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What's the point complaining?

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Andy Black

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I’m forever grateful for my military dad who taught me not to complain.

If you can’t do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *can* do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you’re not going to do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *are* going to something about it, what’s the point complaining?

RIP Andy Black Snr
 

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Wise words from your father. I always wished that I had been raised more disciplined than I actually was.

People seek comfort in socially validating their pain. The desire to feel included in the community of commiseration. It's far easier to criticize from the sideline than it is to take action.
 

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Complaining/whining/bitching is good. It releases all that built-up anger/frustration/stress and other unhealthy stuff inside. Everytime when I complain to myself or whine to others about how unfair life is/how much life sucks/why others are better, my body feels a lot lighter. We're all humans....

The difference though, is that after complaining, one has to get out there and continue taking action/hustling.
 

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It's good to complain and vent. Sometimes it might make you realise you're just being stupid. If you continue to complain though then you're not looking for solutions, you're just a complainer, which, as your Dad said, there has no point.
 

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I’m forever grateful for my military dad who taught me not to complain.

If you can’t do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *can* do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you’re not going to do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

RIP Andy Black Snr
Papa Black was a wise man.

There is a Chinese proverb
very similar which says:
“If you problem has a solution, why worry about it?
If it has no solution, why worry about it?”

Sadly we live in a world where people would rather worry than actually do something about it because it keeps them “busy”
My goodness do people love to be busy.

As entrepreneurs it is a very important lesson because our job is solving problems. If it can be solved, then solve it (and profit from it) if it can’t, then move on to the next problem.
 

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I’m forever grateful for my military dad who taught me not to complain.

If you can’t do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *can* do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you’re not going to do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

RIP Andy Black Snr

I think people love complaining because majority of who is listening will give them excuses/words/reasons that will make them feel a better about themselves. For example, you are young, still have time, not your fault, blah blah blah....Hence they experience a little high. Also I think those who complain especially on social media loves the attention and they also feel a little high off of it.
 

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I’m forever grateful for my military dad who taught me not to complain.

If you can’t do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *can* do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you’re not going to do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

RIP Andy Black Snr
Yup, i spent many years complaining and it was a waste of energy.
It doesn't even make you feel any better in the long term.
 

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I’m forever grateful for my military dad who taught me not to complain.

If you can’t do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *can* do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you’re not going to do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

RIP Andy Black Snr
It reminds me of this joke on life...

There's two things you need to be worried about in life.

Whether you have money, or not.

If you have money, there's nothing to worry about.

But if you don't, there's two things you need to worry about next.

Whether you have a supportive family, or not.

If you have a supportive family, there's nothing to worry about.

But if you don't, there's two things you need to worry about next.

Whether you are healthy, or not.

If you are healthy, there's nothing to worry about.

But If you aren't, there's two things you need to worry about.

Whether you live, or you die.

If you live, there's nothing to worry about.

But if you die....you can't worry when you are dead.
 

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Looking at it from the opposite side, complaining is good in some cases. It allows the innovative people to capitalize on issues in society - whether they be businessmen, politicians or community organizers. A large percentage of this is obviously useless noise, but it's that small sliver of gold that perpetuates societal advancement and allows us to progress rather than stagnate.

Unfortunately it's one of those cases where you have to take the frequent bad with the minority of good. Paretos law shines through yet again
 

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This is what I think is what people are missing when they are spoiled rotten or entitled. They believe that everything they get is through complaining.

This was a lesson I learned very quickly as a sole Deaf kid moving into a large public school. I used to complain, its not fair that they can take notes and listen. Its not fair that I have to go to additional written english classes when others went to recess. It's not fair that they can bicker and I don't understand what they're all laughing about.

Sometimes children are the best teachers, one kid said to me one day.. what are you going to do about it.

I started raising my hand every time i missed something on my notes. I started to work harder on my English to get ahead so I could go to recess.

I made myself the center of attention so I know what people were talking about.
 

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I’m forever grateful for my military dad who taught me not to complain.

If you can’t do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *can* do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you’re not going to do something about it, what’s the point complaining?

If you *are* going to something about it, what’s the point complaining?

RIP Andy Black Snr
People complain for a few reasons:

1) I know what i'm talking about - you are wrong I am right
2) They are after something for free or discounted
3) They are not happy or have lost focus
4) They don't understand the process of what has caused the complaint

In an situation where there is a complaint you have put yourself in that situation. You have done something to trigger that emotion ( generally anger )

Generally you have purchased or asked something. Maybe look at yourself instead of complaining about others

Great Post Andy Black
 

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Catharsis. :rofl: I grew up around complainers, so I have this tendency to complain when sh*ts start hitting the fan. It's all good, though. I just have to consciously stop myself from time to time.
 

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When asked how I was, I complained to the other person about my transit difficulty . They then inquired where I was travelling form, and volunteered other people travelling in the same direction on the shift.

I then found and talked to those people, and we pooled our funds and arranged a regular shared taxi run, thus solving the problem. If none of us had complained and just avoided worriyng about it, the problem would never have been resolved, and all of us and the taxi driver would be worse off.

If you want to avoid hearing complaints, then stop asking people about themselves.
 

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Agree completely. I keep a daily journal of my startup. I start every entry with.... Complaining, Negativity, Worrying provide no value. I'm an entrepreneur that works hard everyday to add value to peoples lives.
 

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