Young Men: We Don't Need to Have Life Solved.

[Spenny]

I was responding to this post here, it got me thinking.

As young guys, some of us put big expectations on ourselves. I do it, other posters do it & all of you young guys lurking do it aswell.

We want to be stronger.
We want to make an impact.
We want to be respected & admired.

If you're not where you want to be, your goals can be overwhelming and paralysing - especially when you're comparing yourself.

But here's a secret I discovered:
You don't need to have it figured out yet.

The fact you're switched on at such a young age is a fantastic testament. Don't beat yourself up. Do what you're meant to do, challenge yourself & keep evolving.

On that note I'm going off to do some study.

 

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[RomeoMe]

You may be right, but for me at least personally I think looking at people who are successful today, and being stressed about not knowing as much as them is still a good practice, just because it will push you into learning and doing the things you want to procrastinate on, specially if those people are younger than you or closer to you age, it might not be healthy, but it also might be what makes all the difference in the end.

 

[Spenny]

You may be right, but for me at least personally I think looking at people who are successful today, and being stressed about not knowing as much as them is still a good practice

Yes, the hyperlink I put to for the comparing yourself goes into just that. Its good to have inspiration but pure comparison that isnt fair is unhealthy.

 

[Matt Lee]

"There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried"​

You are you. He is he. She is she. Their success is chapter 192. Your adventure may still be in chapter 2. You're in a race against yourself and thinking otherwise is a trap. I think a big problem is that many people compare their own growth to those around them thanks to social F*cking media. The longer I stay away from social media as a consumer(I produce) the more I realize playing catch-up is more enjoyable when I'm looking in the mirror and not some pixels on the screen. Producing is also more fun than consuming, any day.

 

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[Andy Black]

As young guys, some of us put big expectations on ourselves. I do it, other posters do it & all of you young guys lurking do it aswell.

We want to be stronger.
We want to make an impact.
We want to be respected & admired.

It's in your genes to move out and setup your own tribe, even if you don't know that's what's compelling you.

That feeling of not being enough is what often drives us to prove ourselves. Sometimes by doing dumb things.

That feeling of not being enough can also be what often stops us from taking action.

Once upon a time a business coach gave me a powerful way of overcoming the "I'm not enough" gene...

Say "I am enough. Because I say I am."
(Craig Desorcy)