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Hi,
I am wondering how to become more charismatic and I hope you have some tips for me.
Is it enough to read a few books about it (How to win friends and influence people, The Charisma Myth) and practice the things they say?
Do these tips do any good at all or is it more about being successful and overcoming difficult challenges to become more charismatic?
It's not that I have social deficits or can't talk to people. I don't have any problems in that regard, but as so often in life, there is room for improvement which is why I ask.
Have you guys ever tried to become more charismatic? What are your experiences?
Thank you very much.
- Do interesting things
- Be friendly and relaxed with people
Where people go wrong is they do the second without the first. They want to be "cool", when their life is boring and they don't really do anything.
Let's say you just got back from a month of cycling across Spain, and next week you are going to Fiji to big wave surf, and right now you are working on expanding your business to get it to the next level...
Suddenly you are "charismatic". People want to hang out with you and get to know you.
Reading all the books/watching all the videos are just tactics.
They will only go so far without actually doing anything cool.
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Also this is where things can get "weird". Learning how Tom Cruise shakes someones hand is going to be a lot different to how you greet your local delivery guy. The context is 1,000 times different.
If you don't do interesting things + have an interesting life = huge cap on being "charismatic".
A lot of things can actually start to backfire, you are over playing your hand.
So, be careful with Youtube tutorials. They break down celebrities and the world's most famous people. BUT a lot of this stuff does not directly connect to a non-famous person. Again - just do interesting things, and be relaxed around people.