amp0193
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Get your priorities straight dude.
You are. And you'll never get that time back. You're going to miss every milestone. You'll think you saw your baby's first steps, but it's only because your wife doesn't have the heart to tell you that they actually happened 2 weeks ago when you were living in another city for who knows the F*ck why.
You're a vice principal, cool. So you're working 2x the hours of a teacher for like 25% more pay. Does that really sound like a good trade off to you?
I hope the behavior problems that end up in your office this school year truly appreciate how much more time you're spending with them than YOUR OWN CHILD.
Talk to your wife and work out a solution that somehow gets you guys together. One of you needs to leave (or you could both move into a place halfway in between... but that's 45 min each way and a sole-sucking commute for each of you... not to mention the fuel costs... so probably better not to). And money isn't the only decision making factor here. There are other things that are important. Best relationship advice I ever got: "If it's important to you, it's important to me".
So who am I to be talking to you like this?:
So you and I have a lot of similarities in our stories.
Where our paths diverged, is I prioritized making choices that brought me closer to family and freedom over advancing in a career that I didn't even like, and you've done the opposite.
I feel like I'm missing once-in-a-lifetime moments with my daughter
You are. And you'll never get that time back. You're going to miss every milestone. You'll think you saw your baby's first steps, but it's only because your wife doesn't have the heart to tell you that they actually happened 2 weeks ago when you were living in another city for who knows the F*ck why.
You're a vice principal, cool. So you're working 2x the hours of a teacher for like 25% more pay. Does that really sound like a good trade off to you?
I hope the behavior problems that end up in your office this school year truly appreciate how much more time you're spending with them than YOUR OWN CHILD.
Talk to your wife and work out a solution that somehow gets you guys together. One of you needs to leave (or you could both move into a place halfway in between... but that's 45 min each way and a sole-sucking commute for each of you... not to mention the fuel costs... so probably better not to). And money isn't the only decision making factor here. There are other things that are important. Best relationship advice I ever got: "If it's important to you, it's important to me".
So who am I to be talking to you like this?:
- Music major in college (like you)
- Then a high school music teacher (Like you, I didn't love teaching, plus the hours were insane)
- Switched to middle school music teacher for less pay, because the hours were way better and I could spend more time at home. (But I liked the job even less).
- Then turned down a promotion because it would've been 2x the work for 5% pay bump (and again, I valued my time at home more than the money)
- Took a 3 month unpaid parental leave the day my daughter was born, to help my wife through post-partum, and to hang with the newborn... and also got some fastlane shit in the works (and dedicated every evening to it when my leave was up. Do some digging through my ancient post history and you may find stories about me skyping with chinese factories at 2am one handed while my daughter was taking a bottle with the other.
- Quit my teacher job 18 months later, making twice my teacher salary from the fastlane biz. (which was a jewelry biz btw, which from your post history sounds like the business idea you never executed on).
- A week later took a 2 month trip with my wife and 18-month old to Europe, living the dream.
So you and I have a lot of similarities in our stories.
Where our paths diverged, is I prioritized making choices that brought me closer to family and freedom over advancing in a career that I didn't even like, and you've done the opposite.
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