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- Jun 8, 2019
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Thanks for the reality check @eliquid . (ENTP here, by the way.)
In an ideal world, my values would be creativity, authenticity, and excellence. My priorities would be financial independence and pursuing my creative/intellectual interests.
But in my current reality, I'm a recent college grad with a chronic illness and next to no savings. My energy is extremely limited. My priorities right now are surviving, building an emergency fund, and not making myself sicker than I already am. This means my priorities are very different. My top priority is rationing my energy, being efficient and pragmatic in my decision-making.
Do I want to pursue excellence? Maybe, but if excellence conflicts with efficiency, efficiency needs to win, or I'll wind up in bed for 3 days because I burned myself out. Do I want to pursue creativity? Yeah, but if creative freelancing won't pay the bills, it's time to pick up a boring part-time job.
I have been operating under my real-world priorities, but am still emotionally attached to my ideal-world priorities... and it's been stressing me out. I have this picture in my head of who I think I should be—a healthy, energetic, ambitious go-getter. And at my heart, I believe that's who I am. But under the current circumstances, I can't be that person right now. Not yet. I need to be the strategic, pragmatic penny-pincher who takes care of her health. I can still be creative, I can still be authentic, I can still pursue excellence... but all that needs to take a back seat to my top priorities.
I definitely have a lot of anger and resentment around this, but at least I can acknowledge that I have a misalignment here.
In an ideal world, my values would be creativity, authenticity, and excellence. My priorities would be financial independence and pursuing my creative/intellectual interests.
But in my current reality, I'm a recent college grad with a chronic illness and next to no savings. My energy is extremely limited. My priorities right now are surviving, building an emergency fund, and not making myself sicker than I already am. This means my priorities are very different. My top priority is rationing my energy, being efficient and pragmatic in my decision-making.
Do I want to pursue excellence? Maybe, but if excellence conflicts with efficiency, efficiency needs to win, or I'll wind up in bed for 3 days because I burned myself out. Do I want to pursue creativity? Yeah, but if creative freelancing won't pay the bills, it's time to pick up a boring part-time job.
I have been operating under my real-world priorities, but am still emotionally attached to my ideal-world priorities... and it's been stressing me out. I have this picture in my head of who I think I should be—a healthy, energetic, ambitious go-getter. And at my heart, I believe that's who I am. But under the current circumstances, I can't be that person right now. Not yet. I need to be the strategic, pragmatic penny-pincher who takes care of her health. I can still be creative, I can still be authentic, I can still pursue excellence... but all that needs to take a back seat to my top priorities.
I definitely have a lot of anger and resentment around this, but at least I can acknowledge that I have a misalignment here.
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