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Free registration at the forum removes this block.I'm in no position to give an advice, but I have an idea.So I'm bumping this thread because it is a year later and I honestly don't have any new answers.
Hi Zane, I do think alot about that speech. Not the actual speech, but if I am living up to it.@biophase you are the originator of 'the superman speech'.
you changed a LOT of our lives that day in Phoenix.
you have superpowers. you are called to use them for good, brother.
i have a challenge for you:
create the next @biophase 's
teach. give back. show others the way. send the elevator back down.
your new scorecard could be the impact those you impact make
When you say challenged, what is it that you are doing that is challenging?At 63, I'm probably as happy and challenged as I have ever been. Haven't always felt that way though.
You are blessed and cursed, Kenric. You see the end just at the beginning. It gives you great power because you can build great things. It gives you great trepidation because you see all that is involved.Hi Zane, I do think alot about that speech. Not the actual speech, but if I am living up to it.
I now view the golf course and my house/yard as my canvas. I am painting them. They are MY expression!When you say challenged, what is it that you are doing that is challenging?
Hi Zane, I do think alot about that speech. Not the actual speech, but if I am living up to it.
I do think I can help others. I just don't know what the structure would be or the delivery system. I think I just don't want to commit myself to something that I'm not fully all in on. I've also come to the conclusion that I think alot. I mean alot. My brain runs through so many scenarios all day.
Just as an example, let's say I start a youtube channel. I know that I can post every week for 3-6 months easy. However, I'm already dreading the thought of having to make videos a year from now. I'm not worried about content or editing or the actual work. I'm thinking, "man in a year, I could hate doing this. But I can't just shut down a channel and disappoint all my subscribers." So I would rather not start it.
I'm sure my brain will come up with something to do. But in the meantime, I'm just cruising and enjoying life.
Being in your financial position does bring a different point of view. I have found that I don't see things the same way anymore. IF I lost everything -- I don't think I would go back to the old mindset. It is a totally different paradigm. Once you stick your head through those clouds, the world never looks nor feels the same. You have different priorities.@biophase
Read through the thread, very interesting position to be in and one I find myself in after a successful amazon fba business exit that happened close to a year ago.
I happen to time it out simultaneous to the birth of my first son - so a LOT (and i mean a LOT) of time, energy and mental resources have been shifted to that from running a business (do you have any kids or planning on having any)?
I am also at or near the level of 'enough' - wealth and possessions such as housing / cars / hobbies etc. There is always 'more', but the return on value starts to diminish very quickly at this point past what I got.
It is tough to view business in the same way now as well, and the money hunger is nowhere near the level of 15 / 20 years ago. Doing and starting a business just for 'moneys' sake seems to be a non starter. And and you mentioned - I very well now know the extent and level of work, commitment and process necessary to create a running business (especially one that gets to the point of being hands off). I am not interested in creating another 'job' for myself.
Things that I have slowly shifted (or thoughts that shifted) - is taking a much longer view now, things that I can contribute to 5-10 years with no immediate pay off. So things like starting a blog, podcasting, mentoring either one-on-one or through mastermind type groups. I have been looking into investments and how to deploy capital (for wealth preservation, growth and making sure I never run out of money!) Also doing a lot of thinking along my current hobbies, and if/how a fusion of business and passions can co-exist.
I am still interested in business, as I love the idea of starting something from scratch and watching it grow. Money will come as Ba side effect of providing significant value (which I hope I can do this time around as well!)
I am well versed in e-commerce and have been around this space for close to 20 years. But the idea of just selling another 'product' or recreating another amazon business (even if it provides significant value for customers) does not seem very exciting anymore.
Chiming in here to hear more thoughts and mindsets on where to go from here!!
This book “The top five regrets of the dying “ by Bronnie Ware helps me to answer this question lately"What do you feel you would regret not doing more of now when you are 80, 90, 100 years old?", I don't know. I think if I had an answer I would be trying to do it now.
For me, it's never about seeing 10 million in my bank account but achieving freedom of any kind. I don't want to be forced to do anything, and automation and a monthly recurring income that makes it possible for me to do anything i desire, will do that for me. If you're interested in this you can read "the 4-hour work week".I've been thinking about this alot lately because I'm now at the point where I truly think that I have enough. But I'm not 100% certain yet. And it's also not as much as people may think. I know that is weird to say, but as you get older, you actually need less and less money. It's an odd place to be in, where your motivation for doing things ever since you were a teenager suddenly disappears.
I made this post in July 2020 (HOT TOPIC - How would you spend $1 million dollars and get no sellable value from it?). As you can see, this idea of spending money and having enough has been on my mind for a while now.
Then, someone recommended this book to me a month ago, (BOOK - Book discussion: Die With Zero) and it basically reinforced what I had already been thinking.
Getting back to how much is enough. That's a tough question. I'm going to be 50 this year and if I estimate that I'll live till 90, that's 40 more years of spending money. However, let's do some math here. If I had $4M, I could spend $100k a year. Many of you may think that $100k a year is not enough. However, if you factor in investments, real estate appreciating, rent increases, it's pretty clear that one could spend alot more than $100k a year and still have a substantial amount at age 90. So in reality, I could probably spend $150k a year on $4M. Now let's assume that I had $6M. Well now it's truly a no brainer. I mean $200k a year for the next 40 years with no living expense?
Now imagine if I continue to work 5 years. During this time I will increase my net worth and then have only 35 years to go. So now my yearly spend number increases to $250k-$300k? It's sort of going in the wrong direction. This is why I'm pondering all this right now. Just before I turn 50, and not 55 or 60.
So where is this going? Well, the funny thing is that alot of the things I have wanted to do was money motivated. And without the money part, I wonder if I still want to do them.
For example, I've always wanted to buy land and build tiny homes on them. Buy why did I want to do this? Well, the building part was cool and the finished product is cool too. But the last part is where you put them on Airbnb and make $200/night x 350 nights = $70,000. Multiply that by 5 tiny homes and you got $350,000/yr coming in. Again the dream was money based. What else would I do with them? Leave them empty? Sell them?
So I'm wondering if I should still but land and build Airbnb tiny homes, IF I don't care about what they can bring in. What is the purpose of this project then? Is it a hobby that I'd do regardless of monetary consequences? That's a question I haven't answered yet.
People tell me, you should buy bitcoin... but why?
You should buy XXX stock, but why?
You should buy real estate in XXX, but why?
Why should I if there is no money motivation?
This past week me and @snowbank went around Sedona looking at lots and new construction. I am trying to look at things without a money lens, but it is so hard. When you stand on a lot that is asking $300k. You look at the beautiful views. But then you ask, how much does it cost to build, how much does the next house over sell for? Then you do the calculations in your head. Hmmm, if I buy this and build this, it will be worth this and I can sell it for this. But should any of that really matter if you want a house of your dreams on this lot?
I guess I'm trying to get to the point where I don't make decisions based on money. And I don't mean I waste money. But the potential profits or future value of things really shouldn't come into play anymore, if I truly have enough net worth today.
I'm curious to know so I ask @MJ DeMarco, what is the purpose of your day trading? Is it a fun game you play? Is it something you do to keep your mind sharp? I assume that the day trading returns are a small percentage of your net worth/cash flow?
Interested to hear everyone's thoughts.
It is called financial independence. It means you can pay your bills and finance your life. You don't have to be rich to do that.For me, it's never about seeing 10 million in my bank account but achieving freedom of any kind. I don't want to be forced to do anything, and automation and a monthly recurring income that makes it possible for me to do anything i desire, will do that for me. If you're interested in this you can read "the 4-hour work week".
Sorry I somehow missed this post.Another year passes... so it's time to check in with @biophase . How are you doing Kenric? How's the basketball court coming along?
I'm 48 and I admit that in terms of net worth, I'm not where you're at. I have enough that my wife and I can retire today if we wanted to. She is feeling like it's "enough", while I still want to contribute more, do more, learn more despite it no longer being purely about money. I say that just to preface that I am not in your position and am not pretending to be.
My fastlane has been in real estate (building, flipping, and buy & hold) so I get the appeal of REI. After working in this industry during some really good years, it's painful to see so many people feel like they can't afford a house; not now, not ever. And it's not those living just above the poverty line. I have friends that had a failed business because of covid and had to restart after turning 50, and another that went through a divorce and is a single mom without support. Thankfully there are rental options that they can afford but those rates are quickly outpacing inflation too.
These people and others like them are becoming my 'why'.
Maybe that's an angle you can explore if you enjoy REI and aren't in it for the money?
I'm now toying with the idea of building small prefabs and ADUs. I think there's an opportunity on the for-profit side for people who can afford it but also a chance to understand how these could help with the housing shortages on the low income side that we currently have. It's like your tiny house community concept but a bit bigger footprint and not STR. Instead perhaps lease-to-own or purchases so everyone can take pride in being a home owner and build some equity.
The thing holding me back despite my motivation is that it would require a factory, perhaps not initially but it would be a long-term requirement for success. And I'm sure I don't have to explain to you how daunting that sounds.
Anyway, I hope you've found some purpose or new passion to give you more motivation over the past year, or at the very least more peace with 'lifting off the gas'.
If you ever do decide to offer a mentorship/coaching program again, as Zane and others have suggested, let me know. I'd be up for learning how to be successful in ecom, because factories aren't cheap to build.
It comes down to -- What now? What is important now? I understand how you feel. You've "arrived" and it's a very flat, empty feeling. During your journey, you've milked all the happiness out of the actual destination moment. You're still the same person as you've been for all of these years. You still save every dime and turn over every rock to find that next stud-card deal. What? More of the same? When you figure out what is next, let me know...Sorry I somehow missed this post.
Yes, another year passes and I'm still kind of in the same place in terms of mentality. Financially, I'm better because as each year passes, you accumulate more money and you have one year less to spend it.
I still find it very hard to let go of the more money mindset. I'm just going to guess that even someone worth $100M, if they dropped to $99M they would feel kind of bad. I think this keeps us always wanting to hold onto to what we have and accumulate.
Regarding a new purpose, giving back is probably the most fulfilling thing that I do now. New toys or houses are just blah for me. The novelty wears off so quickly. I can feel myself changing because I spend more money on others than myself now. And sometimes it's hard to do, but I'm treating it like working out a muscle. The more I do, the easier it gets.
For example, I bought two rescue vehicles this year and spent around $40k. But I couldn't get myself to by myself a new car.
I think my venture into REI and fulfillment will be doing dog sanctuaries or dog rescue buildings. Many people purchase commercial buildings and then rent them to rescues at $1/year. I think this part is where I'm fighting with myself because I say to myself, if I had an extra $1M I would totally buy this building for a rescue. But then I step back and realize that I probably said this to myself 5 years ago and now I do have that additional $1M. I guess it's admitting to myself that I'm not ready to spend $1M and get no return for it. So maybe I don't really have "enough". But then I redo my calculations, and yes I do. So why I don't I do it and buy that $1M building?
There was a story of the secretary that passes away and then they find out she had accumulated over $10M in XXX company stock. She left all her inheritance to a charity. The media was praising her for donating $10M to a charity sayings that she's so unselfish and giving.
I remember reading an article rebutting this. It said, you aren't unselfish if you donate it all after you die because you couldn't use it anymore. It went on to say, that having $10M and not doing anything with it was worse than not having it at all. She could have donated $1M a year, for 10 years and started 10 years earlier. I don't know if you agree or disagree with that, but it certainly made me think. The dog that needs a surgery needs it now, not 10 years from now, not whenever it's convenient of me to donate it. So that's why I'm trying to train myself to start doing this earlier and earlier.
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BTW, I've noticed that this topic is becoming more prevalent in podcasts. I must have listened to at least 3-4 people discuss this in the past 6 months. I think the initial wave of ecom/internet business owners are now getting to 45+ after years of making decent money and trying to figure out what's next.
When your wife says that you have enough, does she want you to change your lifestyle somehow? Is it because she wants to travel or do something? Or is it because she thinks you are working too hard?
Again, let me reiterate that this all doesn't mean I'm unhappy. I am super happy and very grateful to be in this position.
Breaking the financial bondage is doable. Most people I have observed make their fortune a couple of times. They lose it through silly behavior or no fault of their own. Then, on average, they get smarter and are able to keep that third try.View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=InU_gL8m__A
First to escape from financial bondage, then try escape from death.
This!The dog that needs a surgery needs it now, not 10 years from now, not whenever it's convenient of me to donate it. So that's why I'm trying to train myself to start doing this earlier and earlier.
Sorry, I can go on and on... how about starting small? A $250K or whatever price building is available to start?I think this part is where I'm fighting with myself because I say to myself, if I had an extra $1M I would totally buy this building for a rescue. But then I step back and realize that I probably said this to myself 5 years ago and now I do have that additional $1M. I guess it's admitting to myself that I'm not ready to spend $1M and get no return for it. So maybe I don't really have "enough". But then I redo my calculations, and yes I do. So why I don't I do it and buy that $1M building?
You will find your own way.I just wanted to say thank you for bringing up this topic and discussing it so intensely - I haven't seen it discussed in such honesty anywhere else. I am a person learning from reading and it helps me a lot to see what may be happening some steps ahead of my own journey. It also keeps me wondering if this something one can adjust for early on. I fear not, but I like the way how djmarco came up with actualizing ones purpose.
Would it really be no return?Sorry I somehow missed this post.
Yes, another year passes and I'm still kind of in the same place in terms of mentality. Financially, I'm better because as each year passes, you accumulate more money and you have one year less to spend it.
I still find it very hard to let go of the more money mindset. I'm just going to guess that even someone worth $100M, if they dropped to $99M they would feel kind of bad. I think this keeps us always wanting to hold onto to what we have and accumulate.
Regarding a new purpose, giving back is probably the most fulfilling thing that I do now. New toys or houses are just blah for me. The novelty wears off so quickly. I can feel myself changing because I spend more money on others than myself now. And sometimes it's hard to do, but I'm treating it like working out a muscle. The more I do, the easier it gets.
For example, I bought two rescue vehicles this year and spent around $40k. But I couldn't get myself to by myself a new car.
I think my venture into REI and fulfillment will be doing dog sanctuaries or dog rescue buildings. Many people purchase commercial buildings and then rent them to rescues at $1/year. I think this part is where I'm fighting with myself because I say to myself, if I had an extra $1M I would totally buy this building for a rescue. But then I step back and realize that I probably said this to myself 5 years ago and now I do have that additional $1M. I guess it's admitting to myself that I'm not ready to spend $1M and get no return for it. So maybe I don't really have "enough". But then I redo my calculations, and yes I do. So why I don't I do it and buy that $1M building?
There was a story of the secretary that passes away and then they find out she had accumulated over $10M in XXX company stock. She left all her inheritance to a charity. The media was praising her for donating $10M to a charity sayings that she's so unselfish and giving.
I remember reading an article rebutting this. It said, you aren't unselfish if you donate it all after you die because you couldn't use it anymore. It went on to say, that having $10M and not doing anything with it was worse than not having it at all. She could have donated $1M a year, for 10 years and started 10 years earlier. I don't know if you agree or disagree with that, but it certainly made me think. The dog that needs a surgery needs it now, not 10 years from now, not whenever it's convenient of me to donate it. So that's why I'm trying to train myself to start doing this earlier and earlier.
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BTW, I've noticed that this topic is becoming more prevalent in podcasts. I must have listened to at least 3-4 people discuss this in the past 6 months. I think the initial wave of ecom/internet business owners are now getting to 45+ after years of making decent money and trying to figure out what's next.
When your wife says that you have enough, does she want you to change your lifestyle somehow? Is it because she wants to travel or do something? Or is it because she thinks you are working too hard?
Again, let me reiterate that this all doesn't mean I'm unhappy. I am super happy and very grateful to be in this position.
The question is -- what is enough? What is a long enough time period? I agree. It doesn't take a commitment in perpetuity to make a difference. Sometimes it only takes a moment or a short run to make a big difference. Who knows what it will mean in the long run?Would it really be no return?
The building would presumably appreciate. If you ever needed it and you would down to your last million, you could sell the building.
And before you tell me that you wouldn't want to shut it down and ruin all these dogs' lives, I don't think you're counting for All the dogs' lives you would help in the 10 years or 20 years that somebody would be renting that building for a dollar.
And what kind of value do you put on that? The dog's lives that get saved?
Shoot, going back to the YouTube channel idea it's the same thing. You won't give out 6 months of your knowledge because you're afraid of letting people down 6 months from now.
But maybe you will be helping a ton of people for many many years just because of these 6 months worth of knowledge you put out there.
Instead you choose not to take an action, thus not helping the people you could, because you are unwilling to commit to it into perpetuity.
But whoever said you had to commit anything into perpetuity?
I too am a committed Christian, but I believe that the reward offered is life on a vastly changed earth.As a committed Christian who believes in heaven, even this is not enough to combat that feeling of meaninglessness. (It apparently wasn't for Solomon, either, in the book of Ecclesiastes.) For me, the only difference is that I think, "I just need to survive this existence until I get to die, and then the good times will finally start."
Thanks for the reply. My wife says we have enough because she wants a more simple life. We're still highly involved in our businesses and she's tired of the stress, the backlog of work, and daunted by the idea of taking on another business. She's really looking forward to working less and enjoying life more, and so am I. But, we can't do that to the extent we want to until the kids have left the house. Staying in the same environment makes it hard to stop when you've been doing it for so long. I becomes a part of you and your identity.Sorry I somehow missed this post.
Yes, another year passes and I'm still kind of in the same place in terms of mentality. Financially, I'm better because as each year passes, you accumulate more money and you have one year less to spend it.
I still find it very hard to let go of the more money mindset. I'm just going to guess that even someone worth $100M, if they dropped to $99M they would feel kind of bad. I think this keeps us always wanting to hold onto to what we have and accumulate.
Regarding a new purpose, giving back is probably the most fulfilling thing that I do now. New toys or houses are just blah for me. The novelty wears off so quickly. I can feel myself changing because I spend more money on others than myself now. And sometimes it's hard to do, but I'm treating it like working out a muscle. The more I do, the easier it gets.
For example, I bought two rescue vehicles this year and spent around $40k. But I couldn't get myself to by myself a new car.
I think my venture into REI and fulfillment will be doing dog sanctuaries or dog rescue buildings. Many people purchase commercial buildings and then rent them to rescues at $1/year. I think this part is where I'm fighting with myself because I say to myself, if I had an extra $1M I would totally buy this building for a rescue. But then I step back and realize that I probably said this to myself 5 years ago and now I do have that additional $1M. I guess it's admitting to myself that I'm not ready to spend $1M and get no return for it. So maybe I don't really have "enough". But then I redo my calculations, and yes I do. So why I don't I do it and buy that $1M building?
There was a story of the secretary that passes away and then they find out she had accumulated over $10M in XXX company stock. She left all her inheritance to a charity. The media was praising her for donating $10M to a charity sayings that she's so unselfish and giving.
I remember reading an article rebutting this. It said, you aren't unselfish if you donate it all after you die because you couldn't use it anymore. It went on to say, that having $10M and not doing anything with it was worse than not having it at all. She could have donated $1M a year, for 10 years and started 10 years earlier. I don't know if you agree or disagree with that, but it certainly made me think. The dog that needs a surgery needs it now, not 10 years from now, not whenever it's convenient of me to donate it. So that's why I'm trying to train myself to start doing this earlier and earlier.
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BTW, I've noticed that this topic is becoming more prevalent in podcasts. I must have listened to at least 3-4 people discuss this in the past 6 months. I think the initial wave of ecom/internet business owners are now getting to 45+ after years of making decent money and trying to figure out what's next.
When your wife says that you have enough, does she want you to change your lifestyle somehow? Is it because she wants to travel or do something? Or is it because she thinks you are working too hard?
Again, let me reiterate that this all doesn't mean I'm unhappy. I am super happy and very grateful to be in this position.
Yes, I think it is because of the NEED issue.Why the reluctance to buy yourself a new car? (Trying to pry into your psyche here, not your finances) Because you didn't feel like you really needed one? Because you know it wouldn't give you any 'fulfillment'?
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