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There are two types of people: those you can mess with, and those you cannot.
They respectively look like this:

I don't think many people would mess with JK Simmons from Whiplash. On the other hand, Steve Carell would probably have some problems to get some respect, in a school, for example.
Why? I don't know. It's the vibes that people emanate.
Some people emanate a vibe saying something like "I'll f*** you up if you mess with me, kid". Like Dana White, or Joe Pesci, or my grandfather, or bikers with big tattoos and long beards. Or Johnny Boy. Never met the guy but from the way he writes, I wouldnt mess with Johnny Boy.
I have done some deep research on this topic but I have never found any conclusive answer, so I'm asking it here: how do you become someone people don't dare messing with?
I am asking because in my late twenties, I have absolutely no authority, over anyone, including kids. People walk over me without any problem, and I have no way to get myself respected. It's insane. Every time I want to do something, people around doubt, despite my track record. Even something as simple as driving. People ask "is it going to be ok driving?" like if I was some 16 year old. You wouldnt dare asking this to Joe Pesci if you were in a car with him, would you?
I don't know which vibe I emanate, but it's not one that inspires respect, trust, or worst case scenario, fear. And it's causing lots of problems in my relationships.
Thanks for the input!
They respectively look like this:

I don't think many people would mess with JK Simmons from Whiplash. On the other hand, Steve Carell would probably have some problems to get some respect, in a school, for example.
Why? I don't know. It's the vibes that people emanate.
Some people emanate a vibe saying something like "I'll f*** you up if you mess with me, kid". Like Dana White, or Joe Pesci, or my grandfather, or bikers with big tattoos and long beards. Or Johnny Boy. Never met the guy but from the way he writes, I wouldnt mess with Johnny Boy.
I have done some deep research on this topic but I have never found any conclusive answer, so I'm asking it here: how do you become someone people don't dare messing with?
I am asking because in my late twenties, I have absolutely no authority, over anyone, including kids. People walk over me without any problem, and I have no way to get myself respected. It's insane. Every time I want to do something, people around doubt, despite my track record. Even something as simple as driving. People ask "is it going to be ok driving?" like if I was some 16 year old. You wouldnt dare asking this to Joe Pesci if you were in a car with him, would you?
I don't know which vibe I emanate, but it's not one that inspires respect, trust, or worst case scenario, fear. And it's causing lots of problems in my relationships.
Thanks for the input!
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