At what age did you start to get your shit together?

[Speculatooor]

<div class="bbWrapper">And what triggered it? (A FTE?).<br /> <br /> For me it was at the age of 19 when the first ball started rolling, which ironically happened because I wanted to be more successful with women.</div>

 

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[Olimac21]

<div class="bbWrapper">Good question, in my opinion from an outsider point of view I am a person who has his shit together but I am not even 30% there in my opinion (27 at the moment).<br /> <br /> But the moment things started to click more often and got me in the right direction was around 23 years old.</div>

 

[ChrisV]

<div class="bbWrapper">~26</div>

 

[Envision]

<div class="bbWrapper">19</div>

 

[Strm]

<div class="bbWrapper">I think it was when I was around 26. When I started to feel like a grown up. That was the beginning. <br /> I made a decision and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.</div>

 

[Deleted50669]

<div class="bbWrapper">27</div>

 

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[AFMKelvin]

<div class="bbWrapper">Around 26. Something just clicks. I guess by that time you have experienced most of what life has to offer at least for me. The newness that comes from childhood and your teenage years goes away. You already had sex, got drunk, owned a car, make your own money, live by yourself etc. At least for me once I experienced most of that I started to see things differently and my priorities shifted to living a more balanced life.</div>

 

[Charnell]

<div class="bbWrapper">18 when I joined the Marines. Didn&#039;t really have a choice.</div>

 

[XxThelionxX]

<div class="bbWrapper">I started diving deep about three years ago! <br /> <br /> At 22 I was just sick and tired of being sick and tired<br /> <br /> Not too long after that I think I had my FTE. I was sitting and drinking alcohol in a game change I got from a thrift shop. And I saw my neighbor that was always up and about. The beer made me really fat, and I remember drinking in my drunk state. &quot;Is this going to be my whole life?!?&quot; Dad died from alcohol abuse. I couldn&#039;t take it.<br /> <br /> Now I go to the gym. Meditate. Make ten calls a day just for personal. And am building a skill. Not sure how to make these habits stick but in due time. I think the book atomic habits might help. I have a cheat sheet from that book. (Free online btw) - Just search up Atomic Habits cheat sheet. Straightforward and productive! Anyway, I&#039;m getting off topic.</div>

 

[Johnny boy]

<div class="bbWrapper">Around 30<br /> <br /> <br /> I’m 22 right now</div>

 

[Devampre]

<div class="bbWrapper">I&#039;d like to think I&#039;m on a better path now. Still grinding, learning and embracing certainty more each day. I&#039;ll say 24 because I lived quite uncertain up until now.<br /> <br /> The first time I got fed up with life I was 18-19 and working at a dealership. I walked away from it, though I didn&#039;t become as entrepreneurial as I could have. I started doing some dropshipping, ewhoring, selling guides, etc. But, I fell in love with someone and they became my world. So while I made some extra money on the side, my focus was trying to make this relationship work. Ultimately, they weren&#039;t good for me, but love gave me blinders. I worked awful jobs and smoked a lot of weed that only gave me anxiety/panic attacks and made me hate most people. (Anyone that thinks weed only makes you chill and happy doesn&#039;t understand the power of state and how a psychoactive can affect that.)<br /> <br /> Eventually that ended and I went into finding myself. At first this was awful. I slept around with a lot of people, I drank everyday, I played a lot of video games, binged television and I tried to distract myself from the pain of my reality. I learned some things by living this way that I feel had some value. But, this was all investment with little to no return. No financial return at least.<br /> <br /> I then took time to reflect on who I was, what I wanted beyond the influence of my environments and I started taking an interest in people that actually built something of value in this world. I feel I have more certainty about who I am and what I wish to do now than I ever did.</div>

 

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[nickgraham1234]

<div class="bbWrapper">Hopefully now. 19.</div>

 

[Champion]

<div class="bbWrapper">For me it was once at 21 when I quit playing video games. Thats what launched me into a whole new world of personal development, reading and improving myself.<br /> <br /> I just had another great pivoting point about 2 months ago (age 25). This time it was due to my job (I work in the chemical industry) and I had a few occasions where I thought I was going to die.<br /> <br /> Those experiences made me realize how valuable life is and how silly I am for not actually executing on any of the theory I taught myself the last 3-4 years through personal development.<br /> <br /> In the last 2 months I have executed and achieved more than I ever have in the 4 years of personal development before. I currently dont read anything, I only execute. If I reach a point where I dont know what to do, I google the topic and go straight back to execution. Currently im working on releasing my first real product, it will be done in around 1-2 months. <br /> <br /> I think we will have many enlightening experiences and points where we wake the F*ck up and realize whats important to do in life. The important thing is to act and listen to those moments when they arise, which they will for everyone. <br /> <br /> Society and the script will try to convince you that you should not embark on the journey, but you must.<br /> <br /> Best,<br /> Champion</div>

 

[Sizemore]

<div class="bbWrapper">I will consider my shit together when I sell my first fastlane business. 33 now.</div>

 

[TonyStark]

<div class="bbWrapper">25<br /> <br /> I’d felt I’d already experienced everything I wanted to in life - or maybe I was depressed - but I realized, that I’d have to build my own future, because it wasn’t out there yet.</div>

 

[ChrisV]

<div class="bbWrapper">No one wrote 35. Shit <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/56859/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="56859" data-username="@Brian Suh">@Brian Suh</a> was right.</div>

 

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[Bearcorp]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 31425" data-quote="ChrisV" data-source="post: 801365" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=801365" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-801365">ChrisV said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> No one wrote 35. Shit <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/56859/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="56859" data-username="@Brian Suh">@Brian Suh</a> was right. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-rofl.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="ROFL :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> I&#039;m 35 and I don&#039;t think I have all my shit together, some of it but certainly not all, lucky age is just a number to me<img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-wink.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" data-shortname=";)" /></div>

 

[ChrisV]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 10903" data-quote="Bearcorp" data-source="post: 801366" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=801366" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-801366">Bearcorp said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I&#039;m 35 and I don&#039;t think I have all my shit together </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>SEE?!</div>

 

[Brian Suh]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 31425" data-quote="ChrisV" data-source="post: 801365" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=801365" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-801365">ChrisV said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> No one wrote 35. Shit <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/56859/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="56859" data-username="@Brian Suh">@Brian Suh</a> was right. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>I hate you.</div>

 

[minivanman]

<div class="bbWrapper">I once had my shit together and then I forgot where I left it.</div>

 

[Andy Black]

<div class="bbWrapper">I still haven’t got my shit together.</div>

 

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[VentureVoyager]

<div class="bbWrapper">I don&#039;t know what that really means.<br /> It sounds like &quot;I&#039;ve done it, I&#039;m a made man, game over&quot; and that&#039;s never how life looks like.<br /> <br /> I started being financial independent (location independent + recurring stream of online income from Amazon) at the age of 24, but then life is not only about money. It&#039;s ups and downs all the time.<br /> <br /> If you make $5 million profit a month, but your health sucks, you don&#039;t have time for anything but growing your company and your family hates you, do you have your shit together? Isn&#039;t that the person with perfect health, body, amazing family and a simple job that they really like has their shit &quot;more together&quot;? <br /> I think it&#039;s really personal.<br /> <br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 69618" data-quote="Mack X" data-source="post: 801164" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=801164" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-801164">Mack X said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> which ironically happened because I wanted to be more successful with women. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Actually, that&#039;s very common. Successes with women or lack thereof, depending on where I was in life, were a powerful drive for most my actions in life <span class="smilie smilie--emoji" title="Big Grin :D" data-smilie="8" data-shortname=":D">😀</span> And I know many guys who had it like that</div>

 

[Strm]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 50457" data-quote="VentureVoyager" data-source="post: 801453" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=801453" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-801453">VentureVoyager said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I don&#039;t know what that really means.<br /> It sounds like &quot;I&#039;ve done it, I&#039;m a made man, game over&quot; and that&#039;s never how life looks like. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> I think it&#039;s more like mentally. When did you START to get it together, not finish it. When did you start to see the world differently, when did you start to educate yourself more and work on your mindset, ditch the bad habits, start to work towards being an entrepreneur etc.</div>

 

[VentureVoyager]

<div class="bbWrapper">Alright. Also a difficult question for me, because I already knew I didn&#039;t want a job when I was 13 <span class="smilie smilie--emoji" title="Big Grin :D" data-smilie="8" data-shortname=":D">😀</span> But the process was long and quite random; erratic</div>

 

[Timmy C]

<div class="bbWrapper">I don&#039;t.<br /> <br /> 28 now, not long till i&#039;m 35.....<br /> <br /> I can&#039;t ever make it past 35 anyway, so i will probably throw in the towel then.</div>

 

[Rabby]

<div class="bbWrapper">I see it as a series of clicks. When I was 30 I thought &quot;OMG I&#039;m enlightened compared to when I was a know-it-all 20 year old!&quot; <br /> <br /> Now I&#039;m about to turn 40 and wondering why that 30 year old thought he was so smart <img src="/community/imgs/emoticons/em-wink.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" data-shortname=";)" /></div>

 

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[renaissance man]

<div class="bbWrapper">I&#039;d say when I started to work the way I always wanted, I was about 38. But in my case, lots of things have happened. I bought a house, sued my bank (and settled), changed countries which basically kicked off my life anew... All that happened before I was 38.<br /> <br /> Now with no debt, and having enough money for about 2 years (and growing, hopefully), can I say I have my shit together.<br /> <br /> Also, there wasn&#039;t really a trigger. I always had the mindset outlined in MJ&#039;s books, I just didn&#039;t have the chance to pursue it, because life happened. But as I got older, I realized that ageism is VERY real in IT, and also I really had enough of corporate politics.<br /> <br /> Sometimes I think people underestimate the fact that it&#039;s about the travel, not about arriving. I guess MJ calls this the process-event dichotomy. I now have a pretty comfy life but thriving for more. Living this kind of lifestyle while growing is the best I could imagine, even looking back I never regret anything I did so far. Life happens, and the most important thing is to push through while achieving your goals more and more. I never wished for winning the lottery, I wished for being able to push through life.</div>

 

[WJK]

<div class="bbWrapper">Here&#039;s my rule of thumb -- If you don&#039;t get it together by the time you&#039;re 40, you ain&#039;t gonna! And those who don&#039;t make that transition, die young of really stupid stuff -- mostly self-inflicted.</div>

 

[ShamanKing]

<div class="bbWrapper">I stopped measuring life with Age.</div>

 

[Seamster]

<div class="bbWrapper">If a lot of people are answering &quot;27&quot; and then people who are under 27 are answering at all, it means that this thread should be limited to say, guys over 40. I thought I had my shit together when I was 18, then 22, etc. From experience in others as well as myself I&#039;d say for men it is around 27.</div>