
I try to brush it off at first, thinking we'll talk later, but as the hour passes I just get more upset. He was my best friend, I've known him for a decade, I loved him like a brother and he legit broke my heart. Who does he think I am? What does he think I am? Somebody out to screw him? If he had a problem with what I was doing why didn't he just f***ing say something? Did he think I would risk our friendship over a stupid t-shirt? I text him all this, get no reply. And later I think: Yes. Yes, he actually does think all those things about me. And maybe about everyone.
It's been a few days and I'm still in my head rehearsing the tongue-lashing I'd give him if I ever saw him again. And I'm still heartbroken that a guy that I respected, valued, and looked up to, saw as a mirror image of myself in some ways, didn't see me in the same light. And I'm angry. Almost as angry as I was ten years ago when I found out my ex-girlfriend had been cheating on me. It's that same quality of righteous and incredulous anger, y'know?
What I think? I think he never actually expected me to do anything with the idea. Because he never actually planned to do anything with the idea. So when he saw how easy it would've been to just execute and not dream on it, it pissed him off. But it doesn't help.
Anyway, total rant. Bad introduction to the forum I guess. Hope it can help someone, in some way. But mainly I just needed to get it off my chest.
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