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I love everything about this quote."The healthy man asks not for so much for happiness as for an opportunity to exercise his capacities. And if he must pay the penalty of pain for this freedom and this power, he makes it cheerfully - it is not too great a price. We need resistance to raise us, as it raises the airplane or the bird. We need obstacles against which to sharpen our strength and stimulate our growth. Life without tragedy would be unworthy of a man."
-The Story of Philosophy
That's not all that surprising.I subscribed to the google trends newsletter because i wanted to know what people googled the most on a daily basis. I asked the info for three countries:
1. Belgium
2. France
3. USA
Here's what I found after 8 weeks.
#1 topic: SPORTS: the number 1 topic people google by far, is sports, equally in the three countries.
#2 topic: famous people (especially when they are dead): when a famous person says or does something extraordinary, or gets arrested by the police, people google it en masse.
#3 topic: the news
That surprised me to be honest. I thought people would google "how to make money" or "how to be happy".
What do all those things have in common? They are events based. They are time based. They are fleeting. And the stories and content are changing daily.
Of course people Google how to make money, or how to be happy. But at any given moment, not that not as many people are interested in that as are interested in their local sporting events. Why?
As an example, I will Google did the Suns win several times a month, because I often don't watch the games, but I still want to know. The season and the sports team changes, but it's something I'll probably keep doing for many years. In contrast, I don't need to Google how do I make money several times a month for years...
It's been a while since I've been to a wedding, so maybe I'm not fresh on how things work, but I got this in the mail and it doesn't sit right with me. It's from a family member I've had no contact with in 15 years or more. Maybe I'm misinterpreting it, but it seems like they want to have a wedding and honeymoon and they want me to pay for it. At my last wedding, I didn't ask anyone for anything.
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Also, without this note, I would've sent a gift but probably wouldn't have attended. With the note, I probably won't do either.
I don't get why the gift of money is considered tacky. To me, money is such a useful gift. I enjoy giving it and receiving it. It's probably my favorite gift.
Side rant, I really don't get gift cards. That's just a way to give cash without actually giving cash. The only solution that that solves is overcoming the tackiness of giving cash. I can't tell you how many bed bath & beyond or crate and barrel gift cards went unused after our wedding.
It is common for people getting married to put a wedding registry together. It's a way to let people know hey this is the things that we really need if you want to help support us. Nothing wrong with that, how is this different?
I suppose once upon a time that was considered tacky, but once upon a time society kind of knew what people should give at weddings. And once upon a time giving money at weddings was pretty common. Still is, depending on culture.
But these folks ask for help funding an experience instead of things, and we think that's tacky? I don't get it. Maybe the notion that this is tacky is just societal scripting.
It's not like they made the demand. It's not like they're expecting it. They're requesting it. They said if we're lucky enough to get a gift...
Would you feel better if you had sent an actual gift, and then they hauked it on Facebook behind your back? I think that would be tacky. They were honest and transparent and as respectful about it as possible. I say send them a few bucks.
#MakeCashGiftsGreatAgain
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