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You are compleetly right most people will compleetly ignore you and carry on with what ever they are doing. But thats not the point, the point is conquering your fear and thats what your doing right there by talking about something very embarrassing infront of a crowd of people.@njord lol bro. I'm actually tempted right now. But I see your point. What I mean is that 2 minutes in the grand scheme of your life is nothing, but those two minutes could give opportunity. You have so much more to gain than lose by taking the chance and sticking with the pain.
And the thing is. If I stood in the middle of time square with a microphone and told every passerby about the time I jerked off with banana peel I microwaved for 30 seconds to hardcore porn high off my a$$ (my lowest moment), I doubt anybody would care.
I could even have fun with it. I kind of want to go in front some prudish old woman, the kind you'd see at church, and describe in full detail how the warm, moist banana felt. lol I'd probably get arrested, but I'd have the laugh of a century.
The world does not care about me. I try to drill this into my head everyday. Everything is our mindset.
Great post.You've got some great answers here, and I'm going to add one more.
I used to be pathologically shy. Zero eye contact, dressed to be ignored, intermittent hygiene, damn near permanent stutter, the works.
Two things changed everything:
1. I moved 3000 miles away from anyone who knew me. Any way that I presented myself to my new community would be how they thought of me. I made a conscious decision to not blow that opportunity.
2. Brute force: it was HORRIBLE. I explain: I gave myself a challenge. I had 2 weeks to change my behavior. I didn't have to change my mindset, just my behavior. I went to the least threatening place (college science lab) at the least threatening time (4pm) to deliberately *give a compliment* to the least-threatening person I could find(older secretary).
Result: My hands were sweating, my knees shaking. I asked for directions to an office I knew was on the wrong floor, and as I went to leave, said, 'hey, that dress is a beautiful color on you'. Then I threw up in the bathroom.
And then I repeated it, in some form, every day, for 2 weeks. And it got me over the worst of the shyness. I started looking people in the eye, I bathed on the regular, got newer clothes, and talked slower to overcome the stutter.
You're probably nowhere near as shy as I was. The 2-week challenge will probably work great! Every day, find a stranger, and compliment them. Seriously, if I can get past it, you can.
Now? I may have gone too far in the opposite direction. YMMV
Go play Football !Hi everyone,
I am a very shy boy and I cannot express myself in the way I would like. it's hard for me to make new friends and I prefer to be alone. I would like to overcome my problem to get to know new people and start new projects because I would not go ahead alone. do you have any tips to overcome this problem?
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