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It will piss off some feminists, but that is your role. You pick up where her father left off. She is wired to be protected and provided for by you.<br />
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As a man, you take the reigns. You provide, you teach, you BE the person that she can respect and look up to. Respect is also earned… A man can’t take his rightful place at the head of his household until he has a foundation worthy of respect built.<br />
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A lot of men will take what I say as, “be a tyrant.” If that’s what someone here thinks I said, keep rereading the above until you understand English.<br />
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It is a responsibility, not some kind of entitlement. If she respects you, and feels secure that you will do what it takes to meet the above, she will never question you.<br />
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I can start any business I want, buy something huge, make investment calls, sell the frickin house, give everything away, move us to Antarctica… It doesn’t matter, my wife knows I’m taking care of her.<br />
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Striving for “supportive” is barking up the wrong tree. Mutual relationship shared role BS is not good for either of you. Unwaveringly loyal and respectful, because you’ve earned it, is what you want.
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</blockquote>Some great points. With my gf, it's much less (if at all) about everything else you have mentioned. She does know I'm supportive, respected/ful, etc. She also knows I'm a hard worker.<br />
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For me, TIME is what she often starts an 'argument' about. The truth is this, lack of time is the nature of the entrepreneur beast you know. When women see that you don't have time for them (THEIR time is highly biased btw, because you can never ever spend enough time with them) they automatically translate your lack of time as lack-of-time for them or no care for them or no interest in them or unfulfilling their needs, etc. AND in my case, that is so damn far from the truth.<br />
I'm actually more balanced than most people. If I'm not with her, I'm doing something super constructive & planning for the future, which I do see her a major part of.<br />
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In summary - I feel like many women are their own worst nightmare. They have car headlight vision that is SO SO LIMITED.</div>
