Chronic laziness. How to overcome?

[eTox]

I realized that I need help. Well, the first step is admitting you have a problem.

See, throughout school days I never studied and just went with the flow and somehow made it through with Bs and As. At my slowlane job, I never lifted much a finger. Well, the first one involved pushing buggies into the store, but there I made it look more like I was working than actually doing work although the management loved me and i didn't complain. The second job didn't teach me much more. I worked security night shifts where I also befriended the management and literally did not do jack shit in 12 hour shifts except for my own stuff.

What I realized is that I always had it easy. I always looked for a path of least resistence. And now, that I am out of university, quit my job and in another country, I have it easy again because I know I have enough to live for the next month and then I have a gig secured that doesn't require much effort for a month that will make me enough to last for the next 4 months.

I hate it. I honestly hate it.

I hate the feeling that everything is coming so easy. I am not satisfied with it. I want something to be hard, but when it is, I flop. That is why I failed at making mobile games because I wanted it easy and was not going to put in the effort to learn 3d, plus that would ensure I slave off.

Does anyone have any tips on building a habit of working my a$$ off? I want it hard? I want to be punished to build endurance.

Because what I am doing right now, making a website and finding products is easy, it does not require much actually effort aside from getting it done, but I always get side tracked because it seems to me easy while in reality that is what is hard.

I am sorry for rambling on, I just felt the need to share. I would appreciate any wonderful insights on how to build a habit for working hard and overcoming laziness. Any suggestions for exercises or anything of any help.

Thank you for reading through what I had to say. I really do appreciate the time people spend on this forum to help others.

 

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[IGP]

You have a behavioral problem. And the only thing that can fix that is a change in mental attitude.

Commit to do something with medium difficulty every morning. Just one thing... As soon as you get out of bed!

For example: (50 push ups, 50 sit ups and 5 minutes jogging in place). It's not hard, but it does require discipline.

Do that everyday for a month and report back when you made it 30 days in a row!

 

[Bila]

https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/does-it-hurt-bad-enough.55733/


An excellent read

 

[Alexo]

Humans are creatures of habit, all you have to do is break the habit. Begin by starting to do something small every day and build up. Soon you will find that it will get easier and you can build up your endurance.

 

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[MakeMoreMoves]

I realized that I need help. Well, the first step is admitting you have a problem.

See, throughout school days I never studied and just went with the flow and somehow made it through with Bs and As. At my slowlane job, I never lifted much a finger. Well, the first one involved pushing buggies into the store, but there I made it look more like I was working than actually doing work although the management loved me and i didn't complain. The second job didn't teach me much more. I worked security night shifts where I also befriended the management and literally did not do jack shit in 12 hour shifts except for my own stuff.

What I realized is that I always had it easy. I always looked for a path of least resistence. And now, that I am out of university, quit my job and in another country, I have it easy again because I know I have enough to live for the next month and then I have a gig secured that doesn't require much effort for a month that will make me enough to last for the next 4 months.

I hate it. I honestly hate it.

I hate the feeling that everything is coming so easy. I am not satisfied with it. I want something to be hard, but when it is, I flop. That is why I failed at making mobile games because I wanted it easy and was not going to put in the effort to learn 3d, plus that would ensure I slave off.

Does anyone have any tips on building a habit of working my a$$ off? I want it hard? I want to be punished to build endurance.

Because what I am doing right now, making a website and finding products is easy, it does not require much actually effort aside from getting it done, but I always get side tracked because it seems to me easy while in reality that is what is hard.

I am sorry for rambling on, I just felt the need to share. I would appreciate any wonderful insights on how to build a habit for working hard and overcoming laziness. Any suggestions for exercises or anything of any help.

Thank you for reading through what I had to say. I really do appreciate the time people spend on this forum to help others.

Do you have a large overreaching goal? For me, I never really had to disciplined myself to do hardwork. Its like this, if I stop pursuing my entrepreneurial goals --> my entire life is mediocre forever. The one life I am given on this planet, when I make it to 80 years old and look back, well shit I lived a regular life. The pain of living the regular life is far greater than anything else. If I succeed in entrepreneurship then I will live free and can be able to live all my dreams. Thinking about this is enough to get me to work. Look at your life from the bigger picture. Don't wait. The time is always now man. What's the light at the end of your tunnel?

 

[Phones]

To us lazy people, the level of laziness is directly opposite to how comfortable you are.

Think about how easy it is to lose whatever you think you have secured right now, visualize it, Set new, bigger goals, figure out your WHYs, make micro goals/tasks so you can feel bad when you're not doing shit and you should.

Become aware of your laziness, and that Being lazy / not being, is an habit, it's just easier to sit in the couch and turn on the TV than not to.

@Bila link post is probably your best read.

Edit: I also remembered that not believing in yourself and that your goals are not that difficult to achieve takes a big toll. So, depending on the situation, you may need smaller goals.

"In every moment there's a possibility of a better future, but you people won't believe it. And because you won't believe it you won't do what is necessary to make it a reality."

 

[InspireHD]

This post made me think of this: https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...w-people-end-up-in-dead-end-jobs-at-40.61983/

I read it last year and couldn't exactly remember where I read it or what it was about. I just happened to run into it again knowing it had to have been a Gold post.

Honestly, you just have to make a decision. Make a decision that you're going to commit to something. Then go for it. Nobody can make you work your a$$ off. You have to want it. I'm struggling with it too. My current job pays well and the benefits are great. But I want more. I know there is more out there. My fear is that I'm going to come to take my last breath and regret everything I didn't do. Don't wake up at 80 and regret that you didn't put in more effort. Don't wake up at 80 and regret that you didn't live up to your potential. Don't let your opportunity to change the world go to waste.

 

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[Donovon]

I can tell you what I did to complete my last project, and I am incredibly lazy, so it may help. I wanted to write a book, so I got together with a friend every Sunday and we outlined our respective projects and goals for the week. Each week when we met, we outlined clear, actionable tasks that had to be accomplished before the next week, which involved significant progress. For me, the social expectation was enough, I really didn't want to go to him empty handed and have him talk shit to me about how I didn't do anything.

We didn't stop there though, in addition to blocking everything out (in Asana) and committing to those tasks, we also placed a wager on top of it. If either of us didn't hit a weekly progress goal, we had to pay full expenses for the other person to go on a cruise. No excuses, show your progress. I was already motivated enough to not show up to the meeting empty handed, I sure as hell wasn't going to pay for his trip.

On top of that, I told myself if I didn't complete the project by the end of my timeline, I had to take on a second job. If I'm not willing to make strides towards making my own income, I guess I have to use structure from someone else until I build discipline. The thought was completely repulsive.

My book is done and on Amazon and I'm gearing up for another project using the same system.

Leverage as many tools and systems as you can, and make completing your goals the path of least resistance. I had social, personal, and financial incentives against me. It was way, way easier for me to write my book than to dick around.


Edit: I also blocked out time into my calendar to do each of my tasks (mainly it was writing chapters) but that was more-so for time management than actual motivation. I did find it incredibly helpful though.

 

[IceCreamKid]

The solution is simple. Buy my course, the "Productivity Formula", for the low price of $1,997. Since you're a forum member, I'll sweeten the deal and knock $500 off the normal price.

Just kidding. There is no formula.

One question to ask yourself:

Do I really want this? I mean REALLY? Do I have the "it" factors of success? Intensity, fire, hunger, and tenacity. You have to decide on that. It's black or white. You'll do whatever it takes to win or you won't.

1. Cut off the social media for a bit. Throw out the video games and TV shows. Cut ties with people who pull you down. In other words, focus.
2. Bust out Google Calendar and SCHEDULE when you will do your tasks. By doing this, you avoid BSing yourself with thoughts of, "Oh I'm tired I'll take a nap and do it in a few hours". Treat it like a job.

That's all you need to become successful. I'm serious. Trim the "fat" from your life and schedule your tasks in like a job. You can have the greatest biz opportunity in the history of the world in front of your face but if you don't get a handle on those 2 things then the odds are stacked against you.

You don't need any motivational quotes/books. Just get out there and do the thing.

Other factors possibly causing chronic laziness:

• How's your diet bro? You eating high sugar and high carb? Cuz that will spike your insulin levels and make you feel tired as hell
• You getting proper sleep at the proper hours? Lebron James gets 12 hours a day.
• How much nature time do you get? Get some time in with Mother Earth. You'll feel more focused I swear.
• How are you feeling emotionally? Are you depressed? Fired up? Chill with some good people and get an emotion check.

 

[conquer]

your days on this earth are limited, get off your a$$ and get to work.

 

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[The Grind]

First, you should accept the fact that you'll probably never change...

This.

That sentence, you need to really think about that.

99% of the human race are broke losers, think about that.

It's nearly impossible to change what you do on a daily basis and who are you, very few do it.

This is why copywriting is a crucial skill to learn. It teaches you how fked up people are.

Anyway, understand that behavior, thoughts, emotions, are more addictive than crack.

Once a certain behavior starts to run the show, it becomes cancerous and does anything it can to stay there.

This is also why momentum is crucial.

If you never build momentum, you'll be like everyone else. Also, if you build momentum and lose it, you'll very likely never come back.

 

[eTox]

A gold mine! Definitely!

Thank you @IGP @Bila @JScott @Alexo @ABetterLifeNow @Phones @InspireHD @Donovon @IceCreamKid @conquer @The Grind
for contributing. All of your words are truly inspiring, thought provoking, and right to the point.

I will read the suggested posts completely by the end of today
https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...w-people-end-up-in-dead-end-jobs-at-40.61983/
https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/does-it-hurt-bad-enough.55733/

And I will come up with a plan to change my habits and get more disciplined. I will start treating my ventures as real work. I will break down tasks in to clear manageable bits and I will set smaller but more actionable goals.

First, you should accept the fact that you'll probably never change...

This has hit me hard, and I was afraid to admit it for the past 2 years as I have been feeling that it is most likely true. It is. I will accept the fact that I am who I am and most likely will never change a lot. I will instead focus on how I could alter my behaviour knowing who I am and work with it better.

In 30 days I will post results.

I am starting with a small thing as running for 15 minutes in the morning every day for a month. I have been doing it on and off, but I realized that when I went running I felt better, and more focused. Plus when you wake up sometimes and feel like complete piece of sht I realized this is the best solution. Today is such day.

Thank you for all who contributed.

 

[Andy Black]

I realized that I need help. Well, the first step is admitting you have a problem.

See, throughout school days I never studied and just went with the flow and somehow made it through with Bs and As. At my slowlane job, I never lifted much a finger. Well, the first one involved pushing buggies into the store, but there I made it look more like I was working than actually doing work although the management loved me and i didn't complain. The second job didn't teach me much more. I worked security night shifts where I also befriended the management and literally did not do jack shit in 12 hour shifts except for my own stuff.

What I realized is that I always had it easy. I always looked for a path of least resistence. And now, that I am out of university, quit my job and in another country, I have it easy again because I know I have enough to live for the next month and then I have a gig secured that doesn't require much effort for a month that will make me enough to last for the next 4 months.

I hate it. I honestly hate it.

I hate the feeling that everything is coming so easy. I am not satisfied with it. I want something to be hard, but when it is, I flop. That is why I failed at making mobile games because I wanted it easy and was not going to put in the effort to learn 3d, plus that would ensure I slave off.

Does anyone have any tips on building a habit of working my a$$ off? I want it hard? I want to be punished to build endurance.

Because what I am doing right now, making a website and finding products is easy, it does not require much actually effort aside from getting it done, but I always get side tracked because it seems to me easy while in reality that is what is hard.

I am sorry for rambling on, I just felt the need to share. I would appreciate any wonderful insights on how to build a habit for working hard and overcoming laziness. Any suggestions for exercises or anything of any help.

Thank you for reading through what I had to say. I really do appreciate the time people spend on this forum to help others.

Help someone.

 

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[Raoul Duke]

 

[Sanj Modha]

Routine = success.

Plan your entire day in 30 mins blocks and stick to it. I make a checklist the night before so I know what tasks need working on the next day.

Use Trello, Pomodoro Timer, Evernote to help achieve your objectives.

 

[T-K]

Humans are creatures of habit, all you have to do is break the habit. Begin by starting to do something small every day and build up. Soon you will find that it will get easier and you can build up your endurance.

This is the answer you need.

 

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[maxendio]

Honestly you have to find the way that works the best for you.
You should definitly try out everything that got suggested in this thread.
To bring my two-cents in, motivational spechees and such things help's me alot to get off my a$$. (music, qoutes and all that stuff)
But, yeah everybody is different so try out all different kind of things to get your a$$ up and stick to what works for you.

Edit..typo

Gesendet von meinem C6603 mit Tapatalk

 

[G-Man]

Most of the folks on here have a lot more insight than I do but personal experience has been this: being lazy or un-lazy seems mostly a matter of habit. I was lazy as hell for most of my life, mostly because life (read: school) was way too easy. I tried psyching myself up, various productivity routines, etc, but they always petered out pretty quickly.

I was then in a do-or-die startup situation for almost two years. This forced me to work long hours, and work with a sense of urgency. I did it for so long that now working hard is my new normal. That I think is the key. If you want to be prodigiously productive, you gotta make hard work your normal, which requires force of habit over time. For me it took a both feet in, no way out situation to force the new habit. If you've been super lazy for a long time, you might need to take the leap yourself.

EDIT: btw, the company failed, but because of how I changed as a person I consider it the single best career/life choice I've made so far.

 

[JordanK]

I'm in the exact same situation. One of the best ways I discovered was to find a hands on mentor or a business partner. Personally I prefer working for myself so I just found a very active mentor (I see him in person most days not someone from the forum) and I don't want to let him down so that keeps me grinding daily. I also set myself the target of having a profitable business (Doesn't matter how profitable) by August the 17th when my finals results come out and I have to chose whether I go to college or not!

 

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[gurnays]

Life is about pain and pleasure. You have to re-frame in your mind that working will bring you more pleasure than laying around.


Ex. If I keep laying around I will just stay stagnant in life and if I stay stagnant in life I will not be able to progress and If I will not be able to progress I will not have the freedom from a 9 to 5 and If I don't have freedom I will just be a another cog in the machine and if I'm another cog in the machine I will never have anything I want in life.

I hope this helps, if you have any questions, just ask.

 

[SteveO]

• How's your diet bro? You eating high sugar and high carb? Cuz that will spike your insulin levels and make you feel tired as hell

• You getting proper sleep at the proper hours? Lebron James gets 12 hours a day.

My diet???? Probably among the worst of the worst.

Sleep? 5-6 hours a night.



Seriously, this question gets asked a lot here on the forums. Sometimes I work hours that others would never consider. I work from 4:30 am until 6-7 pm seven days a week right now. I have to sneak away to get in my 8-12 mile runs.

Then I may go for years without doing anything work related.

I have a lot of trouble analyzing why people can't work when they need to. All I can figure is that I really like to accomplish. It means a lot to me.

 

[Greg R]

My diet???? Probably among the worst of the worst.

Sleep? 5-6 hours a night.



Seriously, this question gets asked a lot here on the forums. Sometimes I work hours that others would never consider. I work from 4:30 am until 6-7 pm seven days a week right now. I have to sneak away to get in my 8-12 mile runs.

Then I may go for years without doing anything work related.

I have a lot of trouble analyzing why people can't work when they need to. All I can figure is that I really like to accomplish. It means a lot to me.

So that's the secret!

Just kidding...

The most important thing to point out is that you know what you have to do.

@SteveO 's secret formula for success

• Sleep? 5-6 hours a night.
  
• I work from 4:30 am until 6-7 pm seven days a week right now
  
• get in my 8-12 mile runs
  
• go for years without doing anything work related

You know what you are expecting to endure before you even get into it.

The end goal is the accomplishment and the feeling you get when you get there.

All of that work seems to sum up to being able to feel- accomplished.

 

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[eTox]

Finally, I wake up without an alarm and WANT to get up because I have a PURPOSE in life!

For those who are still stuck. You most likely are stuck because you have so many ideas and not one iota of execution. Mind you, the problem is not in execution per se, the problem is with you not making a commitment to yourself that from now on THIS PATH is the one I will pursue.

 

[Mattie]

T

Thank you for reading through what I had to say. I really do appreciate the time people spend on this forum to help others.

Fatigue can be simple: Laziness is a by product of thinking, "Why bother?" This is kind of mental, emotional, and physical.

Mental: What kind of garbage goes in your head? Movies, Video Games, Video's, Television, Literature, Articles, blogs, or any type of media. Visual images. Either Violent, negative, war content, or the lighter, positive, win-win content. What you feed your mind leaves a negative impression. Negative thoughts, negative inter critic, vs. negative outer critics.

Emotional: What you think about determines how you feel. It's why they say heart and mind. Emotional Mental Images. The two are connected since basically survival mode and emotion have a lot to do with survival of the fittest. It's kind of like your engine for Entrepreneurship. If you're mind or emotions are out of wack, it's kind of throws you off focus.

Who do you hang around. If you're hanging out with negative people, arguments and fights, happen to be an attack on your thoughts and emotions. So it's kind of like being in an emotional and mental boxing ring, draining your personal battery.

Physical: Now Mental and Emotion equal physical anxiety, which is emotion, and survival.The fight or flight response. Pain and pleasure center. If you're drinking beer, doing any drugs, gaming, gambling, or other addictions, dopamine is the highway to all addictions.

You may have pleasure, short-term gains, and self-satisfaction. In a sense numbing yourself, and escaping reality. More Entertainment and fun. When you're having to much fun, you're forming fun habits, which is usually being lazy.

Break the fun habits, sacrifice, and form work habits. This isn't always fun, but it has a different reward and better pay off. Usually you get stressed out either way. Either people are on your butt, lecturing you, giving you negative feedback and stressing you out, or you have a different kind of stress and anxiety by doing something useful with your life. Either way you will either escape through pleasure and fun, or learn to regulate your emotions, thoughts, and feelings. You will learn you don't really need escapism as much as you believe you do. What form and type of escapism do you use? Determine whether it's healthy amounts of escapism, or unhealthy time wasters.

In my experience, it usually wastes time, produces procrastination, chaos and confusion, negative thoughts, dulls the senses, your mind is in zombie land instead of solving problems and being creative. I don't believe you think much, problem solve, or use critical thinking in most cases with substances or alcohol.

 

[Cato]

I believe that one get off from laziness mode by building yourself out from it.
By setting small goals and actually achieving them. One goal at the time. That gives momentum and flow.

Things that worked for me to get out of passive mode or laziness.

• Eating well. (Gives good well being and higher energy levels at all day, without crashes)
• Training more endurance over weight lifting. (I like boxing exercises: Jumping rope, big bag- and speed bag boxing.)
• Sleeping less than 8 hours. 6-7 is ideal for me to feel sharp and motivated.
• Taking one goal (project) at time. No multitasking.
• Doing every day 4 tasks to get me closer to my goal. 1 big and 3 small tasks.
• Working every day.

If all this is not enough to get you moving, then maybe listening this guy helps.

 

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[The Autobahn]

Get a job that you will feel as a slave.
Do exercises but dont do too much that you will wreck yourself the next day.. (i do that often which i need higher regeneration; sleep )
Live by the philosophy everyday without improvement is a lost day...

 

[Guest34764]

I've been recently riding the bikes I'm buying to flip on Craigslist.

I'm having too much fun on them and It's getting me out of the house and instead of sleeping I'm cycling.

It's great exercise too if you stick with it and build up your endurance!

I'd recommend getting a bike that's expensive enough that it makes you actually use it, and not some cheap Walmart bike you can just forget about.

(yes it's totally a women's bike but I don't care.)

 

[Severe]

This quote I've heard stuck with me:
"We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret." Jim Rohn
I'm in the same boat as you, but, I'm changing.

Edit: a bit late to reply to the thread, but.. I managed to find it, and so will other members..

 

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[Odysseus M Jones]

This quote I've heard stuck with me:
"We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret." Jim Rohn
I'm in the same boat as you, but, I'm changing.

Edit: a bit late to reply to the thread, but.. I managed to find it, and so will other members..

Could you explain the pain of discipline?

 

[Deleted68316]

My diet???? Probably among the worst of the worst.

Sleep? 5-6 hours a night.



Seriously, this question gets asked a lot here on the forums. Sometimes I work hours that others would never consider. I work from 4:30 am until 6-7 pm seven days a week right now. I have to sneak away to get in my 8-12 mile runs.

Then I may go for years without doing anything work related.

I have a lot of trouble analyzing why people can't work when they need to. All I can figure is that I really like to accomplish. It means a lot to me.

That's amazing, man.

An idea is to do something difficult physically.

So much respect.