<div class="bbWrapper">Widower (no kids) about a decade older than you responding here.<br />
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I'd like to see if you can get all you'd like, in this lifetime.<br />
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I suspect that train might have already left the station... unless you're willing to adopt, AND to postpone intensive business launch for ten years.<br />
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I have had to come to terms with the fact that certain trains have left the station in my own life.<br />
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I'm not trying to be mean. I'm trying to be pragmatic.<br />
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Using MJ's NECTS analysis way beyond what he put in his book...<br />
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Need: Let's suppose there is a certain percentage of men who are currently available, and who could be reachable, and who would love to make a family with you, and no health issues will come up from the late start.<br />
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Time: Time is of the essence for you, but if you get it right at this time, you could enjoy a very rewarding personal and family life for decades to come.<br />
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I agree with those who say you seem to have some unreasonable expectations.<br />
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To find someone wonderful, get to know each other, build a strong relationship, discuss life goals including family and career hopes and dreams, get engaged and use that time to get some counseling towards marriage success (MOST people have much more they could learn here from a family counselor or counseling-trained minister, and would be wise to do so), arrange any wedding more elaborate than "I've got 10 to 11 open Tuesday, let's meet at the courthouse"... That's a pretty intensive fast whirlwind courtship for a year. If all goes perfectly, it would be very challenging to complete within a year, while continuing a high power job, or making a big business launch.<br />
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MJ was clear in his book that while building the Limos site, he was not available to be a social butterfly. Did you read the part about how he had the mattress on the floor so he could wake up and start coding?<br />
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And then to have at least one healthy pregnancy at an age that's fairly late for that, bond with and raise an infant toddler if the kid's not to just be handed off to day care, and repeat if there's going to be more than one kid, all within the next few years... when there will be the time to do all that and also get a Fastlane business going? Meanwhile, cranking out corporate documents at the day job without missing a step in office politics and professional mentoring?<br />
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Scale: Well, this one applies. The whole point is to start with The Guy and then scale up your family!<br />
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Control: There are also some men who are NOT available, and no matter what you do, you can't make them available any time soon.<br />
There are some who are NOT reachable now no matter what you do.<br />
There are some who would NOT be compatible as a life partner.<br />
You can't control ANY of this.<br />
All you can do is to as efficiently as possible, get into conversations and time together with guys who conceivably could be your good match soon.<br />
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Effort: This is the part in your control.<br />
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Any marketing and sales effort has to deal with the market, what they are looking for, the competitive advantages, the positioning. "My deal isn't selling very well" is not enough information for troubleshooting promotions, even on this forum.<br />
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What makes you the great catch?<br />
Are you generating enough leads?<br />
Are you qualifying?<br />
Discovering objections and how to overcome them?<br />
Making trial closes?<br />
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If you really want to apply a business mindset to Finding True Luv, that's how you'd need to break it down!<br />
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You say that you're kind, an ambitious career climber wanting to become an entrepreneur, athletic, 40, see upper-middle-class as normal, and are into some woo-woo stuff. Your posts also show that you're literate.<br />
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Despite reading all that, I have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA of what kind of guy you want!!<br />
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Also, I have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA of why he would be eager to choose you!!<br />
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At this point if I was to write a classified ad for you it would be, "Attorney hoping to launch her own business, seeks upper middle class guy for rock climbing and to have our own children right away. Dinner or coffee is fine. Willing to postpone discussing our kids' names til the second date. Three strikes, you're out."<br />
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That's ALL I have to work with! How could any guy pass up an offer that's so unusually great for him!</div>
