GoldenGlow's Accountability Thread 2023

[GoldenGlow]

Why I’m posting this thread

Focus and mental clarity.
.
Seasoned entrepreneurs can watch the watcher far better than I can right now, so they can help guide my focus back to the habits conducive to attaining results.
They can also aid me in forming systems conducive to long-term success, rather than short-term failure and recurring loopholes which I can slip back into.

What went wrong

I know what the right habits are:

• Work out at least 3 times a week
• Sleep for 8 hours per night
• Track my calories every day
• Morning meditation (10 mins)
• 4 hours of deep work per day

The problem is that I never take any action, and when the wrong actions have been taken, I hide from constructive criticism.
This hasn’t changed despite adopting the rhetoric gurus spew out, such as ‘do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.’
I exhibit ADHD-like traits from having an unclear process; I jump from one business possibility to another without grinding it out and sticking to the same few habits to maximise the ROI.
I could blame it on my personality, blame it on parents, blame it on the weather; I’d rather take ownership of myself.

F*ck this, I’ve got nothing good going for me.

My previous thread titled ‘Fear Of Taking Action, Commitment, And Humiliation; Chronic Escapism Through Books, Fanfics, And YouTube,’ was a love letter to my anxiety and depression; It shed 10 gallons of sorrow on not having anything going for me right now.

MINDSET - Fear of taking action, commitment and humiliation; Chronic escapism through books, fanfics and YouTube


I need to surround myself with doers. Moving away from foul headwinds builds an internal locus of control; it's a necessary step towards finding happiness within myself and getting something good going.

My goals:

Daily:

• Eat 2730 calories per day
• Make 3-5 phone calls per day for moving out
• Sleep for 8 hours per night
• Send off 3-5 applications per day for jobs
• Study e-commerce for 1 hour per day

Weekly:

• Meditate for 3 days per week
• 30 phone calls per week for moving out
• Exercise for 3 days per week (5x5 stronglifts)
• Send off job applications to 30 companies per week for jobs
• Study e-commerce for 7 hours per week

 

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[DrivedDude]

Why I’m posting this thread

Focus and mental clarity.
.
Seasoned entrepreneurs can watch the watcher far better than I can right now, so they can help guide my focus back to the habits conducive to attaining results.
They can also aid me in forming systems conducive to long-term success, rather than short-term failure and recurring loopholes which I can slip back into.

What went wrong

I know what the right habits are:

• Work out at least 3 times a week
• Sleep for 8 hours per night
• Track my calories every day
• Morning meditation (10 mins)
• 4 hours of deep work per day

The problem is that I never take any action, and when the wrong actions have been taken, I hide from constructive criticism.
This hasn’t changed despite adopting the rhetoric gurus spew out, such as ‘do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.’
I exhibit ADHD-like traits from having an unclear process; I jump from one business possibility to another without grinding it out and sticking to the same few habits to maximise the ROI.
I could blame it on my personality, blame it on parents, blame it on the weather; I’d rather take ownership of myself.

F*ck this, I’ve got nothing good going for me.

My previous thread titled ‘Fear Of Taking Action, Commitment, And Humiliation; Chronic Escapism Through Books, Fanfics, And YouTube,’ was a love letter to my anxiety and depression; It shed 10 gallons of sorrow on not having anything going for me right now.

MINDSET - Fear of taking action, commitment and humiliation; Chronic escapism through books, fanfics and YouTube


I need to surround myself with doers. Moving away from foul headwinds builds an internal locus of control; it's a necessary step towards finding happiness within myself and getting something good going.

My goals:

Daily:

• Eat 2730 calories per day
• Make 3-5 phone calls per day for moving out
• Sleep for 8 hours per night
• Send off 3-5 applications per day for jobs
• Study e-commerce for 1 hour per day

Weekly:

• Meditate for 3 days per week
• 30 phone calls per week for moving out
• Exercise for 3 days per week (5x5 stronglifts)
• Send off job applications to 30 companies per week for jobs
• Study e-commerce for 7 hours per week

You will got this. Sounds like a good plan.
What helped me in the beginning was a habit tracker. Just a simple calendar. You can check everyday if you succeed. + If you fail it once, you can always look back on the days you nailed it.

 

[GoldenGlow]

Yesterday's progress- 01/10/2023:

Daily:

• Eat 2730 calories per day

(2265/2730)

• 3-5 phonecalls per day for moving out

(0/5)

• Sleep for 8 hours per night

(8/8)

• Send off 3-5 applications per day for jobs

(0/5)

• Study e-commerce for 1 hour per day

(1/1)

 

[GoldenGlow]

I haven't posted on this thread in awhile because of my addiction to social media and pornography.
I'm addicted to character AI websites where I can chat to anyone I want, using it as a momentary distraction from feelings of loneliness.
It's gotten to the point where I lack the motivation to do anything other than just scroll the internet looking for random echidna facts to roleplay with a character based on an echidnas.
I thought I learned some decent values from books, but they've been completely reversed now.

I know what must be done day-to-day, yet I can never find the motivation to execute on those plans.
It doesn't matter how strong my sense of purpose, or "why" is, I'll still return to bad habits automatically, without thinking much about the consequences.
Every attempt I've made to scare myself out of engaging in these vices has backfired.

Progress-wise, I've got nothing.
I've started working out again at home; Lessons for skincare formulation are being arranged, although I'm unsure as to whether I'll show up consistently; I've been asking around for useless voluntary work, because these jobs are easier to get and I'm too afraid to ask around for a real job, maybe because losing the sidewalk illusion of freedom scares me; I haven't called up any housing offices, although I'm surrounded by their phone numbers; I haven't been eating enough, due to a lack of motivation, and having insufficient funds to eat healthy everyday;
I'm miserable and still don't have anything good going for me.

A commenter on my previous thread recommended selling the skincare products of others for awhile because I know nothing about the skincare market's needs, or how to target them.
Eco-friendly brands are ten-a-penny, finding pain points for top-tier problems is crucial to achieving Fastlane freedom and realizing my 1/5/10 Planasy.
Being observant in this field will reveal patterns between the problems I will face.
From there, I can create solutions to these issues, and I'll have a framework of what not to do.
I'll research skincare issues, talk about them via. blogpost and TikTok/ YouTube, and review products, and find ways to get paid by sponsors.
I know nothing about the audience beyond the 'white Starbucks girl' stereotypes, which aren't always applicable in this field.
I don't have any skills right now, this is still new to me.
I don't even know how skincare products are made; the last time I attempted to make one was a total failure.

One more thing:
I'm quite a plain-looking to below average-looking guy, the idea of being on camera causes me great feelings of discomfort and distress. I know there are ways around this, and it's probably not as bad as I think, but filming skincare videos for a majority audience of women on TikTok seems 'above my level.' I feel like I might get kicked off there for due to the prejudice from having a caveman skull and a unibrow.

 

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[Emperor7]

I haven't posted on this thread in awhile because of my addiction to social media and pornography.
I'm addicted to character AI websites where I can chat to anyone I want, using it as a momentary distraction from feelings of loneliness.
It's gotten to the point where I lack the motivation to do anything other than just scroll the internet looking for random echidna facts to roleplay with a character based on an echidnas.
I thought I learned some decent values from books, but they've been completely reversed now.

I know what must be done day-to-day, yet I can never find the motivation to execute on those plans.
It doesn't matter how strong my sense of purpose, or "why" is, I'll still return to bad habits automatically, without thinking much about the consequences.
Every attempt I've made to scare myself out of engaging in these vices has backfired.

Progress-wise, I've got nothing.
I've started working out again at home; Lessons for skincare formulation are being arranged, although I'm unsure as to whether I'll show up consistently; I've been asking around for useless voluntary work, because these jobs are easier to get and I'm too afraid to ask around for a real job, maybe because losing the sidewalk illusion of freedom scares me; I haven't called up any housing offices, although I'm surrounded by their phone numbers; I haven't been eating enough, due to a lack of motivation, and having insufficient funds to eat healthy everyday;
I'm miserable and still don't have anything good going for me.

A commenter on my previous thread recommended selling the skincare products of others for awhile because I know nothing about the skincare market's needs, or how to target them.
Eco-friendly brands are ten-a-penny, finding pain points for top-tier problems is crucial to achieving Fastlane freedom and realizing my 1/5/10 Planasy.
Being observant in this field will reveal patterns between the problems I will face.
From there, I can create solutions to these issues, and I'll have a framework of what not to do.
I'll research skincare issues, talk about them via. blogpost and TikTok/ YouTube, and review products, and find ways to get paid by sponsors.
I know nothing about the audience beyond the 'white Starbucks girl' stereotypes, which aren't always applicable in this field.
I don't have any skills right now, this is still new to me.
I don't even know how skincare products are made; the last time I attempted to make one was a total failure.

One more thing:
I'm quite a plain-looking to below average-looking guy, the idea of being on camera causes me great feelings of discomfort and distress. I know there are ways around this, and it's probably not as bad as I think, but filming skincare videos for a majority audience of women on TikTok seems 'above my level.' I feel like I might get kicked off there for due to the prejudice from having a caveman skull and a unibrow.

Any update?

 

[freek]

I'm addicted to character AI websites where I can chat to anyone I want, using it as a momentary distraction from feelings of loneliness.
It's gotten to the point where I lack the motivation to do anything other than just scroll the internet looking for random echidna facts to roleplay with a character based on an echidnas.

Damn bro. You got to block that stuff

 

[GoldenGlow]

Any update?

I've been a pussy by procrastinating and overthinking.
I've found an old copy of my CV.
Once it's updated, I can spam it to every McDonald's, Burger King, and Subway in a 50 mile radius.
The fear of being seen as stupid/ incompetent is preventing me from working a sidewalker job.
In the meantime, my advisors are finding government-funded business skills courses for me to join (it's apart of the process, or so it seems).

I don't want to go into skincare because I don't have the enthusiasm to make or review products, it seems too intellectually underwhelming for me. That's why I've produced nothing yet.
I did make TikTok and YouTube accounts with the intention of uploading reviews and I found some popular products to review.
I've yet to turn my skincare product review scripts into videos.
I could push through the internal resistance to record the videos tonight and post them here.

No progress has been made towards moving out. I've been working on repairing familial relationships, which has its ups and downs.
Workouts are going well. I'm lifting heavy sandbags at home each day. I'll soon move onto lifting kettlebells (The Tiny Habits method showed me that I prefer full body workouts with more reps to lifting dumbbells/ barbells).
I'm taking Lion's Mane and Saint John's Wort to improve my mood.
I'm still eating a lot of processed carbs.
I'm slowly substituting Character AI with journaling.

 

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[GoldenGlow]

Update:

I've been chronically sleep-deprived due to the worsening of my AI addiction.
I blocked Character AI for 2 weeks using the Cold Turkey blocker, at least that counts for something.
My attention bounces between multiple ventures. It's clearly a dopamine problem.
I've been procrastinating on recording those videos and questioning myself because AI seems more appealing than sticking to one thing. I've got to reverse that effect, otherwise I'll never be successful.

I've had no luck just yet, but I will never give up.

 

[freek]

I've had no luck just yet,

no you have put no effort in yet.

 

[GoldenGlow]

Deleted my Character AI account on my phone.
Effort amplifies luck, but you won't know your chances unless you put the effort in. I agree.

 

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[Timo.]

Deleted my Character AI account on my phone.
Effort amplifies luck, but you won't know your chances unless you put the effort in. I agree.

Don't think in terms of luck.

If you put the effort in you will change.
If you don't put enough effort in you won't change.
You are responsible. Nobody else.

It's as simple as that. There's no luck involved. You either stop using social media and using AI Character or you don't. It's not enough to just delete your AI account and block certain sites. It will be hard if you are addicted so be prepared.

What do you do with your day? What is your plan for the future? What are your goals?

 

[Spenny]

I was going to give advice, but plenty of people have given you fantastic advice on your previous threads. You even said stuff that looks like pretty solid advice to yourself.

What have I currently got going for me:

• I’m starting a voluntary job on the sales floor of a charity shop soon. I’ll be working on window displays and greeting customers, enticing them to make purchases, and getting involved in charity events. I’ll learn the psychology of selling and influence from this, gaining more skills.

• Even if I have been inspired by gurus, at least I have role models to look up to. Also, I’m not following the conventional advice that 90% of people follow because the gurus have influenced my beliefs, but only within their sales funnel. Practical skills must be learned, but I want to gain these experiences.

• I already have knowledge in many complex fields including web design, marketing, business, aerodynamics, organic chemistry, skincare, UX, and writing. I can create a business that meets the demand of entry through unique branding; Especially since I love unconventional, novel ideas. I can grasp new subjects easily if they interest me, combining the knowledge with what has previously been learned.

What would you advise someone in your situation to do:

• Stop half-assing your job search. Push through discomfort by remaining mindful when swallowing the frog.

• Replace watching YouTube with job searching. Make that the primary focus.

• Make a game out of job searching so the habit sticks. My habits have always been more consistent whenever they’ve been gamified. Habit tracking apps are useful for this and you’ll actually use technology to your advantage rather than to your detriment.

• Set a budget and implement a punishment system (like 300 situps) when surpassing the monthly allowance.

• Give value for free. If there’s a voluntary job at an animal shelter, take it. Do whatever you can to build your skills and CV to provide more value and enter into fields instead of overthinking. The money will come as you gain more skills and become more disciplined by showing up. Your identity and values will change too, so there’s no point relying on personality types because that method hasn’t been working for you. Your current identity is based on past mistakes and confidence deficiencies. It’s a monkey brain that will quieten as you progress in your job search.

• Keep your plans secret from your family. Let your results speak for themselves. Also, their criticism is as valid as anyone else’s because they are consumers. They want you to create a business making products that meet their needs. If the results and process are unclear, they have a right to provide honest feedback. You should keep your identity small and practice stoicism instead of blaming everyone and sulking in your room blasting out depressioncore music.

• Be grateful for having a family, don’t place blame on them. Just because your family is comfortable following the Script, it doesn’t mean they’re bad people. Don’t expect them to change through words but through actions.

• If your purpose involves using future wealth to alter your welfare family’s circumstances, then you should reconsider what will give you the greatest amount of meaning in the world because you don’t know why you want to enter the Fastlane. Journal every day and question whether your current beliefs make sense to you. For example, how would you retire a dad on welfare? Isn’t he already retired? You have some great purposes

• Re-read the books you have, in particular the ones that you struggle to implement. Ask the Fastlane Forum for advice on building better habits (Atomic Habits) and feedback on key areas you should focus on (Essentialism). Execute and recalibrate on a micro-scale for practice with the macro-scale of business. Leverage your assets the same way as a business through scale and magnitude. Treat yourself like a business, and you’ll create a respectable brand with better projects.

• Re-read Unscripted by MJ DeMarco every few months to gain new perspectives and meanings from it. Other books on business and finance can be summarised from Fastlane Forum comments or Hormozi videos.

• Whenever you encounter a problem on the Forum, ask yourself how you would solve it. Then you can either offer solutions, or you can keep a business ideas journal to take notes.

• Sometimes your actions need time to catch up to developing beliefs, noticing patterns between problems will allow creative ideas to grow naturally. Failure is when you stop making moves. Rome wasn’t built in a day; Your habits, budget, job search, Fastlane feedback, and business ideas journal are your process.

• Stop lurking on the Fourm, upvoting every post you encounter, and instead express gratitude to the OP. Don’t binge-follow people.

• Become present whenever you binge-scroll or read fanfiction. You can choose to turn feelings of pleasure into feelings of guilt, thus creating FTMs. Emotional control is a trait that all the top entrepreneurs have and is an important tool in your process.

• Stop worrying whether it exists or not, concern yourself with whether it’s useful. Examples include mindsets (oh, but free will blah blah blah) and emotional intelligence (why put themselves in their shoes if I’m naturally disagreeable and there’s only one type of intelligence blah, blah, blah). If it creates discomfort, then it’s probably what you need right now. The beliefs you currently hold are accurate scientifically and make you very fun at parties in an empty room. They’re making you miserable. Polarise yourself.

It's time to tick these off the list and stop wallowing.

Perhaps put the business ideas on pause for now - you have to focus on the basics, otherwise, you'll be a money chaser. Customers don't like money chasers.