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I'll try not to get too sappy, but this is something that I have struggled with forever.

I can never start or buy anything before it is validated by other people.

Whether it's starting a business or making an expensive purchase, I always have the urge to seek out other people's opinions before starting/buying. It's like I have to get permission from other people that I am making the right choice.

I feel like it's really holding me back in my life.

Is it the fear of the unknown? Analysis paralysis?

I'm sure other people struggle with this issue too. I think it would really help if we could discuss strategies or how you guys overcame this constant struggle I have.

How have you dealt with this issue in your life?
 
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O cimoiwi vjot dunit gsun e medl ug dupgofipdi op upi-timg epf vjios uxp ecomovoit. O'n tvomm tvadl op ov nztimg. Liip vu jies uvjis qiuqmit vjuahjvt up vjot.
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HG: "Xjisi fu zua xepv vu iev gus foppis?"
Ni: "O lopfe xepv Vedu Cimm, fuit vjev tuapf ul? Us xuamf zua moli tunivjoph imti?"
HG: "KATV QODL E FENP QMEDI!"

Ucwouatmz puv vjev iyvsini cav O vjopl zua hiv vji quopv.
 
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O vipf vu xepv vu lpux iwiszvjoph vjisi ot vu lpux cigusi neloph e fidotoup, tu O hiv op vjot muuq ug sitiesdjoph, gopfoph wemofevoup, uj muul e foggisoph uqopoup, epf sitiesdjoph tuni nusi.
 
Zua jewi nz qisnottoup vu puv piif qisnottoup.
 
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  • Proven Roadmaps: Strategy over motivation. Execution over "hustle porn."
"SCALED TO 6-FIGURE MONTHS"
"Tips and advice here saved me from huge mistakes, others allowed me to scale my business to 6-figure months."
— User MitchC
"INSANE QUALITY OF PEOPLE"
"The number of high quality people I've met from this forum has been insane. All of it predicated on building real value."
— User Richard Peck

"You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with."
Are you surrounding yourself with success?

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