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This post is a little unorthodox for the forum, but I swear it is related. Let me explain why...
I'll start with a little about me. I'm a 32 year old female and I have two fur children (goldendoodles). I'm an engineer, I have a fairly high paying 9-5 that lets me work remotely and have decent flexibility but I still absolutely hate it, and I manage my finances fairly well (no debt or car payment, emergency fund, retirement accounts, brokerage accounts, etc. etc.). I love doing crossfit competitively, snowboarding, hiking, going to the beach, traveling frequently, reading often, and learning as much as I can (working on Spanish right now). Finally, I'm laser focused on retiring by 40. Quite the spectrum, I know
Anyway, onto the main point...
I think we (single people) can all agree that dating in 2023 is absolutely dreadful. Between dating apps and social media, we live in the age of ghosting, gaslighting, and catfishing. On top of all that, being a Fastlaner makes it even harder (in my opinion, at least). Pre-reading The Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted , I definitely had my "criteria" that was I looking for in a long term relationship. You know standard stuff: have a "good" job, live a healthy & active lifestyle, not be a serial killer or a catfish or try to steal my identify. All of those things still hold true after reading both books, although now I'm almost too selective.
As I've started my Fastlane journey and I'm executing on my first idea, I've fully immersed myself in the mindset and ideology of getting out of the rat race and living on my own terms. I've found this to be somewhat challenging when dating as most people I've encountered are very much in the Slowlane and have no intentions of doing life any other way. I'm almost immediately turned off by this as I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone that just wants to work their 9-5 while I'm working on my exit strategy. What happens when one of my ideas is finally the one? I liquidate and live the rest of my life living without an alarm clock or a "job." I think I'm having an extremely hard time overcoming the difference in mindset. I'm almost subconsciously devaluing the path of the people I go on dates with because I so badly want out of the Fastlane. I'm struggling to bridge the gap in mindset.
I'm not sure if I'm very much overthinking this or there are other Fastlaners that are experiencing similar issues when trying to date? I know this isn't directly related to standard forum talk but I do think having such a dramatic shift in mindset has had a significant impact on what I'm looking for in a partner and what I envision for my life.
Would love to hear thoughts!
I can share my thoughts but frankly you may not like what I have to say. How thick is your skin? Do you really want to hear the hard truth? Or are you seeking to confirm what you already think because you are on the forum for entrepreneurship? …
1. You are 32 and still single, why? Nothing wrong with being single. But is your new conflict with “mindset differences” a new excuse of how you judge compatibility between you and potential partners?
2. Are you a little ahead of your own skis? Your plan to be retired by 40… it just feels a lot like “me, me, me” instead of “here’s how I can help people… I saw these struggles and I know how to fix it, thousands of people will be better off when I do and here’s how I’m going about it.”
2. Are you a little ahead of your own skis? Your plan to be retired by 40… it just feels a lot like “me, me, me” instead of “here’s how I can help people… I saw these struggles and I know how to fix it, thousands of people will be better off when I do and here’s how I’m going about it.”