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Thank you. Looking into it.Google "how to get cash for keys" you'll get some ideas.
I meant disingenuous as an incomplete story, not as lying.
Gotcha. Sorry I got defensive.
I Reread your other posts and not sure why you keep saying 'we'. Your money is gone and this is your parents and now step-dad's issue to figure out.
Get far away from your parents for a year or two and spread your own wings. This is not your problem.
I've been working on my business while staying here and helping her. I have learned more in this process than I ever have before. I don't feel as though I am stunting my growth - although I have made mistakes in overreaching that I wish I had not (such as putting all of my money into this...) This will be over with soon, whether it ends well or not.
I just fundamentally disagree that it's not my problem. Having a strong family is one of my highest values. Even though the money is F*cked I feel like my efforts have paid off. I made naive decisions that I have learned from and I understand that if someone is drowning it is better for one person to drown than for both to drown.
It seems like there should be an awful lot of lawyers involved and there are...none? It sounds like your (step?)father bought an expensive house and was able to walk away in the divorce without having to pay alimony, child support, and there was no disposition of property. Either there is a lot missing from the story or both parties in the divorce need to sue their attorneys for malpractice.
You really really really need to speak to lawyers: the divorce attorneys on both sides, a BK attorney and/or a real estate attorney. You might want to look into conservatorship of your mother's affairs as well, because it doesn't sound like she can take care of anything. I'm surprised your father has had zero interest or financial or other responsibility in all of this, especially since your mother isn't well.
I admire you for wanting to keep your mother out of homelessness, but there is a huge range of living situations betweens a 2 mil home and the gutter, and I don't see why you can't rent a small house to share.
My father bought the house when I was 3. They divorced when I was 10 or so. The truth of the matter is that my father left my mother with plenty of assets (rental properties) and she could have sold the house earlier if she had wanted to.
Slowly the rental properties started being sold off due to reasons that I won't get into. She started off with 17 after the divorce, and now she has zero. The mistakes really are on her shoulders, which is the part that makes this such an emotional burden for her.
I shouldn't have ever tried to save her with my money. That has made it even worse for her because of the incredible guilt she feels. If we foreclose that will surely weigh heavily on her heart. She's a kind and compassionate person but she was never the money maker. Her incompetence shined through and now we are here. She's learned a lot and has been humbled by the experience. We are all going to step out of this stronger - regardless of how much money is left.
I may sound like a weak pushover who needs to stand up for himself, but I have learned to draw the line and put myself first. Remember that coming out of this with a sale means I get some of my money back.
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