Hey guys, bit of a rant here, I've been feeling a bit stuck to be honest, I wanna keep this short and I'd really appreciate some advice. I don't know if any of this will make sense, and sorry for the lack of structure, but here we go.
To give a bit of background, I'm from Denmark, a small European country. I'm 18 years old and I finished my mandatory schooling at 16, in summer 2023.
I always wanted to be an entrepreneur, so in 2023, when my school was over, I decided to try it out instead of going to college, which is the expected path.
So far, I've had some successes like selling websites, some successful ecommerce stores selling different products, and other software-related things. But nothing life-changing. So I feel like it's a failure
I've kinda procrastinated for this entire year, to be honest, like just really being a huge loser, literally just playing video games, mindlessly reading books, watching countless YouTube videos without taking any action, getting distracted with old friends, drinking, and stuff like that.
But a few days ago, it just kinda hit me how much time I've wasted doing nothing. And I've just somehow told myself or convinced myself that I'm already a success, and I could justify playing video games or going out drinking for that very reason, all because I sold a $1500 software service (but that's literally nothing in retrospect). It almost made me cry. I really just exposed myself to the fact that I've done nothing in these years, while my peers have progressed so much with their degrees and education.
I've learned a bunch and improved my English drastically, but to be honest, I feel like I've just wasted a year or 2. I'm really negative for some reason, believing that all opportunities are gone, nothing will work, etc. It's a very bad mindset, and I'm in a very bad state of mind right now. I don't know what to do. The thing I've always done to fix this "void of pessimism" is switching up my business model, getting excited about something new, which I can see now is really just a distraction, but it's pulling me in again.
And I'm getting thoughts of like going back to school or whatnot, I just know that life isn't for me, but it would make me comfortable and feel fine for "wasting 2 years" if I got a degree anyway.
I've been delaying what I actually need to do, cold calling/emails, or outreaching, whatever you wanna call it. It's mostly just the fear of it, and for some reason, now I just am so pessimistic about it, I have a feeling that it's not gonna work. But I'm also thinking that it's literally just my mind that's uncomfortable or scared with the thought of cold calling, sending emails, and jumping on meetings with strangers in English, which is my 2nd language, although I'm pretty good at English.
But idk what to do. I thought about just committing myself for 90 days, to send like 250 emails per day and do like 100 cold calls per day, and finally take action, and just kinda brute force my way through it. But idk if this is a good idea or not, and again, I have these pessimistic, depressive thoughts just telling me that it's pointless and I'm gonna waste my time doing it.
But again, it seems so dumb because I know why I haven't achieved any results; it's because I have barely done any outreach. But I just feel like I've spent so much time right now, and spending any more time is just a waste of time, and I should give up and just settle for a normal life. Which sounds really depressing in itself for me, I never wanted a 9-5 office job and a normal life... but right now it seems like the logical choice since I failed, I guess.
Again, this might sound really dumb to you since it's obvious why I haven't achieved anything, but I would just really like some advice. I'm in a really bad state of mind right now, and I don't know what to do.
I hope this makes sense, and I appreciate you all for reading this, and I hope I can get some advice from some of you guys, to get my head up, get positive, and get to work instead of action faking, which it seems like I've been doing for a long time now.
Thank you.
To give a bit of background, I'm from Denmark, a small European country. I'm 18 years old and I finished my mandatory schooling at 16, in summer 2023.
I always wanted to be an entrepreneur, so in 2023, when my school was over, I decided to try it out instead of going to college, which is the expected path.
So far, I've had some successes like selling websites, some successful ecommerce stores selling different products, and other software-related things. But nothing life-changing. So I feel like it's a failure
I've kinda procrastinated for this entire year, to be honest, like just really being a huge loser, literally just playing video games, mindlessly reading books, watching countless YouTube videos without taking any action, getting distracted with old friends, drinking, and stuff like that.
But a few days ago, it just kinda hit me how much time I've wasted doing nothing. And I've just somehow told myself or convinced myself that I'm already a success, and I could justify playing video games or going out drinking for that very reason, all because I sold a $1500 software service (but that's literally nothing in retrospect). It almost made me cry. I really just exposed myself to the fact that I've done nothing in these years, while my peers have progressed so much with their degrees and education.
I've learned a bunch and improved my English drastically, but to be honest, I feel like I've just wasted a year or 2. I'm really negative for some reason, believing that all opportunities are gone, nothing will work, etc. It's a very bad mindset, and I'm in a very bad state of mind right now. I don't know what to do. The thing I've always done to fix this "void of pessimism" is switching up my business model, getting excited about something new, which I can see now is really just a distraction, but it's pulling me in again.
And I'm getting thoughts of like going back to school or whatnot, I just know that life isn't for me, but it would make me comfortable and feel fine for "wasting 2 years" if I got a degree anyway.
I've been delaying what I actually need to do, cold calling/emails, or outreaching, whatever you wanna call it. It's mostly just the fear of it, and for some reason, now I just am so pessimistic about it, I have a feeling that it's not gonna work. But I'm also thinking that it's literally just my mind that's uncomfortable or scared with the thought of cold calling, sending emails, and jumping on meetings with strangers in English, which is my 2nd language, although I'm pretty good at English.
But idk what to do. I thought about just committing myself for 90 days, to send like 250 emails per day and do like 100 cold calls per day, and finally take action, and just kinda brute force my way through it. But idk if this is a good idea or not, and again, I have these pessimistic, depressive thoughts just telling me that it's pointless and I'm gonna waste my time doing it.
But again, it seems so dumb because I know why I haven't achieved any results; it's because I have barely done any outreach. But I just feel like I've spent so much time right now, and spending any more time is just a waste of time, and I should give up and just settle for a normal life. Which sounds really depressing in itself for me, I never wanted a 9-5 office job and a normal life... but right now it seems like the logical choice since I failed, I guess.
Again, this might sound really dumb to you since it's obvious why I haven't achieved anything, but I would just really like some advice. I'm in a really bad state of mind right now, and I don't know what to do.
I hope this makes sense, and I appreciate you all for reading this, and I hope I can get some advice from some of you guys, to get my head up, get positive, and get to work instead of action faking, which it seems like I've been doing for a long time now.
Thank you.
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