thecoach
Contributor
Over the last 2 years, I've been more or less changing my entire life and eliminating all the negative influences and bad habits or at least as many as possible. Throughout this time I started to realize that I was hanging around with more or less shitty people all my life, so I pretty much turfed most of my friends and most of the things I used to do. The biggest battle has been trying to deal with my parents (mainly my dad). My mother has supported everything I've ever done, however since I've gone into business on my own, her 'emotional' support has dwindled since I have not made nearly what I used to at my J.O.B. My dad is a very negative person. He is just simply one of those "grumpy old men", he's very stubborn, very arguementitive. My dad is very handy with fixing stuff so I really need him to help with fixing things with my house that I'm renovating and he really enjoys it since it's the only real time we've ever kind of had 'quality time' together, but he is very, very hard to work with (all his friends that come over to help say the same thing). Aside from my mother working in the accounting department for the city 30 years ago, my entire family for several generations has mainly worked in the trades. That being said, neither my mom or dad understand anything to do with running a business and have been die hard 'poor dad' types, so they really don't understand anything that I'm doing and both are too stubborn to really sit down and listen when I try to explain it and can't wrap their head around the fact that I like business and I'm not a trades kind of guy. My dad is by far the biggest negative influence in my life, but I can't turn my back on him (he wasn't around much for most of my life becuase he worked out of town a lot and he was diagnosed with cancer a couple years ago and since then he has really been on a quest to spend more time with us kids, which I am fine with but he's a hard person to get along with) and my mom has been giving me more "you should just give up and find a good paying job" talks the last few months instead of the ussual support. They are both "negative nancy's" that always expect the worst and see the worst in things, so anytime they are around the conversation always turns to some kind of negativity or paranoia about something bad that's going to happen.
So my question is, has anyone here came across a situation where they had a very negative influence in their life that they couldn't get rid of? Any advice on how to deal with this? It's a major cause of stress in my life and it effects my focus sometimes and and I really could do without the stress, but couldn't do without them.
So my question is, has anyone here came across a situation where they had a very negative influence in their life that they couldn't get rid of? Any advice on how to deal with this? It's a major cause of stress in my life and it effects my focus sometimes and and I really could do without the stress, but couldn't do without them.
Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum:
Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.