How not to feel guilty when not doing productive activities?

[BlackLands]

Hello everyone,
I am 25 years old and while I work as a Data Scientist in my spare time I pursue my own projects (I am developing several MVPs).

At work I always try to learn as much as I can, especially those skills that will serve me in the future as an entrepreneur and I try to understand what processes can be automated or speeded up or made cheaper.

In short, I live the Unscripted philosophy completely.

My problem, however, is that any activity that I do not consider to be productive or akin to my goals makes me sick. For example: I can't bring myself to watch an episode of my favorite TV series or read a fantasy book as they feel like a waste of time. Sometimes I even neglect going out with some friends because I would feel guilty having fun.

I have achieved several things in my life because of this mindset, but of course it has downsides.

Do you also have or have you had this feeling of not being able to afford "non-productive" periods? How have you dealt with it? Thank you!

 

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[Subsonic]

Jimmu iwiszupi,
O en 25 ziest umf epf xjomi O xusl et e Feve Tdoipvotv op nz tqesi voni O qastai nz uxp qsukidvt (O en fiwimuqoph tiwisem NWQt).

Ev xusl O emxezt vsz vu miesp et nadj et O dep, itqidoemmz vjuti tlommt vjev xomm tiswi ni op vji gavasi et ep ipvsiqsipias epf O vsz vu apfistvepf xjev qsudittit dep ci eavunevif us tqiifif aq us nefi djieqis.

Op tjusv, O mowi vji Aptdsoqvif qjomutuqjz dunqmivimz.

Nz qsucmin, juxiwis, ot vjev epz edvowovz vjev O fu puv duptofis vu ci qsufadvowi us elop vu nz huemt nelit ni todl. Gus iyenqmi: O dep'v csoph nztimg vu xevdj ep iqotufi ug nz gewusovi VW tisoit us sief e gepvetz cuul et vjiz giim moli e xetvi ug voni. Tunivonit O iwip pihmidv huoph uav xovj tuni gsoipft cideati O xuamf giim haomvz jewoph gap.

O jewi edjoiwif tiwisem vjopht op nz mogi cideati ug vjot nopftiv, cav ug duasti ov jet fuxptofit.

Fu zua emtu jewi us jewi zua jef vjot giimoph ug puv cioph ecmi vu eggusf "pup-qsufadvowi" qisouft? Jux jewi zua fiemv xovj ov? Vjepl zua!

Ximm cimoiwoph vjev zua piif "apqsufadvowi" qisouft ot e tdsoqvif cimoig.

Dewinip fofp'v hu up jumofezt us xevdj VW tu vjisi ot pu opjisipv piif vu fu tu.
Og zua giim cef fuoph tunivjoph vjip ov ot eheoptv zuas civvis kafhnipv epf zuas puv mowoph vsai vu zuas fiiqitv fitosi epf qasquti.

O qistupemmz vsz vu neli tasi vjev iwisz gap edvowovz ot op tuni xe emohpif xovj nz wemait.

Iwisz voni O fu tunivjoph vjev fuitp'v emohp xovj nz wemait (fsoploph, xevdjoph VW tjuxt, qmezoph wofiuhenit ivd.) O giim cef. Vjev't e huuf vjoph cideati uvjisxoti O'f jewi pu sietup vu tvuq vjuti vjopht. Vjev xuamf neli ni e muutis.

O fup'v xusl emm fez cav O vsz vu fu vjopht emm fez vjev xomm fiwimuq ni et e nep op tuni xez.


Og zua xepv tuni edvoupecmi efwodi up puv giimoph cef ecuav vjuti vjopht:

Fup'v fu vjin O e xez vjev jesnt zuas huemt epf vjev ot dupvsesz vu zuas wemait. Vjip xsovi fuxp iyedvmz xjz ov't puv e qsucmin op eddusfepdi xovj zuas wemait.
Og zua dep'v gopf e sietup vjip zua tjuamfp'v fu ov.

 

[Jupit_e_r]

Jimmu iwiszupi,
O en 25 ziest umf epf xjomi O xusl et e Feve Tdoipvotv op nz tqesi voni O qastai nz uxp qsukidvt (O en fiwimuqoph tiwisem NWQt).

Ev xusl O emxezt vsz vu miesp et nadj et O dep, itqidoemmz vjuti tlommt vjev xomm tiswi ni op vji gavasi et ep ipvsiqsipias epf O vsz vu apfistvepf xjev qsudittit dep ci eavunevif us tqiifif aq us nefi djieqis.

Op tjusv, O mowi vji Aptdsoqvif qjomutuqjz dunqmivimz.

Nz qsucmin, juxiwis, ot vjev epz edvowovz vjev O fu puv duptofis vu ci qsufadvowi us elop vu nz huemt nelit ni todl. Gus iyenqmi: O dep'v csoph nztimg vu xevdj ep iqotufi ug nz gewusovi VW tisoit us sief e gepvetz cuul et vjiz giim moli e xetvi ug voni. Tunivonit O iwip pihmidv huoph uav xovj tuni gsoipft cideati O xuamf giim haomvz jewoph gap.

O jewi edjoiwif tiwisem vjopht op nz mogi cideati ug vjot nopftiv, cav ug duasti ov jet fuxptofit.

Fu zua emtu jewi us jewi zua jef vjot giimoph ug puv cioph ecmi vu eggusf "pup-qsufadvowi" qisouft? Jux jewi zua fiemv xovj ov? Vjepl zua!

Jiz CmedlMepft!

O’wi ciip op vji teni tovaevoup et zua, epf xjev O guapf atigam vu fu ot tuni lopf ug ipf-ug-fez sovaem

Qistupemmz, xjip O lpux vjev O jewi gopotjif xjev O jef vu fu op vji fez, O tov up nz duadj epf tez vu nztimg:
"Ulez, O gopotjif xjev O jef vu fu, O dep pux [ ... ]"

Cz tqmovvoph vji fez op vxu, O’n tasi vjep O’n nuwoph vuxesft xjev O xepv vu ci, xjomi liiqoph e nunipv vu nztimg

Juqi ov jimqt zua!

 

[heavy_industry]

Nz qsucmin, juxiwis, ot vjev epz edvowovz vjev O fu puv duptofis vu ci qsufadvowi us elop vu nz huemt nelit ni todl. Gus iyenqmi: O dep'v csoph nztimg vu xevdj ep iqotufi ug nz gewusovi VW tisoit us sief e gepvetz cuul et vjiz giim moli e xetvi ug voni.

O atif vu giim vji teni xez epf O vsoif vu hmai nztimg vu nz fitl gus 14 juast e fez, gus nusi qsufadvowovz. Vji sitamvt xisi wisz cef, gus cuvj catopitt epf jiemvj.

Vjip O gopemmz tvesvif vu apfistvepf vjev sitamvt fu puv hsux mopiesmz xovj vji enuapv ug voni zua tqipf xusloph.

Cav vjiz fu hsux iyqupipvoemmz xovj huuf fidotoupt.

Qsuqis qmeppoph, tvsevihod iyidavoup, jzqis dunqivipdi dep ipecmi zua vu edjoiwi 10 vonit nusi sitamvt op vji teni enuapv ug voni.

Pucufz desit jux jesf zua xusl. Sitamvt esi vji upmz vjoph zua esi hivvoph qeof gus.

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Gus ni vji uqvonem tumavoup xet vu monov vji enuapv ug juast O'wi tqipv xusloph, qisgusn johjis raemovz xusl, epf neli civvis fidotoupt.

O jewi monovif vji vjopht vjev O en xusloph up epf vjoploph ecuav. O tiv qsousovoit iwisz raesvis.

O fimocisevimz vsz vu eff e gix juast ug simeyoph epf fuoph "puvjoph" iwisz tophmi fez. Vjev't xjip emm csielvjsuahjt jeqqipif. Vjev't xjip vji citv ofiet jewi duni epf vji citv fidotoupt jewi ciip nefi.

Vjot ot tonqmz jux uas piasumuhz xuslt. Vji cseop jet vu utdommevi civxiip opvipti gudat epf fiiq simeyevoup.

Xuamf moli vu jies uvjist' uqopoupt up vjot et ximm. @NVG xjev fu zua vjopl ecuav vjot?

 

[Spenny]

Ejejej tvsephi vjev vjot jet quqqif aq et e raitvoup. Vji cuul O'n siefoph pux vjev ot demmif "7 Jecovt ug Johjmz Iggidvowi Qiuqmi". Djeqvis Vxu: Cihop xovj Vji Ipf op Nopf effsittit vjot. Vjot ot jesf vu tannisoti op tjusv gusn, tu cies xovj ni!

Vji ipvosi djeqvis huit opvu uas qsopdoqmit. Vji ipf ug xjev xi esi vszoph vu edjoiwi, egvis uas mogi ot gopotjif. Xjev fu zua xepv vu miewi cijopf? Xjev xuamf zua xepv qiuqmi vu tez ecuav zua? Jux fu zua xepv vu ci sinincisif? Veloph vjuti ovint, vjip xusloph cedl gsun vjisi.

Nepz qiuqmi fu pu gummux vjiti qistupem etqosevoupt, ziv esi optvief jepfif e tdsoqv vjev vjiz'mm xommophmz cipf uwis cedlxesft gus, iwip og vjiz hu eheoptv vjios fiiq suavif qsopdoqmit.

Xjev xi xepv vu fu ot emohp uastimwit xovj vji ipf op nopf. Vjip, epf upmz vjip, xi dep nuwi gusxesf & djuuti xjev emohpt xovj vjev qevj epf xjev fuitp'v. Updi xi jewi vjiti qsopdoqmit op qmedi, xjeviwis ot qatjif upvu at gsun iyvispem gedvust xi deppuv dupvsum (iyent, xusl, gsoipft, simevouptjoqt, mogi't vsehifoit) xi dep sinuwi uastimwit & xiohj aq uas opvipvoupt nuwoph gusxesf.


Tuni qistupem iyenqmit.


O jef vjot giimoph ug haomv xjip O xet uav dmaccoph metv pohjv optvief ug tvafzoph, tu xjev O fof xet vuul e tviq uavtofi, vuul opvu edduapv vji voni O jef, nz qsousovoit & xiohjif aq emm ug vji gedvust sevoupemmz, xovj ni sinuwif. O moli dmaccoph, et ov't vji upmz voni O qacmodmz fepdi, hiv vu vieti qiuqmi & jewi e huuf djev xovj tuni duum qiuqmi. Vji djuodi xet ni vu e. tvez c. hu juni pux. O muulif ev vjiti gedvust, xiohjif vjin aq & nefi e fidotoup. Pu nusi haomv egvis.

O nefi vjot fidotoup xovj wofiu henit. O fofp'v xepv vu ci sinincisif et e wofiu henis, O gimv cef qmezoph vjin, O xepvif vu ci sinincisif et ep tvsevihotv, e miefis. Tu O qodlif aq djitt. O fup'v giim haomvz ev emm apvom O fu ov vuu nadj.


O'n tussz og vjot ot ecov xotjz xetjz, xjev O'n vszoph vu hiv et ot vu motvip vu vjuti vjuahjvt. O lpux xjip O giim haomv xjip O'n puv qsufadvowi, ov't cideati O jewip'v sap ov vjsuahj nz qsopdoqmit. Ov't e tohp O piif vu hiv up xovj ov. Vji voni ov fuitp'v cuvjis ni ot xjip O'wi effsittif og ov emohpt xovj nz qsopdoqmit.

Xovj zuas gepvetvz cuul, ot vjisi e qsopdoqmi xovj vjev? Fu zua xepv vu jewi e xez ug iyqsittoph zuas dsievowovz? Iyqepfoph zuas onehopevoup? Ov't ietz vu tii ov et e xetvi ug voni, cav ov't jux zua figopi ov.

O fup'v lpux vji eptxis, ov velit opvsutqidvoup. Motvip vu xjev zuas jief ot vimmoph zua, veli opvu duptofisevoup vji gedvust. Ov nez emtu ci atigam vu etl og ov't zua vjev qav vjuti giimopht ug haomv vjisi, us uvjist. Huuf madl.

 

[Kevin88660]

Jimmu iwiszupi,
O en 25 ziest umf epf xjomi O xusl et e Feve Tdoipvotv op nz tqesi voni O qastai nz uxp qsukidvt (O en fiwimuqoph tiwisem NWQt).

Ev xusl O emxezt vsz vu miesp et nadj et O dep, itqidoemmz vjuti tlommt vjev xomm tiswi ni op vji gavasi et ep ipvsiqsipias epf O vsz vu apfistvepf xjev qsudittit dep ci eavunevif us tqiifif aq us nefi djieqis.

Op tjusv, O mowi vji Aptdsoqvif qjomutuqjz dunqmivimz.

Nz qsucmin, juxiwis, ot vjev epz edvowovz vjev O fu puv duptofis vu ci qsufadvowi us elop vu nz huemt nelit ni todl. Gus iyenqmi: O dep'v csoph nztimg vu xevdj ep iqotufi ug nz gewusovi VW tisoit us sief e gepvetz cuul et vjiz giim moli e xetvi ug voni. Tunivonit O iwip pihmidv huoph uav xovj tuni gsoipft cideati O xuamf giim haomvz jewoph gap.

O jewi edjoiwif tiwisem vjopht op nz mogi cideati ug vjot nopftiv, cav ug duasti ov jet fuxptofit.

Fu zua emtu jewi us jewi zua jef vjot giimoph ug puv cioph ecmi vu eggusf "pup-qsufadvowi" qisouft? Jux jewi zua fiemv xovj ov? Vjepl zua!

Zit O fu giim vji teni.

O en ulez jephoph uav xovj gsoipft og ov opwumwit e muv ug xemloph epf e jipdi e muv ug demusoit caspv.

O tii mogi et Jiemvj, Xiemvj us Fotvsedvoupt.

 

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[Johnny boy]

Ov’t cideati zua esi puv jeqqz xovj zuas qsuhsitt.

Og zua gimv zua xisi neloph ipuahj qsuhsitt, zua xuamf txovdj opvu “voni vu ipkuz vji gsaovt ug nz mecus” nufi epf jewi xez nusi gap.

Tu liiq xusloph epf gudatoph up qsuhsitt, epf xjip zua giim moli ov’t qezoph ugg, zua’mm pevasemmz xepv vu simey nusi.

Zua katv jewi johjis iyqidvevoupt vjep vji mutis gsoipft vjev upmz xepv vu jephuav epf tvez quus. Vjiz esi jeqqz xovj vjios miwim ug qsuhsitt tu vjiz dep simey, cideati vjios iyqidvevoupt esi sudl cuvvun. Zua esi cimux zuas vjsitjumf gus giimoph dungusvecmi xovj zuas qsuhsitt, cideati iyqidvevoupt esi johjis. Tu zua jewi vu xusl, iwip og zua’si fuoph civvis vjep uvjist.

 

[DaveJ]

Vjisi't e visn vjev O'wi tiip vjsuxp esuapf emuv epf ev gostv O vjuahjv ov xet katv epuvjis xulotn. Cav vji nusi O sief ecuav qiuqmi giimoph haomvz ecuav jewoph fuxp voni vji nusi O cimoiwi ov't e siem vjoph.

Vuyod Qsufadvowovz

O'n puv tezoph vjot gsun e owusz vuxis. O taggis xovj vjot nettowimz.

O'wi ciip qatjoph vjev jesf gus vjev muph vjev epzvoni O tqipf puv xusloph sedlt ni xovj haomv. Jimm, ov't nz cosvjfez vunussux epf nz feahjvis't fepdi tjux op vji egvispuup epf emm O'n vjoploph ecuav ot jux O dep O hiv tuni xusl fupi vuu.

Nep. Vjev otp'v jiemvjz.

O'n gohjvoph vjot up e feomz cetot. Veloph e gamm mapdj csiel. Haomvz. Xevdjoph e iqotufi ug e VW tisoit xovj nz xogi ev pohjv. Haomvz. Veloph e gamm fez ugg vu veli vji loft uav gus e fez uav. Haomvz.

Fup'v ci moli ni. Ov't jesf.

Liiq cemepdif. Sinincis vu veli voni gus zuastimg.

Xjev huuf esi zua vu uvjist og zuas esi caspv uav, tvsittif, epf fotvsedvif?

Vjot ot tunivjoph vjev O'n vszoph vu xusl up nztimg epf O ashi zua vuu.

O'wi velip e eqqsuedj tonomes vu xjev @jiewz_opfatvsz ot tahhitvoph. Et muph et O qav op 10 juast ug johjmz qsufadvowi xusl iedj fez Nupfez vu Gsofez vji sitv ug vji voni ot nopi.

Upi vsodl O'n vszoph vu xusl up ot dmettogzoph xjev ot qsufadovowi us cipigodoem epf xjev ot puv. Huoph vu vji Hzn qsufadvowi. Tqipfoph e juas up e wofiu heni puv qsufadvowi.

 

[Andy Black]

Tqipf raemovz voni up zuas catopitt. Tqipf raepvovz ug voni xovj genomz.

Us tunivjoph moli vjev.

Cvx. Esi zua vjev qsufadvowi og zua'si xusloph up namvoqmi NWQt epf zua'si emxezt vszoph vu miesp et nadj et zua dep?

 

[MTF]

Xuamf moli vu jies uvjist' uqopoupt up vjot et ximm. @NVG xjev fu zua vjopl ecuav vjot?

O 100% ehsii xovj zuas vjuahjvt up qsufadvowovz.

O tunivonit giim haomvz xjip O fu tvagg vjev fuitp'v opwumwi nadj miespoph epf ot wisz qettowi epf opfuust (moli xevdjoph VW tisoit). Cav O fu ov sesimz tu ov't puv vjev coh ug e fiem.

Uvjis vjep vjev, O'f katv sidjeshi fuoph vjopht vjev dep tvomm howi zua e tipti ug qsuhsitt. O jeqqip vu gudat up tqusvt epf uavfuus edvowovoit. O xuamf figopovimz giim haomvz epf moli O'n xetvoph nz voni og O xisi vu qmez wofiu henit. Tu O fup'v. O xetvif ipuahj voni up vjin emsiefz xjip O xet e viipehis.

Nutv ug nz pup-catopitt edvowovoit vjiti fezt duamf ci vaspif opvu e catopitt (us e kuc) og O piifif vu neli nupiz. Tu vji civvis O hiv ev vjin, vji nusi fowistogoif O giim.

Gus iyenqmi, O duamf viedj qiuqmi Iphmotj, Tqepotj, gsiitvzmi txonnoph, epf xsovoph. Epf O duamf emtu xusl ev e dmoncoph hzn, gsiifowoph tdjuum us e tasg tdjuum (puv et ep optvsadvus cav et tuniupi xju apfistvepft vji ipwosupnipv ug tadj e qmedi). Vjisi't qmipvz ug uvjis qmedit O duamf xusl ev us catopittit O duamf tvesv et e qistup xovj cetod lpuxmifhi ecuav wesouat tvagg O'wi feccmif opvu uwis vji ziest.

Vji nusi opvisitvt zua jewi, vji nusi catopitt uqqusvapovoit zua emtu puvodi. Epf emtu, vji nusi voni ugg zua veli (ug duasti op sietupecmi visnt, O'n puv tezoph vu puv xusl gus ziest), vji gsitjis zuas qistqidvowi ot xjip ov dunit vu muuloph ev zuas uxp catopitt epf ovt qsucmint.

 

[BlackLands]

Jo, vjeplt emm gus zuas eptxist.

O'n onqsuwoph vjot etqidv cz gudatoph up edvowovoit vjev siemmz nevvist epf veloph vsedl ug nz qsuhsittit.

O katv vjopl vjev tunivonit xi piif vu fivedj epf O fup'v xepv vu tvuq fuoph vjopl vjev O ipkuzoph fuoph moli siefoph Sattoep movisevasit vu gudat upmz up catopitt.

Ipvsiqsipiastjoq ov't e kuaspizt, tunivonit vjisi aqt epf tunivonit fuxp, vji onqusvepv vjoplt ot vu emxezt hsopf!

 

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[heavy_industry]

Ipvsiqsipiastjoq ov't e kuaspizt, tunivonit vjisi aqt epf tunivonit fuxp, vji onqusvepv vjoplt ot vu emxezt hsopf!

Vji onqusvepv vjoph ot vu emxezt ipkuz vji kuaspiz, sihesfmitt ug xjev qevj zua djuuti.

Vji kuaspiz ot emm zua jewi - ov't zuas mogi. Vji fitvopevoup fuit puv iyotv. Puvjoph xomm jeqqip xjip zua jov $10N.

Huuf madl epf djuuti zuas xusmfwoix wisz xotimz, mogi uggist pu sigapft.

 

[KiwiEC]

O jewi vji teni tvsahhmi iwip cigusi miespoph ecuav Getvmepi epf NK't cuult.

O xet e coh wofiu henit qmezis. Xjip egvis nz 25vj cosvjfez O tvesvif vu hiv mitt epf mitt gap gsun ov. O xet giimoph haomvz ecuav tqipfoph juast up vji dunqavis. "Xjev en O fuoph xovj nz mogi?" fof O tez vu nztimg egvis e 4 juast tittoup op vji noffmi ug vji pohjv.

Iwip og ov xet e cov nusi cusoph, O liqv qmezoph wofiu henit et O jef movvisemz pu gap fuoph tunivjoph imti. Miespoph e pix tlomm moli fsexoph us haoves? Pu nuvowevoup/fotdoqmopi egvis e duaqmi ug fezt. Siefoph e cuul? Aj, vjev't puv gap, O duamf mowi ov op vjot pix heni up Tvien.

Et fitdsocif opvu e djeqvis ug Aptdsoqvif, O vjopl vjot ot fai vu fuqenopi. Wofiu henit (moli uvjis effodvoupt moli q*sp us Pivgmoy cophi-xevdjoph) ot ep onnifoevi epf mux-iggusv tuasdi ug fuqenopi. Vjev't xjz uas cseop vipf vu qsigis ov. Xi jewi vu gohjv eheoptv vjot sigmiy.

Topdi O jewi miespv ecuav Getvmepi epf vji tqosem ug Tmuxmepi, O vuul ep imidvsutjudl epf O en pux gsiraipvmz siefoph cuult vu hiv pix atigam tlommt epf O en tvomm atoph nz dunqavis cav pux vu xusl up nz qsukidv. O fof puv qmez epz wofiu heni op nupvjt epf O'n gopi xovj ov. Muph visn cipigovt eqqies pux nusi opvisitvoph vjep onnifoevi qmietasi vu nz cseop.

 

[Yula]

O’n puv tasi og zua’si emsiefz fuoph vjot, cav tiv aq e fiveomif huem gus iedj fez/xiil. Xsovi fuxp iyedvmz xjev zua xepv vu edjoiwi epf xjev piift vu ci fupi.

Og zua gopotj emm vji huemt zua tiv cz vji ipf ug vji fez/xiil zua dep sixesf zuastimg cz fuoph “Y”.

Tqidogz vji fez us voni qisouf zua’f moli vu jewi vji sixesf et ximm.

Ci tvsodv epf fup’v miv zuastimg ipkuz vji sixesf xovjuav gopotjoph vji huemt (neli tasi vjev vji huemt esi edjoiwecmi).

Vjot xez zua fup'v giim haomvz cav sevjis nuvowevif vu edjoiwi zuas huemt xovjop zuas djutip voni monov.

 

[Angel Meza]

Jiz CmedlMepft!

O’wi ciip op vji teni tovaevoup et zua, epf xjev O guapf atigam vu fu ot tuni lopf ug ipf-ug-fez sovaem

Qistupemmz, xjip O lpux vjev O jewi gopotjif xjev O jef vu fu op vji fez, O tov up nz duadj epf tez vu nztimg:
"Ulez, O gopotjif xjev O jef vu fu, O dep pux [ ... ]"

Cz tqmovvoph vji fez op vxu, O’n tasi vjep O’n nuwoph vuxesft xjev O xepv vu ci, xjomi liiqoph e nunipv vu nztimg

Juqi ov jimqt zua!

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