A quick background.
He is a 21 year old guy. No issues whatsoever that prevent him from excelling in life. He is a smart person, generally a nice guy, and could quite honestly do whatever he wanted if he were to apply himself. He just refuses to.
Growing up, his mother has always acted like the world owes her something. She was given the trailer she lives in, she was given the small plot of land that it is on, the cars she has driven. Everything of value she has was given to them by family members. She can't hold a job because "the boss picks on her" and she ends up quitting. She too is not a dumb person, but is beyond lazy. She will work harder to get out of doing something, than it would take to do it.
Everything is always someone else's fault (when she has gotten arrested, doesn't pay her bills and the electricity gets shut off, she gets fired for not showing up to work etc.)
Her son saw all of this growing up and is following down the same road. All they do is use illegal substances, and look for the next handout.
He now has a 2 year old son (that lives with the mother). He doesn't have a job. When he gets them, they never seem to last more than a few weeks. They were struggling (for reasons stated above) and I was worrying about his son when he was about a year old. I drove 2 hours, and bought a bunch of baby supplies so that his son wouldn't be hungry and would have diapers etc. It isn't the kid's fault that his parents are unable to do anything positive.
I have separated myself from that side of my family for the most part. They all create the same toxic environment, and I don't approve of the way they live. None of them have 2 pennies to rub together, and I am sure he has probably asked everyone else. We aren't close anymore.
As of a few weeks ago, him and his ex girlfriend split up and she is keeping his son. I found out today (as you will see in the picture) that he went on a spur of the moment road trip to Colorado. I have 0 doubt that it was so they can go out there and indulge in the legal smoking.
He messaged me on Facebook asking for a handout - See image
http://imgur.com/a/DB8qo
Do you guys think I was hard on him by leaving him stranded out there? Could this maybe be the wakeup call that he needs to pull his head out of his a$$? Thanks for any input.
He is a 21 year old guy. No issues whatsoever that prevent him from excelling in life. He is a smart person, generally a nice guy, and could quite honestly do whatever he wanted if he were to apply himself. He just refuses to.
Growing up, his mother has always acted like the world owes her something. She was given the trailer she lives in, she was given the small plot of land that it is on, the cars she has driven. Everything of value she has was given to them by family members. She can't hold a job because "the boss picks on her" and she ends up quitting. She too is not a dumb person, but is beyond lazy. She will work harder to get out of doing something, than it would take to do it.
Everything is always someone else's fault (when she has gotten arrested, doesn't pay her bills and the electricity gets shut off, she gets fired for not showing up to work etc.)
Her son saw all of this growing up and is following down the same road. All they do is use illegal substances, and look for the next handout.
He now has a 2 year old son (that lives with the mother). He doesn't have a job. When he gets them, they never seem to last more than a few weeks. They were struggling (for reasons stated above) and I was worrying about his son when he was about a year old. I drove 2 hours, and bought a bunch of baby supplies so that his son wouldn't be hungry and would have diapers etc. It isn't the kid's fault that his parents are unable to do anything positive.
I have separated myself from that side of my family for the most part. They all create the same toxic environment, and I don't approve of the way they live. None of them have 2 pennies to rub together, and I am sure he has probably asked everyone else. We aren't close anymore.
As of a few weeks ago, him and his ex girlfriend split up and she is keeping his son. I found out today (as you will see in the picture) that he went on a spur of the moment road trip to Colorado. I have 0 doubt that it was so they can go out there and indulge in the legal smoking.
He messaged me on Facebook asking for a handout - See image
http://imgur.com/a/DB8qo
Do you guys think I was hard on him by leaving him stranded out there? Could this maybe be the wakeup call that he needs to pull his head out of his a$$? Thanks for any input.
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