Yeah Perhaps I could be of some help as I may have broken through this kind of rut recently:
I have always been a very ambitious kind of guy but I talked a lot without putting in enough action. This has led me to fail at many things and quit right when I started getting good. (I.E. bodybuilding, picking up girls, being an awesome student, even had meetings with friends about businesses we wanted to start)
I would go and read everything on the topic and get super excited and tell everyone everything I learned etc etc. Big mistake.
Not everyone will have your drive or your passion to succeed. In fact 99% of people will be downers and ruin your parade. That being said, even if they are excited, if they don't make you step up then they are even worse to have around. You just sit there and mentally masturbate with each other.
So, what exactly does it take than to get you out of that rut? Too be honest a whole lot and then some. I had been reading Tony robbins, 7 habits, Trump etc etc for a while... and even though I got excited after every read, it never led me to action(yet). I will say that book after book kept implementing the mindset and the need though. So the need grew bigger.
The mindset is important but you will need to be in huge discomfort.
For me In December I had all kinds of health issues, I was burned out, no energy and I started caring less and less about the "friends I had". I started to realize that most of them really aren't my friends and that their mindset is poisonous(I knew it before, but I still convinced myself that it's OK to still see them once in a while). WRONG! It is not ok.
All this discomfort, uncertainty and risk will have to be present in order to kick start you engine. I decided that I will have financial freedom or I would die, because there is no going back from what I know. It is just not worth it otherwise.
So here are the types of questions to look out for, that will show you whether you are seriously considering this or not:
- NBA game at 7:00PM, you had a long day, do you "relax for a bit because you deserved it"? If YES you are done. ( I made this mistake for years)
- Can't wait for your favourite show to air the next episode so you can "get away from it all for a lil while"? If YES you are done.
- Your sister is Visiting from Chicago, she is at your place for 2 weeks, do you spend the whole 2 weeks spending time with her out of principle and respect? If YES you are done. (You have to show everyone including your family that you have your priorities, and that they cannot step over you) If you are scared of this, unfortunately you are done.
- When going to school/work you care how your hair,shoes,jacket etc etc looks. You are done if this is the case. (This shows that you are probably still socially conditioned and it will be hard to change)
- When someone of perceived authority tells you something, do you question them? If not, you are done. People of perceived authority are only the authority to those who choose them to be. Bad advice is just bad advice, if you don't do your own due diligence or can't even think this through, then the world still has a strangle hold on you.
All of this I had to breakthrough myself ... and it wasn't easy. If you feel comfortable or in control, you are not growing.
You can't allow even an ounce of so called "noise" as MJ calls it in his book to affect you. Yes that means that every second of your day you have to conciously fight everyone and everything around you.
For example:
- You have to travel with the subway for the time being. OK, do you bitch and complain while sucking on 4 liters of coffee trying to wake up, OR are you reading a book.
Can't get a seat, are you standing and reading? Why not? Is your excuse that you will feel sick, people will complain, it's uncomfortable etc etc?
Say you have to walk to the subway/bus stop, on the walk there are you asking yourself how to utilize your time better while on the walk there? Do you listen to audio tapes while walking to the bus stop or is that "too much of a hassle"?
Another example:
- You are part of a great Fantasy Baseball league that has 12 of your high school buddies who are all jokers that have been part of your social group for a while.
If these guys just waist their time on baseball stats and "joking around" then they are not part of your plan to financial freedom.
(I recently quit my league and everyone was calling me left right and center to re-join, telling me how it will never be the same without me etc etc....
Did I let my Ego get in the way? No I thought it through for 3 seconds and I told them that there is no return for me ever.)
If the above examples seems extreme, then you are probably not there yet. Things like that shouldn't be a nuisance, rather they should be your thought process.
I have gone through this numerous times. But you Just HAVE TO cut out the noise... all of it. Nothing can be the exception.
Here Is some things to implement:
- Cut out everyone who won't help you get there
- Get really out of your comfort zone (try to reach someone that is in the business you would like to get into)
- When doing anything or making any decision, always ask "Is this going to be the best use of my time?"
MOST IMPORTANTLY:
DISAPPOINT EVERYONE ELSE FIRST, DISAPPOINT YOURSELF LAST - ALWAYS
If you want to run through any of this stuff with me I am all ears.
Just PM me and we can link up on Skype
Cheers, Hope that helped a bit
The Truth Has Spoken :coolgleamA:
I have always been a very ambitious kind of guy but I talked a lot without putting in enough action. This has led me to fail at many things and quit right when I started getting good. (I.E. bodybuilding, picking up girls, being an awesome student, even had meetings with friends about businesses we wanted to start)
I would go and read everything on the topic and get super excited and tell everyone everything I learned etc etc. Big mistake.
Not everyone will have your drive or your passion to succeed. In fact 99% of people will be downers and ruin your parade. That being said, even if they are excited, if they don't make you step up then they are even worse to have around. You just sit there and mentally masturbate with each other.
So, what exactly does it take than to get you out of that rut? Too be honest a whole lot and then some. I had been reading Tony robbins, 7 habits, Trump etc etc for a while... and even though I got excited after every read, it never led me to action(yet). I will say that book after book kept implementing the mindset and the need though. So the need grew bigger.
The mindset is important but you will need to be in huge discomfort.
For me In December I had all kinds of health issues, I was burned out, no energy and I started caring less and less about the "friends I had". I started to realize that most of them really aren't my friends and that their mindset is poisonous(I knew it before, but I still convinced myself that it's OK to still see them once in a while). WRONG! It is not ok.
All this discomfort, uncertainty and risk will have to be present in order to kick start you engine. I decided that I will have financial freedom or I would die, because there is no going back from what I know. It is just not worth it otherwise.
So here are the types of questions to look out for, that will show you whether you are seriously considering this or not:
- NBA game at 7:00PM, you had a long day, do you "relax for a bit because you deserved it"? If YES you are done. ( I made this mistake for years)
- Can't wait for your favourite show to air the next episode so you can "get away from it all for a lil while"? If YES you are done.
- Your sister is Visiting from Chicago, she is at your place for 2 weeks, do you spend the whole 2 weeks spending time with her out of principle and respect? If YES you are done. (You have to show everyone including your family that you have your priorities, and that they cannot step over you) If you are scared of this, unfortunately you are done.
- When going to school/work you care how your hair,shoes,jacket etc etc looks. You are done if this is the case. (This shows that you are probably still socially conditioned and it will be hard to change)
- When someone of perceived authority tells you something, do you question them? If not, you are done. People of perceived authority are only the authority to those who choose them to be. Bad advice is just bad advice, if you don't do your own due diligence or can't even think this through, then the world still has a strangle hold on you.
All of this I had to breakthrough myself ... and it wasn't easy. If you feel comfortable or in control, you are not growing.
You can't allow even an ounce of so called "noise" as MJ calls it in his book to affect you. Yes that means that every second of your day you have to conciously fight everyone and everything around you.
For example:
- You have to travel with the subway for the time being. OK, do you bitch and complain while sucking on 4 liters of coffee trying to wake up, OR are you reading a book.
Can't get a seat, are you standing and reading? Why not? Is your excuse that you will feel sick, people will complain, it's uncomfortable etc etc?
Say you have to walk to the subway/bus stop, on the walk there are you asking yourself how to utilize your time better while on the walk there? Do you listen to audio tapes while walking to the bus stop or is that "too much of a hassle"?
Another example:
- You are part of a great Fantasy Baseball league that has 12 of your high school buddies who are all jokers that have been part of your social group for a while.
If these guys just waist their time on baseball stats and "joking around" then they are not part of your plan to financial freedom.
(I recently quit my league and everyone was calling me left right and center to re-join, telling me how it will never be the same without me etc etc....
Did I let my Ego get in the way? No I thought it through for 3 seconds and I told them that there is no return for me ever.)
If the above examples seems extreme, then you are probably not there yet. Things like that shouldn't be a nuisance, rather they should be your thought process.
I have gone through this numerous times. But you Just HAVE TO cut out the noise... all of it. Nothing can be the exception.
Here Is some things to implement:
- Cut out everyone who won't help you get there
- Get really out of your comfort zone (try to reach someone that is in the business you would like to get into)
- When doing anything or making any decision, always ask "Is this going to be the best use of my time?"
MOST IMPORTANTLY:
DISAPPOINT EVERYONE ELSE FIRST, DISAPPOINT YOURSELF LAST - ALWAYS
If you want to run through any of this stuff with me I am all ears.
Just PM me and we can link up on Skype
Cheers, Hope that helped a bit
The Truth Has Spoken :coolgleamA: