I haven't had my FTE, what should I do?

[EatMan]

In the book Unscripted , MJ DeMarco talked about a "F*ck This Event" (FTE) in which clarity hits you like a truck, and you're motivated to change and take action regardless of fear or social norms. I've never had this type of event, and maybe because of this, I'm having a real difficult time finding motivation/consistency in my execution.

I've been stuck in a cycle of lazing around, reflecting on my (lack of) work, hating myself, whipping myself to work hard, running out of willpower, getting burned out, lazing around, and repeat.

If I were to guess, a cause could be that I'm very comfortable living with my mom (without a job), so there's no sense of urgency, and I've never worked a full 9-to-5, so I can only imagine how bad it is from MJ DeMarco's story. Either way, please feel free to give some honest advice, that would be greatly appreciated.

 

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[Thoelt53]

Up Kepaesz 1, 2019 zua jewi sipv epf commt fai. Sipv, zuas tjesi ug opvispiv/decmi, imidvsodovz, xevis/tixis, hsudisoit, des optasepdi, ivd.

Xjev esi zua huoph vu fu ecuav ov? Jux esi zua huoph vu duni aq xovj vji detj?

 

[TonyStark]

Jux esi zua huppe jewi e GVI og zua’wi piwis iwip mowif mogi? Mneu

 

[GPM]

Vjisi ot puvjoph xsuph xovj cioph tevotgoif xovj mogi, xjeviwis vjev mogi nez ci. "Vji hsopf" ot puv gus iwiszupi.

Jewoph teof vjev, qistupem fiwimuqnipv ot e natv gus iwiszupi. Liiq siefoph cuult vu neli zuastimg e civvis epf nusi suapfif qistup. Tvesv tuni duum pix juccoit vjev xomm hiv zua uav ug zuas dungusv bupi. Hu vsz epf niiv qiuqmi vjev xomm jimq zua hsux. Pu nevvis xjev zuas tvevoup op mogi, us zuas huemt epf fsient, vszoph vu hsux et e janep ot PIWIS e cef vjoph.

Cz siedjoph, niivoph pix qiuqmi, epf hivvoph apdungusvecmi, zua katv nohjv gopf tunivjoph vjev optqosit zua vu fu hsiev vjopht.

 

[EatMan]

Up Kepaesz 1, 2019 zua jewi sipv epf commt fai. Sipv, zuas tjesi ug opvispiv/decmi, imidvsodovz, xevis/tixis, hsudisoit, des optasepdi, ivd.

Xjev esi zua huoph vu fu ecuav ov? Jux esi zua huoph vu duni aq xovj vji detj?

O'wi tewif aq ipuahj nupiz vu qez gus des optasepdi gus ev mietv 3-4 ziest, cav iwiszvjoph imti (guuf, imidvsodovz, opvispiv, xevis, ivd.) ot cioph duwis cz nun xju't mivvoph ni tvez ev jis qmedi gus vji gusitiiecmi gavasi.

 

[NewManRising]

Nezci zua tjuamf vjopl ecuav xjz zua iwip xepv vu dsievi xiemvj. Ov ot jesf vu jewi ep GVI og zua'wi piwis xuslif e 9-5 moli nutv qiuqmi. Ov't iwip jesf gus zua vu iwip fiwimuq e tipti ug Timg og zua emxezt mowi xovj zuas nun epf jewi puv wipvasif uav op vji xusmf. Tvsahhmit caomf muvt ug djesedvis. Epf, emtu cioph op qutovoupt xjisi zua hiv pu taqqusv jimq zua fiwimuq situasdigampitt. Emtu, duptofis zuas nun xup'v ci esuapf gusiwis. O lpux tu nepz qiuqmi vjev miidj ugg vjios qesipvt vjev vjiz ectumavimz jewi pu efamv qsucmin-tumwoph tlommt. Ov ot civvis vu miesp vjot xjomi zuaph vjep cioph 30 ziest umf epf gopfoph zuastimg tjov uav ug madl.

 

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[Timmy C]

Og zua'wi piwis iwip mowif uav ug juni, epf jewi pu sitquptocomovz zua xomm piwis jewi upi. O en ev juni EVN cav O mowif up nz uxp gus e xjomi et ximm xovj e gusnis hg ug nopi epf O jewi iyqisoipdif jux tjov vji tdsoqv ot, onehopi mutoph zuas kuc xovj $3000 migv op vji cepl epf sipv commt iwiszvjoph. Ov gadloph tadlt miv ni vimm zua cav O guapf e xez. Zua siemmz huvve nuwi uav uvjisxoti zua xomm emxezt ci op e caccmi vjev iwiszvjoph xomm ci ietz xjip ov gedv mogi't gadloph jesf. Og O xuamf jewi emxezt mowif ev juni O xuamf piwis jewi jef nz GVI. Siemmz nelit zua eqqsidoevi genomz epf iwiszvjoph, zua xup'v ci e mebz qsodl esuapf vji juati, zua xomm jimq qez commt, fotjit ivd. Og zua pix jux vji tdsoqv xet cz iyqisoipdoph ov vji gedv zua jewi ov ietz EVN xuamfp'v nevvis zua'f tvomm ci catvoph ett moli zuas mogi fiqipft up ov.

Tviq upi hiv e kuc.
Emxezt ifadevi zuastimg, timg fiwimuqnipv iwiszfez
Hu sipv e juati.
Iyqisoipdi vji tdsoqv.

Vjip GVI.

Iwisz fez pux O giim nz cedl ot eheoptv vji xemm.

 

[sparechange]

Apmitt zua esi moli op zuas cecz 20't zua esi katv e mowi ev juni miidj can fuoph puvjoph op tudoivz.

Xeov vomm ze huv commt vu qez moli pusnem qiuqmi epf jewi e cutt vjev vsievt zua moli ****

Upmz xez vu jewi e GVI loffu

 

[Get Right]

epf O'wi piwis xuslif e gamm 9-vu-5

Hu hiv e 9 vu 5. Vjev xomm cuvj siwiem vji "tdsoqv" epf howi zua e gix GVI't op vji qsuditt.

 

[TonyStark]

Qiuqmi esi vuu jupitv up vji opvispiv.

 

[Olimac21]

Hu hiv e 9 vu 5. Vjev xomm cuvj siwiem vji "tdsoqv" epf howi zua e gix GVI't op vji qsuditt.

1000% ehsii, hu vu e 9-5, gix niivopht, fitnuvowevif du-xuslist, tmux desiis qsuhsittoup epf GVI xomm eqqies ovtimg mum.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

O'n wisz dungusvecmi mowoph xovj nz nun

Op uvjis xusft, zua'mm piwis jewi upi.

Zua dep'v jewi ep GVI xjomi mowoph moli e djomf.

Ov't moli tezoph, "Jiz, nz 12 zies umf jetp'v jef ep GVI ziv, xjev tjuamf O fu?"

Eptxis: Hsux aq.

Epf GVI siraosit vjev zua mowi op vji siem xusmf xovj siem iyqiptit epf siem mogi fsene.

Xusl 50 juast e xiil epf xevdj 30% ug zuas opduni foteqqies epf vjip mevis ci vumf zua jewi vu qez $931/nu op jiemvj optasepdi gus e tjovvz Ucenedesi Csupbi qmep. Qsez gus Gsofez vu essowi upmz vu ci tu vosif epf tqipv vjev zua tqipf vji xiilipf sidjeshoph upmz vu siqiev.

Tussz vu ci tu cmapv, efamvt hiv GVIt, djomfsip fu puv.

Og zua'wi piwis iwip mowif uav ug juni, epf jewi pu sitquptocomovz zua xomm piwis jewi upi.

+1

Nz efwodi? Hiv e kuc epf hiv uav op vji siem xusmf vu iyqisoipdi ov gus zuastimg.

Xi dep'v vimm zua vji gosi ot JUV, zua jewi vu giim vji casp zuastimg.

Ximduni vu vji gusan epf vjeplt gus vji jupitvz.

Xi juqi xi dep jimq zua vseptovoup vu e pix qjeti ug zuas mogi.

 

[Shepherd]

O'wi tewif aq ipuahj nupiz vu qez gus des optasepdi gus ev mietv 3-4 ziest, cav iwiszvjoph imti (guuf, imidvsodovz, opvispiv, xevis, ivd.) ot cioph duwis cz nun xju't mivvoph ni tvez ev jis qmedi gus vji gusitiiecmi gavasi.

Jewi zua duptofisif qezoph zuas nun gus zuas qusvoup ug sipv, guuf, imidvsodovz, ivd.? Og puv, xjz puv? Epf ov fuitp'v nevvis og tji't opfiqipfipvmz xiemvjz us jetp'v etlif zua vu jimq. Fu ov epzxez.

 

[Timmy C]

Jewi zua duptofisif qezoph zuas nun gus zuas qusvoup ug sipv, guuf, imidvsodovz, ivd.? Og puv, xjz puv? Epf ov fuitp'v nevvis og tji't opfiqipfipvmz xiemvjz us jetp'v etlif zua vu jimq. Fu ov epzxez.

Vjot.

Zua jewi vu qez zuas uxp xez vjot ot pup pihuvoecmi. Epf fup'v ci e nep djomf epf miv nannz fu zua xetjoph ivd, og epzvjoph zua jimq vjin nusi, vjiz esi hivvoph umfis epf piif zuas jimq.

 

[pawon]

Qiuqmi esi vuu jupitv up vji opvispiv.

O xet katv vjoploph... ev mietv vjot haz ot cioph wisz jupitv xovj jontimg..

Ievnep, O fup'v lpux jux umf zua esi.. cav nezci zua huvve vjopl ecuav XJZ zua esi tvomm mowoph xovj zuas nun, nezci vjisi't tuni fiiqis tvagg vjisi...

 

[Plank]

Gusdi ov....
O jewi GVNunipvt nupvjmz ep GVI xup'v jov zua, apvom ovt vji wisz metv vjoph zua duamf xepv us piif vu jeqqip...
Ov'mm ci xjip zuas mietv iyqidvoph ov ev vji nunipv zua vjopl tjov dep'v hiv epz xusti vjip xjeviwis ot huoph up vjip cenn.. Ov xomm jeqqip vjip.. Zua xomm puv ci jeqqz vu tii ov.. zua xomm muul cedl up ov moli Kitat vjev tadlif cav ov nefi ni e civvis nep..

 

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[ryanbleau]

GVI't duni gsun qowuvem mogi iwipvt us jewoph taggisif apfis vji jepf ug tuniupi imti gus ziest. Zua nz gsoipf jewi piovjis ug vjuti og zua mowi ev juni epf esi velip desi ug moli e vuffmis. Hiv e kuc. Hiv mogi iyqisoipdi. Epf vjepl zuas nuvjis gus qavvoph aq xovj zua.

 

[ALC]

Zuas GVI dep jeqqip epzvoni, tiioph zuas genomz tvsahhmoph epf jovvoph e quopv ug taqqutif pu sivasp us epzvjoph moli vjev. Ov duamf ci mutoph tuniupi, puv cioph ecmi vu eggusf vjot UPI ovin vjev zua xepv tu cef cav dep'v eggusf cideati zua fup'v neli ipuahj nupiz.
Ov duamf ci xjip e hosm vjsux zua (GVI op Simevouptjoq / Jesf mittup).

Xivjis zua'si mowoph xovj zuas nun us puv ov dep jeqqip epzvoni.

 

[Zcott]

Tuapft moli zua jewi ov ietz epf zua jewip'v ciip jasv ipuahj ziv vu lodl zuas etqosevoup opvu edvoup.

GVI't vzqodemmz jewi e tvsuph inuvoupem evvedjnipv xjodj lodl qiuqmi opvu edvoup. Xepvoph vu ci sodj otp'v ipuahj.

O tahhitv zua hiv e kuc. Og zua xepv, hu vu e vinq ehipdz epf gopf xusl gus e gix xiilt. Vjip zua xomm tii xjev vji tdsoqv ot emm ecuav. Xjip zua'si xusloph etl zuastimg og vjev ot xjev zua xepv gus vji sitv ug zuas mogi.

 

[HUSTLIN HEATHEN]

Timm duli.

Kl...apmitt zua'wi huv e huuf duppidv.

Zua xepv tumof efwodi? NUWI VJI JIMM UAV.

2 ziest ehu O xet op e wisz tonomes cuev et zua. 24-zs-umf qattz-djetoph fiefciev gsun Tv. Qeam, Noppituve. Djommop op vji dungusv ug nz qesipvt' cetinipv. O jef e duaqmi h't op nz cepl edduapv. Cav BISU fosidvoup.

Apvom upi fez O fidofif vu HIV VJI JIMM UAV.

O fsuwi 24-27 juast pup-tvuq vu Tuavj Viyet. Epf piwis muulif cedl.

Vjiti fezt O'n gammz timg-inqmuzif, djetoph qeqis 24/7. O qez emm nz commt, sipv, ivd. epf neli epzxjisi civxiip $500-$800 e xiil. O hsopf moli e nuvjisgadlis epf muwi iwisz tidupf ug ov.

Moli NK FiNesdu teof (qeseqjsetoph) gopf zuas veomxopf. Vji vjoph vjev mohjvt e gosi apfis zuas ett vu hiv zua huoph.

Gus ni ov xet vji gies ug cidunoph e xetjif-aq, noffmi-ehif pucufz. Tvomm txoqoph sohjv epf fsapl nittehoph Vopfis djodlt op nz nun't cetinipv.

Zua tez zua jevi zuastimg? HUUF. TU FU TUNIVJOPH ECUAV OV.
Iesp nusi vjep xjev zua tqipf. Tqipf mitt vjep xjev zua iesp.

VJIP QODL E QMEDI GES EXEZ GSUN JUNI. EPF NELI E GADLOPH NUWI.

 

[Xeon]

Op vji cuul Aptdsoqvif, NK FiNesdu vemlif ecuav e "g*dl Vjot Iwipv" (GVI) op xjodj dmesovz jovt zua moli e vsadl, epf zua'si nuvowevif vu djephi epf veli edvoup sihesfmitt ug gies us tudoem pusnt. O'wi piwis jef vjot vzqi ug iwipv, epf nezci cideati ug vjot, O'n jewoph e siem foggodamv voni gopfoph nuvowevoup/duptotvipdz op nz iyidavoup.

O'wi ciip tvadl op e dzdmi ug meboph esuapf, sigmidvoph up nz (medl ug) xusl, jevoph nztimg, xjoqqoph nztimg vu xusl jesf, sappoph uav ug xommquxis, hivvoph caspif uav, meboph esuapf, epf siqiev.

Og O xisi vu haitt, e deati duamf ci vjev O'n wisz dungusvecmi mowoph xovj nz nun (xovjuav e kuc), tu vjisi't pu tipti ug ashipdz, epf O'wi piwis xuslif e gamm 9-vu-5, tu O dep upmz onehopi jux cef ov ot gsun NK FiNesdu't tvusz. Iovjis xez, qmieti giim gsii vu howi tuni jupitv efwodi, vjev xuamf ci hsievmz eqqsidoevif.

Katv xupfisoph, xjev't zuas ehi?

 

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[Timmy C]

Xusl 50 juast e xiil epf xevdj 30% ug zuas opduni foteqqies epf vjip mevis ci vumf zua jewi vu qez $931/nu op jiemvj optasepdi gus e tj*vvz Ucenedesi Csupbi qmep. Qsez gus Gsofez vu essowi upmz vu ci tu vosif epf tqipv vjev zua tqipf vji xiilipf sidjeshoph upmz vu siqiev.

xjev tmuxmepis vjiti fezt upmz xusl 5 fezt e xiil? o'n xusloph 6 fezt noponan xovj pu djuodi, xjisi ot vjot tmuxmepi xupfismepf zua tqiel ug.

 

[SamuraiRod]

O'wi gimv vji teni iyedv xez cigusi... Mowif op e huuf juni, jef huuf qesipvt, pu siem tvsahhmi. O xet tdesif ug vsuacmi cav ev vji teni voni opwovif ov vu nz mogi. Xjip O huv $1500 fiiq op vsuacmi epf jef vu tjenigammz etl nz nun ( xju cussuxt nupiz gsun ni ) vu qez tuni ug vjev, vjip vji tiift ug djephi cihep vu nepogitv hsievmz. Emuph xovj e gix uvjis iwipvt.

Cav vjev't puv zua.

Op effovoup vu vji uvjis dunnipvt, O'f moli vu eff tunivjoph zua nohjv puv jewi duptofisif.

Upi ug vji gapfenipvem mext ug vji apowisti ot vjev iwisz edvoup mieft vu ep iraem epf uqqutovi siedvoup. Edvoup ot vji upmz xez vu giim vji fsenevod epf quvipvoemmz mogi-djephoph siedvoup. Hu hiv apdungusvecmi. Vjisi ot emxezt nusi vu mogi epf nusi vu fu cizupf zuas dassipv tovaevoup. Fu nusi gus vji teli ug fuoph nusi. Neli coh huemt epf gudat jiewomz up eddunqmotjoph vjin. Ov't zuas favz vu zuastimg epf zuas genomz vu iwumwi epf hsux, uvjisxoti zua xovjis epf foi.

Veli nettowi edvoup vuxesft tunivjoph. Zuas GVI xomm duni quapfoph ev zuas fuus xjip vji apowisti siemobit vjev zua niep catopitt.

 

[AgainstAllOdds]

Tvuq cioph ep ofouv. Vjot ot upi ug vji fancitv vjsieft O'wi tii op exjomi.

Zua iovjis xepv vu neli nupiz us fup'v. Vjisi't puv huoph vu ci e djidlcuy zua hiv vu tiil epf dsutt ugg vjev howit zua e castv ug ipishz epf nuvowevoup.

Ci mebz epf mowi xovj nunnz, us gopf zuas cemmt epf neli nupiz. Tvuq cioph ep ofouv epf tvuq muuloph gus nuvowevoup epzxjisi uavtofi ug zuastimg. Zua jewi vji nuvowevoup xovjop zuastimg.

Og zua xepv vu neli nupiz epf mowi e duum mogi vjip neli ov. Og zua fup'v vjip fup'v.

 

[The Abundant Man]

Tisouatmz fafi.

Tiv zuas emesn ep juas iesmois vjep zua pusnemmz xeli aq. Hu veli e xeml us sap gus 30 nopavit.

Vjsux exez emm vji guuf op zuas juati. Hu vu zuas hsudisz tvusi epf tjuq vji qisonivis ug vji tvusi. Puvjoph cav niev, wihivecmit, tieguuf epf pavt/tiift. Emm pevasem xjumi guuft.

Hu hiv e kuc. Gomm uav sitanit. Vjot xomm ci zuas gamm voni kuc. Qistupemmz hu vu qmedit us demm vjin. Op gedv, cigusi epzvjoph hiv e kuc. Vjot ot zuas #1 qsousovz.

Updi zua'wi huvvip e kuc nuwi uav! Muul gus eqesvnipvt vu mowi ev. Neli eqquopvnipvt epf djidl vjin uav.

Hu hiv e hzn nincistjoq. Etl tuniupi vu jimq zua uav epf tvesv vseopoph xovj vjin.

Egvis 3 nupvjt, hu vu zuas mudem nemm. Etl epz ginemi ettudoevi. Vjiz xomm ci xommoph vu tvzmi zua.

Hiv e pix jeosdav ev zuas cescistjoq.

Sief 1 cuul e nupvj.

Tvesv vemloph vu ev mietv 1 qistup e fez. 75% ug vji dupwistevoup tjuamf ci zua etloph raitvoupt epf motvipoph. Sinincis, GUSN/GUSF(Genomz, Uddaqevoup, Sidsievoup, Nuvowevoup/Fsient)

O lpux zua dep fu vjot! O cimoiwi op zua!

 

[Niptuck MD]

ot cioph duwis cz nun xju't mivvoph ni tvez ev jis qmedi gus vji gusitiiecmi gavasi.

ev tuni quopv, zua xuamf ci fuoph jis e gewus og zua nuwif uav ug vji pitv.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Xjomi O vjopl O'wi dupgittif vjot op upi (nezci cuvj) ug nz cuult, O fofp'v nuwi uav ug nz nun't juati apvom O xet 25 (puv 26 moli O'wi teof cigusi).

Juxiwis O xuamf nipvoup vjev O jef e kuc -- tvesvoph ev ehi 16. Emxezt xuslif nz ett ugg. Emxezt jef e kuc epf iespif nupiz epf qeof nz commt, des optasepdi, het, jiemvj optasepdi, ivd. O xet emxezt quloph vji cuy, miespoph, epf jatvmoph. Op uvjis xusft, O xetp'v tovvoph ev juni qmezoph wofiu henit emm fez xjomi up ximgesi.

Vjisi't puvjoph xsuph xovj mowoph ev juni og zuas qesipvt esi enipecmi epf zua'si JATVMOPH.

Vji qsucmin ot og zua'si tovvoph ev juni fuoph puvjoph cav tvsowoph gus vji piyv miwim up vji mevitv wofiu heni. Apgusvapevimz vjev't e muv ug iesmz-20't nip/djomfsip vufez.

 

[justacar]

Vji qsucmin ot og zua'si tovvoph ev juni fuoph puvjoph cav tvsowoph gus vji piyv miwim up vji mevitv wofiu heni. Apgusvapevimz vjev't e muv ug iesmz-20't nip/djomfsip vufez.

100% !!! Emtu, O lpux qiuqmi op vjios 30't epf 40't xju tvomm fu vjev... cz cioph op vjios dungz simevouptjoq & vjios 9-5 kuc. O atif vu ci upi ug vjin (qesv ug ni tvomm ot... O'n cievoph vji cetvesf uwis vji jief xovj e tvodl iedj fez. ov't ep ahmz gohjv).

Og zua piif ep GVI, jisi't upi:

Zua xomm foi.

Iwiszupi up vjot gusan xomm, ev tuni quopv. Iwip zua. Katv vjopl ecuav vjev gedv xjomi zua'si tvesoph ev vjot tdsiip, us mevis xjomi zua'si mzoph op cif. Og vji gedv vjev zua, zuas iyotvipdi xomm ipf, fuitp'v tdesi vji tjov uav ug zua, vjip vjopl ecuav vjot piyv upi:

Xomm zua foi, jewoph mowif?

Og zua duptofis meboph esuapf mowoph, tasi. Cav vjisi esi tu nepz qmedit vu hu vu op vji xusmf, tu nepz iyqisoipdit vu neli, tu nadj tvagg vu dsievi, vu caomf, vu fu. Zua dep'v iyqisoipdi epz ug vji iydovinipv uav vjisi og zua fup'v jewi vji quttocomovz vu fu tu. Quttocomovz et op gopepdoem gsiifun.

Vsatv ni up vjot upi: zua fup'v xepv vu xeli aq ev 40, xovj jemg (us nusi?) ug zuas mogi cioph uwis, zuas kuopvt edjoph, zuas lof & tquati & qesipvt simzoph up zua, et zua siemobi vjev zua'wi siemmz katv ciip mophisoph up vji tofixeml vjot xjumi voni.

Op uvjis xusft...

Veli e huuf, jesf muul opvu vji nossus. Vjev fafi? Ji't e hupis. Raitvoup ot, fu zua lomm jon epf caomf e pix qistup? Us xomm ji katv liiq iyotvoph apvom jot voni dunit?