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- Mar 1, 2021
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Hi all,
Long story short, I'm 34 years old, recently engaged (as of a week ago), no kids (yet). I was working as a teacher for a number of years, and this past December I took a job in a school as an Administrator. The position makes a lot more money but it's located an hour and a half away from where I was living (which happened to be 10 minutes from my girlfriend/fiance). So, I moved in with my mother who lives about 35 minutes way from my current job. I come visit my fiance on weekends. I'll leave work Friday, and go 55 miles, which takes 2 hours to arrive back at her place.
Moving into my mom's has been no picnic. I sleep on a fold out couch, and deal with her abusive ways. She does occasionally have a nice side (as she's extremely hot and cold). She makes it a point to belittle me, my fiance, my father, and more on a weekly basis, but I digress.
The benefit/upside is I haven't been paying rent. Now, she wants me to pay her 400-500 a month to stay. Everything in my area is extremely expensive and I want to live as cheaply as possible so I could save up, invest in a business, and a multi-family home. I also can afford to buy something now, but I don't want to because ideally I'd like to find a job closer to where I was living before, but is hasn't been easy. I don't want to buy a house and commit to an area and job where I don't intend on staying.
I've taken costs into consideration, i.e. gas and all the mileage i'm putting on my car going from my mom's place to work, and then from work to my fiance's on weekends, and as we all know gas isn't cheap right now.
If you were me, would you stay at my moms and deal with the abuse and long commutes but pay cheap rent (400-500 a month, + adding up all the gas, tolls, and everything else), and suck it up until I find a new job/start a business?... OR would you look into renting closer to my job, driving a lot less and having more time, BUT paying considerable more rent? I'd be going from the 400-500 a month + gas and other expenses to probably around 1200-1500 a month if I'm lucky, so it's kind of a big difference.
Would love to hear your thoughts! Thanks in advance!
Long story short, I'm 34 years old, recently engaged (as of a week ago), no kids (yet). I was working as a teacher for a number of years, and this past December I took a job in a school as an Administrator. The position makes a lot more money but it's located an hour and a half away from where I was living (which happened to be 10 minutes from my girlfriend/fiance). So, I moved in with my mother who lives about 35 minutes way from my current job. I come visit my fiance on weekends. I'll leave work Friday, and go 55 miles, which takes 2 hours to arrive back at her place.
Moving into my mom's has been no picnic. I sleep on a fold out couch, and deal with her abusive ways. She does occasionally have a nice side (as she's extremely hot and cold). She makes it a point to belittle me, my fiance, my father, and more on a weekly basis, but I digress.
The benefit/upside is I haven't been paying rent. Now, she wants me to pay her 400-500 a month to stay. Everything in my area is extremely expensive and I want to live as cheaply as possible so I could save up, invest in a business, and a multi-family home. I also can afford to buy something now, but I don't want to because ideally I'd like to find a job closer to where I was living before, but is hasn't been easy. I don't want to buy a house and commit to an area and job where I don't intend on staying.
I've taken costs into consideration, i.e. gas and all the mileage i'm putting on my car going from my mom's place to work, and then from work to my fiance's on weekends, and as we all know gas isn't cheap right now.
If you were me, would you stay at my moms and deal with the abuse and long commutes but pay cheap rent (400-500 a month, + adding up all the gas, tolls, and everything else), and suck it up until I find a new job/start a business?... OR would you look into renting closer to my job, driving a lot less and having more time, BUT paying considerable more rent? I'd be going from the 400-500 a month + gas and other expenses to probably around 1200-1500 a month if I'm lucky, so it's kind of a big difference.
Would love to hear your thoughts! Thanks in advance!
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