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Its funny because I disagree with you; I think people are amazing. But then again I have very few friends, and about a billion acquaintences that I keep at arms length.<br />
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Think about this though - how many amazing things have been invented, built, created?<br />
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Lots right?<br />
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How many of those things were created by you?<br />
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Ohhh shit, looks like the whole "people are f*cked" paradigm is all in your head eh.<br />
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Focus on finding good things and maybe you'll see them.
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</blockquote>The majority of people suck<br />
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Would you like to have more friends and people in your life? Some people just don't like people that much, and they do well on their own, and don't have much desire for more friends.<br />
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On the other hand, if you're craving connection with people, but just can't seem to find it then maybe you should take a little break like you said. Because if you see patterns in your life, like putting more effort into relationships than the people you want to cultivate a relationship with, it could be something to do with you.<br />
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Looking back at this post:<br />
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I'm being genuine with you, and not trying to put you down, I speak from my own experience here. If you're one month away from being homeless and starving, you have bigger problems than making more friends. In my opinion, you should get some stability, think about what you want to do with your life, and start going after it. Again not trying to be mean here, but people aren't going to want to befriend you if you're about to be homeless and starve. You don't have much value to offer people, it seems like, right now. It's okay, you gotta start somewhere. But people want to be friends with people who they find some sort of value in.<br />
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Also, work on the pessimistic attitude. If you believe people will bring you down for being successful, you'll never be successful. <b>People WANT to be around successful people</b>, not around people who complain and don't have their life in order.<br />
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Seriously, the universe isn't against you, and neither are people. You just have to face the reality that people want to be around people they find value in. Men and women. If you're finding people aren't treating you well and reciprocating, it's time to build some value in your own life, and have your own thing going on. People will want to be apart of it if it's cool.<br />
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Nah man I don't feel like this. There's too much life to live. If you feel this way all the time, I would go to a doctor and maybe get on antidepressants. You don't have to take them forever, but maybe it'll get you out of this rut.<br />
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In the meantime, try going to the gym, eat well and sleep well. Ease off the drugs if you take any.<br />
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I really hope this advice helps you, we care about you here in this community. Keep us updated.
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</blockquote>Id<br />
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Would you like to have more friends and people in your life? Some people just don't like people that much, and they do well on their own, and don't have much desire for more friends.<br />
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On the other hand, if you're craving connection with people, but just can't seem to find it then maybe you should take a little break like you said. Because if you see patterns in your life, like putting more effort into relationships than the people you want to cultivate a relationship with, it could be something to do with you.<br />
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Looking back at this post:<br />
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I'm being genuine with you, and not trying to put you down, I speak from my own experience here. If you're one month away from being homeless and starving, you have bigger problems than making more friends. In my opinion, you should get some stability, think about what you want to do with your life, and start going after it. Again not trying to be mean here, but people aren't going to want to befriend you if you're about to be homeless and starve. You don't have much value to offer people, it seems like, right now. It's okay, you gotta start somewhere. But people want to be friends with people who they find some sort of value in.<br />
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Also, work on the pessimistic attitude. If you believe people will bring you down for being successful, you'll never be successful. <b>People WANT to be around successful people</b>, not around people who complain and don't have their life in order.<br />
<br />
Seriously, the universe isn't against you, and neither are people. You just have to face the reality that people want to be around people they find value in. Men and women. If you're finding people aren't treating you well and reciprocating, it's time to build some value in your own life, and have your own thing going on. People will want to be apart of it if it's cool.<br />
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Nah man I don't feel like this. There's too much life to live. If you feel this way all the time, I would go to a doctor and maybe get on antidepressants. You don't have to take them forever, but maybe it'll get you out of this rut.<br />
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In the meantime, try going to the gym, eat well and sleep well. Ease off the drugs if you take any.<br />
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I really hope this advice helps you, we care about you here in this community. Keep us updated.
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</blockquote>dont remember how long ago that post was but im doing fine right now. Even though i was in a rough spot i never complained or bitched. And the idea that people want to e around successful people brings me even more pessimsism towards humanity. Im not saying you shouldnt cut ties with someone thats toxic or bringing you down but i have seen cases where i have been in a downturn in my life and everyone in my life vanished but if im doing well everyone comes along. Its called fair weather friends and I dont want any of that. Case in point. My good friend is addicted to drugs right now and is going mentally bonkers. Our used to e social circle in hs are all making fun of him laughing at his demise. I reached out to him to make sure he's okay everyday. These are the same friends that are "with you bro" when your up and will laugh at you with your down. thats not a real friend what you describe. Dont want people with me only when im "successful" i want people to be with me for me as a person materalistic or not. By your argument you should be friends with anyone in a third world country who has no money but who has family values and doing his best to do with the best he can. Now if the person is emotionally draining or taxing or generally toxic thats a different story. sorry but its people like you who see the surface i cant really stand and further proves my point.</div>
