Having massive struggles finding the way to becoming rich

[Joe Cassandra]

A step by step process would be awesome, thanks.

You're not ready to be an entrepreneur if you need someone to spoon-feed it to you.

It sounds like you need to work on your mindset first. And it's obvious you haven't read MJ's book. Because he clearly states you chase "needs" first and the money follows. It's obvious you've also not read any of the GOLD/NOTABLE threads as they're plenty of threads with processes in them.

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Chasing money will only lead to failure. Take it from someone who jumped from 'shiny thing' to 'shiny thing' for 4 years.

And here's another secret...money doesn't bring contentment.

- When I was in college, all I wanted to make was $3,000 per month...got my first job...wanted to make more
- Before I quit my job last year, I was making close to $5,000 per month... wanted to make more
- This month, I'll clear around $31,000 in August... still want to make more

If you think money is going to make you happy...[insert cliche because it's true].

Hard truth --- you sound like me 6 years ago. On one hand, it's great that you're young.

On the unfortunate, stone-cold truth side...by the way it sounds now...you're 2-5 years out from starting a business that will pay the monthly bills full-time.

1. Get a job right now
2. Read, read, read
3. Focus on one project and hold yourself accountable to give it 12 months before you quit

Do those things, and you'll get there before you're 30.

 

[Imgal]

You sound exactly like me at 18.

Actually, if I'm honest, you sound exactly like me at 21, 22, 23... you get the story.

I was fixated on finding the thing that would make me all the money and a success. I had a print business, a design agency, I ran a personalised gift service, I had a clothing line... and don't get me wrong I did okay at them.. but in terms of becoming anywhere near a millionaire.

Complete and utter failure.

The reason why? Because I went into all of those with one thing in mind - wanting to get rich. Wanting to be successful. Wanting to get all the glory. I wanted to play at being an entrepreneur (I know this because every time a client/customer asked me to do something I was really pissed off by it..) If it felt too much like hard work then I'd decide I'd convince myself that I just wasn't passionate about the industry and I'd give up on it and move onto the next shiny thing.

And the cycle continued. Again and again.

Until my playing at being the future millionaire swallowed up all my savings and left me with sleeping on my parent's floor and wallowing in self pity for months on end telling myself "I'm lazy... I'm just not good enough for this. I'm... I'm..."

I.

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Truth is that was all a load of bullshit. What I was had nothing to do with how successful I would be. What I was passionate about didn't mean anything and all lead to a road with one end destination - FAILURE.

Success comes from stopping looking internally. It's focusing externally. It's looking at what people need. It's looking at what solution you can provide.

These days my work is essentially making people and the media care about what my clients are doing online. I spend 80% of my time deep in spreadsheets and analytic data. The 18 year old me would be rolling their eyes and telling me they'd never do that because it's SOOOOO dull. Well, 18 year old me... let me tell you something - Yes, some days it's is a dull as dishwater and yes there are days I want to pack it all in, but here's the difference.

This actually gets me clients. This pays my bills and this leads to VERY happy clients and ones that I love working with because I make a positive difference to people.

My advice to you - you've obviously got the entrepreneurial bug or you wouldn't be here. Stop looking for the next quick fix or trending way to make money and go back to basics. Talk to friends and family. Talk to people at work. Find out their problems and then work on building the solution... and forget the need to be passionate about it - that will keep you tripping up all day long.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Why bother asking the question?

You guys are too patient. OP is not looking for answers to questions, he's looking for a million dollar check. And if you give him one, he wants you to go to the bank and cash it.

Why property investing? It's very easy to understand and will help me reach my goals of financial freedom which is at least 80k per annum after tax

Why day trading? I am searching to do something I really love and this seems close, ovbiously money is a factor but it seems genuinely fun so far. F

Why freelancing? Similar reason to help me get more of an income

Why entrepreneurship? I want to become my own boss, make money, and love the idea of owning my own business it feels like a real accomplishment in life that I built a successful business.

Why value investing? I have no idea anymore I can't even remember how it popped into my head but it was for financial freedom aswell but realized lately it doesn't make much sense nor is it realistic.

Wow, you're lost.

Like anyone gives a shit about what your motives are. You're so selfish on what you want, your needs, your loves, you'll never see what others want.

And that's why you continually fail.

 

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[MidwestLandlord]

I am learn property investing,

Why?

day trading,

Why?

freelancing,

Why?

entrepreneurship,

Why?

value investing in shares.

Why?

Seriously, why are you studying these things?

Is it because you heard somewhere that owning real estate, or day trading, or freelancing, or "be your own boss", or the Graham/Buffett method was a good way to make money?

Shouldn't your "why" extend beyond "make money"?

Think about the last time you bought something. Why did you buy it? Was it simply to altruistically give the business owner your money? I doubt it.

Or was it because whatever you purchased filled a need or desire for you? I bet it was.

The transaction then is "your money in exchange for your need being filled"

If you want to be a producer (the point of fastlane IMO), then you need to get on the other side of that transaction.

So reverse it: the other side of that transaction would be "filling people's needs in exchange for their money"

Being on the other side of that transaction therefore ISN'T "how do I make money?"

Instead, being on the other side of that transaction IS "how do I fill a need in exchange for people's money?"

TL;DR

Read both the books and give yourself time to understand the mindset.

Welcome to the forum!

 

[biophase]

The best advice I can give you is to......read the book.....buy it and really absorb the concepts.

UNSCRIPTED

I don't know if its going to help me choose what I want to do to get to my goals.

That's right, you don't know because you haven't read it.

But more importantly it shows your mindset.

Your question: I'd like a step by step guide

Answer: Read this book

Your reply: I don't know if it's going to help

Why bother asking the question?

 

[jon.a]

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[MJ DeMarco]

I thought most entrepreneurs hate the process? Like its alot of fustration, working 14 hours a day, feeling like you want to quit every day? Is that not an accurate picture?

This pops up infrequently, here and there, but it is not the prevailing feeling. The prevailing feeling is being FREE and in control over your choices. (Which many times does result in working 14 hour days, but others, none.)

There's no reason for you to post again for at least a week.

I agree.

People have given you a direction to take. But you don't want to take it -- you want to ask more questions in search of the juicy shortcut. (Because by God, reading two books and some GOLD/NOTABLE threads might take me 30 hours! That's too much of my time! Here's another question! Give me the shortcut!!)

First rule of mentorship -- do what your mentor says. If you refuse, you're fired. Imagine if Luke rebuked Obi Wan (light saber? That's a worthless ancient weapon!) there'd be NO story, NO transformation, and NO heroes journey... nope, Luke would remain a miserable farmer.

So once again, are you going to DO what was asked? Or are you gonna continue to fight it?

 

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[Aaron T]

Ok, so I'll go back to basics. I actually did have an idea which would involve an app, I tried to work on it my self but was a failure I think I would have to pay a developer. But what would I do, I don't know what skills I have to help the idea.

So much has already been said in this thread, but I feel compelled to answer this one. Here is why. I am a Developer, Entrepreneur and always have been including when I was 18 years old. I actually made my first million by the time I was 18. I made a few more when I was 18. I lost it all by the time I was 21 and started over in debt by over 180,000 and without home, car. That was in 1990 money. Why? Because I didn't respect the value vouchers or the value creation. I did however pursue my passion which was and still is development.

I ended up making a lot more later also using development only until I could afford to build on and hire developers.

Anyway why am I saying this? Because I can relate. At 18 I thought I knew a lot more than I did. I was lucky but I was definitely a very hard worker. One thing I did learn at 18 were that ideas were useless. Everyone has great ideas. Hardly anyone could execute on them. Those that could execute on their ideas tended to do better than not, but most of the ideas were still shit and didn't make them money. It was the hard work put in, the lessons learned, the persistence to find the thing that does work.

So my moment of helping you is this. Instead of looking to pay a Developer, actually learn to build that App yourself. At least get it a lot of the way into some Minimum Viable Product (look it up) or Prototype so that you could attract additional help. No one will fund your idea for reasons I mentioned above. There are a lot of good ideas. No real developer will do this work for you again, for the same reasons. BUT if you put the effort in, and if the idea is a good one, you CAN attract the money and help. You MUST prove yourself first.

• Prove you are willing to put the work in necessary to see your App idea get somewhere
• Prove you are more sold on the idea than anyone else in the whole world is
• Prove to yourself you can learn and do some (trust me this is valuable throughout your life)
• Prove you can create value with the idea at all

If you are asking for a handout, you likely won't get one. If you are trying to pursue your passion, then as it has been said, that is mostly not going to work out for yourself. In particular if your passion is selfish based, which you have mentioned earlier in the thread. If you are thinking about me, me, me then you won't get much in the way of money. Give people something they want, even if it is not something you are passionate about yourself, and you will get no end to the value vouchers coming your way.

At your age when I was making money, good money, I thought of all the selfish things I would do with it, and trust me, I did all my little dumb heart desired. But I also knew, fortunately, at that age no one was going to give me a penny if I didn't give them something. Sometimes that was software they needed. For that time period in my life, I was selling financial instruments that promised more than they delivered so essentially was satisfying and taking advantage of other peoples greed. But in the end I thought of the money as just that, not as value. I lost it all. I at least worked my tail off for it. I here a lot of my own internal dialog at your age in what you say.

So please, pick an idea like this app. Then do the work it requires to get it somewhere. Then come back here and show the effort put into it. Read the books for real. Re-evaluate where you are in life at such a tender young age and the wide open opportunities you have before you. Open your mind. Make learning your passion. Make action your passion. Make value creation your passion.

If you do want money from me however, please figure out how to get rid of the fog over Pismo Beach so my view is forever good. I would pay handsomely for that. There is a money making idea for you. Now hop to it!

 

[biophase]

This thread has been very valuable for me.

I've been trying to think of new service that could help early-stage entrepreneurs such as yourself, and the new product is called: I will build your business for you.

I will make that offer to the OP also. I will build an ecommerce business for you. I will import the product including purchasing inventory, set up your ecommerce store and list it on Amazon and manage it for 6 months. After 6 months I will hand it over to you for you to run.

Cost: $70,000

You don't need to read any books this way.

 

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[GuestUser450]

My dad was an interesting guy. In his life, among his many occupations were: ditch-digger, farmer, liquor store clerk, business owner and shit-giver (at least that's what I thought his job was growing up because he always had plenty for me).

And yet, magically, he was the exact same person in every role. He just did a different job. Ditch digger? It was what he knew how to do at the time. Hard work, but he did it for the money. Farmer? Same. Business owner? Same. Working a shit shift for shit money in a shit part of town for a shit liquor store? Yeah, that's a big ole' SAME. Being retired and trying to protect the money he made? Same.

None of it defined him because we define ourselves in what we do for others.

I've owned and been a part of many businesses. From practice management to mobile shredding to analytics to lead gen, and a bunch more, It. Doesn't. Matter.

You are not what you do. Go get a job. Any job. Teach something. Move something. Respect it. Respect the people who do it with integrity. Learn what the company does, how it markets, how it sells, how it delivers and how they are able to hire and get a positive ROI from you.

Every sentence in your post could be it's own thread. So much self-defeat, entitlement, rationalized laziness and want.

We do what needs to get done, and THEN we can do what we want to do. Forget passions for now, they'll still be there when you have the means to pay them attention.

TLDR: get a job.

 

[sparechange]

read both of the books... to make money you only need to capture a very small percentage of a market.. what do you have knowledge about? random idea because you are from australia the land of flying spiders and sharks that appear in public pools, how about creating some type of spider cage or box bait thing? id imagine bugs are a problem in ozzy land.

to make money you need a product that sells on scale (example $100 x 10.000 buyers = $1m) or a service you can apply the same math..

ive made money flipping items, and selling services door to door.. you can to.

although if you are to lazy to read a self improvement book it showcases your lack of drive. trust me alot of people want to live a ''simple'' life but 99% are bribed with the drug called a steady paycheque and risk avoidance. ironically the real risk is relying on a paycheque..

repeated a million times on this forum sorry ill have to do it again.... solve a need/problem or desire in someones life then multiply that by thousands of people and you are going to live a good life.

failure is an amazing thing in life as long as you constantly analyze everything. go out there and try to make $1 within the next month. goodluck

 

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[biophase]

Why property investing? It's very easy to understand and will help me reach my goals of financial freedom which is at least 80k per annum after tax

Why day trading? I am searching to do something I really love and this seems close, ovbiously money is a factor but it seems genuinely fun so far. F

Why freelancing? Similar reason to help me get more of an income

Why entrepreneurship? I want to become my own boss, make money, and love the idea of owning my own business it feels like a real accomplishment in life that I built a successful business.

Why value investing? I have no idea anymore I can't even remember how it popped into my head but it was for financial freedom as well but realized lately it doesn't make much sense nor is it realistic.

All selfish reasons.

Why day trading? It seems genuinely fun
Why entrepreneurship? Love the idea of owning my own business.

Nothing about providing value or helping others...

 

[AndrewNC]

Ok, I don't like wasting anyone's time but to me my time is more important. Might take a bit of doing to change this part of my mindset.

This thread has been very valuable for me.

I've been trying to think of new service that could help early-stage entrepreneurs such as yourself, and the new product is called: I will build your business for you.

That's right. This way, you won't have to read any books, you won't have to go searching through GOLD threads, you won't have to go try to find business ideas, you won't have to deal with the fear of rejection and failure....you won't have to do sales, marketing, you won't have to take any risk...

All you'll have to do is sit back, and relax while myself, and the the member of this forum will do all of the work for you.

Think about this for a moment.

In just a few quick days, we could create a product for you, the web designers on here could setup the website, the copywriters can write the sales copy, and the marketers will start sending traffic....In just the matter of 5 quick days, you will have to do nothing, and your business will already be making money.

All for the one low price of $19.95 + Shipping and Handling.

 

[Aaron T]

Million by 18? Nice! But there's probably no chance I am going back to coding, I have had enough of it and definently isn't for me. I also read some thread that said spending 1000 hours to learn to code to spend 200 hours to make an app is stupid. I agree, I think time can be spent better in other areas. You didn't read my post above, I read the book....and some other stuff...

OK, well I did read your post. All of them in this thread. But there is reading the books, and reading, understanding, and learning from the books.

Also the point about App is certainly appropriate for many apps. However consider this. The opportunity is the learning. Spending the 1200 hours to learn and create something. That is incredibly valuable in ways that are hard to explain to you not having done it. You will end up with a higher value skill that will translate into higher value vouchers for the same time spent. So even if you didn't make a penny off your app, you will be able to sell your skill to bidder online easily for 75-150 per hour programming their apps.

Also Apps can absolutely make money. My last company started with a demo app I wrote, and SDK we wrote that the demo app called to raise 2.5 million dollars. 3 years after that our company sold north of $100 million dollars as reported by Fortune to Alibaba. It was still an "app" SDK. 6 of my developers where new, young (19yo +) and invested in the company time, stock wise. All did pretty good from this as you can imagine. It was risky. It wasn't a guarantee. But the learning is what got them there. The drive for something better is why they stayed and dealt with the struggles. Oh and they were paid very well for all of it during and after.

Where I am spending my time now is essentially an app/platform company publicly traded, worth north of a billion dollars.

So yes, apps are a thing if correctly done. If you don't value your idea enough to spend the 1200 hours you mention, then it wasn't a good idea. If you believe in yourself and your ideas, then no amount of effort is intimidating enough to prevent you from doing it. This is the 'Why" mentioned in Unscripted that drives people. At your stage you probably need a little more learning to help. Again, I do hope you find your Why and when you do you will see it through. If your Why is just wanting to be rich, then it probably isn't compelling enough of a Why yet.

I wish you all the best in your journey and I will be reading about your progress. I do hope you can make it. I think with enough soul searching, maturing, continued growth and learning, you will get there. Don't give up!

 

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[loop101]

You clearly didn't read my posts above.

Here is an idea. Every time someone answers one of your questions, and they can show you where it was already answered in TMF or Unscripted , you have to give that person $5. This will solve several of the problems you are having, including the one where you don't value other people's time.

 

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[PureA]

The language you use is so telling of your mindset.

I see my past self in your post.

If I could go back in time, i'd tell myself this.

Read:

The Dip - Seth Godin
So Good They Can't Ignore You - Cal Newport
The War of Art - Steven Pressfield

and of course, TMF & Unscripted .

AND, one of my favourite videos that I haven't linked in TOOOO long.

Keep at it brother.

 

[Andy Black]

Why would I be trolling you? Just a waste of my time.

Even this shows your mindset isn't quite right yet.

Think less of how it would waste *your* time, and more of how it would waste *our* time.

 

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[AndrewNC]

Hello everyone I have had this problem for over a year now. Especially the last few months my spirit feels dead almost on the verge of giving up, I want to become a millionaire before I am 30 or at least financially free so I don't have to work anymore. There are only a few things I want in life, my favorite car which with these modifications I want will cost around 130k I estimate at the absolute max. I want a few investment properties for passive income, and my own house. My life style would be very simple, I would be sitting at home all day doing stuff similar to what I do now but not have all these struggles. But here is the hard part and for the last 2 years almost 3 I feel like I have been wasting my life away. So I been trying to achieve this goal ever since I was 18 almost 21 now. And I have tried a few different things, coding, certain types of investing, lately been trying some new things and those I think I will not pursue. And nothing is working I constantly face these challenges where something gets too hard and I burn out very quickly and give up, but I am not passionate about those stuff either. This is coding I am talking about for example, I have decided recently to quit it as its not for me. But I can't find a SINGLE thing that I am 100% sure about that I will do to become rich. There is no passionate its just money going through my head and its really pissing me off, wanting to achieve this goal so bad but no clear direction, trying a bunch of things, getting desperate and even looking at how to make money fast. (I wouldn't do this or fall into any scams but its stuff I type in when I burn out). Now I have decided to do day trading stocks to see if that's my passion. I have come to the conclusion lately, to achieve my dreams I am not a hard worker and there is laziness in me, I have been working on this but its still bad and I don't know if it's because I haven't found something I am passionate about or I am just purely lazy. Or is maybe the road to success supposed to be boring and very stressful? If so that's fair enough but I just need help to choose ONE course and stick with it, but I am instead desperately trying new things.

I don't know what to do this has been going on for a while and I am getting sick and tired of it, I just really need some guidance. A step by step process would be awesome, thanks.

Serious question: Are you committed to this thing called entrepreneurship?

Or are you all hung-ho now, and in a couple months, you're going to give up and maybe read more books and dream about it for a while?

Serious question...

 

[BeFound Faithful]

LiveEntreprenuer, you're still here and that's a good sign.

Here's a different take.

This place might come off as harsh but entrepreneurism is at the heart of this thing. You'll get more tough love here than handholding, that's for sure. (Also, certain things you say give it away that you haven't read at least one of MJ's books. There, you'll learn why "follow your passion" is a hot button to this crowd, and believe me, a person who loves following his passion as much as anybody, just getting why follow your passion is inadequate could catapult your success.)

Listening and taking action, especially, as someone else said, based on what legendary contributors post, might surprise you.

You're looking for the answer.

The book "The One Thing" might help you get better questions to help you ultimately get you what you're looking for. Uhhh, and unfortunately no one can give you or me "the answer". Lots of people are around to "sell" you an answer but that's not what these people are about. Think of the things they say as clues not for you to figure everything out but for you to learn from.

Sometimes, we're looking for something, the gold bullet, "the idea that will make millions", or whatever, because we think it's what we need when what's most important is right in front of us- search "acres of diamonds" on youtube.

So many things anyone on here could say to you. Ultimately, you have to find your own way.

Just don't stop digging. You might just have to dig 3 feet farther.

I hope you stick around.

 

[MarekvBeek]

If you are not where you want to be financially, emotionally and spiritually it's never the lack of resources, but a lack of resourcefulness.

If you were my son and I was your dad, I would probably say go get a job. But my guess is that people have told you this over a thousand times.

The 20's are tough if you let it, especially if your role model isn't the way you wanted to be. But that's no excuse, and you know that.

People will do more for others than for themselfs. If you find your reason, your "why", you will have no problem doing the work that is neccesary to make your dream life come true.

How do you find your why?

1. Read books (especially autobiographies)
2. Volunteer
3. Make small steps towards any goal you have in mind

The core of entrepreneurship is invention and making things better. Seeing the light in the dark and guide people to it. Making a manual for people who don't understand how something works.

It's like building a bridge, but there are no manuals. Everybody has to build his own bridge. The point is that there are no step-by-step guides. You have to create your own.

And the secret is to find joy in creating your own step-by-step guide. So that people will ask you: how did you do it?

 

[biophase]

I thought most entrepreneurs hate the process? Like its alot of fustration, working 14 hours a day, feeling like you want to quit every day? Is that not an accurate picture?

If you hate the process you will just quit. There's no boss telling you that you need to do this and that. It's easy to become lazy.

I think successful entrepreneur love the process. While they may not love it on that particular moment. They do love it overall.

 

[MidwestLandlord]

shouldn't the idea be something I am passionate about?

GOLD - I have a problem with MJ DeMarco (Follow your passion gets a beatdown)

 

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[EvanOkanagan]

Hello everyone I have had this problem for over a year now. Especially the last few months my spirit feels dead almost on the verge of giving up, I want to become a millionaire before I am 30 or at least financially free so I don't have to work anymore. There are only a few things I want in life, my favorite car which with these modifications I want will cost around 130k I estimate at the absolute max. I want a few investment properties for passive income, and my own house. My life style would be very simple, I would be sitting at home all day doing stuff similar to what I do now but not have all these struggles. But here is the hard part and for the last 2 years almost 3 I feel like I have been wasting my life away. So I been trying to achieve this goal ever since I was 18 almost 21 now. And I have tried a few different things, coding, certain types of investing, lately been trying some new things and those I think I will not pursue. And nothing is working I constantly face these challenges where something gets too hard and I burn out very quickly and give up, but I am not passionate about those stuff either. This is coding I am talking about for example, I have decided recently to quit it as its not for me. But I can't find a SINGLE thing that I am 100% sure about that I will do to become rich. There is no passionate its just money going through my head and its really pissing me off, wanting to achieve this goal so bad but no clear direction, trying a bunch of things, getting desperate and even looking at how to make money fast. (I wouldn't do this or fall into any scams but its stuff I type in when I burn out). Now I have decided to do day trading stocks to see if that's my passion. I have come to the conclusion lately, to achieve my dreams I am not a hard worker and there is laziness in me, I have been working on this but its still bad and I don't know if it's because I haven't found something I am passionate about or I am just purely lazy. Or is maybe the road to success supposed to be boring and very stressful? If so that's fair enough but I just need help to choose ONE course and stick with it, but I am instead desperately trying new things.

Here's your step-by-step process:

1. Re-read the suggestions others have given on this thread
2. Actually DO those things.

You came here for help, yet all your replies are justifying why the advice won't work-- 95% of your posts are littered with "But...but...".

What you're doing now obviously isn't working, so you need a shift.

 

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[GuestUser450]

I told you already I have a job but I don't know what path to take. I feel like I am just desperate so I am throwing out there so many ideas.

But you're not taking anything away from it? Maybe you're jumping from one idea to the next out of desperation because you want the event, the windfall, the lottery ticket. In reality, you have to learn to love the way you feel after a hard day's work, not during it.

And you're making it about you. The number 1 reason for failure in business is self-importance. People with great intentions who are incapable of getting out of there own way and just giving the market what it wants.

For real, there's a small handful of fundamentals you need to be financially free. Very small. It's not rocket science. As far as methods, there's more ways to do it than there are people willing to do it. Any idea can work. But you'll never do it if you can't extract yourself and what you want/how you want it/when you want it, from the vehicle.

 

[Mr.Chaos]

Hello everyone I have had this problem for over a year now. Especially the last few months my spirit feels dead almost on the verge of giving up, I want to become a millionaire before I am 30 or at least financially free so I don't have to work anymore. There are only a few things I want in life, my favorite car which with these modifications I want will cost around 130k I estimate at the absolute max. I want a few investment properties for passive income, and my own house. My life style would be very simple, I would be sitting at home all day doing stuff similar to what I do now but not have all these struggles. But here is the hard part and for the last 2 years almost 3 I feel like I have been wasting my life away. So I been trying to achieve this goal ever since I was 18 almost 21 now. And I have tried a few different things, coding, certain types of investing, lately been trying some new things and those I think I will not pursue. And nothing is working I constantly face these challenges where something gets too hard and I burn out very quickly and give up, but I am not passionate about those stuff either. This is coding I am talking about for example, I have decided recently to quit it as its not for me. But I can't find a SINGLE thing that I am 100% sure about that I will do to become rich. There is no passionate its just money going through my head and its really pissing me off, wanting to achieve this goal so bad but no clear direction, trying a bunch of things, getting desperate and even looking at how to make money fast. (I wouldn't do this or fall into any scams but its stuff I type in when I burn out). Now I have decided to do day trading stocks to see if that's my passion. I have come to the conclusion lately, to achieve my dreams I am not a hard worker and there is laziness in me, I have been working on this but its still bad and I don't know if it's because I haven't found something I am passionate about or I am just purely lazy. Or is maybe the road to success supposed to be boring and very stressful? If so that's fair enough but I just need help to choose ONE course and stick with it, but I am instead desperately trying new things.

I don't know what to do this has been going on for a while and I am getting sick and tired of it, I just really need some guidance. A step by step process would be awesome, thanks.

The best advice I can give you is to......read the book.....buy it and really absorb the concepts.

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[lowtek]

I didn't say I can't read that book. Infact reading books is a very easy thing to do. Will read it. I know I need to solve a problem, and I do have some ideas but shouldn't the idea be something I am passionate about? Or like I got so many ideas I don't know which one to go with.

No.

Following your passion is terrible advice - often dispensed by people who didn't follow it.

Follow and fulfill a market need that allows you to scale out, divorce your income from your time, and gives you sufficient control over the business that you can modify it to meet ever changing demands.

 

[scott.legendre]

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You sound exactly like me at 18.

Actually, if I'm honest, you sound exactly like me at 21, 22, 23... you get the story.

I was fixated on finding the thing that would make me all the money and a success. I had a print business, a design agency, I ran a personalised gift service, I had a clothing line... and don't get me wrong I did okay at them.. but in terms of becoming anywhere near a millionaire.

Complete and utter failure.

The reason why? Because I went into all of those with one thing in mind - wanting to get rich. Wanting to be successful. Wanting to get all the glory. I wanted to play at being an entrepreneur (I know this because every time a client/customer asked me to do something I was really pissed off by it..) If it felt too much like hard work then I'd decide I'd convince myself that I just wasn't passionate about the industry and I'd give up on it and move onto the next shiny thing.

And the cycle continued. Again and again.

Until my playing at being the future millionaire swallowed up all my savings and left me with sleeping on my parent's floor and wallowing in self pity for months on end telling myself "I'm lazy... I'm just not good enough for this. I'm... I'm..."

I.

I.

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Truth is that was all a load of bullshit. What I was had nothing to do with how successful I would be. What I was passionate about didn't mean anything and all lead to a road with one end destination - FAILURE.

Success comes from stopping looking internally. It's focusing externally. It's looking at what people need. It's looking at what solution you can provide.

These days my work is essentially making people and the media care about what my clients are doing online. I spend 80% of my time deep in spreadsheets and analytic data. The 18 year old me would be rolling their eyes and telling me they'd never do that because it's SOOOOO dull. Well, 18 year old me... let me tell you something - Yes, some days it's is a dull as dishwater and yes there are days I want to pack it all in, but here's the difference.

This actually gets me clients. This pays my bills and this leads to VERY happy clients and ones that I love working with because I make a positive difference to people.

My advice to you - you've obviously got the entrepreneurial bug or you wouldn't be here. Stop looking for the next quick fix or trending way to make money and go back to basics. Talk to friends and family. Talk to people at work. Find out their problems and then work on building the solution... and forget the need to be passionate about it - that will keep you tripping up all day long.

Get rid of the I I I and find out how to help someone else.

That's your step by step process

 

[PetePreneur]

Umm tough question maybe I just like the idea of being an entrepreneur, but I hate the process, but that is same with everyone I think they don't like it until they are successful. Well the thing is I give up but I start again give up and start again, just crashing and burning and trying again. Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, maybe I am doing something wrong?

I think it sounds like your expectations of how great all this is supposed to be has been influenced abit too much by Steve Jobs and the rest of Silicon Valley. It's not supposed to be a 24/7 party. It's mostly a grind, but you'll get satisfaction from the results once they start to come- Similar to what people experience when they work out.

Read "So Good They Can't Ignore You - Cal Newport". It suggests that once you get good enough at something, it will become your passion- Rather than you being passionate about something will lead to you being good at it. Give it a read, it might change your expectations for all this abit.

 

[Harbourmaster]

Who the heck let @Tanisha back in?

But seriously @LiveEntrepreneur you have gotten some good advice here. In fact, more than one member with the red "Legendary Contributor" tag has given you great advice. These are people that know what they are talking about. You came to a forum dedicated to entrepreneurship, where the concepts discussed revolve around two books and you don't want to read them? I'm genuinely curious what you are hoping to gain from being here.

 

[Dwight Schrute]

If you'd start looking for ways to enrich other people's lifes, your struggles would magically vanish.

 

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