I was supposed to drive 5 hours today to head to my hometown to spend a few days with my family over Xmas. I really have no desire to go. I’m wondering if this is terrible of me to call my family and just say I’m not coming?
I relocated across the country 8 weeks ago, and since, have been on 8 business trips and 2 trips home (1 for Thanksgiving) to see my family. So 10 trips in 8 weeks. Needless to say, I am physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. If I didn’t go home, I could spend 4 days lounging, watching movies and just relaxing. It sounds heavenly to me, other than the mental anguish of not going to see my family for the holidays.
To make it worse, my family is pretty hard to be around. My parents are divorced and my mom tries to schedule things on purpose, the same time my dad does. It’s like they are competing for my attention. (I’m 31 by the way and have a wife). It’s nuts. And my mom is pretty rude to my wife (Jewish mother syndrome – my wife “stole†me from my mom in her eyes) so that makes it hard also. My wife has to pass a national exam in about 2 weeks, so is staying behind to study.
Every year I go to a big party on Xmas eve with my dad’s family and then spend Xmas Day with my mom, then dinner on Xmas Day with my dad. This year, for some reason, my 28yo brother decided to plan a dinner with my mom and his girlfriend at the same time of the big party with my dad’s family. WTF? He said he “feels bad for mom who has to sit home alone†on Xmas eve every year. I totally understand that, but I do not feel it is my “job†to take care of my mom’s feelings. I am a good son to her and spend plenty of time with her when I am home, and I don’t think I should have to skip the big party with my dad’s side (like 80 people), which is my favorite part about being home for Xmas.
To top it off, there is a HUGE storm coming in later today, so if I go, I might get stuck there for several days.
So I feel like I’m in a bind. I’m not sure what to do. I thought maybe getting it off my chest here would help. I like the impartial audience.
Thanks for listening to my rant and happy holidays to all.
I relocated across the country 8 weeks ago, and since, have been on 8 business trips and 2 trips home (1 for Thanksgiving) to see my family. So 10 trips in 8 weeks. Needless to say, I am physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. If I didn’t go home, I could spend 4 days lounging, watching movies and just relaxing. It sounds heavenly to me, other than the mental anguish of not going to see my family for the holidays.
To make it worse, my family is pretty hard to be around. My parents are divorced and my mom tries to schedule things on purpose, the same time my dad does. It’s like they are competing for my attention. (I’m 31 by the way and have a wife). It’s nuts. And my mom is pretty rude to my wife (Jewish mother syndrome – my wife “stole†me from my mom in her eyes) so that makes it hard also. My wife has to pass a national exam in about 2 weeks, so is staying behind to study.
Every year I go to a big party on Xmas eve with my dad’s family and then spend Xmas Day with my mom, then dinner on Xmas Day with my dad. This year, for some reason, my 28yo brother decided to plan a dinner with my mom and his girlfriend at the same time of the big party with my dad’s family. WTF? He said he “feels bad for mom who has to sit home alone†on Xmas eve every year. I totally understand that, but I do not feel it is my “job†to take care of my mom’s feelings. I am a good son to her and spend plenty of time with her when I am home, and I don’t think I should have to skip the big party with my dad’s side (like 80 people), which is my favorite part about being home for Xmas.
To top it off, there is a HUGE storm coming in later today, so if I go, I might get stuck there for several days.
So I feel like I’m in a bind. I’m not sure what to do. I thought maybe getting it off my chest here would help. I like the impartial audience.
Thanks for listening to my rant and happy holidays to all.
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