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that <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavoj_%C5%BDi%C5%BEek" target="_blank" class="link link--external" rel="nofollow ugc noopener">homeless slovenian commie</a> who mogged Jordan Peterson talked about how modern societies have this problem where people feel guilty for not enjoying things enough. I'll see if I can find the interview or book passage where he talked about it.<br />
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You should definitely try to get the most of your experiences, but are you really better off thinking over everything you've done and wondering if you could have enjoyed it more? You're not obligated to experience nirvana over everything.
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I think in my case it's just about a very deep understanding of transience in life. If you don't think about it much, you don't tend to see moments as magical because you think there will always be more and you'll live forever. So you don't look back trying to contemplate if you really enjoyed them to the fullest because they don't have the same value for you.<br />
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I've spent a good chunk of my life tired. So I know there have been times in my life when I was not as fully present as I could have been.<br />
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The question I ask myself is, did I give the best that I had in that moment? Maybe I didn't have 100% to give. Maybe I only had 80%. But did I give all 80%?<br />
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And generally speaking in those moments you speak of, I gave what I had to give. No regrets. Worst case, I promise myself to do better next time. But I don't live in the past. What's done is done.<br />
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I understand that and I feel that may be the case with me as well. Thanks for sharing that perspective.<br />
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Honesrly, I feel like I have enjoyed them to the fullest at the moment that they happened.<br />
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I’m going to give you a Pickleball story. I play mixed doubles pickle ball with my friend and sometimes he’ll just serve the ball into the net.<br />
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He would tell me that sometimes when he’s about to serve that he suddenly thinks about what he wants for dinner in the middle of his swing. If there is a business problem bothering him, it will suddenly pop into his head in the middle of a rally.<br />
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I tell him that I don’t think about anything else but what I’m doing at the moment. This is why I feel like I do enjoy everything to my maximum ability. However, I have many friends that think about other things while other actual great things are happening to them in the moment.
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I like this story.<br />
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Thankfully if I have a magical moment I rarely, if ever, think about something else. That's precisely why it's such a magical moment: because it makes you really, truly alive and experience, and not be partly distracted.<br />
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I was never 100% present, quite the contrary. So I just don't think about it – problem solved!
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I know it's just a joke but I really hope that you are present during these moments. Life isn't only about hustling.<br />
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Of course I could have been more present, but I don't look back with regret, but fondness and nostalgia. It makes me so much more appreciative of my NOW. My past makes me more present.<br />
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I can admit, however, I had some personal struggles in my 40s which; this period of time seems to have flown by for me where I wasn't as present as I should have.<br />
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I don't have a lot of highs and lows in my life; they all feel like highs...<br />
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So on a scale of 1 through 10, 1 being life sucks, and 10 life is awesome, my weekly life looks like this:<br />
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Monday: 9.5<br />
Tuesday: 9.5<br />
Wed: 9.5<br />
Thurs: 9.5<br />
Friday: 9.5<br />
Saturday: 9.5<br />
Sunday: 9.5<br />
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Whereas the average person lives life like this:<br />
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Monday: 2<br />
Tuesday: 3<br />
Wed: 4<br />
Thurs: 5<br />
Friday: 6<br />
Saturday: 10<br />
Sunday: 7
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The past making you more appreciative of the present moment is a beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing this perspective.</div>
