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    Do you want to change your current situation?

    Then change your identity to a GROWTH IDENTITY from a STATUS QUO IDENTITY.

    A STATUS QUO IDENTITY is what you are.

    "I'm an engineer at Intel and someday would like to quit to start my own business."

    A GROWTH IDENTITY is what you want to become, not what you are.

    "I'm an entrepreneur who works at Intel."

    KEY CONCEPT: Your self identity works to be congruent with reality. If the identity = reality then the status quo will remain the status quo.

    Conversely, when there is incongruence, the status quo violates your identity and you will ACT to change it. You will be more likely to work daily to make it congruent. If your identity is congruent with the status quo, your action then becomes a matter of convenience. In other words, you most likely will NOT change. You will ALWAYS be "an engineer at Intel who would like to quit someday and start a business."

    In my 400+ page book, UNSCRIPTED, the concept of identity hacking is a difficult find: It's found in the part about meaning and purpose, specifically, page 197.

    In my life, I've ALWAYS self-identified as an entrepreneur since my teens and it helped me make that identity into a reality.

    Whatever my future goals might be, I know I will use this identity hack to make it happen.

    Screenwriter? I'm a screenwriter, not an aspiring screenwriter.
    Options trader? I'm an options trader, not an aspiring trader.
    Comedian? I'm a comedian, not an aspiring comedian.

    Hack your identity and then prove it daily with action to what you will become.

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    Nice post MJ! Identity hacking really does work. I've done it a few times now.
     
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    Resonates with me so much.

    One thing I was actually of thinking of when reading Unscripted was how a lot of second generation immigrants (like myself) develop a mentality that allows us to accept that we are different. As a result a lot of us do things which society deems wrong or weird - like starting a business or striving to live the unscripted life.

    I think it's because of identity hacking while growing up. A lot of regular folk, who fit in all their lives and have a comfortable upbringing don't ever feel that they're "different". And when they do actually do something which is different they're told by society or their parents that "being different is ok". However, these same kids then see their parents and everyone around them trying to fit in and live the Scripted life.

    When you're a second generation immigrant, you don't fit in, you have different habits. Heck, I couldn't even speak English when I started primary school and I still remember sitting by myself at lunch time wishing I could fit in. The thing is though that when my parents and their friends said it's "ok to be different", I could see in their actions that it actually was (they were congruent in their actions and words).

    I feel like my parents, family and their friends hacked my identity and made me believe that it's ok to live Unscripted.

    I don't see any reason why people can't make a concerted effort to hack themselves in this way, or to get to know people who are living Unscripted to change their own reality.
     
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    Love it! No value in the word *aspiring*

    DELETE!

    Reminds me a lot of what Tom Bilyeu (Founder of Quest Nutrition) often discusses (to paraphrase):

    1. Decide who you want to become
    2. Reverse engineer the path to get there
    3. Pay the price via Kinetic Execution


     
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    Reminds me of positive affirmations in a way , although this sticks more so .
     
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    Love it MJ. Got me thinking about a few things.

    Identity definitely drives behavior, for better or worse. Once you know this, you begin to be a lot more careful about what you tell yourself and how you present that identity to others. As a side note, sometimes implanting a new identity or sharing it can be difficult and people can get hung up on it.

    One of these hangups is Affirmations.
    No matter how many times you shout "I AM RICH" into a mirror, it may not be an effective way to implant a new growth identity.

    So, one similar method I've used to combat this problem and implant a new identity is to literally imagine that you are a multi-million dollar entrepreneur who lost everything and had to start from scratch.

    What do you do now?

    What are your first steps?


    It's a subtle distinction, but from that standpoint the path becomes incredibly clear.
    It's not just identifying as an entrepreneur, but using identity to provoke action
    (as in pretending you are a successful entrepreneur who lost everything).
     
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    I think that UnrealCreative is right when he says that many will need to make it more than just an affirmation in order for it to an effective identity hack. I would go as far as to say that some people probably need to make it more than simple imagination altogether.

    One way to really make this "identity hack" official would be to tell people who you are. Anytime you meet someone new you tell them "I'm an entrepreneur." Even to family and friends that you already know - if they ask what you've been up to lately or how you've been - find a way to squeeze in your new identity. This adds the social pressure to live up to the identity. And one thing is for certain: social pressure is the strongest force when it comes to making us act congruent to an established identity.

    I've been traveling the past several months and I've always told people that I am an entrepreneur when they ask me what I do. I've even become very close to some of these people and let me tell you, I can feel the pressure to conform to these expectations. To not be a phony. To live up to an image that I've created. If you want to put some fire under your a$$ my experience tells me that this will work for you too.
     
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    This is the biggest hurdle to overcome IMO. I struggle with it constantly and I suspect that this is where a lot of people get stopped, myself included. Once you put it out there, it becomes real. Now your integrity is on the line and most can't deal with that so they don't externalize their thoughts. "If I don't tell you, then you won't know that I failed."
     
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    Maybe I dont get it, but this seems backwards to me.

    I'm an entrepreneur. How do I know I am?

    Because I take the actions of an entrepreneur.

    For me, the action comes first. If I want to change how I identify myself, I take action that is congruent with that identity FIRST...which makes it true.

    I'm an entrepreneur not because I say I am, but because I DO IT.

    I realize language matters, especially our internal language, but I'm not sure how to use that internal language to affect change.

    What am I missing here?
     
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    I think that it completely depends on the circumstances. There are people who simply won't take action because it doesn't align with their identity. I think that action/identity is a real chicken and egg scenario where both will feed into each-other. The point is that one of these must change in order for anything to happen, and if a person isn't taking action then "identity hacking" may get them there.
     
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    Because saying you are something induces to take action to become that something, sometimes just to avoid the imposteur syndrome. It also creates opportunities (meet people) that you wouldn't have had if you had stayed in the "aspiring" lie. Of course identity hack is nothing without the realistic action and work behind, but it's a good kick in the a$$ to start.
     
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    Here's the way I think of this. In a weird way, in my experience, both are necessary. Like @MrSterlock pointed out, there's a chicken and egg conundrum here. For whatever reason, here's the life experience that jumps to mind:

    I was a timid and chubby kid. My dad convinced me to join an MMA gym (before MMA was a national phenomenon and the gyms were douchebag factories). Old man figured it could fix the timid and chubby thing in one go. It did. I got chubby again later, but we'll leave that for another day.

    So, gym rules is that once you've been there for a solid month you have to spar if you wanna stay. I was terrified. I talked to myself on the drive over, the whole time sitting against the wall waiting my turn, convincing myself I could fight this kid. I convinced myself to get on the mat with him.

    He beat my a$$.

    But that's not the moral of the story. All these years later, I still vividly remember the moment after he landed a heavy right. I remember the slow-mo surprise, and I remember being surprised at myself.... I was still on my feet. I took my 3 round beating and was really no worse for wear. From then on, I thought of myself as a guy who could fight. It cemented from self-talk to real experience that, if nothing else, I could get hit in the face and not go down. I could get taken down and not tap out.

    Sure, it was the experience that made it really real. But I would have never had the experience if I hadn't talked myself into it being real to begin with. Ironically, I convinced myself I could win, got my a$$ beat, and the experience of surviving the a$$ beating is what kept me going.

    That's a little rambling, but we are talking chicken and egg here. Self talk is important. I used to think it was bullshit. Not so much anymore.
     
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    I used to think this too. Then I talked myself into a pit of despair about 18 months ago and realized that 1) I don't have very good control of my mind and emotions and, 2) I'm an a**hole to myself.

    That's why this topic interests me, cause I have some pretty messed up identities related to certain things haha.

    Your story made a lot of sense. It really is a chicken and egg thing. I guess you can't have an egg without a chicken, and you can't have a chicken without an egg...
     
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    This made me laugh.

    Andrew's Law of Attraction Lesson of the Day
    "You don't attract what you want, you attract what you are."

    When you look outside of you, you realize that universe is a reflection of who you are. When I decided that I want to be and NLP teacher, someone messaged me a few days later asking me to mentor them in NLP, out of nowhere, before I even put a sales page up for that kind of offer years ago.

    When you identify yourself and feel, and breathe every essence of being a successful entrepreneur, the universe outside of you aligns with who you are on the inside; and opportunities/money attract to you, and flow to you easily and effortlessly....with abundance

    You are the magnet. When you take action, the magnet is stronger, but the magnet of who you are is what pulls people and opportunities to you in the first place.

    Before you took action, you first decided to be the person who takes action.

    Being.
    Doing.
    Having.

    #lawofattraction ;)
     
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    The affirmation is one thing.

    Then there is the emotional attachment to the identity you want to shed.

    "Affirmations are like taking a pile of dog shit, covering it in frosting, and calling it a cupcake."

    What emotional attachments and reminders make you cling onto the old identity, and make you believe for it to still be true?

    In Buddhist teachings, they say you must empty the cup before you can fill the cup. Be willing to let go of the old, and realize that's not who you are now, and release the emotional attachments...and this makes room for the new.

    That's my experience for shifting identities faster at least.
     
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    I agree that you must let go of your old identity and once your actions and the life you are living are completely incongruent with it - it will fall to the wayside. That almost goes without saying.

    The problem is when someone is being held back by their past and the way that they presently identify themselves to the point where it completely obstructs their ability to take action. In this position, someone needs both the awareness that their present model of themselves is the issue and that they CAN change it in order for transformation to even begin. Many people simply don't even believe that they are capable of changing. Only with the knowledge that they can change can action be taken in that direction.

    Often with that action, their identity as being an apathetic loser with no direction in life (for example) is contradicted and this feeds into an identity of growth because now they are growing. I think that this is one of the most powerful aspects of progress in any aspect of life. When you experience growth you don't just make progress but you begin to identify as someone who is growing.

    For that reason, maybe one of the best ways to help someone in a mental rut is by giving them easy steps of action that they can see direct results from.
     
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    I feel like nowadays so many people say "I am an entrepreneur" why? What do you do? They say they are but what actions do they take? It's so easily thrown out there by people... At this point in time I just think of myself as some dude working at gaining my financial independence
     
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    I've actually told people I trade options for a living because I wasn't in the mood to be discussing business. I knew saying "options" would make them immediately check out of the topic. Ha Ha, I just wanted to be left alone.

    I think a lot of those people are still working out their failures. I told people I was an entrepreneur for 10 years before my entrepreneurship actually put food on the table.
     
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    Which is perfectly fine, so many have failed countless times before being a hit success. But you said it yourself you were working out failures meaning you were putting your ideas to action. I was referring more to the type "I'm an entrepreneur because I am thinking of starting some sort of business" while they sit on the couch binge watching netflix.
     
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    Another interesting effect of identity hack is that you are forced to leave the holy comfort zone in order to be able to walk the talk, otherwise you'll be just an arrogant imposter.
    There's a limit however: your new identity should be rather vague, not too detailed. Don't say "I'm a professional translator who mastered in Mandarin Chinese" if you don't speak a single word of Chinese, you'll be unmasked in no time.
     
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    I really needed to read all of this.

    I don't tell most people that I'm an entrepreneur simply because they start spewing their venom about the challenges and obstacles, without providing helpful feedback or solutions. These people are called energy vampires.

    I keep telling myself that I'm an entrepreneur posing as an office drone.

    The SCRIPT painfully reveals itself to you on your journey, especially once you step outside of the SCRIPT.

     
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    Interesting video on the "Imposter Syndrome", thanks @MetalGear.
     
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    Must watch video, and I'm now happy to understand why I give zero f*cks about celebrities.
     
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    Since when selling options became more honourable than entrepreneurship lol

    But where I come from, if they hear of people selling options, the word 'scam' would be on their lips. Yup, that's how scam-ridden society is. Lots of money wolves around these days for such a misconception to occur.

    But MJ, your earlier businesses weren't very entrepreneural in the strictest of sense until the limo biz...they were just normal tradesman avenues. So technically you didn't need 10 years for entrepreneurship to put food on the table, let alone make millions!
    Me too.
    That's why I like entrepreneurship...its very neutral. I never want to be a lawyer, engineer or doctor not because I detest these occupations, but because I don't want to be known just for my career choices. When you spend decades mastering a craft or profession, you become immortalized with that badge stuck onto you for life. I just want to be known for my personality and the value that comes with it.

    IMO, it's something like an egocentric mindset as suggested by Piaget...a pre-operational stage of development.
    The inability to see things from other's POV really encumbers us to achieve more things.
    It was really haunting to discover that the pre-operational stage is supposedly functional during your toddler or early childhood days before you supposedly progress onwards....so that means lots of us still have the mentality of kids lol...:rofl::rofl::shit:
     
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