Mattie
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Hi Everyone, I am 40, female and still single. I have posted elsewhere that I am a lawyer, working on my side hustle (until it becomes my full time thing). However, for the last 3 years I have tried everything I can think of to maximise my chances of meeting someone. I want to have my family. For obvious reasons, I need to prioritise this over and above the side hustle. I have tried hiring a coach (Law of Attraction principles, well-known in the media, said it worked for her, did all the exercises etc; nothing). I went to the opening of an envelope if needed, joined different gyms and moved jobs to a male dominated industry to maximise my chances. I get enough interest but haven't met The One. I'm attractive, in shape and have a lot to offer someone. I don't know why I've failed. Is there a way to apply Fast Lane principles to finding love? Thank you to all who respond
Best advice to give you is stop searching for them. Usually when you let go of trying to make something happen, it happens. I know woman tend to get kind of obsessive about finding the right person. You also have to realize you're a lawyer, and a bit more intellectual than the average person. This might also be intimidating towards some men. I believe some men feel a bit threatened by successful women, and other men are not.
I heard a comment earlier "Network". The more people you know, the more people you talk too, the more interaction you have with others, the more opportunities come your way. With that network, you find people with resources, and also who may happen to know someone that might be in the same shoes as you. I believe that is a huge key in business and any kind of relationships. What most people do is sit back and not get involved, isolate themselves, limit themselves.
As you stated, "You've tried certain methods, and perhaps just expand your horizons to forums in interests that you enjoy. You'd be surprised where people meet, and there is no intention of meeting. Sometimes they're standing on the golf course, sitting at a basketball game, eating dinner outside in the summer having lunch, riding their bike, hiking, or a hundred other recreation activities. They meet in cooking classes, scuba diving, sailing, the opportunities are limitless.
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