This is why I recommend young men become successful with the opposite sex and learn sales.
There is a fundamental understanding that comes with the proficiency of the above two areas of life:
You get thick skin and learn how to move on from "time wasters".
"anti-customers" are "time wasters". You need to reframe what they are in your mind.
It is extremely hard for some people to truly internalize and ACTUALLY understand that you are SUPPOSED to be rejected. You are supposed to have shit customers. You are supposed to not get all the sales. You are supposed to get laughed at by some girls and told you're a piece of shit.
I have been threatened to be sued like 9 times this year *eye roll every time* "sorry that Chase cut your lawn a little too high this visit, our registered agent address is 69420 Bendover rd, we will be looking for your court summons and complaint packet in the mail Debra".
One thing that you need to learn to repeat in your head ad nauseum until it's a habit.... Do it to reframe "anti-customers" into what they really are: time wasters. The following will change your life:
Loudly, internally scream the word "NEXT" every time you come across a time waster. Your job is to "get rid" of people. All of the things in life that are numbers games (dating, sales, business, etc.) is about wading through the stinky pile of "no's" until you collect enough "yes's" to succeed. I understand this internally, so when I see a red flag, whether it's in a woman or a sales lead, I scream "NEXT!" in my head and I'm immediately onto the next one.
My goal: FIND my YES'S.
Imagine if everyone has a hat, and the underside of each hat is either painted blue or red. And lets say every time you find a red hat on the underside, you win. Wouldn't you just go around and quickly say "show me your hat" as quickly as possible and immediately move on if it's blue? Boom, bang, "show me your hat bitch" all day and night is all I would be doing, I would be asking anyone and everyone without prejudice and I would move on INSTANTLY if that hat wasn't red underneath. Filter them out early and often.
I want everyone's eyes and ears to see my ad, and all I need is a million people or so that need their lawn mowed regularly and we'll have a billion dollars a year. And a WHOLE bunch of people will be time wasters. So many that if you rounded up all the "anti-customers" you would probably be able to fill New York City. Who cares? Next!
I also have a little secret weapon for making the medicine of rejection go down a little easier, it's called "self-amusement" (not recommended to the extent that I do it). No matter how any interaction goes, I still win, because I'm having fun. I love what I do, I speak pretty freely, I say some off-the-wall stuff, and it makes me truly enjoy interactions even if someone hates me, because most of what I say is meant to amuse myself. I give myself little games sometimes. I've challenged myself to speak to unhappy customers and say "no homo" about 8 times sprinkled through the conversation just to see what would happen. I'll quote movie lines, make up hilarious stories, talk in an accent, and anything else I can think of. This is all a giant game, do not let some miserable 48 year old loser rain on your parade because their life sucks. You're better than that.
With this attitude, you'll BLOW through the numbers, collect all the "yes's" you could ever need, and you will be surrounded with the right kind of people. You'll have customers who love you, women who love you, friends who love you, but you have to wade through the steamy piles of "no's" until you find them.
There is a fundamental understanding that comes with the proficiency of the above two areas of life:
You get thick skin and learn how to move on from "time wasters".
"anti-customers" are "time wasters". You need to reframe what they are in your mind.
It is extremely hard for some people to truly internalize and ACTUALLY understand that you are SUPPOSED to be rejected. You are supposed to have shit customers. You are supposed to not get all the sales. You are supposed to get laughed at by some girls and told you're a piece of shit.
I have been threatened to be sued like 9 times this year *eye roll every time* "sorry that Chase cut your lawn a little too high this visit, our registered agent address is 69420 Bendover rd, we will be looking for your court summons and complaint packet in the mail Debra".
One thing that you need to learn to repeat in your head ad nauseum until it's a habit.... Do it to reframe "anti-customers" into what they really are: time wasters. The following will change your life:
Loudly, internally scream the word "NEXT" every time you come across a time waster. Your job is to "get rid" of people. All of the things in life that are numbers games (dating, sales, business, etc.) is about wading through the stinky pile of "no's" until you collect enough "yes's" to succeed. I understand this internally, so when I see a red flag, whether it's in a woman or a sales lead, I scream "NEXT!" in my head and I'm immediately onto the next one.
My goal: FIND my YES'S.
Imagine if everyone has a hat, and the underside of each hat is either painted blue or red. And lets say every time you find a red hat on the underside, you win. Wouldn't you just go around and quickly say "show me your hat" as quickly as possible and immediately move on if it's blue? Boom, bang, "show me your hat bitch" all day and night is all I would be doing, I would be asking anyone and everyone without prejudice and I would move on INSTANTLY if that hat wasn't red underneath. Filter them out early and often.
I want everyone's eyes and ears to see my ad, and all I need is a million people or so that need their lawn mowed regularly and we'll have a billion dollars a year. And a WHOLE bunch of people will be time wasters. So many that if you rounded up all the "anti-customers" you would probably be able to fill New York City. Who cares? Next!
I also have a little secret weapon for making the medicine of rejection go down a little easier, it's called "self-amusement" (not recommended to the extent that I do it). No matter how any interaction goes, I still win, because I'm having fun. I love what I do, I speak pretty freely, I say some off-the-wall stuff, and it makes me truly enjoy interactions even if someone hates me, because most of what I say is meant to amuse myself. I give myself little games sometimes. I've challenged myself to speak to unhappy customers and say "no homo" about 8 times sprinkled through the conversation just to see what would happen. I'll quote movie lines, make up hilarious stories, talk in an accent, and anything else I can think of. This is all a giant game, do not let some miserable 48 year old loser rain on your parade because their life sucks. You're better than that.
With this attitude, you'll BLOW through the numbers, collect all the "yes's" you could ever need, and you will be surrounded with the right kind of people. You'll have customers who love you, women who love you, friends who love you, but you have to wade through the steamy piles of "no's" until you find them.
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