I started writing this as a reply to another thread. But decided to make a new thread since it was getting long. Thought it would benefit others better in this way...
This is about "self help" and getting over limiting beliefs, becoming a better person, and basically just creating a better life for yourself.
I started the whole "self help" thing a good 7 years ago or so. First start was in the PUA scene. Quickly realized what a bunch of weirdo's most of those guys were. I got out of the scene because all they ever worried about was getting a girl's number and getting the first date. They did these things by using tricks, pick up lines, NLP, "peacocking", etc. No one ever had an answer for "what happens after that?"
They were basically wearing masks to trick girls into liking them. But the gig was up if they ever spent more than a few dates with women. The women would see through their masks and see who they really are.
I had the brilliant thought (sarcasm) that "why don't I just become an awesome guy that women (and everyone) would want to be around and then "picking up" women would be easy?"
So that's what I worked on instead. And guess what? It worked. Getting dates with women was no longer a problem. I was able to just be myself and women started asking me out.
Where am I going with this, why did I just tell you about my past dating life?
Because after years and years of studying self help, it's actually a lot simpler than everyone makes it out to be.
Having women ask me out and getting dates were side effects. Side effects of having my s**t together. I don't believe you need to learn NLP, spend money on seminars, read a lot of books, watch a lot of videos, etc. Those things help, don't get me wrong. But it really only comes down to a few things.
Confidence - Believing that I am a good person and can add value to people's lives. Having the confidence to do things, to talk to people, to ask for things, etc. People just like other people who are confident.
Give To Give - Most people are only out for themselves. They give things to others because they want to get something from them. Give to people just because it's the right thing to do. Give to give. And don't expect anything in return. Don't do it with a hidden agenda. Don't do it with the thought of "I'll help them out because THEN they will then have to help me out." Just do it to be nice and to help others with ZERO expectation of some sort of return.
Seriously, just this alone will change your life. Don't believe me? Good, try it and see for yourself. Not too mention it's free. It doesn't cost you anything to be nice to people without expecting anything in return.
Abundance Mindset - Most people think in terms of lack. "I don't have enough money." I don't have enough time." The problem with those thoughts is they are self fulfilling. Think you don't have enough money and guess what, you won't.
Negative Thinking - Probably one of the biggest problems holding a lot of people back. Similar to the above mindset. When you think negative thoughts you attract more negativity into your life. It's self fulfilling.
Attraction - You attract more of what you put out into the universe. This may sound weird and truth be told, it kind of is weird if you think about it. But the universe works in mysterious ways. This topic fits in with the above topics I mentioned. Think you have plenty of money (and truly believe it), and the universe will make sure you have plenty of money. It works both ways though. Both the good and the bad.
Beliefs - This is most important part of all of this. Your beliefs govern your entire life. Seriously. "You are what you imagine yourself to be."
What do you imagine yourself, and your life, to be? Do you picture yourself as a successful person? Poor? Rich? Happy? Unhappy?
Your life is how you PERCEIVE it to be.
This is why you can change your life AT ANY TIME. Because you can change your perception.
Kind of too much to get into for this post, but everything that happens goes through your filter. This filter determines how you perceive things. This is why 2 people can have different viewpoints of the same story. Because they have different filters.
Read these 2 books for a more in depth look into this. These 2 books changed my life.
Dr. Robert Anything "Beyond Positive Thinking"
Dr. Maxwell Maltz - "Psycho Cybernetics"
My Point To All Of This
You can change your life at anytime. It doesn't matter what kind of background you have. It doesn't matter what your upbringing is. You can change your life. Period. And you can do it in a relatively short time frame. It doesn't take years. Some things take longer than others, yes. But you'd be surprised what can happen in just 90 days.
Remember, what you get in life are side effects of the person you are. People who are wealthy are wealthy because they have created a lot of value in the world. Guys who attract a lot of women do it because there are certain qualities they have that women like.
The key here is attraction. Attract things into your life. Don't chase them.
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Any questions on this or if you need help with something, just ask! However, please ask good questions. Which is another thing that holds a lot of people back. They ask themselves stupid questions. Therefor they get stupid answers.
Ask better questions and you get better answers.
That's all thinking really is...asking and answering a bunch of questions.
This is about "self help" and getting over limiting beliefs, becoming a better person, and basically just creating a better life for yourself.
I started the whole "self help" thing a good 7 years ago or so. First start was in the PUA scene. Quickly realized what a bunch of weirdo's most of those guys were. I got out of the scene because all they ever worried about was getting a girl's number and getting the first date. They did these things by using tricks, pick up lines, NLP, "peacocking", etc. No one ever had an answer for "what happens after that?"
They were basically wearing masks to trick girls into liking them. But the gig was up if they ever spent more than a few dates with women. The women would see through their masks and see who they really are.
I had the brilliant thought (sarcasm) that "why don't I just become an awesome guy that women (and everyone) would want to be around and then "picking up" women would be easy?"
So that's what I worked on instead. And guess what? It worked. Getting dates with women was no longer a problem. I was able to just be myself and women started asking me out.
Where am I going with this, why did I just tell you about my past dating life?
Because after years and years of studying self help, it's actually a lot simpler than everyone makes it out to be.
Having women ask me out and getting dates were side effects. Side effects of having my s**t together. I don't believe you need to learn NLP, spend money on seminars, read a lot of books, watch a lot of videos, etc. Those things help, don't get me wrong. But it really only comes down to a few things.
Confidence - Believing that I am a good person and can add value to people's lives. Having the confidence to do things, to talk to people, to ask for things, etc. People just like other people who are confident.
Give To Give - Most people are only out for themselves. They give things to others because they want to get something from them. Give to people just because it's the right thing to do. Give to give. And don't expect anything in return. Don't do it with a hidden agenda. Don't do it with the thought of "I'll help them out because THEN they will then have to help me out." Just do it to be nice and to help others with ZERO expectation of some sort of return.
Seriously, just this alone will change your life. Don't believe me? Good, try it and see for yourself. Not too mention it's free. It doesn't cost you anything to be nice to people without expecting anything in return.
Abundance Mindset - Most people think in terms of lack. "I don't have enough money." I don't have enough time." The problem with those thoughts is they are self fulfilling. Think you don't have enough money and guess what, you won't.
Negative Thinking - Probably one of the biggest problems holding a lot of people back. Similar to the above mindset. When you think negative thoughts you attract more negativity into your life. It's self fulfilling.
Attraction - You attract more of what you put out into the universe. This may sound weird and truth be told, it kind of is weird if you think about it. But the universe works in mysterious ways. This topic fits in with the above topics I mentioned. Think you have plenty of money (and truly believe it), and the universe will make sure you have plenty of money. It works both ways though. Both the good and the bad.
Beliefs - This is most important part of all of this. Your beliefs govern your entire life. Seriously. "You are what you imagine yourself to be."
What do you imagine yourself, and your life, to be? Do you picture yourself as a successful person? Poor? Rich? Happy? Unhappy?
Your life is how you PERCEIVE it to be.
This is why you can change your life AT ANY TIME. Because you can change your perception.
Kind of too much to get into for this post, but everything that happens goes through your filter. This filter determines how you perceive things. This is why 2 people can have different viewpoints of the same story. Because they have different filters.
Read these 2 books for a more in depth look into this. These 2 books changed my life.
Dr. Robert Anything "Beyond Positive Thinking"
Dr. Maxwell Maltz - "Psycho Cybernetics"
My Point To All Of This
You can change your life at anytime. It doesn't matter what kind of background you have. It doesn't matter what your upbringing is. You can change your life. Period. And you can do it in a relatively short time frame. It doesn't take years. Some things take longer than others, yes. But you'd be surprised what can happen in just 90 days.
Remember, what you get in life are side effects of the person you are. People who are wealthy are wealthy because they have created a lot of value in the world. Guys who attract a lot of women do it because there are certain qualities they have that women like.
The key here is attraction. Attract things into your life. Don't chase them.
- If you want money, create value. Become the type of person who attracts money.
- If you want to date a lot of women, become a man women would be attracted to.
- If you want an abundance mindset, don't think in terms of lack.
- If you want something, give it away. It tells your brain you have plenty of it and helps to attract more of it.
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Any questions on this or if you need help with something, just ask! However, please ask good questions. Which is another thing that holds a lot of people back. They ask themselves stupid questions. Therefor they get stupid answers.
Ask better questions and you get better answers.
That's all thinking really is...asking and answering a bunch of questions.
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