You don’t need more time, you just prioritize other things

[Johnny boy]

The most butthurt people I ever see in my entire life are people who get told they would need to change priorities in order to succeed.

“Hey, how do I find time to work on my business? I spend 5 hours a day playing patty cake with my kids, my wife makes me stay at home, I spend 4 hours a day at the gym, and I’m not trading away my time with my friends, we go golfing every other day for another 4 hours”

Your success is the last thing on your list of priorities, don’t be confused when you get proportional results.

You are competing against guys like me.

Gym is only 30-40 minutes 3x a week.
I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife
I don’t even have a dog

I wake up and think about my goals, I work, I go to bed thinking about my goals.

I prioritized my goals as the top 4 on a list of 5 important things to me.

I will expect proportional results.

You really want to spend time with the kids, you want to keep your safe full time job with no risk, you want to do everything but work and that’s fine, you can do that, just don’t be confused why you’re not getting anywhere.

Everyone acts like they were handed the life they are in and have no choice. You chose everything you have and everything you’ve done has led to today.

Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like. I’d love a dog. I’d love to spend time with my girl. I’d love to have a lot of friends hanging out every night. I just know that at the end of the day, it takes away from my goals, and I’ve already made the decision that I would trade all to get all.

You can have anything you want in life, you just don’t get to pick how much it costs. You are responsible for every second of your day, whether it feels that way or not. You could spend 17 hours working on your one singular goal 7 days a week, you just refuse to accept what you would have to give up. You love hearing things like “burn out”, “overtraining”, “work-life balance”. That shit isn’t real. Never losing momentum IS real. I’ve had singular strains of work that have lasted for weeks, only interrupted by dreams about the work I have to do before getting back to it. The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.

Give all to get all, it’s an easy trade.

In 5 years I do not want to have a really good excuse. I don’t care how good it is. I don’t care if anyone around me is patting my back telling me it’s okay, I did what I could, it’s not my fault. That’s good as dog shit to me.

If I want time off, I have to earn it with progress. Each level gets a little reward before getting back to work. Double the company, take a winter vacation, repeat next year. Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.

 

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[Saad Khan]

The most butthurt people I ever see in my entire life are people who get told they would need to change priorities in order to succeed.

“Hey, how do I find time to work on my business? I spend 5 hours a day playing patty cake with my kids, my wife makes me stay at home, I spend 4 hours a day at the gym, and I’m not trading away my time with my friends, we go golfing every other day for another 4 hours”

Your success is the last thing on your list of priorities, don’t be confused when you get proportional results.

You are competing against guys like me.

Gym is only 30-40 minutes 3x a week.
I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife
I don’t even have a dog

I wake up and think about my goals, I work, I go to bed thinking about my goals.

I prioritized my goals as the top 4 on a list of 5 important things to me.

I will expect proportional results.

You really want to spend time with the kids, you want to keep your safe full time job with no risk, you want to do everything but work and that’s fine, you can do that, just don’t be confused why you’re not getting anywhere.

Everyone acts like they were handed the life they are in and have no choice. You chose everything you have and everything you’ve done has led to today.

Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like. I’d love a dog. I’d love to spend time with my girl. I’d love to have a lot of friends hanging out every night. I just know that at the end of the day, it takes away from my goals, and I’ve already made the decision that I would trade all to get all.

You can have anything you want in life, you just don’t get to pick how much it costs. You are responsible for every second of your day, whether it feels that way or not. You could spend 17 hours working on your one singular goal 7 days a week, you just refuse to accept what you would have to give up. You love hearing things like “burn out”, “overtraining”, “work-life balance”. That shit isn’t real. Never losing momentum IS real. I’ve had singular strains of work that have lasted for weeks, only interrupted by dreams about the work I have to do before getting back to it. The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.

Give all to get all, it’s an easy trade.

In 5 years I do not want to have a really good excuse. I don’t care how good it is. I don’t care if anyone around me is patting my back telling me it’s okay, I did what I could, it’s not my fault. That’s good as dog shit to me.

If I want time off, I have to earn it with progress. Each level gets a little reward before getting back to work. Double the company, take a winter vacation, repeat next year. Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.

Excellent write up @Johnny boy. It all boils down to choices. And choices dictate habits.

In summary

Choice ---> Develop the mindset --> Develop the habits --> Result

Bad choices? You're f*cked.

Good choices? You stand a chance.

 

[piano]

I don’t have kids (that I know of)

Bad choices? You're f*cked.

Good choices? You stand a chance.

In a nutshell yes.
You always have to keep your guard up, especially amongst "normie" peers.
I've been compared to Hitler because I said that I wouldn't give Emo people a chance to be my friends.

 

[Paul David]

The most butthurt people I ever see in my entire life are people who get told they would need to change priorities in order to succeed.

“Hey, how do I find time to work on my business? I spend 5 hours a day playing patty cake with my kids, my wife makes me stay at home, I spend 4 hours a day at the gym, and I’m not trading away my time with my friends, we go golfing every other day for another 4 hours”

Your success is the last thing on your list of priorities, don’t be confused when you get proportional results.

You are competing against guys like me.

Gym is only 30-40 minutes 3x a week.
I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife
I don’t even have a dog

I wake up and think about my goals, I work, I go to bed thinking about my goals.

I prioritized my goals as the top 4 on a list of 5 important things to me.

I will expect proportional results.

You really want to spend time with the kids, you want to keep your safe full time job with no risk, you want to do everything but work and that’s fine, you can do that, just don’t be confused why you’re not getting anywhere.

Everyone acts like they were handed the life they are in and have no choice. You chose everything you have and everything you’ve done has led to today.

Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like. I’d love a dog. I’d love to spend time with my girl. I’d love to have a lot of friends hanging out every night. I just know that at the end of the day, it takes away from my goals, and I’ve already made the decision that I would trade all to get all.

You can have anything you want in life, you just don’t get to pick how much it costs. You are responsible for every second of your day, whether it feels that way or not. You could spend 17 hours working on your one singular goal 7 days a week, you just refuse to accept what you would have to give up. You love hearing things like “burn out”, “overtraining”, “work-life balance”. That shit isn’t real. Never losing momentum IS real. I’ve had singular strains of work that have lasted for weeks, only interrupted by dreams about the work I have to do before getting back to it. The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.

Give all to get all, it’s an easy trade.

In 5 years I do not want to have a really good excuse. I don’t care how good it is. I don’t care if anyone around me is patting my back telling me it’s okay, I did what I could, it’s not my fault. That’s good as dog shit to me.

If I want time off, I have to earn it with progress. Each level gets a little reward before getting back to work. Double the company, take a winter vacation, repeat next year. Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.

Great post as usual Johnny.

Reminded me of this story....

As she approached the bus stop, desperately aiming for the shade just to get out of the damn hot sun, her heart missed a beat and she nearly changed her mind.

Her eyes were adjusting from the bright sunlight to the shade, and suddenly she could make out the shape of a massive dog lying there by the bench. She hated dogs.

She sat down on the bench anyway, as far from the dog as possible. But after a minute, she went from fearing the dog to being concerned about the dog.

“Is your dog OK,” she asked the owner.

“My dog? Yes he’s fine.”

“But it seems like something is wrong with him, he keeps flinching, yelping. It seems like he’s in pain.”

“No, he’s fi- . . . ohhhh, I know what it is. Yeah, he’s lying on a rusty nail, which is sticking out of the concrete over there. We often rest at this bus stop when it’s hot, so I’ve noticed it before.”

“That’s odd,” she said. ”If he’s clearly so uncomfortable, then why doesn’t he just move a bit to the side, and then sleep restfully?”

“Well obviously,” the man replied, “It doesn’t hurt enough!”


Question for you Johnny, do you find the longer you're working on your goals and building these powerful habits, the easier it becomes to just get up and follow them without thinking about it? Or do you enjoy your business that much that you'd rather work than say spend 2 weeks lying on a beach or watching tv of an evening, going out with friends.

 

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[Artiom O]

It's a good reminder about how we need to approach things, if we want to get the max out of it.

The worst part is when you put in a lot of effort and get no results. I don't know how to cope with this things. It feels like you loose hope.

Does anyone have any suggestions for this?

 

[Johnny boy]

Question for you Johnny, do you find the longer you're working on your goals and building these powerful habits, the easier it becomes to just get up and follow them without thinking about it? Or do you enjoy your business that much that you'd rather work than say spend 2 weeks lying on a beach or watching tv of an evening, going out with friends.

I took a quick break from learning and implementing offline conversion attribution to our facebook ad campaigns at 1:19am to respond so I must enjoy it a bit.

I look at it this way.

My goals are big enough that it excites me.

I don't feel like I'm working, I feel like it's raining money from the sky and I'm running around finding buckets, tarps, recruiting friends to help me, busting my a$$ non-stop to catch as much of it as I can.

"Oh F*ck oh F*ck grab everything, go go go, F*ck! Grab it all!"

Is that work? To some people it would look like I'm doing nothing but "work", but to me it feels like I am running around catching money falling from the sky. If money was raining from the sky would you be bummed out you weren't watching TV? F*ck no!

I call ourselves the fastest growing home services company in America. I have franchisees who say "you better be ready to take on all the new customers, I want 4 crews for my location this year, will you be able to handle it?" and "I've got 3 people that wanna open a location, will you be ready?" I'm not going to miss my chance and sit around with my thumb up my a$$. People are betting on me and I'm going to make sure they are rewarded for their trust and confidence in me.

I want to have a house on lake como. I want to date a Miss (eastern european country). I want to retire my bloodline. I want to fly around in a black SU-27 fighter jet on sundays. I'm 26 and have the time and energy. This is the perfect time for me to do all of this.

I have realized in the last few years that the more weight I put on my shoulders, the more I learn, the more responsibility and problems I have, the better life gets. It makes it so easy to take on those things with grace and a smile because it just means more great things are coming. A great man wakes up, and before noon, has more problems and tough situations than what would drive most people insane, and he eats it up like nothing.

A lot of my business is being forced upon me in a good way. The customers are recurring. I have employees that have families to feed. I have franchisees who need to make money. I've always gotten a kick out of staying up all night to finish a project due the next morning, and now I get that sort of thing every few days.

Over time it gets easier. Your business gets better, you make more, you can hire people to do things you struggle at, you make friends with people who are on a similar path, and it keeps compounding.

I still goof off and have fun. I just never, ever say I don't have enough time. If it calls for it, I will drop anything and everything to accomplish my goals. I take full responsibility for my time, which is the difference.

 

[Johnny boy]

It's a good reminder about how we need to approach things, if we want to get the max out of it.

The worst part is when you put in a lot of effort and get no results. I don't know how to cope with this things. It feels like you loose hope.

Does anyone have any suggestions for this?

Then work smarter and spend the time to ponder and come up with effective solutions. I will spend half my day pacing around thinking. I am terrified of being ineffective. I wouldn't lose hope, I would be pissed. When I had the same feeling of not making progress I used to be the angriest person you could imagine. I am either happy or angry. Things are going my way or they aren't. I couldn't imagine moping around like a neutered dog.

 

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[Artiom O]

Then work smarter and spend the time to ponder and come up with effective solutions. I will spend half my day pacing around thinking. I am terrified of being ineffective. I wouldn't lose hope, I would be pissed. When I had the same feeling of not making progress I used to be the angriest person you could imagine. I am either happy or angry. Things are going my way or they aren't. I couldn't imagine moping around like a neutered dog.

I agree.

There is also this problem when the task is a bit more different and you can't find any solutions.

You get stuck and start the action-faking. Last thing you see, and you're doing nothing.

 

[Paul David]

I took a quick break from learning and implementing offline conversion attribution to our facebook ad campaigns at 1:19am to respond so I must enjoy it a bit.

I look at it this way.

My goals are big enough that it excites me.

I don't feel like I'm working, I feel like it's raining money from the sky and I'm running around finding buckets, tarps, recruiting friends to help me, busting my a$$ non-stop to catch as much of it as I can.

"Oh F*ck oh F*ck grab everything, go go go, F*ck! Grab it all!"

Is that work? To some people it would look like I'm doing nothing but "work", but to me it feels like I am running around catching money falling from the sky. If money was raining from the sky would you be bummed out you weren't watching TV? F*ck no!

I call ourselves the fastest growing home services company in America. I have franchisees who say "you better be ready to take on all the new customers, I want 4 crews for my location this year, will you be able to handle it?" and "I've got 3 people that wanna open a location, will you be ready?" I'm not going to miss my chance and sit around with my thumb up my a$$. People are betting on me and I'm going to make sure they are rewarded for their trust and confidence in me.

I want to have a house on lake como. I want to date a Miss (eastern european country). I want to retire my bloodline. I want to fly around in a black SU-27 fighter jet on sundays. I'm 26 and have the time and energy. This is the perfect time for me to do all of this.

I have realized in the last few years that the more weight I put on my shoulders, the more I learn, the more responsibility and problems I have, the better life gets. It makes it so easy to take on those things with grace and a smile because it just means more great things are coming. A great man wakes up, and before noon, has more problems and tough situations than what would drive most people insane, and he eats it up like nothing.

A lot of my business is being forced upon me in a good way. The customers are recurring. I have employees that have families to feed. I have franchisees who need to make money. I've always gotten a kick out of staying up all night to finish a project due the next morning, and now I get that sort of thing every few days.

Over time it gets easier. Your business gets better, you make more, you can hire people to do things you struggle at, you make friends with people who are on a similar path, and it keeps compounding.

I still goof off and have fun. I just never, ever say I don't have enough time. If it calls for it, I will drop anything and everything to accomplish my goals. I take full responsibility for my time, which is the difference.

Great response, you remind me what I was like when I was 26. Seems a long time ago now at the age of 42.

Somewhere along the way I lost that part of myself, all because of choices I made and big mistakes (which are expensive lessons learned that I won't repeat). I always said I'd be a millionaire at 25, didn't happen. Said the same at 30, didn't happen, then 35 etc. However before I was 40 I remember not thinking that at all, the business mistakes had came home to roost and I was faced with the consequences which have dragged both financially and mentally for a few years now.

Slowly but surely I'm finding myself back to the old me, the one that used to sound like you, but certainly didn't act like it. I look back on some of the business decisions I made and think, why did I do that? Not because I now know they were a mistake, but because the older more experienced brain I have knows that wasn't destined to work from the start.

I remember 12 years ago we rented a Villa in Spain for 3 weeks whilst my wife was off on maternity leave with our youngest son. Her parents came over for the last week. One evening her Father said to me why are you working on your laptop? You're on holiday. I said it doesn't feel like work to me.

The mistakes and years that followed have affected me mentally more than I realised, now I've had time to digest and reflect. The way you act and are reminds me of that.

I ended up bankrupt 3 years ago. Do I regret the choices I made? Yes and No, I regret the decisions I made that ultimately led me to that situation, but I don't regret shooting for the moon and taking the risk. I can't regret that because it's ultimately who I am.

It's posts like yours that remind me of that person I wanted to be and still do so thank you. Those lofty goals and ambitions are still there at 42 and I feel I'm coming back to the old me - albeit wiser.

Baring any health issues I'll still be the same at 72 - only a lot richer.

 

[Johnny boy]

I agree.

There is also this problem when the task is a bit more different and you can't find any solutions.

You get stuck and start the action-faking. Last thing you see, and you're doing nothing.

yah sometimes tasks are difficult.....and?

 

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[Johnny boy]

Great response, you remind me what I was like when I was 26. Seems a long time ago now at the age of 42.

Somewhere along the way I lost that part of myself, all because of choices I made and big mistakes (which are expensive lessons learned that I won't repeat). I always said I'd be a millionaire at 25, didn't happen. Said the same at 30, didn't happen, then 35 etc. However before I was 40 I remember not thinking that at all, the business mistakes had came home to roost and I was faced with the consequences which have dragged both financially and mentally for a few years now.

Slowly but surely I'm finding myself back to the old me, the one that used to sound like you, but certainly didn't act like it. I look back on some of the business decisions I made and think, why did I do that? Not because I now know they were a mistake, but because the older more experienced brain I have knows that wasn't destined to work from the start.

I remember 12 years ago we rented a Villa in Spain for 3 weeks whilst my wife was off on maternity leave with our youngest son. Her parents came over for the last week. One evening her Father said to me why are you working on your laptop? You're on holiday. I said it doesn't feel like work to me.

The mistakes and years that followed have affected me mentally more than I have imagined now I've had time to digest and reflect. The way you act and are reminds me of that.

I ended up bankrupt 3 years ago. Do I regret the choices I made? Yes and No, I regret the decisions I made that ultimately led me to that situation, but I don't regret shooting for the moon and taking the risk. I can't regret that because it's ultimately who I am.

It's posts like yours that remind me of that person I wanted to be and still do so thank you. Those lofty goals and ambitions are still there at 42 and I feel I'm coming back to the old me - wiser.

Baring any health issues I'll still be the same at 72 - only a lot richer.

There's nothing else that compares to just clearly mapping out where you are and where you want to be and then creating a systematic plan on how you'll get there. Easy to make sure you do not stray off course. I'd say the most direct and reliable path is making sure you own a business that has some sort of opportunity to scale up.

 

[Paul David]

There's nothing else that compares to just clearly mapping out where you are and where you want to be and then creating a systematic plan on how you'll get there. Easy to make sure you do not stray off course. I'd say the most direct and reliable path is making sure you own a business that has some sort of opportunity to scale up.

True.

I went from saying I'll be a millionaire at 30 to thinking I'm trapped with the brain of someone who thinks like a millionaire but doesn't have the ability to become one. There was one day when I was pretty low where I wished that I was just a normal person who's happy with a 9-5 and doesn't think the way I do. I felt like I was punished because I was stuck in between.

It was a fleeting moment but I remember it was there. Kind of like me asking the universe, If I'm this type of person why aren't I getting the rewards? Why the hell didn't you make me like someone who goes to work for someone else and is happy with that instead of a person who's constantly chasing things and never achieving them.

Then I realised, thinking like that person doesn't make you a millionaire. I was still hanging around with friends who don't have businesses, aren't entrepreneurial and will work 5 days a week and spend the other 2 in a bar until they're 70. Happy with 3 weeks holiday a year.

Even this weekend I was close to slipping back to the "slow-laner". Yesterday I went for a meal with my wife around 2pm and I suggested we stay out and spend the rest of the day in a pub drinking. Luckily she said no. I would have felt like shit today and it wouldn't have been productive.

I woke up this morning dreading but excited about something I've agreed to this Friday, I'm supposed to be meeting friends in a pub for a horse racing day, its going to be drinking all day and having some bets on the horses. It's only £35 for drinks all day so it's not expensive.

The part of me that's excited about it, is the slowlaner. The person that has acted like a 9-5 person before. It's an afternoon off work and will be fun drinking and gambling.

The part of me that's dreading it, is the entrepreneur. The one who knows I'm not earning anywhere enough money. The one who's made a goal of getting a certain amount and the lifestyle change it could bring. That part of me also knows that the friends I'm going to be spending time with, are guys who moan in our whats app group on a Monday morning that they're dreading the working week, they've spent the weekend in the pub. Some of them take drugs.

The weekend will be a write off in terms of work after a day with them on Friday. Hangover from hell all Saturday and eating shit.

There's only person inside me that needs to win this week.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Never listen to what anyone says, watch what they do. Therein you'll find their priorities.

Energy follows thought.
Actions express priorities.

"I don't have time" = tell me how not to sacrifice my other higher priorities.

 

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[FluidWater]

Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like.

Very true.

The life that you have is the life that you chose.

 

[mikecarlooch]

This.

I've been in that freaking totally stressed state of mind you are talking about when it comes to unproductivity and ineffectiveness.

But you know what it all was? BS excuses.

The emotions were an action signal that I wasn't doing something right yet I continued to do the same thing trying to get the same result.

Crying and whining is an action-fake. There is always an action to take.

I was crying and whining how driving traffic is hard.

Then I said to myself "hey buddy yea driving traffic takes effort, are you gonna sit around and whine about it or are you going to get back in the damn field and start posting 100 times a day on social media again?"

I chose option 2.

I'm already seeing results.

I reached out to someone with a massive reputation recently with something I thought could be great for them. And my the little b**ch deep down almost stopped me from sending the email.

"Why would this dude give me the time of day?"

Guess what? I sent the email one day later I get a response saying they're interested.

Isn't that interesting?

Our perception is reality and our perception could also be BS if we're not careful.

It makes me wonder. What if I sent that email the 100 other times I had something I wanted someone to see and I let how I felt about how that person would react or wouldn't react in that moment? What would have happened?

Discomfort is the dragon that guards the gold.

 

[Shono]

If I am motivated but don't know where to start what do you recommend I do? Should I stare at a wall at the very least (not joking here), that way I am not stuck in some cheap dopamine / distraction cycle?

I keep reading about copywriting, email marketing etc etc. and maybe I should just pick one and just run with it and see what happens, but am not confident to choose anything either.

Any tips from someone who was once where I was and got going?

 

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[socaldude]

People don’t prioritize anything because they are asleep.

The auto-pilot aspect of human nature is very powerful. Like…extremely powerful.

People fall into the circular trap of failure and dysfunction for many reasons. You are raised by dysfunctional parents then you marry young and have kids. You fall into some dead-end job. Then you divorce losing your faith in people and love. Etc.

For many people sadly this is the main theme of their life.

Sometimes life throws a lot at people and I can’t hold it against them for reacting or acting poorly. Not that it’s not their responsibility but human nature is that powerful.

It’s hard to wake up. Very hard. But it can be done. Books, mentors, this forum, like-minded friends can help.

You might have to be unproductive at first. Trying to read this or that book. Being broke, overweight and depressed. But if you fight back and work at it. You’ll begin to wake up and see a whole different world.

 

[Shono]

People don’t prioritize anything because they are asleep.

The auto-pilot aspect of human nature is very powerful. Like…extremely powerful.

People fall into the circular trap of failure and dysfunction for many reasons. You are raised by dysfunctional parents then you marry young and have kids. You fall into some dead-end job. Then you divorce losing your faith in people and love. Etc.

I think it's so deeply ingrained in the societal playbook that everyone follows. The whole keeping up with the joneses and following the expectations of societies dogmatic benchmarks that inherently are just... bland and average.

I'll never forget the statistic from Unscripted ... 85/65. 85% of new cars on the road you see are leased, with an average 65 month lease term. That is the pithiest manner of explaining societies sad priorities that I've ever heard.

 

[Antifragile]

Oh boy, I have to be the unpopular opinion again. I guess that’s my new role, maybe because I so good at it?

No, no and no. You don’t have to give everything up and live liKe that. It’s a lie to get people like sheep to work 17 hours a day on a business and hope that one day they later have the money and success to “buy” all the things that matter in life. No. Dear reader - Do better than that!

I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife

I’m the exact opposite of your list up there.
I have a family, friends who don’t talk business with me, kid and a wife.
And I do business that in 2022 did close to 200x your numbers (based on what you posted).

The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.

You don’t know anything more pleasurable but it doesn’t mean there is nothing.

Any parent will tell you that a kids “I love my daddy“ a million trillion times more pleasurable than any little business you find so good. The joy of watching your child growing up is impossible to explain, it has to be lived.

Why can’t you have it all? Isn’t the whole premise of FLF based on exactly that?

All of my friends who are in various businesses have kids, families, large businesses, small businesses. They have houses, dogs, lawns. They have friends who don’t talk business, have husbands and wives.

What kind of a crowd from hell did you find where everyone is so obsessed with business they miss life altogether?

I’ll be the unpopular voice here, I know. I just hope one person who really needs to read this sees my post. YOU do not have to settle for a personal version of hell and pretend to call it “priorities”. Life is short. You may die tomorrow. Live your life.



That said, I agree about setting goals and having clear priorities. As far back as I can remember, my priorities have been and remain:
1. Family
2. Health
3. Business

And 3 is there to support 1 and 2 only.


P.S. I understand that Johny boy is the extreme version of … well everything… and that we all made sacrifices to become successful. I just hate seeing struggling crowds here get the wrong message, you don’t need to give up EVERYTHING. Trust me, life can and is so much better than that.

 

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[Johnny boy]

And I do business that in 2022 did close to 200x your numbers (based on what you posted).

Congrats on making 40 million profit at 26 I didn’t know you were chill like that

Read again though, you can do whatever you’d like, just expect proportional results. Don’t put business 8th on your list and expect to win.

 

[BizyDad]

Oh boy, I have to be the unpopular opinion again. I guess that’s my new role, maybe because I so good at it?

No, no and no. You don’t have to give everything up and live liKe that. It’s a lie to get people like sheep to work 17 hours a day on a business and hope that one day they later have the money and success to “buy” all the things that matter in life. No. Dear reader - Do better than that!



I’m the exact opposite of your list up there.
I have a family, friends who don’t talk business with me, kid and a wife.
And I do business that in 2022 did close to 200x your numbers (based on what you posted).



You don’t know anything more pleasurable but it doesn’t mean there is nothing.

Any parent will tell you that a kids “I love my daddy“ a million trillion times more pleasurable than any little business you find so good. The joy of watching your child growing up is impossible to explain, it has to be lived.

Why can’t you have it all? Isn’t the whole premise of FLF based on exactly that?

All of my friends who are in various businesses have kids, families, large businesses, small businesses. They have houses, dogs, lawns. They have friends who don’t talk business, have husbands and wives.

What kind of a crowd from hell did you find where everyone is so obsessed with business they miss life altogether?

I’ll be the unpopular voice here, I know. I just hope one person who really needs to read this sees my post. YOU do not have to settle for a personal version of hell and pretend to call it “priorities”. Life is short. You may die tomorrow. Live your life.



That said, I agree about setting goals and having clear priorities. As far back as I can remember, my priorities have been and remain:
1. Family
2. Health
3. Business

And 3 is there to support 1 and 2 only.


P.S. I understand that Johny boy is the extreme version of … well everything… and that we all made sacrifices to become successful. I just hate seeing struggling crowds here get the wrong message, you don’t need to give up EVERYTHING. Trust me, life can and is so much better than that.

Bravo.

Congrats on making 40 million profit at 26 I didn’t know you were chill like that

Read again though, you can do whatever you’d like, just expect proportional results. Don’t put business 8th on your list and expect to win.

26? That's the age Zuckerberg got married. Buffett got married at 22. Bezos got married at 29. Carlos Slim at 27.

It's true. You can do whatever you like.

It's true you can expect to get proportional results.

The part that seems to be missing that the people in your life can hold you back, or they can be an accelerator.

You can put your business 4th on your list of priorities and still become the wealthiest man in the world.

Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.

While I agree with this, I'll quote Warren Buffet:

"It is not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results."

Everything is perspective I suppose.

 

[N.S.]

The most butthurt people I ever see in my entire life are people who get told they would need to change priorities in order to succeed.

“Hey, how do I find time to work on my business? I spend 5 hours a day playing patty cake with my kids, my wife makes me stay at home, I spend 4 hours a day at the gym, and I’m not trading away my time with my friends, we go golfing every other day for another 4 hours”

Your success is the last thing on your list of priorities, don’t be confused when you get proportional results.

You are competing against guys like me.

Gym is only 30-40 minutes 3x a week.
I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife
I don’t even have a dog

I wake up and think about my goals, I work, I go to bed thinking about my goals.

I prioritized my goals as the top 4 on a list of 5 important things to me.

I will expect proportional results.

You really want to spend time with the kids, you want to keep your safe full time job with no risk, you want to do everything but work and that’s fine, you can do that, just don’t be confused why you’re not getting anywhere.

Everyone acts like they were handed the life they are in and have no choice. You chose everything you have and everything you’ve done has led to today.

Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like. I’d love a dog. I’d love to spend time with my girl. I’d love to have a lot of friends hanging out every night. I just know that at the end of the day, it takes away from my goals, and I’ve already made the decision that I would trade all to get all.

You can have anything you want in life, you just don’t get to pick how much it costs. You are responsible for every second of your day, whether it feels that way or not. You could spend 17 hours working on your one singular goal 7 days a week, you just refuse to accept what you would have to give up. You love hearing things like “burn out”, “overtraining”, “work-life balance”. That shit isn’t real. Never losing momentum IS real. I’ve had singular strains of work that have lasted for weeks, only interrupted by dreams about the work I have to do before getting back to it. The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.

Give all to get all, it’s an easy trade.

In 5 years I do not want to have a really good excuse. I don’t care how good it is. I don’t care if anyone around me is patting my back telling me it’s okay, I did what I could, it’s not my fault. That’s good as dog shit to me.

If I want time off, I have to earn it with progress. Each level gets a little reward before getting back to work. Double the company, take a winter vacation, repeat next year. Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.

Great post, thank you @Johnny boy

One thing I am enjoying about the forum right now is this kind of real talk (that would likely really rile the average person up). No molly coddling, no appealing to people's feelings, just matter of factly stating what it sometimes can take to prioritise routes to true freedom. No lowering standards to only dream of making $100k/yr and kidding ourselves that's enough to set anyone up for an exciting, fulfilling and safe life.

Whilst this always has to be put into the context of each person, my opinion is it takes more of this attitude than not to get that initial escape velocity. Maybe after a certain point it doesn't need to be so full on (which was my experience).

For me it was mostly working hard in my 20s, but still enjoying life along the way (work hard, play hard). Working *really* hard in my 30s when I got my first business going, but also travelling a lot, enjoying life - but choosing to work pretty much every day with focus.

Now in my 40s I've got the foot much more off the business gas (also correlated to living in comfort through the spoils of successful business). But as I'm starting a new venture and want to go to the next level, for large periods of the day I'm channeling the energy you're describing. That said, I like to practice working almost every day and vacationing almost every day. I'm going for longevity and consistency, but also to enjoy life along the way (just not with mindless things or lazy defaults).

Anyway, the post hit home for me. Thank you.

 

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[kommen]

Great post but

I don’t have kids (that I know of)

Dear God...

 

[kommen]

Oh boy, I have to be the unpopular opinion again. I guess that’s my new role, maybe because I so good at it?

No, no and no. You don’t have to give everything up and live liKe that. It’s a lie to get people like sheep to work 17 hours a day on a business and hope that one day they later have the money and success to “buy” all the things that matter in life. No. Dear reader - Do better than that!



I’m the exact opposite of your list up there.
I have a family, friends who don’t talk business with me, kid and a wife.
And I do business that in 2022 did close to 200x your numbers (based on what you posted).



You don’t know anything more pleasurable but it doesn’t mean there is nothing.

Any parent will tell you that a kids “I love my daddy“ a million trillion times more pleasurable than any little business you find so good. The joy of watching your child growing up is impossible to explain, it has to be lived.

Why can’t you have it all? Isn’t the whole premise of FLF based on exactly that?

All of my friends who are in various businesses have kids, families, large businesses, small businesses. They have houses, dogs, lawns. They have friends who don’t talk business, have husbands and wives.

What kind of a crowd from hell did you find where everyone is so obsessed with business they miss life altogether?

I’ll be the unpopular voice here, I know. I just hope one person who really needs to read this sees my post. YOU do not have to settle for a personal version of hell and pretend to call it “priorities”. Life is short. You may die tomorrow. Live your life.



That said, I agree about setting goals and having clear priorities. As far back as I can remember, my priorities have been and remain:
1. Family
2. Health
3. Business

And 3 is there to support 1 and 2 only.


P.S. I understand that Johny boy is the extreme version of … well everything… and that we all made sacrifices to become successful. I just hate seeing struggling crowds here get the wrong message, you don’t need to give up EVERYTHING. Trust me, life can and is so much better than that.

You earned my follow with this post, I do love seeing unpopular opinions everytime.

IMO I don't think time spent doing something is a good measure to judge priority, but effort and motivation while doing it. I think that is the case because you might be better at doing one thing that makes it better.

If you spend too much negative time (arguing, negotiating, etc) with your family then, shouldn't you as entrepreneurs, who are basically problem solvers, find a solution to reduce so much negative time with your family?

 

[heavy_industry]

Pure F*cking gold.

 

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[Guest931Xfjyx]

@Johnny boy has done exceptionally well for himself at a young age. Although having priorities like a family is a noble route, I'd wager that someone who has nothing but a business on his mind significantly outperforms someone with split focus.

While you're thinking of what to eat with your kids tonight, Johnny is thinking of his business. When you're out golfing, he's still working on his business. When your actions and thoughts are nothing but one priority, you'll clearly be greater. It's an obsession.

I respect the momentum you show if your words are true. Keep at it man you're killing it.

 

[kommen]

Oh boy, I have to be the unpopular opinion again. I guess that’s my new role, maybe because I so good at it?

No, no and no. You don’t have to give everything up and live liKe that. It’s a lie to get people like sheep to work 17 hours a day on a business and hope that one day they later have the money and success to “buy” all the things that matter in life. No. Dear reader - Do better than that!



I’m the exact opposite of your list up there.
I have a family, friends who don’t talk business with me, kid and a wife.
And I do business that in 2022 did close to 200x your numbers (based on what you posted).



You don’t know anything more pleasurable but it doesn’t mean there is nothing.

Any parent will tell you that a kids “I love my daddy“ a million trillion times more pleasurable than any little business you find so good. The joy of watching your child growing up is impossible to explain, it has to be lived.

Why can’t you have it all? Isn’t the whole premise of FLF based on exactly that?

All of my friends who are in various businesses have kids, families, large businesses, small businesses. They have houses, dogs, lawns. They have friends who don’t talk business, have husbands and wives.

What kind of a crowd from hell did you find where everyone is so obsessed with business they miss life altogether?

I’ll be the unpopular voice here, I know. I just hope one person who really needs to read this sees my post. YOU do not have to settle for a personal version of hell and pretend to call it “priorities”. Life is short. You may die tomorrow. Live your life.



That said, I agree about setting goals and having clear priorities. As far back as I can remember, my priorities have been and remain:
1. Family
2. Health
3. Business

And 3 is there to support 1 and 2 only.


P.S. I understand that Johny boy is the extreme version of … well everything… and that we all made sacrifices to become successful. I just hate seeing struggling crowds here get the wrong message, you don’t need to give up EVERYTHING. Trust me, life can and is so much better than that.

@MJ DeMarco What are your thoughts on this reply?

 

[BizyDad]

Although having priorities like a family is a noble route, I'd wager that someone who has nothing but a business on his mind significantly outperforms someone with split focus.

26? That's the age Zuckerberg got married. Buffett got married at 22. Bezos got married at 29. Carlos Slim at 27.

So you're saying these guys all achieved what they achieved on hard mode. Imagine if they weren't shackled with the double think and double focus of a wife.

Meanwhile guys like Johnny are out here doing biz on easy mode.

 

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[kommen]

While you're thinking of what to eat with your kids tonight, Johnny is thinking of his business. When you're out golfing, he's still working on his business. When your actions and thoughts are nothing but one priority, you'll clearly be greater. It's an obsession.

No offense but you sound like you'll end up on this funny Instagram page @bethesidehustle

 

[Tom Fitzgerald]

The most butthurt people I ever see in my entire life are people who get told they would need to change priorities in order to succeed.

“Hey, how do I find time to work on my business? I spend 5 hours a day playing patty cake with my kids, my wife makes me stay at home, I spend 4 hours a day at the gym, and I’m not trading away my time with my friends, we go golfing every other day for another 4 hours”

Your success is the last thing on your list of priorities, don’t be confused when you get proportional results.

You are competing against guys like me.

Gym is only 30-40 minutes 3x a week.
I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife
I don’t even have a dog

I wake up and think about my goals, I work, I go to bed thinking about my goals.

I prioritized my goals as the top 4 on a list of 5 important things to me.

I will expect proportional results.

You really want to spend time with the kids, you want to keep your safe full time job with no risk, you want to do everything but work and that’s fine, you can do that, just don’t be confused why you’re not getting anywhere.

Everyone acts like they were handed the life they are in and have no choice. You chose everything you have and everything you’ve done has led to today.

Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like. I’d love a dog. I’d love to spend time with my girl. I’d love to have a lot of friends hanging out every night. I just know that at the end of the day, it takes away from my goals, and I’ve already made the decision that I would trade all to get all.

You can have anything you want in life, you just don’t get to pick how much it costs. You are responsible for every second of your day, whether it feels that way or not. You could spend 17 hours working on your one singular goal 7 days a week, you just refuse to accept what you would have to give up. You love hearing things like “burn out”, “overtraining”, “work-life balance”. That shit isn’t real. Never losing momentum IS real. I’ve had singular strains of work that have lasted for weeks, only interrupted by dreams about the work I have to do before getting back to it. The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.

Give all to get all, it’s an easy trade.

In 5 years I do not want to have a really good excuse. I don’t care how good it is. I don’t care if anyone around me is patting my back telling me it’s okay, I did what I could, it’s not my fault. That’s good as dog shit to me.

If I want time off, I have to earn it with progress. Each level gets a little reward before getting back to work. Double the company, take a winter vacation, repeat next year. Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.

Thanks for the reminder!