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A great book is Way of the Superior Man, it's about how a man should place his Mission as a priority and dating and everything else comes secondary. I agree with that, and I created this visualization which helps me alot:
I'm a powerful train on a track. I'm headed exactly where I want to go to reach my destination, the tracks are laid down already and in place. Passengers can hop on and hop off of my train anytime. If a woman is amazing and comes into my life, that's great, she can stay as long as things are awesome, we have fun together, I can love her, etc. but she is on my tracks. I'm still on my track no matter what. The train doesn't go a different direction/path no matter how badly the passengers want it to, its on a set track. Friends headed to the same direction as you will hop on and stay too, etc. They can also hop off whenever they want and that's fine. I'm on my track and headed where I'm going no matter what.
This is a great perspective.
What I've learned about women is not to think about them to much. Some men may become consumed by them and try to chase 'the one' constantly. They may also be devastated when they split up.
You have to prioritize your own goals and achieve them financially, socially, mentally, and physically. In each category I am working toward a goal. Women are simply a part of the social aspect of life which, while important, doesn't define me as an individual. So long as I'm reaching goals it keeps me mentally focused and self-esteem high.
A curious side effect of this is that women will be more naturally attracted to men like this, since by improving yourself, you're improving the qualities women find more attractive. You can't force attraction, all you can do is work to improve yourself and your attraction level will increase.
Since I've shifted to this mindset I've found myself speaking with more women than I ever did when I was focusing on them instead to fill my needs.
I typically avoid women that play games. Whoever this woman is it sounds like she is very confused and needs time to sort out her own shit.
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